Can YOU Identify Yourself? Finding True Identity in God.

photo 3 (4)Quite awhile back I met a woman who came to me for spiritual counseling. Her life was literally draining her blue. She was emotionally and spiritually anemic from trying to be everyone else, accept herself. She was confused and had no idea who she was or even her own value. She had spent her whole life long trying to find her value in being like others. It was really quite exhausting even to listen to, or watch. She had to be, and also obtain, everything after the mold of everyone else.

This woman had no clear identity of her own, so she tried to force an identity upon herself by trying to copy others. She missed the understanding that God had made her unique and had fashioned her to be the way she is to be before she even came out of her mother’s womb. Years of struggle, abuse, and life’s complications, created a fragmented person; the vision of one who always tried to do everything in her own power and not Gods.

The hard thing about a situation like hers was trying to get her to see her true value the way God saw her. She lived in the shadows and it was always in the shadow of someone else’s perceived glory. Unfortunately this causes a person to miss their own calling, gifting, and uniqueness. Sorting through all of the defeats this caused her in life was a challenge because so much of the real person was still hidden in dark places. Unfortunately she did not continue to seek and find herself, so prayers are all I can now give to her.

I see this often though. Sometimes we seek to be accepted so much that we seek outside of who we truly are in order to obtain it. The problem is, a person could get real lost in the midst of their lack of identity. What is missed is that God creates in each of us a very special and unique gift to this world. There is no one on earth like us and only God can identify what our purpose is.

I see a lot of lack of identity in relationship abuse cases, or where there was childhood sexual abuse. It takes the power of God through His Holy Spirit to penetrate the darkness and deliver someone out of the shadows.

I remember hearing Joyce Meyer talking about how she used to try to be like others before God delivered her. She very humorously explained how one season she tried to plant a garden and bake things in the kitchen so she could be like her neighbor who did those things. The problem was, those were not the things God had in mind for her. She was not finding her identity in herself but in someone else. We can all be thankful that God delivered her from that because we all can now benefit from her wonderful teaching abilities!

I pray that you seriously ponder this and ask God if you are being true to yourself. Finding your true value in Him is the most precious healing you can obtain. Your purpose is waiting and your God given gifts are needed in this world. There is truly no one like you and no one could ever replace the beauty that God placed inside of you!

Father, I ask that You uncover what has been lost in the shadows of each person and deliver her from identity crisis. Show each one her special and unique gift. Give life to what is real and be the true power that leads each one back home to her own special place in the Kingdom. In Jesus’ love. Amen!

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries




    1. Thank you! When I had my ministry office in Fairfield, I met so many fragmented women for a lot of different reasons. Most of them had been abused but some just misdirected. We all have fragments that need healing. I hope I get to see a lot of healings for many women and real soon!


  1. I love that you are helping others know their true identity in Christ. If we know who we are then we can show up authentically and live out the calling has for each of our lives. Amazing!

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    1. Thank you! Can you imagine everyone living according to their true calling and gifting in the Body of Christ and how much more influence the church would have on the planet? I think the gifting in women has been pressed down long enough, let alone pressing it down ourselves. Time to arise! 😉


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