Every person on this earth desires to “couple.” It’s a part of who and what we are. We are designed to be in relationships of all kinds, but the deeper and more profound relationships are the romantic love relationships we typically seek. Romantic connections are the relationships that teach us the most in life, not only about ourselves but life itself. One of the greatest struggles we all seem to have is attracting the right person into our lives. For some reason, we all tend to focus on people’s outer aspects and not as much on the inside and energetic aspects of attracting the right mate.
As much as we love to experience that emotional high that comes from being with a very attractive person, this can often lead to a mistake in judgment. Don’t get me wrong, physical attraction is important. Yet, suppose we don’t understand how we attract people toward us. In that case, the outer exterior will not make much of a difference when we find we have yet another relationship mistake.
One thing to understand is we are like energy magnets. Surrounding our outer bodies, we have an energetic body that reflects what is contained in our inner bodies’ energy centers. That external body of energy, although unseen, reaches far beyond our physical appearance into the energy field. Universal Law tells us that like attracts like. So, what we put out there, along with our intention to attract a mate, is a whole lot of who we are as a person.
We also attract life lessons. We will attract those who receive messages from our most difficult inner struggles, past traumas, and soul wounds. When we do this, we invite ourselves into a relationship that will test us to the core of who we are. The idea is to heal and rise above the issues that surface while interacting with the one who seems to rub us the wrong way, no matter what we do. Believe me; the quantum electromagnetic field is always choosing for you even when you are not aware of it.
So, how do you attract a relationship that has less of a struggle and has a more enjoyable, romantic, and love-filled time? The bigger question I always seem to hear is, “How do I attract or find ‘the one’?” The answer is simple but not necessarily easy. To attract the right one, you need to be “the one.” Since like attracts like, be the kind of person you want to attract into your life. If you want someone loving, caring, thoughtful, and romantic, then be that type of person. If you want someone who is less anchored in past trauma, soul scars, and issues, then be less anchored in those things. In other words, heal yourself first and focus on being a magnet for exactly what you desire by being what will attract those attributes in a mate. Here are some ways to do that:
Work with someone who is skilled in helping you identify your soul scars by talk sessions and energy work. There is no greater gift you can give to yourself than to heal from the past and release yourself into the present moment. The past need not echo into your future. You can clear these things, deal with them, and stop sending those messages out into the energy fields of others. Choose an energy master who has coaching and counseling skills.
Learn how to balance the energy centers (Chakras) of your body from someone who is trained and educated to help you do this. Balancing can be accomplished both in-person and on the phone with the right professional. You can determine what you put out there in the energy field. Living a life in balance and “in the now” moment will attract those who also live a life in balance.
Learn to live in the now moment. Yesterday is gone. Do the release work and move to what is happening in the present. I like to say, “Present yourself to the present.” The right relationship, and one you should desire, is one that enjoys every moment of the present. No delving deep into yesterday’s wounds trying to figure out how to not step on each other’s emotional toes.
Bring a meditation practice into your life if you don’t already have one. Let meditative practice continue to reveal who you are and where you need to work on yourself. Meditation can be a vital life force and can strengthen what you genuinely desire both in yourself and a mate. Learn to breathe, center, and focus on the right intentions. Tuning your intentions will draw the most desired attributes in a mate that you can draw. Work on yourself daily. Don’t forget; you get who you are, not who you are merely hoping to receive. So be that person and then attract one who is ready to have a love-filled, mature, and beautiful relationship!
Find someone to help you do this work and keep you accountable to it. You will thank yourself later, and your new mate will thank you too! Let me start you off with this. Make a list of all the attributes you desire in a romantic partner. What things on the list do you also reflect yourself? If you don’t, then there are some blockages there. Most likely, you need to deal with inner wounds and energetic release. Work with someone on releasing that emotion and energy. Then go out and attract!
Loving you from here,
Dr. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.