Judgment is Not Becoming!

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The very word judgment gives me a weird feeling inside. It shouldn’t because we all need to have “good judgment” in our life decisions. The judgment I am thinking of is when one person or group judges another as being inferior for some reason. Or judgment can also come through pointing fingers, belittling others, or inferring something that could not be true.

Lately, I have bumped up against a lot of religious judgment, just as an observer. We might as well call it what it is; all-out prejudice. I suppose I should say right up front that I am a firm believer in a God or Creator who lives and dwells in us. Whether we want to recognize that truth or empower it is up to us alone. I should also say I have a very expansive view of God and the power we are given through the Universal presence of God. I am not exaggerating when I say my beliefs keep me alive here on earth.

What leaves me feeling cold inside is “religious judgment.” I refer to the mentality that “my beliefs are better than your beliefs” kind of thinking. At times I have witnessed the “religious communities” state that those who have expanded awareness of God are arrogant and prideful. When I read comments such as “their god is themselves,” I slightly raise my eyebrows. I wonder if that statement sounds as judgmental to them as it does to me? Yet, those outside their “crowd” are considered to be wayward from God or have some “out of mind defect.” I would rather be out of my mind than out of my heart.

In the midst of it all, I wonder what God thinks about all of that. In the same breath, I think I can answer that question. Since God is love and no part of real love separates or judges, I believe the mirror stands on the other foot. Moral of the story? Take a good long look in your own looking glass before pointing fingers or questioning others’ beliefs. You might find that YOU are the one who has been the judge and jury, thinking it is on behalf of God. The last time I looked, God stood in God’s power.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

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Does a Consequence of Losing a Loved One Have to be Job Loss?

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If you have been a blog reader of mine, especially recently, you know my daughter passed away in August. It seems like a lifetime has passed because so many things have changed. One of the most significant changes I have witnessed in my family is job strain and even job loss.

Maybe we should chalk it up to the times and the reality, so many people are looking for employment that positions are becoming too easy to replace. No one is replaceable. We are all unique and bring special gifts to the table no matter where we go. It almost appears that employers don’t quite see things that way.

Let me fill you all in as to what happens when someone we love passes away suddenly. Our lives are turned upside down. Time has to be taken to work through some of the wounds created by the feelings of loss experienced by our loved one’s passing. It is a hurt that goes deeper than any loss anyone could encounter in this life. People are not replaceable. We are all unique and fashioned so that no one on this earth can take our place, not anywhere.

Grief never takes a holiday and continues way after the funeral of our loved ones. We might have a strong, enduring faith in God or belief in the afterlife, but nothing seems to console us from the feelings of loss and sadness when someone we deeply love leaves their bodies and our worldly lives. A huge hole is created where that one person used to live. This is how valuable we all truly are. Every life affects everyone around them, and when that life is taken, there is a gap where that person once was.

I have witnessed how the strain of loss has affected my loved ones, their jobs, and positions, the everyday way life unfolds, and the series of losses that go along with the extreme grief caused by the death of someone close. When someone dies, the jolt and reality of what has happened cause a ripple effect in life. Our lives stop for moments at a time as we notice over and over that things will never be the same again. I have found it very hard to concentrate on things that used to be easy for me. My nerves are on edge, my focus is different, and the very core of who I was has now changed. This reality presents itself time and time again.

Waves of grief fall all over me as I go through my day. My emotions and the way I deal with situations and people are different now. I have no time for emotional volleyball and no time for trivial junk thrown at me. My patience level is not as it used to be. Grief does this. It has a mind of its own.

The unfortunate part of going through this type of grief is watching those I love strain with their employers and employment status. No one should have to lose a job for the time taken to grieve or be with loved ones who are grieving. Where is the compassion of people these days? Do they have to suffer losses of their own to see what it is like? Do they have to suffer the loss of their jobs because of the time needed to process their sadness to understand their impact on others when they dole out the walking papers to those who have lost their jobs?

Let me give you a strong piece of advice if you are an employer or someone near an individual going through a significant loss in their life. Be compassionate and let them have all the time they need to process their heartache. Jesus taught us the great law of universal sowing and reaping. He warned us all that we will reap what we sow. This law goes for good things as well. Compassion will reap compassion, but just the same, coldness will reap coldness as well.

Be warned; God will not be mocked; we all truly reap what we sow in life. If you are an employer, remember to be compassionate and caring toward those who work for you if you want your business to flourish. Your livelihood or one of your loved ones might be the next loss YOU personally experience to learn the lesson well.

Don’t push someone in deep grief to their limit. Do you really want that responsibility sitting upon your head and life?

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D

Your Surroundings Reflect Back to You for a Reason

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The world around us is constantly changing, and it is supposed to. Nature and our creative planet always reflect the condition of humanity. Our problems and issues we face are solvable if we always learn to ask questions to solve them. In the same respect, just as a body of water reflects the sky, our atmosphere shows us the conditions of our life as well. We could say life is always a reflection.

When looking at our worldly existence and surroundings, we intuitively see what requires changing in our hearts. Our lives, our love or lack thereof, actions, words, and thoughts all create the surroundings and lives we live.

Yes, heaven and earth will move at our thoughts, and before we know it, we are surrounded by synchronicities made available to us, reflecting the condition of our heart and soul. A soul reflection is meant to help us learn and make changes when we need to. Our lives are all about evolution, obtaining more wisdom, and finding more love within us to heal.

No individual is an island nor sustainable alone. Our lives are also expansive. We are meant to not only heal ourselves but help lead and heal others from the heart to a soul level. We all need others to step into our lives to heal, reflect, and honor one another. Unfortunately, not all of us have learned this, but sooner or later, we all will. It is our divine and human purpose of learning to evolve into a more loving nature.

We learn through our curiosity and inquisitiveness. We are meant to have the mind of a researcher, always seeking and never stopping. Just as a detective investigates a case, we are meant to analyze our lives, our soul’s condition, and our love’s depth. If there is a need for healing, we are meant to seek out that healing. Healing might come directly from our Creator into our intuitive nature, or healing might come from others who have been attracted into our lives through our life’s conditions. If anyone truly desires to become wise, seek God. If anyone truly wants to become healed within the soul, seek God, and meditate on what surrounds us in life. Situations speak volumes, much more personal than a universal encyclopedia.

Here is some advice. Don’t think you have all of the answers because once you believe this, your heart has become too rigid and prideful to continue to grow and heal. When you have healed, then go and heal others. Stay open, or your closed-off convictions will end up convicting you.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph. D

Our Support During Difficult Times

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Everyone comes to a point in life when it seems like everything comes to a stop. A life event has occurred, and now the natural stream in life has been interrupted. Such events might be the sudden passing of loved ones, a health issue, financial changes, loss of business, or loss of a home.

With every passing day, none of us are guaranteed smooth sailing in life. It is meant to be that way, as hard as it is to accept sometimes. We are meant to be shaken, to be interrupted, and sometimes even hurt. The difficult things in life are inevitable, and they cause us to make a new game plan for the way we live our lives.

Although life can bring its hazards, difficult situations, or tragedies, some things are standard and always remain unchanging. These are the powerful supporters created for us to lean on and rely upon when times become challenging. Can you wrap your head around an angelic presence when lives have been swiftly taken from us? Can you accept a universal law that gives to us back for everything we have lost? How about a presence of God that is so powerful that lives inside of all of us, giving us the energy and tenacity to get through one more day?

Some scoff at such things, and yet others come to lean upon the mystical when things are tragic in this life. Sometimes a little mystery searching is worth the search. In times of great difficulty, I have found the comfort of loved ones in spirit to be a powerful part of healing and transition. I talk to my angels, my loved ones in spirit, and to God when things are hard in life. These all bring me comfort, and I see evidence of their presence and power every single time.

Meditation is an excellent way to bring forth some illumination into the existence of some of these supportive elements. They are there to help us, and they are living just as much as we are. God brings life, brings love, and brings revelation into a problematic issue in life. Angels are there to help us, as are crossed over loved ones who are in spirit. As a mother who has now had to let go of two of her children, I can not live without the knowledge of these helpers in my life. The healing that comes from my connection to these resources is life-changing and sometimes life-saving.

I can not believe we have life after death because I don’t believe there is a death. I only believe there is a continuing life of the soul after leaving our bodies. I believe in life after life. This belief gets me through my days, or I could not bear how hard my appeared losses have been. We never lose anyone. We can never lose love. Love is as enteral as the human soul. When life throws a curveball or wrench into the works, it is a comfort that I have the support I need to lean on when I need to. I have to believe the “powers that be” are with me through my entire earthly life, or I could not live it.

Our spiritual support system does not mean we escape trial or that things will be easy. It only means that we have an avenue of support when no one else understands how we feel or how to deal with our issues in life. With all of the losses that I have endured in life, I know I would not be here without the love that is extended to me in mystical ways along with human presence.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

We Don’t Have to Strive Hard to Get What We Want in Life

The word “strive”, by definition, makes me cringe. The basic meaning of the word strive is to make a great effort to obtain the things a person desires or wants in life. To strive creates an image of straining considerably. Fortunately for us, all this is not required to have all we want and desire.

So if we are not struggling, striving, nor straining for the things we want to achieve in life, how are we supposed to have the kind of life we truly desire? The answer is simple. We love it. If it sounds like it’s too simple to be true, it’s because it is simple! I know it sounds so very esoteric, and believe me, it is! Love has no choice but to be attracted to love. So, therefore whatever we love, and hold gratefully in our being will come to us.

We are so used to having to “work hard at it” to get the life we truly want and desire, or the things we decide will create happiness. The bottom line, if we are loving, we will be happy and are happy. Holding a vision in love in our hearts is the first beat toward getting the subject of our deepest desires. Our gratitude and thankfulness for those things bring power to love and helps lead and guide us toward our greatest dreams and accomplishments.

There is not one thing I have ever done or obtained in life that I have not significantly loved first. It’s because we live in a universe that returns to us what we put out into it. Our Universe our God, the powers that “be” are complete and will never fail.

Sometimes things don’t come to us in the form we think they will; they will come to us better than we thought! If great love has been placed upon it, then greater will the return be in the love that has been given. It sounds easy. It is easy. Jesus taught there is no need to strive for anything. If you take a look at nature, you begin to realize that the birds, animals, and plants of the earth are always given what they need and love to sustain life.

How would any of us be different? We are not! Close your eyes for a moment and picture the greatest treasure you desire in life. Allow that vision to travel to your heart space and feed it, love. Then send it out with great intention. Love it daily, and you will be surprised at what will come your way in the form of blessing, synchronicities, and even more…results!

Bottom line, if you can dream about it, love it and be thankful for it, you have it already! Just reach out your hands and be grateful. We live and love in a Universe that is standard, and works for us every single time! Isn’t that a blessing?

Loving YOU from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD.

Sometimes Life is About Comfort and Class!

One of my favorite things to do, aside from intuitive life coaching and hypnotherapy, is to bring forward fashion. I have to admit Poshmark has become more than a hobby, but a “go to” place when I want to purchase brand new items for just a little less money.

My Posh addiction started after I listed some things from my closet and sold a good amount of it right away. It seemed like I was mailing things daily and I loved it! I still do!

So, I decided to clear the Posh closet and incorporate more brand new items for sale. I have the pleasure of doing business with women, and some men, daily who are respectful and fun to conduct business with.

I get to spend time on one of my favorite fashion addictions and make money to advance my other business as well! Its a win win situation for me. I’d like to share my latest clothing discovery in this post if you don’t mind! They are the MOST SOFT AND BEST FITTING LEGGINGS IVE EVER HAD! Yes, I had to put that in all caps! No kidding, I tried them on and they fit so well. I love the zippered pockets on the sides and the nice lines front and back.

The yoga legging style makes them versatile to use while practicing yoga, going to run errands or to wear with a nice long top and boots. The color is a teal color. For some reason the wholesale market I purchased from have not captured the true color of the leggings. They are SO SOFT I could sleep in them, lol! These are only $18, a great price for the value!

Come take a peek at my growing closet area and give me a follow if you like! Please say some prayers for my growth and prosperity. I have more new things coming to add soon and would love to share them with you! Blessings.

Dr. Jenine’s Poshmark Closet Link

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

I Love You, Christina Marie

Christina Marie Reed-Barrientos

I’ll see you in the sunlight; feel you in gentle breezes. I will know you are present when thoughts come to me and objects seem to appear out of nowhere. I will hear your laugh in my head, and have sweet dreams of when you said, “I love you Mom”. None of these will replace having you here, but for now, I have no choice. I will miss our talks about God, about family, about things that make you mad. I used to listen to the sound of your heartbeat when you were so small. I would do anything to hear it again. Now it beats in spirit with the pulse of the planet. You are one of the strongest women I have known. I’m so happy I got to be your Mom, in good times and not-so-good times. I would have given you my own heart just to keep yours beating. But then again… you have captured my heart all along. I will miss your presence, Christina Reed. You were so unique, fun, funny, and a force to be reckoned with when you were mad! I smile when I say that. I love you dear one. I love you forever

Loving you from here,

Jenine Howry aka Momma

My Angel Christina Marie

Christina Marie 2/9/83 to 8/12/21

There was nothing about August 12th or the week before it that was usual. Life was turning upside down before my eyes, and there was nothing I could do about it. My daughter was in the ICU in critical condition, and I could not be there to comfort her or even see her. The hospital banned all visitors the day before I arrived. Keeping the faith is most challenging when tested the most, especially when the issue surrounds someone we dearly love.

My sweet Christina was leaving her body as I was on the phone talking to her nurse. Her heart was beating its last beats. Her lungs were taking their last breaths. She was saying “good-bye,” and there was nothing I could do to stop her departure.

My memories of her 38 years are beautiful and challenging, as many mothers have regarding their children. No matter what, nothing she could ever do would take away the way I always saw her. She was strong, willful, sassy, stubborn, loving, and very generous. I guess we call that a mixed bag. It’s something we all have; the good things and not too good.

She did some wrong things, but she also did some very right things as well. Her heart was always in the right place. It’s just her heart gave out way too much of herself. Maybe it was tired. Perhaps she was tired. Maybe it was just time to leave this earth. Who could ever know for sure? All I know is that no effort could be made to keep her from moving on.

All I can do now is hope the best for her in her new spiritual life, wherever that might be and whatever that looks like. I wish she were here in person to hug just one more time, but a spiritual hug will have to be enough. I feel the same way I did when my son Jayson parted this earth. The last time I saw her, if I had known it was my last; I would have hugged her for a lifetime. Since there is no separation between time and space for love, I know she is still here. She lives on with all of us who knew her, loved her, and appreciated her crazy sense of humor. We will laugh when we think of those moments and sometimes cry because we long for more.

We will remember her smile when the sun shines brightly. We will not forget she lit up the room when she walked in and smiled. I know I will feel her in the rain, in the warmth of summer breezes, and the cool winter frost in the morning. She is my baby, my daughter, my friend, and my gift. Nothing could ever keep her love from me or mine from her. Now she is a part of God, the God Spirit that lives within all of us. I determine to allow her to shine through me every time her memory comes to me and to let God shine through me every time I remind myself that we all belong to God first and not to other people.

Loving her from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

When Life’s Foundations Are Shaken

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I feel like I have been going through the most challenging couple of weeks I have ever been through, at least in a long time. My oldest daughter is critically sick, and it’s severe. My children and family have been my heartbeat for as long as I can remember. It makes no difference how old they get; they are still my babies when it comes to loving them and caring for their lives.

It took me some time to come out with some of the details about my daughter. I needed time to digest some of it all myself. I have learned my process for dealing with tough news. I get numb, then I cry, I get stronger, I become contemplative, I rest, and it starts all over again. It’s me, and it works. Somewhere in there is a constant prayer, affirmation, hope, and appeals to the powers that “be.”

When I learned my daughter was as sick as she is, it has been like my foundation created a crack in it that is in deep need of repair. It hurts tremendously even to consider not having her here on earth. Within my foundation is my deep belief in God within us, the power that comes with God, and the spiritual support that comes through channels we often do not see.

Besides healing for my daughter, my most profound appeal is “repair the cracks and breaches, oh God.” I know my faith is intact because my heart is in a constant state of prayer even when it does not visibly show. I hurt for her, I hurt for myself, and I hurt for my family. We have overcome so many odds, and this one is one more we shall overcome. The details are hard to face, but I know somehow facing them will make us all stronger. The details shake our foundations to the core, but I know God will sew up our wounds like a surgeon closes a surgical site.

When my foundations are shaken, I get into a state of emergency within my inner self. It’s like every breath is counted, every heartbeat is more critical, and every single thought is processed. I have hard ones that I know I should not have. I counter them with my attempts at better affirmative thoughts. It’s hard. I have “Mama” heart syndrome. It means I ache for my daughter 24 hours a day and seven days a week. She is one of my fondest creations; she is strong-willed, stubborn, heartfelt, loving, caring, giving, and sometimes childish. I love every single part of what she is because I helped to create her. How could I feel less about anyone I helped create when God feels deeply for all of us even when we fail?

“Mender of the breach in my foundation, please hold me still while You weave a new tapestry into the layers of love, light, and power I have inherited from You! I am continually seeking out the repairer of the foundational breach as I reach for more faith, love, healing, and hope. When foundations are shaken and torn, then the mender has to be the Creator of them. Our Creator is the only power we have to mend our hearts and help others mend the hearts of those who are suffering. Today and every day I acknowledge that unforgettable power that surges within us all.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

What Are You Watering in Life?

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It never ceases to amaze me how many lessons I learn from nature. Growing plants, flowers, and trees speak messages into my life every day I attend to them. The keyword is “attend.” Whatever I water grows, unless I overwater things. Some plants need more water than others. Depending on their needs, I adjust what I do for them.

Plants show visible keys as to what they want or need to grow effectively. When they begin to whither, I know they probably need more water than I am giving them. When they die, I have not given them what they need to grow and thrive.

It’s the same with every aspect of our lives. Our physical health will show a decline on the outside when we neglect our body’s needs. Our lives will speak louder than words when we are not attending to life’s garden. We will see a decline in the quality of life when we don’t feed critical areas the attending they need.

When I neglect my spiritual time, my faith withers, my heart becomes like hardened soil, and my happiness scale starts to show a decline. I’ve come to understand it is my responsibility to feed my life in areas that are suffering drought and nurture my own needs when I am feeling void. All processes in life require awareness; this is key. Anything we don’t keep our awareness focused upon will wither and die. To truly thrive in all areas of life, we need to ask ourselves what the most critical thing we must do right now to improve our lives.

Sometimes caring for our internal needs means some time away to reboot our systems. There are times we need to rest and recover from issues that passed through our lives we might have paid way too much attention to. This can drain our system faster than we care to admit. Sometimes we need to take action, or an area of our lives that we depend upon can die. The area can be of body, mind, or spirit. Those areas can also support us, like our job, business, or project we have our hearts set on.

Establishing roots and allowing our foundations to become firm in life’s soil will give us what we desire to maintain. Our outcome depends on the foundation and how much attention we have paid to create a firm one. If we do this in all areas of life we desire to maintain, then the winds and storms will not tear us down.

This, my dears, is the secret to success. We might cry out, squirm, or falter, but getting back into the routine of obtaining that stability and balance we need will calm the seas and allow us to field the storms. We have strength in focus, attention, awareness, and action. Care for all issues in life that are important to you by making sure you attend to things ahead of time before they show signs of neglect and wear.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.