If you are a woman age 40 and over who is looking for a love relationship you will not want to miss my new upcoming course on how to attract that love relationship into your life! Stop attracting the same dysfunctional, narcissistic, unreliable relationship in different bodies! You deserve the best relationship ever. Even more, it is a journey as much as it is a course! You will have so many opportunities to learn about yourself, go through guided meditations, journal your heart and learn some of the best secrets in attraction! I can’t wait for you to begin!
Wisdom is like a right to passage for women. It’s the moment when we realize all of the stored valuable lessons we have learned over the years have more value than we can place upon them. In a biblical sense, wisdom is described in the feminine persona; “Wisdom is a woman”. The book of Proverbs in the bible teaches us that wisdom, as the divine feminine, was with God from the beginning. Wisdom is eternal and of great value. May “she” forever reign!
Some practical wisdom that wise women know:
If someone is not for us they are against us. There are no two ways about it. A person who is not totally in support of us, they are against us and should be let go, or they will fall away on their own. Someone not for us can not be trusted. Trust in its most true form is earned and not taken for granted.
If two people can not agree they can not move in the same direction. The notion that opposites attract can not be applied to the direction of life people have chosen. If two people are not in agreement on the major issues in life then they can not walk together. They would continually be at odds with one another and neither will prosper.
If love is not returned it is not a relationship. Love, although unconditional in essence, is a gift to be given to one another. It can exist on its own merit but in a relationship where two are bound together or in friendship, family, business partners, etc, love is not a one-way street. If only one is putting in the effort they will become drained or disinterested. The relationship is out of balance and will dissolve. This is also true with children and adult children. Although unconditional love can be present, it takes all parties to have a relationship. Otherwise, there is none. It is all or nothing. In a one-sided connection between people, we are under NO obligation to give anything.
If there is a lack of communication there is no relationship. Communication and the spirit of sharing are what creates a bond of trust, love, and faithfulness. Being vulnerable enough to share our deepest thoughts and our hearts is a way of saying, “I want to know you and love you enough to continue to find out more.” To get to know someone and give them your time is the greatest gift of a relationship one can give another. If this is not present, there is no relationship.
True honestly reveals itself with no hesitation. If there is a place of no honesty between two people, then there is a breach of trust. Trust is earned through honesty even when it is hard. Revealing one’s self is the greatest gift one can give on behalf of God and the Spirit. The Spirit that is God is the Spirit of Truth. Truth means honestly. In God’s presence, a person can not be of their higher self without honesty.
Let’s talk about all things relationships when it comes to women!
This post is about what women want and desire from the outside that carries them on the inside. I am speaking of soulful desires and maybe some of them can be considered rights as well. We fight battles, often silent and sometimes spoken loudly upon ears that don’t always hear us. This post is dedicated to those inner things women desire in personal relationships.
What women really desire:
Is to be heard. We have an open need to have our wisdom expressed. Women carry intuitive wisdom, thoughts, guidance, and expression. Without the ability to express our wisdom and thoughts we become spiritually bound and our energy centers begin to shut down. The spoken word is everything when it comes to creation. Our Creator spoke life into this universe and that is exactly what women do when we are allowed to express our thoughts without interruption. Do you want life spoken into your surroundings? Allow the woman in your life to express her wisdom without hesitation. The gift will keep on giving life.
Our hearts to be carried. Women tend to carry within our hearts the emotional weight of the world. We emotionally “hear” our families, our friends, our partners, and our loved ones. We “hear” the pulse of the world and we carry the concerns in our hearts. That weight can become so profound the love we hold will start our tears flowing. We are the main emotion of relationships and because this is weighty we need our hearts to be held and carried. This means “have our emotional back”. Support us with love, compassion, and empathy. Know when we need rest and support that need by backing us up with your action and strength. Understand our need for alone time, companion time, and just plain time.
We need to be valued. As women who are generally more intuitive than men can often be, we need to be valued. When we know, we know. This inner knowing is something many women have and don’t express because we feel we will not be taken seriously. So our intuitive gifts go unheard or disrespected. Don’t shut us down or make it seem strange we know things that others might not. We don’t need your ego to rise up and try to be “right”. Your “rightness” will not discard our intuition or make it go away. It will only cause valuable intuition to be crushed down into the center of our being causing us to shrink back from warning signals that we have been created to have and express.
We need the gift of time. Time is the only thing in this life we can never get back once it is lost. Have you ever looked back and wished you spent more time with someone and now you can not go back and fix it? It’s best to not live with regrets. Giving us your time allows us to know our value more deeply, and express our thoughts. It also gives us the strength we often need when time allows the opportunity for your support. Time gifts us with much-needed companionship which is what relationship is all about anyway. Without companionship, there is no relationship. So give us your time.
We need love. This should be an obvious one but unfortunately, it is often overlooked. Love comes in many forms. It might be the little things you provide for us or support us in. Sometimes it is your shoulder when our tears reveal the burdens we have needed to release. Love and affection go hand in hand. Affection denied kills the soul. Believe me, when you truly love the woman in your life you will be gifted many times over with more love in return than you can ever be grateful for.
We need respect. When a woman does not receive respect or is disrespected her heart will leave you. Even if her physical being is still with you her heart will not be there. Respect is something that can not be overstated. If you desire respect from a woman then don’t disrespect her! Disrespect takes away her dignity and reduces her to feel “less than”. Remember, once disrespectful words or actions are done they can not be undone. They go out into the universe and create karma for you that you will wish never hit you. Have you ever wondered why Jesus defended women so much in biblical accounts? It’s because women were so disrespected and devalued in the time He lived in. It does a person good to keep a closed mouth than to disrespect a woman. It also does a person good to do the right and upstanding things in life rather than disrespect a woman behind her back. Even if she does not know…God does! I think you get it!
It’s been almost a year now since my Christina left this world. To say “it hurts to have her die” loses something in the translation. Yes, It hurts. I’m choosing to write this today because I am more broken. My real feelings will come out and that is my intention. I know all of the things that my faith has told me. Heck, others have told me too. These are things like, “she’s in a better place”, “she’s happier now”, and “she no longer feels any pain”. These are only some of the things I have heard and been “encouraged with” by those who just don’t understand. I know where my Christina is. Sometimes I feel her and sometimes I wish I could hug her when I do.
The hard reality is not the things that “she” is right now, it is where I am right now. You see, I am the one still here stuck in a human body. So therefore I am NOT in a better place. I am NOT happier now, and I feel the crushing feeling of my heart being torn up into 50,000 pieces and no one understands this. No one gets that it takes time to get used to a new normal. Therefore I am the one feeling the pain now. No one understands we never get over loving someone and that is a reality. Sometimes I want silence and sometimes I want someone to just sit and listen to me even if I repeat myself a thousand times. Sometimes I want to be heard even if I felt different or better the day before but today is harder. Sometimes I just need someone to take the time to show me I have a reason to be here even though my firstborn son and daughter are not.
This is no picnic and it sure is no game. I don’t need to be shown how little my business has produced. I am well aware of that. I don’t need to be told how unbalanced or out of sorts I am. God knows I can’t be anything else but myself. I sure don’t need anyone to turn their back on my tears because I have shed a million and I might shed a million more. When I do shed them, most of the time I want comfort, not confrontation. I’m sure everyone has an idea of how I should get my life back together. I’ve heard them all. Tell me, “Have you lost a child”? Because if you have not then don’t speak into my life about how it should be now. Let me spell it out, “YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND” because you don’t know.
Every single day is a challenge. I make plans to get out and get some things “done” and yet I am stuck. Sometimes I go and sometimes I don’t feel like even making that leap. And you know what? It’s ok. I don’t have to do anything “expected” of me. I don’t need that pressure. So please, don’t expect anything from me. Let me launch out as I am ready. There are times I want to dance, sing, and let my heart soar. Sometimes I meditate and listen to the silence inside me or the beat of my own heart. Then there are times it feels like a volcano lives inside of me and stuff comes rushing out in heart heaving tears and I wonder where they all come from. Even more, I wonder if they will ever stop.
If my grieving is inconvenient for you I won’t apologize. I have not wished this upon myself, nor do I ever wish it on you. It’s not my fault my daughter’s heart gave out. I carried that heart with me for many many years and I will carry her soul with me forever. Love does not just go away because someone died. Love stays and builds up so tight inside that it has to come bursting out some way. So it comes out with crushing tears, heartbreak, and extreme sadness. Sometimes I laugh. I just find something funny and laugh until I can’t breathe. It’s all the same release.
Whether you get it or not makes no difference. The main idea is don’t put more on me than I already have. There is only so much one person can take and I am at my limit. You see, I already lost, so losing those who want to just turn their backs on me won’t phase me one way or another. Just don’t heap more junk on me. I don’t need it nor want it.
The things I do need are compassion. Compassion does not have to understand, it just “stands with me”. I need love. Love covers all things and will blanket the days and nights that seem so hard to bear sometimes. I need faith. Even if I can’t muster up any faith for myself, have some for me. I need prayers. I believe prayers will be heard and acted upon by the great “I AM” and I will be in those hands. I need listening ears. Even if I repeat myself, even if I don’t make sense, even if I am angry, even if I hurt like I will burst, or if I want to just talk about memories that make me feel close to my son and daughter.
I have always been a determined person. I will get through this with or without anything. Whatever you do, don’t worry about me. I am stubborn and determined to stick out this life until I am 109 years old if that is God’s will for me. I’ll do it with tears, laughter, pain, upset, thriving or not. Some day I will soar again and it can’t come too soon for me. In the meantime, I am letting the process be just that: a process. If no one chooses to be good to me, I will be good to myself. If no one wants to hear my tears, I will cry with God. Everyone has a choice in life. Mine is to be as I am with no expectations whether anyone else joins me in this life or not.
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Would you like to see yourself more clearly? Easy peasy. Everything about you is reflected back to you. In many ways, this is a pleasure if you are seeking the good things about yourself. It’s not as easy when the junk comes flying back into your face. (And we all have junk). Some of the worst junk are things that are composed of lies. We lie every day of our lives, just some more profoundly than others. We lie to ourselves when we procrastinate, think we are beyond God’s Universal eye, and many other scenarios you can come up with.
The very worst kind of lie is the intentional one. Whenever we do things with “intent” it puts out there in the universe our desires. If the intent to lie is there then our desire for lying comes back to us. (Usually through other people). It’s why so many who lie intentionally have to continually lie more to try to hide the original one. Just as Adam and Eve were in the garden, every man and woman is exposed to the light of God, Source, the Universe, or however you identify a higher power.
When we are working on manifesting things in our lives, we do so with intention. Intention works whether we desire to put it out there or not. Intentional doing means it is done on purpose. The best way it works is for our purpose, yet a lie goes against our purpose. In fact, the first great cover-up we often hear about was the encounter with Adam and Eve in the garden that day. Have they been memorialized for an eternity? I am inclined to think so. Their intention was coupled with passion, lust, and then deceit. Of course, they have it coming back on them many times over. They did receive some redemption; a covering. That’s grace. Yet, their “confession” had to be pulled out of them. It’s not like they had a sudden awakening and saw themselves within the lie they created.
The point of reading stories like the one of Adam and Eve in the garden is to LEARN from them. Many of us have strong intentional lies that need to be dealt with before they are cycled through eternity. That’s a long, long time! This is not a ‘hell and damnation” speech it is one of deliverance and release. Warnings and wisdom can’t be given to us enough. A lie will destroy everything you desire to manifest. If we keep covering it up then the day it is exposed will be a day always remembered.
Many of us have worked so very hard to achieve what we have in life and are darned proud of it. Do we really want to ruin that with a lie on our heads? Where is forgiveness, you ask? Forgiveness is in facing the truth. Only love and truth can counter a lie. Forgiveness and grace are huge power in life but it comes with a consequence: self-exposure. It’s often called confession but it’s the same darned thing.
Do you want to manifest your dreams and visions more clearly and easily without the threat of it all coming down on you one day? Get real with “what lies in your life.” If it’s a mega lie, a megaphone universe will expose you one way or another. We often lie to ourselves and make excuses but the universe has no emotion attached. It just gives what we give out. Maybe giving the gift of honesty is the greatest gift we can give ourselves and others. A lie for a lie, honesty for honesty. That’s how it works folks, like it or not.
So please, don’t lie in business if you want an upstanding and continually profitable business. Don’t lie in your personal life if you don’t want those lies coming back on you in many different ways. How many people do you interact with? Ok, wow. Think of lies as arrows coming back at you and see them all coming from many directions. They multiply like river rats and they will rat you out every single time! Don’t let a lie become a curse.
There is often such a stigma attached to the idea of kundalini awakening it’s hard to even approach it openly. Yet, there are so many great benefits to the practice it’s very hard to ignore. Meditation itself is an amazing practice that brings so many benefits to the body, mind, and soul. When seeking healing, we can’t ignore the benefits of Kundalini energy rising from the base of the spine, through the body, and up through the head.
“Kundalini” is a Sanskrit word that means “coiled” and holds its residence in the area at the base of the spine called the root chakra. Concentrating on the root chakra area during meditation can help in the process of stirring the energy alive. Meditative concentration and movements can assist to unlodge an individual’s energy held by the root chakra to the point of it rising up the spine. The energy has a special channel to rise through as it makes its way through the 7 major chakras of the body and out toward the Starseed chakra beyond the crown. This allows the energy to flow outward into the aura field. This process is often referred to as kundalini awakening.
The flow of kundalini energy can balance and benefit each bodily chakra. They come alive with life force and vitality! The energy is a wonderful tingling energy that can calm the emotional seas, clear the mind, and bring heightened intuition and general well-being. Since our body’s chakras affect every organ and bodily function, bringing more vitality is to bring more health to every part of the body. Everything alive has energy right down to the cells that release neurotransmitters in the brain and body. I have no doubt in my mind kundalini flowing through the body helps a neurological release that can assist with lifting depression, and anxiety and bring inspiration into an individual instead.
After being stuck and unawakened for a long period of time, the experience of energy release can seem uncomfortable. This is normal and there is no danger in its release. A meditation done on the release of fear can help the energy channel a bit more gracefully. Taking a break from the practice and going for a walk in nature is very beneficial. Remember, it is a practice, not a race!
Studying the subject of kundalini energy is the key to understanding. Remember, where there is knowledge there is power over fear. The energy exists regardless of gender, religious beliefs, unbelief, or blockage. Kundalini energy is an equal opportunity reality just waiting for you to explore! So why not find out more, open up, and come more alive? To me, anything that will benefit my life path is worth exploring, especially if it comes naturally to our bodies. Find aKundalini Reiki practitioneror simply an energy practitioner. Yes, energy is energy but in some ways, there are specialties the same way there are in the medical fields.
Look forward to more information on my website about kundalini meditation and other types of meditation as well! Stick with me here!
Loving you from here,
** Jenine Marie is a certified Kundalini Reiki Practitioner
** This is not to take the place of medical advice but to enhance the life of the reader and bring more healing options for various conditions.
** More information: Raypole, Crystal (2022) “Kundalini Meditation Benefits” Healthline
In this walk on the beach segment, we will be working with the power and energy of the sun to balance the first three chakras of our bodies. We will be working with the root chakra, the sacral chakra, and the solar plexus. This is beginning work today on releasing kundalini energy at the back of our spine. This energy is healing, it’s Wisdom and blockage releasing. If you have not worked with this kind of energy release or experienced it in your body before please go slowly. If you have any questions please do not hesitate to ask by emailing me:
Loving you from here,
Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry
My video segments for healing, creating, and manifesting in your life are not meant to replace medical or psychological advice. My methods are only used to enhance the current services you might be receiving. Picture credit to Pixabay Music and production compliments of iMovie.
At the end of 2014, I made a radical and unexpected move that changed my whole life. I left the state I lived my whole life in to move to Texas. It was radical. It was a raw moment. It was very unexpected, and it was completely the right move. Had I stayed where I was, I probably could say it was completely the right decision as well. Our momentary pleasures and discomforts do not necessarily depend on our location. Yet, I do know my life has altered in ways it would not have had I stayed where I was. I smiled, laughed, cried, prayed, sang songs, and dreamed all the way to Texas. Now going on my 8th year here, I am still pushing forward no matter what. There have been victories, tragedies, and blessings. I know for sure I have learned a great deal.
Every now and then life-altering and changing opportunities arise for us. Sometimes I think it is so the Universe can keep us guessing! It’s amazing how one alteration can make unexpected changes. My question to you is, “Have you found yourself at a crossroads and have wondered which step to take? If you make one new move knowing it would change your life, would you?” I am entering the facet of the “unknown” here. Life is not an adventure unless we are challenged by “the unknown factor“. Sometimes it feels like we are jumping off a cliff and not sure whether the landing will be soft or very hard. Either way, one moment in time can change so much if just one new decision toward a passion, an adventure, or a new life was made.
So, think about this for a moment. Close your eyes. What do you truly want? What do you love and what makes your heart sing? Does it feel like a risk to make that move because there is an element of the unknown? You might have to find your own strength. You might have to come to a resolve like I did. You might even take a leap of faith. You could struggle and learn or you might just land on the softest bed of roses ever. No matter what the outcome you will come through. You are meant to work it out. You were born to fly. This is your time. It always has been. So dream. When you really know what you want, then take that step knowing you trust yourself no matter what. You will be glad you did!