Be Completely You!

Rev Jenine MarieWe live in a culture that is comprised of so much diversity. Honestly I think it is what makes us so interesting as a people. There are so many things we can learn and people we can learn them from. Personally, I love learning and experiencing other ways of life, diverse foods, customs, and ideas. On one hand it makes me feel like there are limitless options out there for me, and there are!

Yet, we can get lost in all of the differences if we don’t be careful, especially if there is a tendency to be a people pleasing person. I can’t think of anything more frustrating when others feel we should conform to their image of what or who we should be. I believe most people have good and honest intentions but they don’t always know what is best for us.

There is a huge power in being the person God has created us to be! We are uniquely fashioned to operate in this life as we are and we are completely loved as we are as well! Knowing who I am, and whose I am, has brought me a great deal of empowerment when it comes to making decisions in my life! God did not intend for us to be human clones of each other. It is our uniqueness that makes us interesting! In our society there can be a tendency to morph into others ideas in order to fit in and be accepted. God loves and accepts us right on the path we are on and just as we are. There is always room for improvement but it is our personal improvement we are seeking. There is not even enough energy in this world to give our power toward being as someone else is. Our greatest empowerment is in being completely ourselves. God created us for destiny, and although we jointly are involved in destiny, we all have a personal part in it.

You do the world justice in being the most powerful you possible! You were made with God’s spark of creative mystery inside of you and life will be powerful if you stay the course in exploring what that means. God’s created universe will back up your plans to become completely and powerfully yourself! Keep the ship guided toward your passion and you will drive right into your most powerful and confident you!

Sincerely Yours,

Rev Jenine Marie

 

How Men Can Be Supportive

Rev Jenine MarieThe most confident of women still need the support of the men who surround them. As much as we do not like to admit this, the men in our lives have a strong pull regarding our self image, confidence, and successes in life. Even God tells us to not be unequally yolked because if two do not agree then they can not walk together. There is nothing more disheartening than to be partnered with someone who is set on defeating us. It’s hard enough in this world when we are bombarded by so many elements that cause us to always be in the spiritual battle in order to continue to thrive, let alone have it in our own home or own lives.

Having a man in our life who positively supports us and our endeavors is a real important thing. It is better to not have anyone then to live side by side with someone who knocks us down so much that we have to continually strive to just get by that we seem to never go any further in life.

Aside from instructing women to make good choices in life, I want to address the men for a moment. After all, creating more aware and supportive men can give us all a better chance of having one who is.

Here it goes! Men, you do not make yourself look bigger, more confident, more desirable, more successful, more powerful, or even more “right”, but stomping your woman down! I know it can be very easy to slip into what you perceive as the headship mode and lay down the law according to what you want and desire. Allow me to interject a little secret here, “This will not empower you in the long run”! There might be a false sense of winning the battle, and we all know how important that is to you! We know that men are designed to win the war for us, but be very careful where you wage your war! Your battle is never with us. Your battle is outside of us in order to protect us. Not only that, trying to conquer your woman will only defeat you in the long run! STOP FIGHTING HER! She is not your enemy! You were given a special gift by God in the partner and wife you have been blessed with. Women were created from the side of a man in order to stand by his side. If you smash your woman, you have just destroyed your greatest ally! Do NOT do this! Let me give you just a little advice here if you humor me for just a moment. (Don’t check out here, it will be worth it in the long run)!

Tell her you love her every day! I know she “knows” this, but she also needs to hear it.

Talk about the good things that she is. It will not lift her or you up to complain about her to others. After all, look at is this way; she certainly does not shed good light on you or your choices if you make her look bad by your complaints about her.

Be supportive of her goals and allow her the space to accomplish her dreams. Remember her goals are also your combined goals. Taking away her power will not make you look stronger. It actually makes you look weak, not to mention it is unfair.

Be genuine in accentuating her beauty both inside and out. See her for who and what she really is, a gift to you from God. You will never give her more confidence by comparing her to other women, allowing your eyes to wander elsewhere, criticizing her choices, or not allowing her to be herself.

When you are together in other places, always let her know she has your support, even when your attention has to be on other things or other people. Show her she adds to your successes and compliments your life by not ignoring her in the crowd.

If you want her to stand, stop knocking her down! You will never help her to become better or stronger if you are the one who is acting as her enemy. A house divided will not stand! If you want support from her, then make sure you do not destroy the support system. She will rise to the occasion every single time for a man who empowers her instead of taking away her power!

These are just some things to get you started. I can mention more, but I think you have the idea. If you are building together, don’t bring it all down by stomping on your building partner! If you support her empowerment it will empower you as well. Remember she is strong enough to arise to any occasion. God has given her that when He made her. If you always try to break her, eventually God will empower her to leave you and it will be the greatest mistake of your life!

I’m being honest here. We live in a society that takes away the value of women in so many ways. MEN do NOT be one of them!

Lovingly yours,

Rev Jenine Marie Howry

Be in Control of Only What You Can

3mgegup4bt78vr3gk0af88b0u2782134.jpg-finalWe often think or believe that if we can control, manipulate, or change the environment around us then our lives would be better. For some reason, as people, we tend to believe that our lives are a result of what is outside of us and not the inside of us. It is true that a favorable environment makes things a whole lot easier, and God loves to give us favor! It is awesome to have it easy, be around those who are like minded, and buzz through life that way. This will not always be what we get though. We live in a world of different people who make different choices, and create different environment around us. Bottom line, we will not always agree and life will not always be a breeze because of it.

Our road to peace is paved with opportunities to change and control only what we can. That means we are given the gift to be able to work on ourselves. This does not always feel good but it is the way to more gracious living. Our outsides challenge our insides to make decisions which change our personal outcomes. In the process even our outer environment can also change, but this is not always the case, so we can’t base our decisions and reactions according to them. If we choose to focus on controlling our inner temperature instead of trying to set the outer thermostat then we are given the opportunity to focus on the peaceful things outside of us instead of what is not working.  It is all a matter of perspective. If we concentrate on what is hot outside our insides will focus on what is hot. If we do the opposite then we will see the opposite.

It seems simplistic, and it truly is, but that does not mean it is easy! We can all spend a lifetime learning to master the control of our inner temperature! Be sure when you have overcome one situation this way, another will present itself and it usually is harder. Looking at those who spend most of their lives working on the inside of them, we can see who has achieved the most peace and the most control over their own lives. Nothing is completely within our control because we live in a world of continual changes. Controlling our own reactions to those changes can make all the difference in the world though! Quiet contemplation of how our road map should look from the inside out can help plan for those moments that might seem way out of balance and control.

Remember today that you can not change, control, or manipulate, those things around you or people you encounter to make it more suitable for your desire. You can only change, and be in control, of yourself. This means how you view things, respond to things, and act around them. When encountering the undesirable temperature, take a step back, consider the choices between either inner peace or chaos. Choose either one but be prepared to go around the same mountain every time you choose chaos. Its a process, so be good to yourself. Be patient and kind and loving to the person you are first and the rest will follow on the outside of you as well. We are atmosphere changers and we can affect our surroundings for the better, but we have to be willing to take control of our own lives in order to make the rest more peaceful!

Peacefully yours,

Jenine Marie!

 

 

 

When the Time is Right

There is a power in knowing the right time for certain things in life. We can always recognize the wrong time; usually after the fact. It can be harder to recognize the right time for things. God tells us that there is a time and a season for all things under heaven. Through this statement we can know that God has order. We see the seasons change in different ways but rest assured they always change. Good timing for things creates good balance as well. A step out of time causes a stumble and a lesson. This can be good as well, but usually not the preferred route. Blessings are good anytime and usually a surprise but being powerful and ordering things takes wisdom and faith. Consulting God for a sign or wisdom as to the correct timing is a strong productive thing to do. Hearing Him and taking His cues as to timing might be harder but for those who stay tuned to His voice and His ways will always know His response. God’s word can be great guidance toward ethical and moral decisions. He is the morality creator. If we take all of God and apply Him to our decisions, listening, watching, and understanding his word, then we will always be in step with the right timing in life!

May God grant you powerful discernment to know the timing of all decisions in life! Hear Him, see Him, and know His word, in order to know His season for your decisions and movement in this life!

Sincerely,

Rev Jenine Marie

 

 

 

 

Know Who Your Enemy Is

unnamed23I had to think long and hard before deciding to finally write this post. I believe the spirit of instruction won in this case. At any rate, there are a few things I feel are important to clear up if we are going to be powerfully confident. Knowing who our enemy is and who it is not can make all of the difference in the world when we are in battle. Before the battle even begins we really need to survey the situation before taking action. After all, doesn’t God ask us to be slow to speak? This more than implies that we really need to watch our step before we take it.

I recall hearing a story a long time ago about a married couple who were locking horns regarding a rough marital situation. It appears that this couple was caught off guard by a concerned friend who popped in on them unexpectedly only to find them both armed against each other with anointing oil and the scriptures! Can you picture the steamy scene here? Apparently they were each preparing to cast the devil out of the other one! Before you laugh too hard, it really does not fall to far from how battles tend to play out between our inherited family members as well. Doesn’t it seem sometimes that we are so busy finding fault in one another that we forget who our true enemy really is?

It’s true that Jesus fought the devil in the desert using the scriptures as His sword and it certainly was, and is, the appropriate way to fight our adversary. The scriptures do provide us with a fair and powerful defense when we need one. The question begs to be answered though, “When do we need one”? Let me bring it forth this way, “Have you ever been in a difficult conversation with someone who is a fellow believer and all they can seem to do is shoot scriptures at you because they feel the need to defend themselves”? I can’t think of a more frustrating way to have a conversation with those who are supposed to be our family. How can there be an exchange of ideas or even hearts when someone is too busy using the scriptures as a line of defense all of the time? In all honesty, I would rather have someone cut to the chase and come out and say what they are really thinking instead of having me try to interpret the meaning they are placing on the scriptures. A heated conversation is truly no place to cause confusion. God is not the author of confusion.

We are supposed to use scriptures with one another but the Bible tells us to use them to encourage one another! How can we ever encourage anyone if our battle scriptures are used against one another? Battle scriptures are supposed to be used against our true enemy; the devil. He is the only one we need to defend ourselves against in a heated situation. Although, the scriptures are supposed to be used to teach us how to live and behave on the playground, I am not sure God intended them to be used as arrows against one another. In the spirit of teaching, I can certainly see where they should be used for instruction, but not in an exchange with one another where people are seeking for understanding of each other.

A lot can be remedied when we understand who our true enemy is, and it is not supposed to be each other! We are human and we do come up on situations where we encounter difficult moments, misunderstandings, and conflict. This is normal, and again, it is human. It is important to handle those situations as scriptural and meaningful as we can. Yet, there is a way to be scriptural and not spout off the scriptures like we are dropping bombs into enemy territory. Those things are better reserved for “battle in the spirit time”. Remember we do not wrestle against flesh and blood but against powers and principalities. Our scripture battles are better left for the true enemy of our soul and all of his divisive soldiers.

Our great gift to this world is to show wisdom as a warrior! We wrestle against the torrents of the enemies web in the spirit world and we find the best ways to settle conflicted situations through combinations of mercy, grace, and discipline, in the natural world. It’s a balance act that bears some practice to perfect it!

Be powerful today by knowing who your true enemy is and ask for wisdom, not to react, but to act accordingly!

All blessings be yours!

Rev Jenine Marie

Powerful Confidence Through Wisdom

Wisdom is an amazing ally to have on one’s side when making life’s decisions. Wisdom takes our knowledge, experience, and personal judgment and creates a complete decision. The Bible tells us that “if anyone lacks wisdom to ask God and he will give it lavishly” (James 1:5). In fact the truth is that all wisdom begins with our fear and respect for God. Consulting God for decisions is ultimate wisdom and gives power to our lives. Integrating God’s power will cause us to walk confidently into our steps.

If you are seeking answers of how to deal with certain situations then ask God what His wisdom is. Confidence will be your reward!

Blessings be yours!

Jenine Marie

 

James 1:5

If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.

Finding Confidence Through Discerning Anger

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Anger is a very tricky emotion sometimes. God has given us the ability to be angry and yet it seems like the world always wants to stop us from feeling it. In all honesty, anger has a real God given purpose. Without it we would find it much harder to discover the places inside of us that hurt. Anger expresses our emotion of feeling slighted, stepped on, rejected, hurt, and many other things. Sometimes our anger can reveal things that we never realized were there in us. Anyone who lives in this world will experience things that will potentially cause emotional issues that can fester deep inside the inner parts. Often these things live in us until something or someone comes along to bring it to the surface. If we stop anger from happening all together then we stop our ability to discover those things that anger will reveal in us.

God tells us to “anger but sin not”. This means basically, “By all means be angry, but do not allow it to flow out of control or get out of balance”. If anger can be used to mindfully bring forward an important issue that needs to come to the surface so it can be dealt with, then it is anger well spent. The hard issues come if the balance of anger goes beyond its true purpose. Once anger has revealed that there is a problem that is coming up, then the real tricky part is to allow it to just simmer enough to uncover it.

The next time anger comes to the surface, by all means express the issue because it hurts you more not to. Then mindfully stop and examine the issue that is behind it. Ask God to help you discern what the anger means and why it is present. Really, anger can be your confident friend if you allow it to. Not all anger is bad, so keep that out of your mind. No guilt for expressing the truth of what is inside of you, even if the truth seems a bit misguided. This is what life is experienced for! You will find a new confidence in this process and a new empowerment as you learn to use your God given emotions to bring real healing to yourself and others!

In addition, never go to bed angry! Meditate, pray, and allow yourself to be settled before sleeping. Keeping anger inside all through the night will cause terrible issue in your health. This would be anger out of balance! Keep yourself on even keel. Learning to manage the waves of life’s emotional ocean is a very lofty endeavor, but well worth the journey!

God’s blessing upon you!

Jenine Marie

Ephesians 4:26 (American Standard Version)

26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:

Confidence Through Brokenness

Rev Jenine MarieI’m not sure how it works when empowerment comes shining through brokenness. I can only say that I am so glad that it can and does happen. There is a God given miracle that comes through tears, struggle, and a broken heart. Maybe it is because those are the times when we turn our hearts to God the most, or the moments we seek something higher than ourselves. Either way, or regardless to how it happens the reality is that it does happen. There is a shining moment when everything in life takes a huge shift. Sometimes the circumstances have not even changed yet, it is just the understanding that they will change. It is the power that comes from the knowledge that things will become brighter and better than they were before just in the light of the release of frustration and struggle.

Think of all the times you struggled in your own soul. The emotional train wreck alone is enough to send someone packing from the things of life on this planet. Yet, every single time there is a powerful rescue if you choose to look for it. We are powerful people. You are a powerful person. This truth can never be realized unless there is a struggle and growth period involved.

Sleep soundly and well in the knowledge that dramatic change is taking place in your life! There are moments in life that seem to suck the air right out of us, but without them we would never know how radiant the bliss is when transformation comes. Even more amazing is that the transformation will always come!  The next time there are internal struggles over external things, take some time to reflect on the transformation. The miracle comes through turning life over to the power Who is always faithful to you. Our universe was created with set standards. Those things that are truth will never change. Take your broken pieces and put them on the altar of hope for awhile. Wait for the powerful transformation to begin as you reflect on speaking your heart to the One who always cares, is always there, and will always support you! God never fails. He is confidence through brokenness.

Confidently Yours,

Jenine Marie

Matthew 5:3-4

3“Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 4“Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.…

Take On a Dose of Integrity

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Everyone in this world seems to love being in a place of influence. I think it is human nature to want to be “the one” for someone or others. Influence can be a powerful thing, and it does not always mean a person needs money to achieve it. Influence can be done through a simple dose of walking in integrity. To have integrity is to walk in honesty and sound moral principles. It also means to show we can be trusted. A person who has integrity is one who others can trust and count on through any weather. If you have a friend you can trust, then you have a great treasure! If you are a person who can be trusted, then you are a great treasure!

Powerful confidence comes through walking in deep integrity. Confidence does not mean perfection. Please keep this in mind! Perfection is not ever obtained in this world as long as we are here in our current state. According to scriptures in the bible, someday “perfection will come” in the personified as our Christed Light and then “we shall be like Him.” Until then, we will fall, and we will fail. The main thing is to keep on getting up. To continue to get up when things fall apart shows excellent strength and integrity!

It seems as we seek meaning for ourselves in this world, our illusion is the most excellent movers and shakers are those who cheat others. Ingenuine people never prosper even if it appears they do. Those who walk with great integrity receive the most significant rewards, are the most fulfilled, and are the greatest treasures to humankind.

If you want to influence this world, then allow integrity to be your banner! Everyone on this earth seeks out those to follow, emulate, and become apart of influential groups. Our honest and trustworthiness within our sense of community and compassion always speaks loudly for our reputation. If you want to be one who has a good reputation as one of this world’s most influential people, then take on a dose of integrity and follow integrity’s ways. You will never be sorry!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

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Confidence Through Power Prayers

Praying WomanAny time spent in prayer has to be the most sacred time of a day.  We don’t often turn to prayer unless there is an issue we need to address with God regarding ourselves or others we love. God loves when we pray, and in addition, He loves to bless our prayer time with His goodness! Communication with our maker brings everything into perspective. I know that recently when I went through something challenging it was a real blessing to be able to stay in contact with the One who knows me best and to also enlist others to go to Him on my behalf.

I can’t exactly explain what happens when I personally know that others are praying for me through a challenge. It’s a mystical thing and in all honestly I really don’t care as much to know how it happens as to just know that it does happen! Empowerment and confidence come through prayer and connection with God and others who know God as well!

It can be real easy to just say prayer does not work but that idea has to come from those who have not faithfully tried it. My challenge to you today is to find powerful confidence through connection to the highest loving power there is! Spend every morning talking to your Maker and make it quality time. Follow up by an evening of prayer and listening before bed. Prayer is transformational and very powerful!

I guarantee your efforts will never return void. It’s God’s promise to you and to those who come to Him with a heart in faith. Look for Him in answers and in blessing each day you connect. You will see Him in all you encounter! Be powerfully confident, be in prayer!

Love and blessing

Jenine Marie