What Are You Watering in Life?

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It never ceases to amaze me how many lessons I learn from nature. Growing plants, flowers, and trees speak messages into my life every day I attend to them. The keyword is “attend.” Whatever I water grows, unless I overwater things. Some plants need more water than others. Depending on their needs, I adjust what I do for them.

Plants show visible keys as to what they want or need to grow effectively. When they begin to whither, I know they probably need more water than I am giving them. When they die, I have not given them what they need to grow and thrive.

It’s the same with every aspect of our lives. Our physical health will show a decline on the outside when we neglect our body’s needs. Our lives will speak louder than words when we are not attending to life’s garden. We will see a decline in the quality of life when we don’t feed critical areas the attending they need.

When I neglect my spiritual time, my faith withers, my heart becomes like hardened soil, and my happiness scale starts to show a decline. I’ve come to understand it is my responsibility to feed my life in areas that are suffering drought and nurture my own needs when I am feeling void. All processes in life require awareness; this is key. Anything we don’t keep our awareness focused upon will wither and die. To truly thrive in all areas of life, we need to ask ourselves what the most critical thing we must do right now to improve our lives.

Sometimes caring for our internal needs means some time away to reboot our systems. There are times we need to rest and recover from issues that passed through our lives we might have paid way too much attention to. This can drain our system faster than we care to admit. Sometimes we need to take action, or an area of our lives that we depend upon can die. The area can be of body, mind, or spirit. Those areas can also support us, like our job, business, or project we have our hearts set on.

Establishing roots and allowing our foundations to become firm in life’s soil will give us what we desire to maintain. Our outcome depends on the foundation and how much attention we have paid to create a firm one. If we do this in all areas of life we desire to maintain, then the winds and storms will not tear us down.

This, my dears, is the secret to success. We might cry out, squirm, or falter, but getting back into the routine of obtaining that stability and balance we need will calm the seas and allow us to field the storms. We have strength in focus, attention, awareness, and action. Care for all issues in life that are important to you by making sure you attend to things ahead of time before they show signs of neglect and wear.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

If it Was Real Love Would They Have Left?

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I listened on the phone to a woman who was sobbing as she expressed her fear and pain. I’m an empath, so I could feel the pain in my chest as she tried to settle down long enough to even talk. Her life had fallen apart in one instant. Little did she know, it had been falling apart for some time. She was just not informed of it. When it all finally hit the fan, her husband she had been married to all of her adult life had told her he was leaving her for another woman. In fact, he had been seeing the woman for awhile.

They had been together through raising children, buying a home, planning for retirement, and family vacations. They fought battles when the kids rebelled against them, prayed while they were sick, held one another through unexpected funerals and celebrated every joyous event. Now all of that became a blur as she vented her feelings to me with tears rolling down her cheeks. I had invited her out for breakfast the following day; her heart was so broken she could hardly fix herself meals.

I wondered how someone went from being involved in the life they built with another, to starting all over later in life. It was mentioned he stayed for the sake of the children. I think its a very noble reason to stay, don’t you? Giving children a good life is wonderful and they deserve the best from both parents. The only part the husband had left out was he was planning to leave without his wife’s knowledge. She was hit like a ton of bricks with the news.

Her children were all off living their adult lives, and her husband was packing his bags. On top of it all, the house would have to be sold during the divorce so she was going to have to leave the home she spent over 25 years putting together. She kept asking me why he could possibly do such a thing? I can’t say how this happened but what blurted out was, “If he truly loved you as a husband loves his wife, he never would leave.”

They had many years together, building and creating a family. I can’t completely believe he had no love for her at all. What I can say is someone who truly loves another might have moments of reconsideration during arguments or hard issues, but the idea of living without the other never really enters into the mind of one who loves without conditions. The woman continued to sob and tell her story. I realized it was himself he was not loving. His actions had very little to do with her or lack of love for her. It was a lack of love for himself that guided his decisions at that time.

It’s hard to understand this, but we reflect in our lives the feelings we have within ourselves. We display our inadequate feelings and wounds by the decisions we make a long the way. When our lives go unhealed, and wounds unattended to, we create a mixed up mess.

She made it through her ordeal. In fact, she did better than she ever imagined, just taking one step at a time. He, on the other hand was stuck in yet one more relationship he wanted out of, not realizing the person he had left was himself.

We do ourselves a great disservice by leaving our inner wounds unattended. This does mean we need to dig a bit into the past and let our voices express the pain and sorrow created through our interactions with others.  We owe it to ourselves and others to heal from the inside out. Otherwise we make decisions out of the lens of the holes in our hearts instead of making them how of wholeness. Make a decision today to heal the hurts from the inside out. Your life and those around you will thank you!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph. D

My Children are Blessings of God: Rewritten from March, 2005



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What is it about them that presses my buttons so much and can bring me such joy all at once? They are soldiers, spiritual warriors waging their battles with life just like it was from the beginning as they opened their eyes for the very first time and struggled to take that first breath.

They were so tiny and in need of every little thing to be done for them. So fragile and yet so vital to overcoming such odds since the beginning of their conception. Their gaze is illuminating, and little smiles can make the most complex heart melt into puddles, just like on the heaviest rainstorm of your imagination.

I never knew fully how they came to be who they are. I never really before took a second look. I only knew they came into being; they grew, demanded, and got what was wanted purely with the idea that they could not do for themselves, and so, therefore, they needed me. They looked up to me. I was the warrior queen and the protector of all universal hazards. I could ease the pain of a broken heart with one touch of ice cream, and suddenly this warrior queen they called “Mom” had brought about world peace and calmed the stormy seas.

Each one has delivered to me a message beyond my comprehension. Each one has given unselfishly of themselves and asked nothing except provision and protection. They are Gods and Goddesses in their own right, and each has created exactly what was supposed to be.

My son Jayson David has the strength of a warrior king. He knew and knows the value of standing up for what we believe in. He did it so eagerly and with such grace. He never questioned the loss of mortality in this lifetime. He only used the weapon of his determination to get where he desired to be. He came against all odds and many persecutions to be the man he was, and in spirit, still is. His laugh was contagious, and a person could not help but be “light” in his presence. He knew the scorn of his peers, yet he treads on, even if it meant death, for the end of the mortal body was much better a pill to swallow than the death of the soul. He brought “soul” to this planet, and with a soul, he still lingers to witness the injustice that took his life. He would give the shirt off his back to a friend in need, and if they asked, he would willingly give his pants too. That was Jayson David; that was his way.

Christina Marie is a willful young lady with eyes as deep as muddy pools. Her soul carries the stripes of Christ from a very young age. She bears anger in her spirit yet tempers it with humor and tenacity to get where she desires to go. No one comes against her and wins. She is a warrior queen, and she sets her mark on those that endeavor to take the life from her. She stands as tall as the mighty oak but bends softly to experience the tenderness of a small puppy she fondly calls “Blue.” Her heart is strong but can be broken so easily. She shows the battle scars of what life has done to her, yet the victories of how she overcame all the advancements of society she wears as her crown. She is a messenger of Goddess and takes no less than the best that life can give. She scorns all who would steal from her and yet understands their weakness to take that which is not for them to take. She is Christina Marie; she knows the value of standing in her powerful being, and because she is WHO she is, no one will attempt any longer to overpower her.

Sherry Lynn is sweet and kind. Her gentle innocence graces the room the minute she walks into it. Her light is soft and kind. She gives with no limits to those who are hurting and in need of nurture. She loves deeply and fully accepts all who come her way. She is Goddess personified, and her beautiful flashing blue eyes are the rays of hope to all who are lucky enough to be included in her living space. She warms the weary soul and holds her hands out to all who need to be lifted. She is wise beyond her years and her tears have watered many a garden which has sprouted new growth and continues to do so everywhere she goes.

Keith Charles is quiet and deep. He is soulful and righteous, along with talented and charming. He holds the gifts of artistic flair as a breastplate against the world of academics. He is not mainstream; he is the main line. He knows the value of a great hug, yet the tender soul that gives his love through his art still seeks them for himself whenever he is able. He is focused on the world around him with a heart that touches the animal kingdom. He is there for them, nurtures their being, and brings humor to humanity. He is often afraid but never shows it. He is brave and a warrior of peace upon the planet. He wages no war, only manifesting peace with the air of innocent dignity. He grows as the willow, constantly bending and riding with the tides of the earth.

Sarah Jenine laps up life for all it is worth. She takes in everything that is good and holds it dear and close to herself. She quietly journeys the winds of time and steadily steers her craft through the torrential storms. She thirsts for knowledge and writes about her life and her experience. She dreams of who she is and where she desires to go. She is an angel of hope to those who pass her way and teaches the discipline of academic achievement, and finds in it, her bliss. She is blessed to be called the “giver of life,” as her name states that she is, for she gives life to all who cross her path by the silent prayers she deeply keeps to herself like a treasure waiting to be someday opened. She alone holds the key to this box. She alone has held tightly the dreams, prayers, and visions of better days to come. Her optimism is complete in the greenness of her eyes, for she fruitfully grows everything she plants.

They are my life and my salvation. They who have looked to me for life and protection are the treasures and the gifts of many lifetimes, bringing their grace to me from sunrise to sunset. I have stood tall and often weak before them. They have seen, and they have learned. Each one is a piece of my soul and a part of the story I tell.
Their eyes were always watching. Their hearts were always learning, and now they are my heroes, my breath, and my existence. They hold the keys to my spirit and spill out the wisdom of life through their actions, dreams, and struggles.

Thank you, dear ones, for coming into my life and for choosing me among all women to be the one to bring you forth during this lifetime. Your teachings have been so valuable to me. Your love has been my lifesaver.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

**Edited and re-written from March of 2005, copyright Jenine Marie Howry

Honoring Others Decisions and Choices

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If you think this post is going to be about acceptance and boundaries, you are right! Both acceptance and boundaries go together with decisions and choices of others. They also apply to ourselves as well. As I write this, I have to say, as a mother it has been a hard lesson. I spent so many years of my life caring for my children it has been hard to get out of that mode. Once children become adults they have their own choices to make, create their own mistakes to learn from, and lead their own lives. Along with this comes boundaries regarding our children’s choices and lives. Advice is good, interfering not good and would have not a good ending.

Children who have grown also have the responsibility of their own autonomy; meaning they take responsibility of their own lives and the pitfalls of the bigger mistakes. It’s part of adulting and part of learning from mistakes. Within their mistakes there is no place for blame of others. Their lives become their own. Honoring their lives is our responsibility, with love, and with compassion even if we don’t understand.

Honoring decisions is a lesson with all people on earth. This includes choices as to whether we are vaccinated or not, as to what we choose to eat, what our vocation choice is and who we voted for. Yes, I just went there! We don’t choose who has a relationship with whom and we should not attempt to choose an individual’s relationship with themselves and the decisions they make. In the Bible the Apostle Paul supported the right to allow others their own journey. He instructed if we are to go to someone’s home for dinner and they choose to eat meat then honor their choice. For spirituality is not about whether we eat meat or not, but what we choose spiritually and how we treat one another. Let ‘s put it in todays terms. If I go on a Keto diet it basically is no one else’s business what I eat or don’t eat. No one can choose my husband and no one can choose who I vote for in any election. If I live a life of solitude for serenity then leave me in peace. If I choose a time to be social then respect my values and beliefs as I would yours.

Let me also put this universally and from God’s perspective. When any one of us refuses to embrace the life choices of another, we refuse also ourselves. We disrespect ourselves when we impose our views on others and we disrespect our oneness. We can advise and teach, not impose our values and ideas on others. We can have a conversation but that conversation should include grace and love, otherwise we should be ready to face reaping what we sow. Yes, I mean Karma in not such a good way. If we lack acceptance and respect or honor, we will receive the same back and many times over. It is our responsibility to agree to disagree with grace, style, and honor.

Even writing this I know some can go, “but what about this, or that?” What about it? Let me ask you this, “Is it your responsibility to rule the world, and if so, who gave you that job?” Part of diversity is accepting our diverse parts in society. Yes, you heard me, accept and also honor. You might not agree and that is alright. That means not pushing your agenda on others because you are so stuck in your “rightness” that you can not see the disrespect you are creating among your fellow humanity.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

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Life Lessons by Jenine Marie

When Life is Hard

When life is hard on the outside, recognize the power you have on the inside. Know who you are. You are true beauty in motion and a life worth expression. You are unique in your passion and unique in how you are made. Your life has a purpose, therefore you are filled with potential. Your inner filling is more powerful than any other disturbance.

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

The Closet Cleanout and the Energy Shift!

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Repeat after me: It’s never a bad time to clean out the closet! Although, I usually like to shift things when the weather shifts. I have been noticing lately that my closet has been in deep need of sorting and clearing. There is a slight amount of dread that goes with this awareness and a bit of excitement as well!

One HUGE reason the closet clean out is so important is it shifts energy. Yes, your closet has energy! Weeding through and making executive decisions as to what to keep and what to donate starts energy in motion. You are setting your intention to draw more desired items into your closet that you will use the coming new season.

You don’t have to wait until a designated sale comes along to do your energy sorting. I’d like to advise you to do it when the spirit moves you. That way you will do it all the way and not leave it in the dust, just collecting dust. Seriously, when room is made in your closet, that room will be filled in no time.

After you are done, complete the energy shift by burning a nice scented candle nearby or adding a lightly scented decorative bowl of potpourri to a shelf. Your closet will thank you and so many others who will receive your donated items!

Maybe I am sensing it is time! My closet is calling me.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

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The Pure Magic of Thoughts

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If you have read my blog for any length of time you would have come across my ideas about how thoughts create our reality. These things are in my blog because its very true! Thoughts do create what is inside and outside of us!

The amazing part is we all have control over what thoughts we desire to be prominent in our lives and what we desire on the outside of us. My suggestion before creating thought patterns for your outer life, is to create thought patterns that first help change the inner parts.

I say this because we choose according to what we feel, desire, and believe. If we choose with brokenness inside of us, then our outer lives will reflect choices of an unhealed person.

Try this as an affirmation: “Today, I pursue the best and most complete inner healing my soul can render. My thoughts and desires will reflect healing within so I can create a beautiful life outside of myself as well!”

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

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Signs From Crossed Over Loved Ones

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As a mother who had her son pass over when he was age 20, I’ve been so curious about the life that we call death here on earth. After my Jayson crossed over, I stopped believing in death, although we often call it that. I’m not sure “crossed over” is a good way to describe when someone leaves their body. I have wondered where we cross over to?

As Jesus explained, there is no actual death, just a crossing over to a new phase of life; being born again into a new state of being. Eternity is not for a few, but everyone. We were initially created as eternal beings in spirit. This remains the truth regardless of what our religious boxes want to teach us. I know my son still lives; I have seen the proof of this through signs. No, it is not an illusion, and it is not my wishful thinking or a coincidence.

Not long ago, I felt a distance from my son. I get that way now and then. I like to be reassured he is still with me. I know there will never be a disconnection in my heart because love can never be divided or separated. God made sure of this. Yet, I like to see some evidence. It makes my heart beat a bit faster to know I am supported, loved, and surrounded by my crossed-over loved ones.

So, I set up a sign by speaking out loud about what I would like my son to bring to me. I have always been partial to dragonflies, so that is what I asked him for; dragonflies. I don’t see them very often around where I live, so this would be a unique sign for me.

One day I came out of the bedroom, and my cat was doing crazy out in the living area! Upon the wall, high near the ceiling, was a huge dragonfly! I thought to myself, “Thank you, Jayson, and thank you, God!” It was not the last one for me to see. I had to take a long trip to my doctor’s office, and I had some apprehension about the long drive back and forth. I jumped into the car with my lunch and GPS to find the best route for the day. The moment I got into the car, a big dragonfly came flying up to the driver’s side of the windshield and fluttered there for a few moments. I could not help but smile because I knew it was from my dear son, showing me he was with me!

I know this all might sound nuts to some people but passed over loved ones are always with me in my life. They show me when I ask them to and usually not too often when I don’t ask. Now and then, I get a surprise, and something out of the blue will happen for me, to make me smile! Our love for those who spent lives with us will never die; why should we believe they have left us? Love is love in every sense of the word. After all, God is love, and God will never leave. In my world, so it is with our loved ones. They love connecting with us, and they sure don’t want it to be a spooky experience but a delightful one!

Experiment with your loved ones and ask for a sign from them! You will be surprised at what you might see in the days following!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

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Feelings Can’t Be Neglected

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I’m not sure why emotional expression got such a bad reputation. Maybe it’s because they make so many people uncomfortable when they are expressed. This is not a great condition to be in. Being able to express feelings and emotions openly is the only way to heal a heart that has been broken, to let someone know how we feel about them, and to express love genuinely.

Those who can not express their feelings openly are easy to spot. They are either filled with nervous anxiety because someone is causing them to withhold them or being pressed down by someone who does not personally want to deal with them. It does not mean they are not there. When someone cannot express their own emotions, they seem to become a very angry and negative person. When someone’s feelings are suppressed by another, they tend to become depressed and despondent.

We all need expression. We all have differing opinions. Being able to express our views openly is not only healthy but our right. Freedom of expression is what our country has been built upon. When this is not allowed, then our country becomes sick. Freedom of expression is what our lives are built upon, and when this is not allowed, we personally become sick.

I can’t even state this truth enough. It’s why we need friends, family, counselors, and ministers. It’s because we need to express who we are safely and healthily. Without this luxury, we all become sick.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.