Be in Control of Only What You Can

3mgegup4bt78vr3gk0af88b0u2782134.jpg-finalWe often think or believe that if we can control, manipulate, or change the environment around us then our lives would be better. For some reason, as people, we tend to believe that our lives are a result of what is outside of us and not the inside of us. It is true that a favorable environment makes things a whole lot easier, and God loves to give us favor! It is awesome to have it easy, be around those who are like minded, and buzz through life that way. This will not always be what we get though. We live in a world of different people who make different choices, and create different environment around us. Bottom line, we will not always agree and life will not always be a breeze because of it.

Our road to peace is paved with opportunities to change and control only what we can. That means we are given the gift to be able to work on ourselves. This does not always feel good but it is the way to more gracious living. Our outsides challenge our insides to make decisions which change our personal outcomes. In the process even our outer environment can also change, but this is not always the case, so we can’t base our decisions and reactions according to them. If we choose to focus on controlling our inner temperature instead of trying to set the outer thermostat then we are given the opportunity to focus on the peaceful things outside of us instead of what is not working.  It is all a matter of perspective. If we concentrate on what is hot outside our insides will focus on what is hot. If we do the opposite then we will see the opposite.

It seems simplistic, and it truly is, but that does not mean it is easy! We can all spend a lifetime learning to master the control of our inner temperature! Be sure when you have overcome one situation this way, another will present itself and it usually is harder. Looking at those who spend most of their lives working on the inside of them, we can see who has achieved the most peace and the most control over their own lives. Nothing is completely within our control because we live in a world of continual changes. Controlling our own reactions to those changes can make all the difference in the world though! Quiet contemplation of how our road map should look from the inside out can help plan for those moments that might seem way out of balance and control.

Remember today that you can not change, control, or manipulate, those things around you or people you encounter to make it more suitable for your desire. You can only change, and be in control, of yourself. This means how you view things, respond to things, and act around them. When encountering the undesirable temperature, take a step back, consider the choices between either inner peace or chaos. Choose either one but be prepared to go around the same mountain every time you choose chaos. Its a process, so be good to yourself. Be patient and kind and loving to the person you are first and the rest will follow on the outside of you as well. We are atmosphere changers and we can affect our surroundings for the better, but we have to be willing to take control of our own lives in order to make the rest more peaceful!

Peacefully yours,

Jenine Marie!




When the Time is Right

There is a power in knowing the right time for certain things in life. We can always recognize the wrong time; usually after the fact. It can be harder to recognize the right time for things. God tells us that there is a time and a season for all things under heaven. Through this statement we can know that God has order. We see the seasons change in different ways but rest assured they always change. Good timing for things creates good balance as well. A step out of time causes a stumble and a lesson. This can be good as well, but usually not the preferred route. Blessings are good anytime and usually a surprise but being powerful and ordering things takes wisdom and faith. Consulting God for a sign or wisdom as to the correct timing is a strong productive thing to do. Hearing Him and taking His cues as to timing might be harder but for those who stay tuned to His voice and His ways will always know His response. God’s word can be great guidance toward ethical and moral decisions. He is the morality creator. If we take all of God and apply Him to our decisions, listening, watching, and understanding his word, then we will always be in step with the right timing in life!

May God grant you powerful discernment to know the timing of all decisions in life! Hear Him, see Him, and know His word, in order to know His season for your decisions and movement in this life!


Rev Jenine Marie





Know Who Your Enemy Is

unnamed23I had to think long and hard before deciding to finally write this post. I believe the spirit of instruction won in this case. At any rate, there are a few things I feel are important to clear up if we are going to be powerfully confident. Knowing who our enemy is and who it is not can make all of the difference in the world when we are in battle. Before the battle even begins we really need to survey the situation before taking action. After all, doesn’t God ask us to be slow to speak? This more than implies that we really need to watch our step before we take it.

I recall hearing a story a long time ago about a married couple who were locking horns regarding a rough marital situation. It appears that this couple was caught off guard by a concerned friend who popped in on them unexpectedly only to find them both armed against each other with anointing oil and the scriptures! Can you picture the steamy scene here? Apparently they were each preparing to cast the devil out of the other one! Before you laugh too hard, it really does not fall to far from how battles tend to play out between our inherited family members as well. Doesn’t it seem sometimes that we are so busy finding fault in one another that we forget who our true enemy really is?

It’s true that Jesus fought the devil in the desert using the scriptures as His sword and it certainly was, and is, the appropriate way to fight our adversary. The scriptures do provide us with a fair and powerful defense when we need one. The question begs to be answered though, “When do we need one”? Let me bring it forth this way, “Have you ever been in a difficult conversation with someone who is a fellow believer and all they can seem to do is shoot scriptures at you because they feel the need to defend themselves”? I can’t think of a more frustrating way to have a conversation with those who are supposed to be our family. How can there be an exchange of ideas or even hearts when someone is too busy using the scriptures as a line of defense all of the time? In all honesty, I would rather have someone cut to the chase and come out and say what they are really thinking instead of having me try to interpret the meaning they are placing on the scriptures. A heated conversation is truly no place to cause confusion. God is not the author of confusion.

We are supposed to use scriptures with one another but the Bible tells us to use them to encourage one another! How can we ever encourage anyone if our battle scriptures are used against one another? Battle scriptures are supposed to be used against our true enemy; the devil. He is the only one we need to defend ourselves against in a heated situation. Although, the scriptures are supposed to be used to teach us how to live and behave on the playground, I am not sure God intended them to be used as arrows against one another. In the spirit of teaching, I can certainly see where they should be used for instruction, but not in an exchange with one another where people are seeking for understanding of each other.

A lot can be remedied when we understand who our true enemy is, and it is not supposed to be each other! We are human and we do come up on situations where we encounter difficult moments, misunderstandings, and conflict. This is normal, and again, it is human. It is important to handle those situations as scriptural and meaningful as we can. Yet, there is a way to be scriptural and not spout off the scriptures like we are dropping bombs into enemy territory. Those things are better reserved for “battle in the spirit time”. Remember we do not wrestle against flesh and blood but against powers and principalities. Our scripture battles are better left for the true enemy of our soul and all of his divisive soldiers.

Our great gift to this world is to show wisdom as a warrior! We wrestle against the torrents of the enemies web in the spirit world and we find the best ways to settle conflicted situations through combinations of mercy, grace, and discipline, in the natural world. It’s a balance act that bears some practice to perfect it!

Be powerful today by knowing who your true enemy is and ask for wisdom, not to react, but to act accordingly!

All blessings be yours!

Rev Jenine Marie

Powerful Confidence Through Wisdom

Wisdom is an amazing ally to have on one’s side when making life’s decisions. Wisdom takes our knowledge, experience, and personal judgment and creates a complete decision. The Bible tells us that “if anyone lacks wisdom to ask God and he will give it lavishly” (James 1:5). In fact the truth is that all wisdom begins with our fear and respect for God. Consulting God for decisions is ultimate wisdom and gives power to our lives. Integrating God’s power will cause us to walk confidently into our steps.

If you are seeking answers of how to deal with certain situations then ask God what His wisdom is. Confidence will be your reward!

Blessings be yours!

Jenine Marie


James 1:5

If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.

Finding Confidence Through Discerning Anger


Anger is a very tricky emotion sometimes. God has given us the ability to be angry and yet it seems like the world always wants to stop us from feeling it. In all honesty, anger has a real God given purpose. Without it we would find it much harder to discover the places inside of us that hurt. Anger expresses our emotion of feeling slighted, stepped on, rejected, hurt, and many other things. Sometimes our anger can reveal things that we never realized were there in us. Anyone who lives in this world will experience things that will potentially cause emotional issues that can fester deep inside the inner parts. Often these things live in us until something or someone comes along to bring it to the surface. If we stop anger from happening all together then we stop our ability to discover those things that anger will reveal in us.

God tells us to “anger but sin not”. This means basically, “By all means be angry, but do not allow it to flow out of control or get out of balance”. If anger can be used to mindfully bring forward an important issue that needs to come to the surface so it can be dealt with, then it is anger well spent. The hard issues come if the balance of anger goes beyond its true purpose. Once anger has revealed that there is a problem that is coming up, then the real tricky part is to allow it to just simmer enough to uncover it.

The next time anger comes to the surface, by all means express the issue because it hurts you more not to. Then mindfully stop and examine the issue that is behind it. Ask God to help you discern what the anger means and why it is present. Really, anger can be your confident friend if you allow it to. Not all anger is bad, so keep that out of your mind. No guilt for expressing the truth of what is inside of you, even if the truth seems a bit misguided. This is what life is experienced for! You will find a new confidence in this process and a new empowerment as you learn to use your God given emotions to bring real healing to yourself and others!

In addition, never go to bed angry! Meditate, pray, and allow yourself to be settled before sleeping. Keeping anger inside all through the night will cause terrible issue in your health. This would be anger out of balance! Keep yourself on even keel. Learning to manage the waves of life’s emotional ocean is a very lofty endeavor, but well worth the journey!

God’s blessing upon you!

Jenine Marie

Ephesians 4:26 (American Standard Version)

26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:

Confidence Through Brokenness

Rev Jenine MarieI’m not sure how it works when empowerment comes shining through brokenness. I can only say that I am so glad that it can and does happen. There is a God given miracle that comes through tears, struggle, and a broken heart. Maybe it is because those are the times when we turn our hearts to God the most, or the moments we seek something higher than ourselves. Either way, or regardless to how it happens the reality is that it does happen. There is a shining moment when everything in life takes a huge shift. Sometimes the circumstances have not even changed yet, it is just the understanding that they will change. It is the power that comes from the knowledge that things will become brighter and better than they were before just in the light of the release of frustration and struggle.

Think of all the times you struggled in your own soul. The emotional train wreck alone is enough to send someone packing from the things of life on this planet. Yet, every single time there is a powerful rescue if you choose to look for it. We are powerful people. You are a powerful person. This truth can never be realized unless there is a struggle and growth period involved.

Sleep soundly and well in the knowledge that dramatic change is taking place in your life! There are moments in life that seem to suck the air right out of us, but without them we would never know how radiant the bliss is when transformation comes. Even more amazing is that the transformation will always come!  The next time there are internal struggles over external things, take some time to reflect on the transformation. The miracle comes through turning life over to the power Who is always faithful to you. Our universe was created with set standards. Those things that are truth will never change. Take your broken pieces and put them on the altar of hope for awhile. Wait for the powerful transformation to begin as you reflect on speaking your heart to the One who always cares, is always there, and will always support you! God never fails. He is confidence through brokenness.

Confidently Yours,

Jenine Marie

Matthew 5:3-4

3“Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 4“Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.…

Take On a Dose of Integrity


Everyone in this world seems to love being in a place of influence. I think it is human nature to want to be “the one” for someone or others. Influence can be a powerful thing, and it does not always mean a person needs money to achieve it. Influence can be done through a simple dose of walking in integrity. To have integrity is to walk in honesty and sound moral principles. It also means to show we can be trusted. A person who has integrity is one who others can trust and count on through any weather. If you have a friend you can trust, then you have a great treasure! If you are a person who can be trusted, then you are a great treasure!

Powerful confidence comes through walking in deep integrity. Confidence does not mean perfection. Please keep this in mind! Perfection is not ever obtained in this world as long as we are here in our current state. According to scriptures in the bible, someday “perfection will come” in the personified as our Christed Light and then “we shall be like Him.” Until then, we will fall, and we will fail. The main thing is to keep on getting up. To continue to get up when things fall apart shows excellent strength and integrity!

It seems as we seek meaning for ourselves in this world, our illusion is the most excellent movers and shakers are those who cheat others. Ingenuine people never prosper even if it appears they do. Those who walk with great integrity receive the most significant rewards, are the most fulfilled, and are the greatest treasures to humankind.

If you want to influence this world, then allow integrity to be your banner! Everyone on this earth seeks out those to follow, emulate, and become apart of influential groups. Our honest and trustworthiness within our sense of community and compassion always speaks loudly for our reputation. If you want to be one who has a good reputation as one of this world’s most influential people, then take on a dose of integrity and follow integrity’s ways. You will never be sorry!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

Confidence Through Power Prayers

Praying WomanAny time spent in prayer has to be the most sacred time of a day.  We don’t often turn to prayer unless there is an issue we need to address with God regarding ourselves or others we love. God loves when we pray, and in addition, He loves to bless our prayer time with His goodness! Communication with our maker brings everything into perspective. I know that recently when I went through something challenging it was a real blessing to be able to stay in contact with the One who knows me best and to also enlist others to go to Him on my behalf.

I can’t exactly explain what happens when I personally know that others are praying for me through a challenge. It’s a mystical thing and in all honestly I really don’t care as much to know how it happens as to just know that it does happen! Empowerment and confidence come through prayer and connection with God and others who know God as well!

It can be real easy to just say prayer does not work but that idea has to come from those who have not faithfully tried it. My challenge to you today is to find powerful confidence through connection to the highest loving power there is! Spend every morning talking to your Maker and make it quality time. Follow up by an evening of prayer and listening before bed. Prayer is transformational and very powerful!

I guarantee your efforts will never return void. It’s God’s promise to you and to those who come to Him with a heart in faith. Look for Him in answers and in blessing each day you connect. You will see Him in all you encounter! Be powerfully confident, be in prayer!

Love and blessing

Jenine Marie

Truth and Acceptance Without Judgement

It can be easy to go through life with a judgmental eye and see fault in everything we see. The problem with this is we end up not loving anything at all. Our lives become dis-empowered and filled with dissension. A heavy cloud of continual judgement brings grief to the soul. If you are not a believer of this reality try going through life for one full day and pick apart everything. An experiment of the negative is enough to show anyone what zaps our power and love more than anything else.

Adding truth to our lives is important. If it were not for truth about things we would not be walking in reality. No one faces a giant without knowing the truth of a situation. So, where do we draw the line when truth is not exactly positive? We can learn to walk with acceptance of what our circumstances are without judging it one way or the other. A person can actually act as an observer about life and know, or report, the truth of a situation without feeling the need to condemn it all. Acceptance is empowering because once something is accepted we can deal with it in more of a mater of fact way. We can’t judge it and make it negative and feel empowered through it.

In God’s eyes “all things work together for good” so if we want to walk in that truth we need to learn how to activate acceptance in our lives and situations. Quiet contemplation with God on His truth regarding our journey will bring ease on the path.

If you want to be empowered and confident in the things you do, then learn the art of  acceptance in all things and then work through them one step at a time. Judgement will inevitably bring failure in the midst of things and certainly not a good attitude about them. To walk in acceptance of the truth is to walk in love. So love yourself today and don’t judge the truth, the process, or the outcome!

I pray for you to walk an empowered and confident life today! Laugh, cry, pray, and gather to pray. Don’t deny the truth of what occurs in life but embrace it all, knowing that the outcome will be for your good!

The Power of Confidence Through Rest

Peaceful Power“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. Matthew 11:28-29 (NIV)

There is a gentleness in God that brings complete rest when we allow it to happen. We are invited to lay down our burdens at the throne room and release ourselves from the strains of life. During this time we give over our burdens and allow rest to be our power and confidence. We can never be confident when we are tired, weary, and pressed down. A confident soul is one that allows itself to be free and to rest from life’s troubles.

When we are bogged down with so much in life that it becomes too hard to handle our confidence and power in life will be zapped as well. The old adage, “don’t put off for tomorrow what you can do today,” is not always the best advice. Sometimes the best thing to do in some circumstances is nothing. At some point we have to know that the highest power is working on things for our better good.

So, my dear sisters, go and find your rest when you need it! Your confident life depends upon it! We never have the opportunity to see miracles if we are always at work in situations and acting as our own god. Sometimes we need to step aside and allow ourselves to be confident in the God who made us unique and powerful! Yes, we are powerful!

Powerful does not mean we always have to be moving, doing, and acting. Sometimes power sits quietly and waits for some of the storm to pass. The words “Be still and know that I am God” can be the most powerfully soothing words that there is! So, be good to yourself! Take some time away, and allow time for all things to be made new! God has promised you that this will happen! Believe it!

Rest in the power of confidence in God when life’s storms become more than you can handle yourself!


Jenine Marie