One of the tell-tale signs of a heart that has been violated or hurt is the tendency to examine everyone that steps their way. TRUST is a valuable gift. It’s even more valuable when we give it to ourselves FIRST. When we trust ourselves we are pledging to honor our own boundaries, create a secure place of presence, and rely on our own capabilities before any other. Love is the area where we tend to get caught up in trust issues. Why wouldn’t we? It’s the most powerful essence there is in the universe! It is GOD essence. When we love and trust ourselves we extend that gift to others. It is THEIR business if they violate our trust and the sacredness of the relationship. If we are on solid ground with ourselves and with God no one and no action from them can shake us. If we don’t do this inner work to heal the breaches caused by others we tend to not trust anyone. That leaves us to lead a lonely and despaired life. Personally, I like to keep my circle small. If I decide to expand from there then I do so. I know when my circle is enlarged beyond my capacity to cope because that looming mistrust comes to grab me again. It’s a simple solution. I go back to my smaller circle of people. I find great value and healing that comes from smaller interactions with others. Don’t forget to build your foundation for yourself first before questioning the hearts of others. Examination of a heart is their own business and God’s business.
Loving you from here,
Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.