I think the most prominent client I have had over the years has to do with either obtaining romantic love or trying to work through one gone a bit crazy. I recall one client who went from date to date, attaching to each one of them as if they were “the one” but barely knowing him. The situation was pretty close to “love addiction” which quite often happens due to trauma as a child. There is a sense of insecurity and lack of some form and the individual tends to try to fill their unresolved heartache or need for love and validation through looking for love in others.
The hit of the hormone oxytocin is enough to make someone crave romantic love or even become a love-addicted person. Let’s face it here; humans crave to be “in love” and bond at the heart. It’s not altogether a bad thing. In fact, a healthy situation is magnificent! Let’s just make sure we are healthy! Yet, there is something about connecting at the heart with someone relatable and completely enjoyable. We crave it. As humans, we are meant to bond in love and relationship. As long as it’s done healthily, we can use as much love in this world as possible!
When two people bond together in romantic love they become a love catalyst for others as well. Have you ever noticed when there is a wedding, it seems the bride and groom’s friends or family members tend to follow suit? This is because we feel, sense, and love the love aspect of bonding together in marriage and being in love. Or you can look around a crowded restaurant and know the couples that have the “in love feeling.” It all tends to permeate through the room and before you know it there seems to be a glow in the entire place.
We love romantic love so much that movies based on romance are a huge part of the film industry. I know I could watch a good romantic movie any time and before I know it I am filled with that brainwave hit that makes us all feel so great! The sexual part of love is a powerful draw but the heart connection is even more powerful. Have you ever felt like you could not do without a certain person in your life no matter what place they hold? You might not even be more than friends but that friendship love gives the same oxytocin hit in the brain that we love so very much!
I can’t help but believe God made it to be this way. We are meant to desire the heart connection of another. Would we even procreate without it? Most likely not. Regardless of what type of love we feel when in the presence of another, this world needs more of it. I can’t think of a time more critical for a huge dose of love than now. Of course, it’s a different type of love but romantic love can lead the way with a spark of desire and a nice oxytocin hit to make us all feel just a little bit more warm and fuzzy. At the end of the day, love is love and we can’t help but feel it’s what we were all made for. We definitely learn from it!
Loving you from here,
Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie
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Life Lessons by Jenine Marie 