Meet Me at The Beach at Sunset Transformation Video Segments!

Take some time with me to create a holy moment for yourself for transformation into a new dream! We can not move onward to our deepest desires and dreams without making some inner and even outward changes. I have begun to develop this series for YOU to be guided as we take a walk on the beach at sunset.

Let the segments help you with your transformative journey! YOU DESERVE IT!

Part Two of More to Come

This is part 2. Hopefully the photo will come through!

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I am loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie

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Give Respect to Loved Ones While they are HERE

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When someone we have loved passes over the first thing we think of is the funeral. That old costly way that family, friends, loved ones, and not-so-loved ones show up to grieve their passing. For those of us who have had very close loved ones unexpectedly pass away it is a terrible last memory to have. I can’t even say how much I wish I did not have to see the lowering of my children’s caskets into the ground. The vision haunts me and the somberness of the moment just about traumatizes me.

The one thing that echos in my mind when I think of my crossed-over loved ones is they are still alive. They are just in another form without this clunky body to carry around with all of its earthly burdens. I’m willing to bet if we could just sit and ask how they are, they would say they are happy. If we were to ask them about the old funeral ritual I’m just about sure they will not be all that impressed by those who thought paying respect to them was meaningful after they left their bodies.

I shake my head when I think of the family arguments, and issues with so-called friends. Then there is the torment that happens after someone passes and people struggle with their funeral attendance. People get hurt because they can’t go, feel guilty when they don’t go, and others get upset when they do go. It’s all so ridiculous when I think about it. More issues are made about funerals than people need to create.

I have a better idea. Why not honor the people we love while they are here? As long as they know, and have known, we have loved them isn’t that what truly matters? Saying goodbye is not easy. I said goodbye to my daughter long before she was lowered into the ground. I did it in my heart. I know she felt it because love NEVER dies. Can we even imagine if I had not gone to my own daughter’s funeral? Of course, I felt I had to go. Society makes me feel that way. In all honesty, I would have been much better off without those last images in my mind. They cause me more grief than her passing. In all honesty, I could have done without the “sermon” given by an unknown pastor who never knew my daughter and could not possibly memorialize her. It was the same with my son. The more important issue is that they knew I loved them. My mother knew I loved her. I still love them! I always will.

Love the people who are here in body NOW. If you can’t see them then TELL them! Life always has a flow of its own and we can’t be all places at all times. Technology gives us the wonderful opportunity to give our loved ones those last “I love yous” we so long to give. Even without them, love already “knows”.

It’s just about insane to get all “butt hurt” because of funeral issues. As long as we know, and our loved ones knew. that love was there it’s all that has ever mattered. They live on. We don’t have to believe that but I do. I’m sure they can do without bickering over property left behind. who attends the funeral and whose presence is wanted or not. So leave the guilt behind. If you know in your heart the feelings that were there, then that is all that is important.

As for me; I think I will skip the funeral arrangements. My parents did the same. They were both cremated with no big funeral issue. Frankly, I adore them for that. I don’t see how gathering with people to cry would have made it all that better. I am skipping that part. I will be smiling in my new form, knowing those who loved me cared enough to respect me while I am HERE and not in a ritual where I am lowered into the ground and everyone has to watch.

Agree with me or not. It’s ok.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

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Words to Live By…Not Everyone is Meant to STAY in Your Life!

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When you were a child, did you ever hold onto a toy you loved even though it was broken? It’s a sad situation when a broken thing can not be fixed and yet it’s held onto like it will somehow come back to life.

Relationships with people can be the same way. They might be broken, but for some reason, we keep on hanging onto what no longer works, or maybe never worked. All this will cause is suffering. We have to look at that broken thing every single day of our lives and just feel bad.

No matter what we think, believe, or imagine, someone who disrespects you or does not put into a relationship the same as you do is just dead weight. You will carry that broken thing until you are broken as well. Letting it all go might feel like hell for the moment but in the long haul… it’s a blessing.

Some connections are lessons to be learned, but once that lesson has been accomplished there is no reason to allow dead weight from an uncaring person to weigh you down. Rethink your relationships. A broken irreparable toy will never be of use to you again but will continue to make you feel loss over and over. Do you want or deserve that? Your life is more important than having someone come into it and break YOU because of their brokenness. Don’t allow that to happen again. Not ever.

Words to the wise…

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

JenineMarie.com

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My Updated Website with New Programs for Anxiety and Depression on the Rise!

Why am I in a warm jacket? Well, it has been a cold winter in Texas but at least summer is coming!

Anxiety and depression are two of the most prevalent and devastating mental issues humans struggle with.

Whether the issues come from a chemical imbalance or life situations not dealt with, it’s all the same. If not addressed it can all become out of control!

Since the subjects are near and dear to my heart I am dedicating my services to anxiety, and depression and also will be adding grief support at a later time. I have struggled with anxiety and depression all of my life. Over the years I have discovered through education and my own life experience that there were so many things I did not know that I wish I had. To top off the struggles with symptoms I never understood, I am an OVER ACHIEVER! Yep, it has plagued me all of my life, sometimes to the point of shutting me down out of adrenal exhaustion.

We will get into that! My developing program will include:

6-hourly directional guidance sessions, one per week for 6 weeks.

6 Guided meditation recordings, one for each week, that can be downloaded and kept forever!

2 Hypnosis sessions are recorded and can be downloaded to use forever. These can be used at the beginning of the 6 weeks or split up however desired!

2 Energy healing sessions with Reiki, Chakra balancing, Chakra adjusting, and intuitive clairvoyant insights into your energy field. These sessions are done as partners and we work together to help bring out issues, clarify them and help heal them!

1 PDF file workbook all about anxiety and depression with journal prompts and spaces to do some writing or use your own journal!

I can’t wait to get these completed so you can begin to heal as soon as possible! I have one discounted price for all of it and a payment schedule to help you along.

All of my services can be booked separate from the program and have an hourly rate. I use PayPal as a payment method. You can not lose giving it a try!

Come visit me at JenineMarie.com and see a new developing blog just for anxiety and depression. Grief issues will be added later on!

Loving you from here!

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

** My programs and sessions are not to take the place of medical advice or clinical therapy but to enhance them and bring a more broad scope of healing information your way!

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Speak Wisely, Not Out of Emotion.

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One piece of wisdom I’ve learned over time is once things are said, they can not be “unsaid.” Hurtful words can be forgiven but there is one thing to remember; once words come out of our mouths we can not unsay them. They spew out like a curse when they are hurtful and the person they curse is yourself. Words that are set out into the airways through your emotions can come back to haunt you if you are not careful. They are like little revelationary targets that will return to you.

In the bible, it says that God’s word will not be returned “void“, which means the words spoken out of that power will always reap a result. The thing about God is, that the power spoken through is pure unconditional love. When you speak words that come from the emotional ego-self they are not coming from the God part of you, nor unconditional love. They reveal things about you that are a whole lot less flattering than I am sure you would like. We all like to be seen in a good light. It is a part of our instilled nature.

When you speak things to someone out of your own hurt you just set up a curse against yourself that will come back right at you until you learn the lesson your words are speaking to you. Anger spewed out at others is not about them, it is about YOU. Your words are revealing to you just how you are feeling within yourself. People often believe, and feel, that what is going on around them is about other people, but in truth, your environment is about you, not them. You make your own choices about who is around you, who you speak to, and how you react to all of it.

If you are less than happy with outcomes in your life, you can thank yourself because you are the one who set up the whole scenario. It’s best not to blame others for the consequences of your own doing and the consequences of your own words. Where is the lesson in that? The lessons you put out there are for your own benefit. They are meant to reveal where your soul is scarred and therefore you can seek healing. If healing is not sought out, then the lesson will repeat itself over and over until you get the picture.

Maybe it is best to stop, breathe, and think before you speak a word curse over yourself, or hurt others in the process. Remember God lives in you and nothing that is said will return void. Your hurtful words will haunt you one day, guaranteed.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

Come visit me and my new blog about anxiety, depression, and grief, at JenineMarie.com! Discover what these issues are we deal with and how comfort can be found through it all. Namaste!

Are You the Victim of Someone’s Sarcasm?

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Have you ever encountered a laughing person spewing out their sense of humor with words that actually hurt more than they are funny? If your answer is “no” you are lucky. When someone is humorous but saying hurtful things to us it’s usually called “sarcasm“. Before I go on, let me give you a Wikipedia definition of what sarcasm is.

Sarcasm is the caustic use of words, often in a humorous way, to mock someone or something. Sarcasm may employ ambivalence, although it is not necessarily ironic.” Wikipedia I highlighted two of the most prominent words in the definition in bold type so you can see the full impact of what sarcasm really is. Usually, someone thinks they are joking but they are actually being mean-spirited and hurtful. Then, when called on it, the next comment is usually “Can’t you take a joke, I was only kidding!” I’m sorry, this one never gets past me. It did not in the past and will not in the present. When someone is not laughing at a humorous comment you just made it means it hurt and was not funny to them.

Quite long ago I dated someone like this. He thought being sarcastic and hurting people was alright as long as the joke was funny to HIM! I’m still grateful for being saved from going further in that connection. As much as people hate to admit it sarcasm is emotional abuse. It reflects upon a person that the sarcastic one sees them as inferior or flawed in some way. Trust me, we who have experienced it from someone are not inferior. We are unfortunate to run across those who do this to others but we are usually the trusting, honest, and compassionate type. Sarcasm does not go over well with sarcastic people. Usually, they can’t take what they dish out.

I have written about this subject before, so what brings it up again today? Welp, I am glad you asked! I experienced sarcasm (sarcastic remarks) from someone in a group I never expected it to come from. (And yes, it hurt). We tend to think or believe spiritual people are safe and for the most part, kind. This is not always true. Not everyone is as mature as we would like them to be. For the record, I know when to accept things as a joke and when something is meant to demean me. I guess it comes with both intuition and experience.

The next question is how to deal with it. In my particular case with the more recent event, I have quietly backed away. Sometimes people need to be left with themselves in order to allow some spiritual and emotional maturity to take place. In my previous situation, it was not as easy. It was some time ago and I was learning how to have some emotional backbone. Eventually, I had to grieve it out, but now in hindsight, I’m grateful.

There is always a reason I tend to write about the things I do. Usually, it’s because I have encountered it, or it’s about others who have. My blog is about life lessons (at least on this Blogspot). Learning how to deal with sarcasm is definitely a life lesson. To those who think sarcasm is funny, I hope you wake up. To those who have been the victim of it, I hope you heal.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

JenineMarie.com

“My services and website are now dedicated to those who endure anxiety, depression, and also grief. Healing in an emotional way is the most intimate and delicate work you will ever do in your life. Allow me, as a compassionate person, to be a part of your journey with sessions to accommodate your mind and soul!” Jenine Marie

Trauma Bonding and Toxic Relationships: Personal, Groups and Business

Since life is about “relationship,” most likely, we have all had
at least one relationship where we merely did not have much in common. The relationship imbalance can occur during any type of relationship, from
romantic, to friendships to work relationships. Sometimes relationships are so out of balance it is hard to get along with one another, therefore there is
continual friction. Usually, the lack of cohesiveness is recognized eventually, and people part ways. There is no difficulty in parting, and both parties will feel relieved to be finally apart.

This is not the case when there is trauma bonding involved. Trauma bonding occurs when one person or group in the relationship is toxic. I include groups here for the sake of employment and even religious groups. Toxic relationships are easy to spot, usually from the outside of one. There is a massive degree of control, manipulation, sabotage, jealousy, and a ton of friction. Why would someone want to be in a type of relationship like this? No one really would want that type of person (or group) in their life. None of us are happy when we feel controlled to the point where we are told what we can do and what we can’t. No one wants a relationship where they are controlled to the point of who they can connect with or not. We see this in religious groups, unfortunately.

People get locked into trauma bonding with someone because the other person or group always seems the best thing that ever happened to them. They are swept off their feet with charm, love, acceptance, and a feeling of bliss begins to create the release of powerful neurotransmitters in the brain that make us feel good. These can be a release of norepinephrine, oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin. To a drug addict, this is the addictive high they get while using and then dropped when the drug is no longer present and providing it for them.


It is the same with a trauma bond. The same neurotransmitters are released in the body when someone feels they are in love or have reached what is referred to as a “natural high.” In romantic relationships, the trauma bond can cause a person to continue to go back for more even when they are being treated poorly. This occurs after the “honeymoon” phase of toxic relationships is over. The relationship moves from the charming demeanor of a toxic person into manipulation and a whole lot of pain. Yet the bond from the initial high of the relationship keeps the other person trapped into wanting more of the high. So they keep going back for the fix even though they know it is not suitable for them and even after the world comes crashing down on them once again.

This type of relationship is not the same as the romantic kind, where there
is such a strong sense of compatibility that the couple will both shine and sparkle from the inside out just being together. Even after things have settled, the love grows, matures, and deepens. This is not true with a toxic relationship. One person in toxic connections will suffer greatly at the hand and actions of the toxic person.

In many cases, the toxic person is considered to be a narcissist, and they
might be just that. Sometimes, a person can have a narcissistic part of their
personality, but they are not narcissists. It is up to a skilled professional
to determine if someone has a full-blown personality disorder or not. Being
involved with a toxic person is very painful and will rip your life into
pieces. You will feel crazy, but you are not. People might think you are crazy
because of what the toxic person has done or said behind you. Yet, you are not the crazy one.

The addiction to a toxic person (or group) is similar to that of a drug
addict. It’s hard to kick the high, and it’s hard to see the damage being done
while in its midst. All that is known is that you need more of the person or
group to feel that high again and feel a sense of wholeness. We can get locked into a situation like this and feel very isolated because that is the idea of the toxic person or group. You are isolated and played with, so they will have a sense of power and control.

Remember, the trauma bond is an addiction, so don’t be hard on yourself if
this is in your life. Love yourself enough to get help, just as a drug addict
must reach out for help in their situation. You have to come to the point of
hitting bottom. No one can make you get to that point. It all has to be done
for yourself. Working on self-love, fostering good relationships privately, and finding a good counselor to help you out of your misery are essential to your health and well-being. Even after you are not under the influence of a toxic situation, there still might be a recovery time. Allow yourself that time!
Remember your worth. You are gold in anyone’s life. Let your most significant relationship be with God and with yourself first. Work on your self-esteem and consider the reasons you lock into toxic people or groups, to begin with.

Come to recognize the trauma bond high and don’t allow relationships to
happen too quickly. Any good relationship is nurtured over time. Be honest with those you leave behind and tell them from a place of safety that you feel they are not suitable for you. Be straightforward. It is essential to speak your truth at a safe distance as toxic people can also be dangerous. Make it crystal clear you want no more contact and why. Tell the other person or people why you feel your connection is not good for you or them. Even in situations where there is little in common, communication is important. In healthy people, breakups are easy like that. Healthy people communicate, “I don’t want to see you again” in a healthy way and is accepted healthily. If this is not expressed, don’t think you are in a trauma relationship if the other person does not understand and pursues you. You have to be clear for your sake and theirs!

It all sounds so complicated, and this could quickly turn into a book, but
it is not that complicated. Let your happy indicator let you know if you are in a good relationship fit or not. Even with groups, it is the same thing. It
might not be a good fit for you if one person in a place of power calls all the shots. Recognize power-hungry people and keep your distance. Your life will thank you with blessings you never dreamt of if you protect and guide yourself by the gut instincts God has given you.

Loving you from here, 

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry 

JenineMarie.com

Appreciation is Important for YOU and Your Wellbeing!

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No doubt this human experience is not always easy. We have certain needs, desires, and even aspirations. One of our needs is to be appreciated. Appreciation is a part of our need for acceptance. We can not operate optimally in our emotions and in life if we, or our deeds, are not appreciated.

It’s beautiful when we appreciate others but when that appreciation does not come back it creates a glass that is out of balance. The glass we hold is no longer full but completely drained out. This is why it is so important to surround ourselves with those who appreciate us for who we are and for what we do.

To live a balanced life, be choosy about who gets to stay in your circle of people. This includes both places of employment and personal life. When you are not appreciated and you see yourself becoming bitter, upset, emotionally drained, and sad, it means it is time to move on. Lack of appreciation will drain you faster than even physical labor. When others don’t appreciate you or walk on your kindness then it causes an energetic situation that begins to literally suck the life out of you.

If you care about your own life, then rethink the situations you are in and the people who surround you. If you are not appreciated then you are surrounded by energy vampires who are sucking you dry. It’s time to move on and move forward into a brighter and more healthy environment. It’s time to heal and be refilled again.

Remember, you deserve love AND appreciation for who you are and all that you do!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

JenineMarie.com

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Straight Up Communication

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There is a huge reason I included the words “straight-up” in the title of this blog post. I could have used straight-forward but some of the meaning of this post loses something. Straight-up communication is speaking from a higher perspective and a higher realm of influence. This means before speaking to consider what comes from the higher realm of God’s presence. It means speaking our truth in a way that is straight-up honest, forthright, and gets to the heart of the matter of our concerns and expression.

Equally important are straight-up honest responses to our communication with others. When issues are either hidden or communication is shut down it causes problems energetically, emotionally, and in relationship with one another. One of the more significant issues is how our communication affects the energy centers of the body (chakras). When faulty communication occurs the heart and throat energy centers are mainly affected. When these energy centers are shut off, shut down, or closed off it can cause emotional and physical problems in the body. This is important information because we can not operate in a balanced fashion when either we are not communicating effectively or someone we speak with communicates in a faulty way.

Since our lives and lessons are based mainly upon relationships we need to learn to always be as honest and tender in our communication as we can. Not speaking our truth honestly will shut down the throat and heart chakra faster than we can blink. Not only that, dishonest communication makes our lives a lie. If we want to live a life of truth it is so important to speak honestly.

Guarding ourselves to not allow others to shut our speech down is also important. Many of us were not given a voice as we were growing up. It is time to make sure we have the ability to communicate openly and honestly. If someone shuts you down it is time to rethink connecting with the individual or even a group of individuals. If someone feeds you lies attempting to make them true then it is time to rethink that connection.

Keeping in good health is more than taking vitamins, eating well, and exercising. Keeping in good health is taking care of our emotional health and also our relationships with others. Our energy centers are important. Even more so, our lives and our ability to openly communicate our truth is important as well.

Take some time to evaluate how you speak to others and how others deal with your interaction with them. If you need to cut them out of your relationship circle for the sake of your own health and safe communication then so be it. It takes strength and also deeply caring about ourselves to guard our hearts and our speaking abilities. Keeping in balance in all things will assure we are on the right track with our relationships and our emotional/spiritual health. Love yourself enough to be a truth speaker and to only allow other truth speakers into your heart space and life.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie is an energy healing master and energy clairvoyant.

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*** This article is not to be taken as medical advice as coming from a physician. These are metaphysical practices and ideas meant to enhance the lives of those who choose them!

What Lying Does to YOU: The Seen and Unseen

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Why do people tell a lie? There are a few reasons that come to mind. People lie to save themselves from exposure or to get out of some sort of perceived punishment. Sometimes people lie to just lie, but that is a whole other psychopathic discussion. Often people lie to be perceived as what they believe is better than they are seen. Those types of lies come from a lack of self-confidence.

Who are we really kidding here? Lying only creates a lie for one’s self. The act of lying creates a type of spiritual vacuum where a person is living a lie. It is a type of prison no one ever really considers before a lie and rarely considers it afterward unless some sort of consequence is created to bring humility. I remember when I told a little fib as a child my mom would put me in my room and close the door! This is what a lie does in life! SLAM!

As a clairvoyant and clairaudient person, I was able to “see” and “hear” about the spiritual vapor lock that happens when someone lies. The act of lying will quickly slam the door on any type of blessing. The biblical commandment “Thou shall not bear false witness” was not a setup for God to keep creation in some sort of sinful prison. It is a universal law that helps us to avoid the vapor lock in life that keeps blessings from flowing in.

Let’s look at the lie from a spiritual perspective. Someone tells the lie and immediately it “speaks” to the universe something that is not true about the life of a person, but it MAKES the lie true. You see, the universe has no emotion to it. Whatever it “hears” is what is created and echoed back from it. Our words, actions, thoughts, and deeds actually create in our lives. If we create from a lie then that is what our life becomes. It is not as simplistic as a lie coming back from another person. Lying will actually create a lock on your life that will STOP manifesting blessings into your life. Our ability to consciously create what we want becomes like a stopped-up drain. (If I could insert a shocked emoji here I would!)

Listen very carefully or that beautiful thing or situation you have always wanted in life just might be at stake here! Lying will take that away faster than anything else can! Not only is the action not aligned with your God light within, but it slams the door shut on what you truly want to produce in your life! The lie becomes what you focus on even if you don’t think so.

This is HUGE! Imagine a vapor lock on your dreams, visions, and aspirations! What are you working on manifesting in life? If you want a vapor lock on your dreams then go right on ahead and lie if it makes you feel protected! Believe me in this; there is only a false sense of protection. Even the lie creates a lie of protection. Everything put out there will manifest in the presence of truth either now or eventually. Every lie is revealed and every single falsehood will rear its ugly head, because what we put out there…we create!

The question is how to clear it! If you want to know and understand clearing what disaster you have created then you have come to the right place! Check out my website and watch some new things unfold. I kid you not, your manifested life depends on it if you are lying to yourself!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

JenineMarie.com