I was told, as the story goes, I was not expected to be here. I guess better words are my parents never thought they could have another child after my sister. I was supposed to be here though. Maybe I taught my parents about miracles? I’m not sure, it was their lesson. My lesson has been about divine timing. Do you ever get the feeling God puts us together in circles of others like puzzle pieces to make a bigger picture?
I’m not sure creating a huge puzzle is God’s intention regarding creation but I do know we are no good without each other. Without one of us a piece is missing. When I was 21 years old I gave birth to a son. I was stretched in my ability to be a new mother and yet blessed to have him for 20 years. It’s hard to imagine someone coming into our lives and then having to leave after just 20 years. It’s a long time, two decades, but a small amount of time to have a son on the earth.
I often wondered if he was born at the wrong time, but that would disrupt my belief we all have divine timing and a purpose. I’m not sure my son found his purpose, and I’m still not even sure I have found the lesson I learned as his mother. Patience is always a lesson but maybe strength is a better one to speak of here. I raised him mostly on my own. I saw things in myself I did not like and things that I never thought possible in myself.
His timing was never a mistake. God does not make those kind of mistakes. Having him and each of my children was a glimmer of hope that this world could be a better place just by bringing in someone new. I suppose I never thought I was giving birth to my future but my children aligned my future for sure.
Birth itself is a miraculous thing. It’s not easy but God always blessed me with joy after the sorrow. Isn’t God just like that? We go through sorrows but joy always comes as a result. Maybe sometimes that joy is simply relief. Maybe sometimes it is hope being revealed. Every child is a divine reason to have joy. I believe each one of us was born at just the right time, the right place, for the right reasons. Our earthly minds can’t always perceive those things but the higher part of ourselves can come to understand God’s wisdom within it all. It’s great to be a creator with God, isn’t it?
One night, over 2000 years ago, a little baby was born and His life seemed to be far before the world’s time. Yet His purpose was right on time. His death was on time as well. God knows the number of our days before we even come here. I think if we knew them we would never learn or teach the lessons we are here for.
Every single child, person, individual, is born at the right time, the right place, and for the right reason. It does not matter how the child gets here. Remember Jesus was born out of wedlock, was raised by a step father, His conception not planned by human timing, but His coming was divine and right on time.
This is certainly a time in history where it almost feels like the earth is birthing. Seems we have been in labor for a very long time now. We have seen wars come and go, trends cycle and come back, and technology expound into things we never dreamed of in days that have passed. Some call it the end times, others a time of new beginnings. I suppose we all see it through the eyes of our own beliefs and perspectives.
The Bible tells us there is a time for all things under heaven. Through my eyes its a time of joy and a time of weeping. Some things are hard to watch and others are joyous and loving. I’m not sure they are both balanced equally. Maybe only God knows that equation.
I do know things are changing. We are changing. Our hope is we change in a good way. Maybe we can heal wounds, uplift our faith, listen more, and have more empathy. Our hearts all ache and rejoice at the same time. Change and labor is always hard. Usually it all comes with a lot of wounded emotions and tears. We do have hope though! Joy always comes after the hardest parts. I know I felt that joy when my babies came out of me and I held them the first time in my life. Maybe we will get that joy from God as He holds us closely after the hard part is over?
For now we see violence and destruction, but also deep conversations and understanding. It’s hard not to be angry when labor becomes more than we think we can bear. Since the promise to us from God is we will never be given more than we can bear, then we know we will make it. I know our tears are a watering place where healing and love can begin where it has been lacking.
When the season gets to be more than we wish it ever was, remember that this too shall pass. All things pass; this is no different. Our season is just that; seasoning brings flavor to things that are bland and in need of work. If we do the work, we will have the reward.
Feeling abandoned is horrible. Yet, it is only a feeling and not “Truth”. People tend to look at the idea of abandonment and believe it means that there is no one to turn to or someone human has left us. Although this is a human and valid feeling it is only a limited truth. The reality is we are never abandoned and never ever alone. Dark nights can loom up during hard moments. Our breath can feel tight and in response our bodies become tight as well. Maybe those that used to be on the other end of a phone line are not there any longer, but this does not mean abandonment.
God has given to us a sweet choir of spiritual support that never will go away from us. God’s promise is to command angels to watch over us, especially in times of trial and confusion. All it takes is to go out and listen to the sound of the breeze moving through the trees. There is a beauty in the sound and a sense of God’s support. The sun shines brightly and the sparkle upon water or in the green grass can be even more calming than even the voice of a human being.
God’s love letter speaks to us about never being abandoned as orphans. I believe we have much more in the spirit world than we often care to admit. Where do those ideas come from when we wake up in the morning? Or, even those spiritual downloads while in the shower, drying our hair, or driving with the windows down on a long country road? It’s God’s spiritual watch committee that is there every time of day or night. Angels are activated when we ask for them. Jesus is present even when we don’t ask. Love abounds for us 24/7. Just because we don’t “see” them does not mean no one is there.
Jesus said we are blessed when we do not see and yet still believe. I feel sometimes God allows us to feel alone so we will reach out to the spiritual support group we have but can not see. Jesus said to ask and it will be given to us. We have not, because we ask not. This means asking for anything at any time. God’s loving support group will respond with an answer, hope, encouragement and guidance.
Take it for a test drive! You never know until you ask. Believe when you do ask that you will receive. We live in a perfect harmonious universe that was created by God just for us. When your heart feels less than harmonious, reach out to the ones who have been created and placed in special spaces just for you! You will get a reply. People might let you down but God’s hosts will never let you down.
I realize this is not a typical Easter message, but then again, there is nothing typical about this Easter. I can’t say if this is a new normal or if it is a return to love. I like the believe the latter is true. During this season, I find myself stuck in between so many things. Some of them are probably just a lack of decisions but others are areas where I feel I am in a place of waiting. Ever feel like you just want to get the show on the road? You are all packed and ready but there is no gas in the car. Yep, I am there. Stuck in between.
Moses found himself in the cleft of a rock as he stood on the mountain waiting to hear what God had to say to him. In fact, God placed him there. He said, “When my glory passes by, I will put you in a cleft in the rock and cover you with my hand until I have passed by.” (Exodus 33:22). God did this because no one can look at that full glory of God and live. So, God gave Moses a hiding place. He placed Moses in a cleft between the rock. Talk about being between a rock and a hard place! Yet, as promised, God’s glory passed by. It was the only way Moses could experience the glory of God and still live to tell about it. How magnificent must that have been!
Maybe that is where I am? Maybe that is where YOU are right now? It’s not so bad to be stuck in between. It is a moment in time when God truly wants us to “see” His glory. He shows this by how He moves things in life. Or sometimes he speaks in a dream, or whispers into our hearts. He might show us direction through other people. He so loves to show up through the least expected person for the least expected reason. That’s our God! He drives us from the inside out and the outside in. Not to mention He holds up his hand to guard us and keep us safe.
During this season of being stuck in between, God spoke to me through the book of Exodus. This is the story of when God used Moses to let His people be released from the bondage of an unfair pharoah. In fact, he was totally brutal. Pharoah got a huge lessen in that season and so did Moses and the Israelites. God wastes nothing! The Israelites were also stuck in between a very long season of brutality and their freedom. God did deliver them, but when they were ready and no sooner. You see, the Israelites were a strong people. They were used to carry heavy things and hoist up heavy man made bricks in order to build the pyramids. Little did pharaoh know, he was building an army of very strong and yet humble people.
Maybe God is using this time of feeling stuck to build your character muscle and faith?Maybe its a time to find humility, more faith, hope, and even love. Growth is Gods wonder and miracle. Everything He planted on this earth grows from small to bigger or from weak to strong. Isn’t that a crazy amazing plan? It means we grow even in our darkest hours of indecision. God has a decision for you. Go with what you have and leave the rest for Him to show His glory. If you find yourself stuck in the cleft of a rock, know that God’s glory is passing by! Your new season has just begun!
There once was a man named Saul. He seemed to be a very heartless person. You see, Saul had a spirit of self righteousness and absolutely hated Christians! We all know how the ego part of us get us in to trouble. Well, Saul had a big one of those! I have a personal theory that Saul persecuted Christians because deep in his heart he was jealous of them. The bible does not say he was jealous, but I feel that could have been some of his motivation. There they were, a newly excited people, named Christians because of their belief in the Christed One; Jesus. They had an encounter with the risen Christ. How could they not be excited? There was new evidence that more awaited them after they left this world as they knew it.
Saul was determined to dampen their spirit but he could not. The joy of the new Christians was so overwhelming that nothing could take away their excitement. Yes, there was persecution. We all endure this today. We are persecuted whether we are Christian or not. It makes no difference. Still, in certain circles if we mention the name Jesus, people will move away from us. It’s all good. It’s not our issue.
Anyway, God, who sees the hearts of all men and women, apparently looked into Saul’s heart and saw something he obviously did not allow to show. There was great love and also extreme determination. Very slyly Jesus met Saul while he was traveling down a long lonely road to Damascus. Jesus, at this time was arisen! So He appeared as His glorified self to Saul. What a sight that must have been!
Saul had a change of heart after his experience that left him blind for a few days. Any time we look into a great light our eyes can not see anything but a shadow of the figure we were staring at. Jesus is a great light! After this experience Saul’s name was changed to Paul to reflect the heart that was revealed within him. God had taken a heart of stone and gave Saul a heart of flesh. In other words, he was softened. A heart that once caused him to glare at Christians in order to kill them, now had great love for them. I’m sure this confused many. God knew that Paul had what it took to carry on and spread good news to all he encountered and move onward to write most of what we know as the New Testament of the bible.
What a difference a day makes, right? God does not look at worthiness in us, He sees potential. Nothing can ever make us worthy, but a lot can give us potential. We have the potential to love, create, give, have compassions, and do great things among the people of our age. Need I go on? As I stare at a statue of Jesus with his arms lifted high in the air that my son gave to me one Christmas, it reminds me of the potential my son carries in his heart. His actions might not have always reflected the right choices, but I know that his heart is a sweet one that God loves very much. I know God sees his goodness and his love for a Savior who will never allow him to be out of His reach.
It is the same with you. God will never move away from you. My late son, Jayson, loved the book of Romans chapter 8 in the bible. The book explains that nothing can ever take God’s love from us, and I mean NOTHING. This is important for those who truly need to know they are loved. Sometimes we feel we are not. God always loves us. Even during our darkest hours. In fact, He is there for us more during our times of darkness shining brightly and waiting for us to call on Him. When we do, he reveals Himself in as much a profound way he did to Saul. Our road might not be the same as Sauls and we might not write books that stand the test of time, but no matter what we do, the Lord is with us. He says, “Even to the end of the age…”
Ever since I was a little girl I have had an issue with doing what I discern is right. I’m not sure why, but early on I had a sense of what was the right thing in any given situation. That is not to say I never did anything wrong, because that is certainly not true. Morally, though, I have always had the knowledge of what the right decisions should be. Temptation was always there, especially when the wrong thing was either appealing or easier to get through.
This brings me to my next point. Doing the right thing is not always easy nor is it always popular. Let’s say I did not have much popularity amid the masses growing up. Yes, it made life hard, and there was a lot of rejection. Then we feed into the mix my own personal spiritual beliefs life became even harder, or maybe just more confusing. The diversity of things people can believe tend to segregate us more than bring us together. I feel that in America, church hour on Sunday’s still remain the most segregated and even bigoted time we spend. This is not always the personal case. I am generalizing just a little bit. Even my own personal relationships tended to go through separation over what I feel has always been a moral issue.
When I look back, I have noticed that past relationships did not work out due to moral decisions that I held and the other did not agree with. Sometimes my morality sent them packing and running in the other direction. Other times dysfunction and co-dependency were the underlying problems that brought things to a halt. Regardless as to what the issues were, the separation always felt like rejection. In actuality, it was usually a difference of belief and life decisions.
On a consciousness level, I have had an issue with immorality or acts that are not upright. This is not meant to be a finger pointing or judgemental topic. I am simply stating my own personal experience. I guess early on I had a tendency to sense and gravitate toward God in my life. I always felt things very deeply and have always had a sensitivity that often can award me a look or comment of disapproval. It has taken me a very long time to overcome the tendency to seek out approval from others over my own personal convictions.
People pleasing is a hard issue to break and takes the power of Godly conviction and resolve. I guess my people pleasing issues became easier to overcome when I realized how much of myself I had to sacrifice in order to get approval. I got sick of sacrifice. I even came to understand the truth that sacrifice was not needed since God never required it of me, even when I was a Pastor. For some reason people sometimes believe I am supposed to give more than I am able just because I am a minister. This is not true. Ministry is guidance, love, and compassion. Never was it ever meant to be sacrifice.
I’m just speaking honestly and openly here. I get into trouble when people don’t like that I want to do the right thing while they want to do the wrong thing. When others around me want to violate my moral compass the outcome can be disturbing and that is an understatement. I find myself in a position where I feel I have to defend my right to not agree with what violates my boundaries. I know God is on my side, so that makes it easier but it never makes it more comfortable. Maybe I need to be a bit more determined when it comes to overcoming the need to be liked over the need to be right for myself and God? I’ve always desired to do the right thing for God. After all, God is the One I need to please and not people. This is true no matter how we all believe.
I know God forgives. This is the amazing part of love. Yet, God created our universe in a way where we all receive discipline when the wrong thing is chosen. It’s easy to justify it because our actions were the easier route or the temptation was greater than the conviction at the time. Nonetheless, we all receive the discipline we deserve to get sooner or later. We can all bet our last dollar on that one. I have seen it happen.
Do other people get mad at you for wanting to do the right thing when they don’t? Keep this in mind. We are all ambassadors for God and on God’s behalf we live, breathe, move, and have our being. (Yes, I snuck a little “bible” in there!). My desire is to give God the best experience of His life, through mine. Since He lives in us, He knows what we do. There is no hiding. Adam and Eve tried that little move and it did not work for them. It will not work for us either. What God desires from us is closeness and relationship. Since He can not be a part of darkness He will not be a part of our breach of moral compass. Yes, He is forgiving, but that does not excuse us from the discipline we will eventually receive. My mother forgave me for sneaking an extra piece of cake when I was little, but she still sent me to my room. I think you get the idea. Love will not excuse indiscretion or deliberately making the wrong choices.
This might end up sounding like a lecture, and it is! I want your life to be filled with the blessing of closeness with God. I want you to have all of the things God has promised, including prosperity, mercy, grace, and the power that comes from walking uprightly. I want that for myself. So, as for me, and hoping my house, we will follow the ways of God. I know blessing will come from it.
“Closer is He than breathing, nearer than hands and feet.” Emmet Fox
The sacred is what someone might consider to be divine, holy, of religious content, or deserving of veneration. What is sacred is different for everyone. When I personally think of the word I consider what is holy for me. This can be a holy moment of meditative prayer. Or, it can be a meaningful photo of what is connected to the divine that I put up on my wall. Some consider the bible sacred, and for others it might be another book they hold to be holy.
We think of these things as holy and sacred because of the connection or ideas they bring up. Sometimes it’s a feeling or sense of reverence. Our bodies were meant for worship and containment of the divine. We are human and yet considered the temple of God. Sometimes when I close my eyes I think of the Spirit of God reflected from my heart and filled into my body. For me, this is a sacred moment. My heart has a sense of expansion with love and adoration of what is bigger and greater than my human self.
To know we house this greatness is also a sacred knowledge, for no one knows this unless they have been enlightened to that knowledge. Once it is known, one can not go back to unknowing. It becomes a solid and righteous part of our existence. To know what we embody and carry is very empowering. When we truly know, the empowerment is greatly expanded. The greatness remains solid within us as long as we consider it holy and sacred. Once our pride starts to think it comes from our humanness we have stomped on God’s power. It happens this way so we will keep God holy, sacred, and powerful in our lives. To do this is to inhabit the ways and character of God. To forsake it is to weaken ourselves, bowing down to what is human, flesh, and ego. This is pride and pride always comes before a fall.
Whatever is sacred for you, it’s best to remember why it is and to uphold it within that wisdom. Sacred time, for instance, is just that because it brings us presence of divinity we can receive in no similar way. To take a holy breath with God, to fill our hearts with the love of God, to enjoy fellowship within the presence of our Creator, is the greatest holy moment we can practice.
Practice is a key word here. Nothing stays sacred for us without sacred practice. We do this to create a habit. Remember, our lives spring forth from the issues we carry in our hearts. Without sacred and holy practice, we enter into a realm of forgetting who we are and why we are here.
To grab a sense of what is sacred for you, spend some special time practicing that moment and then do it daily. You will find it is habit forming. Within days your perspective will change to one that is a reflection of what is spiritually God. Your heart will be changed by being in the presence of holy love. If you are struggling with issues that drain you, or searching for answers, these moments become even more important.
I’m going to ask that you close your eyes for a few moments and simply ask that which is sacred to help remind you of who and whose you are. Breathe deeply. Take in the elements that nurture your being. They are the same elements of the earth. We have breath/air, water, fire/energy, nutrients similar to those that come from the earth’s soil, and space that we have available to fill our lives with presence.
Consider this today. What is sacred to you and what is sacred practice? Make it a habit in your life. Journal the changes this habit brings or adds to your life. Over time you will see what sacred practice does to enhance every part of your existence.
Not being self seeking can be confusing at first. On one hand we can not give of anything until we have it within ourselves. Being self assured, self giving, and providing self care are all good things. We do need to seek our healing, our inner light, and to seek out what is best in our lives. We give out of the overflow of what we have and who we are. We also self seek when we seek God to an extent. We seek to lose fear, define our lives, search out our purpose and expand our horizons. These are all great things and we should all do them!
I believe what the author is saying here is that love does not behave selfishly with an attitude of entitlement over the needs of others. It’s very different to be self loving from being selfish and self centered in an arrogant way. Arrogance is a form of pride that lords itself over others. The type of self seeking that love is not is the kind that says, “I deserve more than you because I am better than you are.” True love never sees anyone that way, but sees us all as equal even when we don’t all behave on the playground.
We might have different places we fill in business, in life, or in family, but we are all equal in God’s sight. To self seek is to seek without God, from ego and not through Spirit. God’s Spirit is Holy and there is nothing prideful or arrogant within the love that is held in God’s Holiness. Self seeking is also a state of division. It states that a person feels they are higher or above all others and therefore deserve preference over others. It denies the Oneness that Jesus prayed to “the Father” about.
When we are looking to embody true God-love we do not seek preference over others but see one another as equal. We understand that we are not completely whole without one another. Everyone is in a state of “becoming”, so not everyone will be on the same spiritual path as another. Jesus did not come to the earth to just visit so He could establish a set of people who would have it all and others would not. Truth says Jesus came for the whole world, to set people free, to show the way, to relieve us all of condemnation, to pour out grace, to teach healing, and point the way toward eternity. Jesus laid down His life for EVERY human being ever created and came to this planet. That means people who were before, who were then, and who were to be. Literally EVERYONE. Not just those who believe as He does but even those who do not believe at all. Jesus was and is the supreme example of love if we ever saw one. He displayed a love that was never self seeking; a love that laid itself down for those who needed it more.
Do you want to embody this kind of love? Its hard when our human side always will compete to interfere. I believe this comes from not being healed from past trauma. We only act and react poorly from our soul scars. When we are healed and clean from those things then God within us can become bigger and more profoundly present. Remember Peter in the bible? People were healed just walking into Peter’s shadow. Peter did not receive any special preference from God or special grace. Jesus said we all could do greater things than even He had. When He said, “all” he meant everyone. Only pure love and faith could be that profound as to heal others with just being present. Isn’t that the express image of God’s love?
If you have been following along with my blog posts lately you might have discovered my “love” series is taken from the attributes of love described in the bible in the book of 1 Corinthians chapter 13. Isn’t it nice that we have a guideline? I kind of skipped to this one because it stood out for me today as something we all should pay attention to in this world. We pretty much have a mixed bag of nuts here on earth, and I say that respectfully! What I mean, is there is a huge combination between evil and truth. Maybe it just seems that way because technology allows us to know more than we used to. Or evil seems to be getting more prevalent. A lot of the minor negative issues in our world today have more to do with impatience and lies. Then there are the real evil issues like bombings, murders and war.
What I am going to address are inner characteristics that have to do with God’s love and what it means to embody it. As you might have discovered by now, especially if you have been reading my posts, it is a powerful thing to carry. God’s love is so powerful, I believe it heals. I’m sure the purest of love was in Jesus as He walked this earth and healed so many. Someone who does not delight in evil is someone who always wants the best for themselves and others. This means even our perceived enemies or those who have done us wrong. Embodying real love and truth means we always want the best for people no matter what. As you might perceive, this takes humility and forgiveness. Again, as I always emphasize, neither of these means we tolerate bad behavior. It just means their behavior does not cause us to want them to be harmed in any way. We might feel that way in the beginning but real love will act as a covering.
In the story of Adam and Eve, God covered their “nakedness” in the garden after they disobeyed Him and lied about it. God saw through this because the Spirit of God is all knowing. Their nakedness symbolizes this exposure. Yet, God is pure love and can not hate. Within His forgiveness He covered them. In the story it was a literal covering of their body, but symbolically it is a protection from harm and an example of true God-love. They received discipline. True love always disciplines as well. We can not think we will do harm and then expect to not have it come back upon us, but God’s grace always protects and covers us when we go to the temple of humility and truth. Grace and forgiveness are powerful healers but they are always balanced with discipline and consequences. This is a part of our God created universe of law and balance.
When the truth wins out, we are walking in divine love and honesty. This means being honest with ourselves as much as with others. Actually, we have to be honest with ourselves first before we can be honest with others. Either way, we have God in our temple inside and everything is exposed anyway. Often, like Adam and Eve, we trick ourselves into believing if no one knows or finds out then a lie does not exist or we will escape the full discipline for our hidden actions. Not true. How can we hide anything from God who lives in us? There is a Scripture in the bible that says, “be sure your sin will find you out.” This means you will be exposed by the pure standard that is set up by the love of God. It is not that God wants you to “be in trouble” but to expose you so you will be disciplined, humbled, and covered. God wants healing and pure love and truth. True love always rejoices when the truth wins out.
It might not seem fair to not be able to hide in our mistakes and lies but actually the most loving thing in the world is to be exposed. How can we ever learn the power of true love if there is no discipline for our actions. So we can therefore rejoice when the truth wins out! Whether is it for ourselves or others, to see discipline within the truth is to see true love in action. It is a powerful cleansing and the beginning of walking in more of the Light of Life. A lie will bring spiritual death. The truth will bring life. Jesus was a huge advocate of the truth. As God has explained, it sets us free. This is the same whether it is truth, the opposite of a lie, or divine higher truth about our spiritual existence. A lie will fragment us but the truth will make us whole. A lie separates us, but the truth will delight in our unity.
So, you see, to not delight in evil on any level actually heals. We should desire evil to be exposed and to expose it when we are able. When we do this we are acting in true love. The Light always wants to shine to expose darkness. In that way there is more Light and more truth.
I remember when I was a child I lied to my mother about a very insignificant thing. Boy was she angry! I wondered why she got upset over something so small. I even wondered why I lied about something so small. Anyway, I was banished from my favorite television program and sent to my room with the door closed. She never came in to check on me even when she heard me crying. That was a very dark night for me as a little girl but very significant. I had to face my lie. Yes, I had tried to cover it up first, but it was exposed, and very quickly. I was not very happy about that at the moment but I had to face the consequences of my actions. It might seem very insignificant considering the issues we face in this world today but the lesson is the same. We can not hide from the light of truth. It always seeks out to expose us, teach us, humble us, heal us, and grow us up. I told my mother the truth after that, even when it was hard. It often was hard, but I found she was easier on me when I was honest than when I thought I got away with something.
I know it might seem like a childish lesson but in all honesty, had she not exposed it, I might have grown to be a less honest person. We bonded closer after that. The truth always wins out, wants the best for all of us, and is the highest form of love there is. It’s God love and the lesson I learned helped me to also expose evil and lies much easier and stronger since I understand it’s the right thing to do. It’s a loving thing to do. Sometimes it makes people very angry but exposure is still a very loving thing to do.
So, please, understand to not delight in evil. Don’t wish harm on anyone no matter what they have done. Expose the lies you know of, especially if they are your own, and allow the truth to win out. That way we can all rejoice in the truth whether it is human truth or higher spiritual truth. Exposure and discipline will give us both of them.
Every human being has the key that unlocks the truth about themselves. Often its hard enough figuring out what those truths are let alone what someone else’s are. Unless we are mind readers, the personal thoughts, feelings, and ponderings of another individual are their own. They are not known unless or until they reveal them.
When we assume we know what another is thinking it is not truth about them. Only they hold their own truth. Our thoughts about others come from our own thoughts unless they have expressed them to us personally. For example, we can not determine if we have hurt someone or not. Another person’s feelings belong to them, and only they know what they are and why. Or, we also can not determine what another person’s possible actions are. We won’t know them until they actually act.
We all do this. We assume we know instead of ask. I’m not sure why its so hard to ask but often it is. Maybe we don’t want to know the answer so we create one. Either way, the thoughts we manufacture about another person come from our own personal experience and thoughts. We might have experienced a lot of reasons to mistrust, so we can not trust others easily but often assume they will leave us. Or we might not have a good self image so we believe others think we are unattractive.
No one can live in the reflection of another’s thoughts or actions even when we feel we know them well. Someone often told me, “We never know what others are thinking.” This is absolutely true. Unless they tell us, we don’t know. Sometimes we assume others don’t like us but in reality they might just be too shy or overwhelmed to get to know us. Assuming can bring us a lot of pain but discovering where that pain comes from can help us walk in true reality and not what we think it is.
Let me give you examples of some personal things I have observed that others assume about me.
It is often assumed if I post something on my blog or in social media it reflects what is going on in my personal life or with me as an individual. This is not always true. In fact, it is rarely true. It’s usually about what I have observed in someone else or in the character of people in general.
A great deal of the time it is assumed if I am put together, dressed well, make up on, that I am doing completely alright. This is not true at all. I was raised by example from women in my family that we put ourselves together daily. Its almost a matter of habit for me now. I put myself together with full make up, did my hair etc while I was in labor with all of my children before I went to the hospital! My outer exterior is not always a reflection of how I feel. In order to know, someone has to ask me, or they simply don’t know.
Here is a huge one. Since I was a Pastor in my past, it is often assumed that my relationship with God has slipped because my doctorate is in Transpersonal Psychology, I provide hypnotherapy and alternative healing. Actually, I have been working on these things for many years. In fact I began my first psychology degree in 1996. I went to a community college for 2 years and then a 4 year university after that. Life has been a process for me, but my relationship with God is stronger being who I am meant to be than being in a role that was truly not the right fit for me. It is a position I was placed in after my graduation from seminary. Don’t get me wrong, I loved it. In fact it was one of the more precious joys of my life. My personal devotion time is more private than it used to be but it is deeper than it used to be as well.
These are just some things I can personally relay that might bring this point to light. In fact, being a light in the darkness is something I learned from my Father, my Creator, my God. How cool is that? The things I mentioned above regarding myself are reflections of what others think and not what is reality for me. For those who have wondered, now you know!