Have You Discovered the Power of Taking Holy Moments?

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This morning I sat with my tea just waking up and taking in the new day. I closed my eyes for a moment and the first thing I noticed was all of the noise that usually goes unnoticed. The heater came on, a car went by outside, birds were chirping in the trees, and then the ding of a message coming in on my phone. Our lives and world is filled with noise every day. The only time we are really not consciously aware of it is when we sleep. I can’t explain it, with my eyes still closed, the world suddenly came alive with deeper sounds and things I never noticed before. I realized the heater also makes a howling noise when it is on, the house creaks, and I actually sense light even when my eyes are closed.

Taking a holy moment to just “be” is so revealing, especially when beginning to recognize personal thoughts, senses of the body, or setting intentions of how the day could unfold. I remember reading a book written by Marianne Williamson a long time ago and also her famous quote, “Sacred silence writes the universe.” I thought about the moment just prior to creation and how that silence might have been. What an amazing moment in a void space of time when God took a breath and began creating. It boggles my mind to even consider what a great mind God truly is. I think it goes beyond personal comprehension and is far greater than our human existence can even fathom. Then with great intention God creates.

It’s how our day should begin and how it could be if we design it that way; a holy moment with God and the intention to create the day whatever way we partner in creating it. Think about this, “Without intention our lives seem random as the day unfolds.” It does not have to be that way. Of course, things happen that we can not control but we can control how we respond to them. I wondered this morning, what it might be like to have a day that unfolds with sacred and intended responses.

“Today I will take a breath and intend to be patient when I am tempted to be impatient.”

“I will walk in acceptance that the only life I can have control over is my own.”

Intentions can be much more powerful than we even realize. Could it be because we are not listening or taking sacred silence? When we listen, answers are there for our questions and questions come up we never thought of. It almost feels like the world forgot how to breathe, ask, listen, observe, and intend. Have we forgotten about the holy moment God taught us to have when creation began? Maybe we are in too much of a hurry to take the time to actually do the work that creation and intention require? Not taking the time can be costly though. That leaves our lives and days to unfold in what seems like a random way. If the way we respond to what comes our way is not set with intention our responses are left to our ego self instead of the part of us that is connected to our creative creator.

Maybe this sounds way too deep to take in during a morning cup of tea, but it is important. Can you imagine if we all took a holy moment every day or even several times a day? We can intend to be more kind, respond with more wisdom, pause before we respond at all. Maybe we can be more conscious of what comes out of our mouths. Are our responses positive, necessary, or true? Taking a holy moment to set our intention for each day can help calm some of the emotion we deal with. Emotions are important but they can cause our lives to feel like we are riding in a sail boat being tossed around by an angry or uncontrollable sea. Jesus once calmed those angry and uncontrollable waves. I think it was King David who asked God to level the hills and valleys. Could he have been setting an intention with God to not react in such an emotional or uncontrolled way?

Life can be a “hills and valleys” kind of ride without taking holy moments to sit in sacred silence. If you have not, take that time now and take it every day when you wake. Yes, it requires you create a new habit if you don’t do this already. You will thank yourself and thank God if you do. Give it a try!

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry

If You Want a Better Life…

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DECIDE! It is not the events in your life that control it. It is the decisions you make in your life that controls it. You might not think so but its truth. You can decide to let events cause you to decline or you can decide to allow difficult events cause you to rise above. It’s not always easy. We are programmed to be a certain way by the way we grew up until now. It takes PRACTICE and AWARENESS.

Practice feeding yourself the things that are good for you. We feed ourselves daily to sustain our bodies. When it comes to our bodies, garbage in, garbage out. Good stuff in then good stuff will come of it. It’s the same with feeding the mind. Garbage in, garbage out. Our lives reflect what we decide to put into it. Good stuff in then good stuff will be reflected on the outside. If you are in a grumpy bad mood or find yourself with a quick temper then it’s a sure sign you have been feeding your mind GARBAGE. You might not believe this at first. Test it. If you feast on things such as violent programming, negative content, hang around people who really don’t give two hoots about you. Your life will decline.

But, if you change that around and just DECIDE to only take in good things into your mind, your life will reflect what you take in. Again, you have to decide and then follow through. Don’t whine if you are not willing to do the work. You HAVE to do the work to make it work. Plain and simple.

Don’t be hard on yourself. Just keep trying. We all get down, depressed, upset, angry, and sad. Life is a challenge. We can also challenge ourselves just like someone who is working out their body. Challenge yourself for 4 weeks to only feed on positive things. When people get negative around you, walk away. I’m not saying turn your back on someone who is hurting. I am saying stay away from the nay saying and negativity. Be your own life coach. Feed your mind for a solid month with great programming! Your life will reflect it on the outside because you will begin to attract a more positive experience. Never fails. Just DECIDE and follow through.

Loving you from here,

Dr Rev Jenine Marie Howry

Here Is Your Weekly Wisdom! Give Yourself Credit

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For some reason we are conditioned to expect our acknowledgement, and credit where credit is do, from others outside of us. I think it comes from a world which has the idea that we don’t have all we need from the inside out. It’s easy to look back and place blame on those who raised us for not giving us the “kudos” we always wish we had, but in spite of what we think we were lacking, those experiences have actually been teaching us to give those “kudos” to ourselves.

Yes, it is very nice and greatly appreciated when others appreciate us. We do need that, but when we don’t get it, we also should not die on the inside from feelings of lack. Today, take some time to close your eyes, put your hand on your heart, and give yourself the compliments you always have wanted and needed to hear. Remember, they are just as important coming from you than from anyone else. We live in a fast paced society where others have their minds filled with whatever life is throwing at them. Their occupied minds don’t mean they don’t appreciate you. Give them grace! Send yourself love and appreciation every single day, and believe me, you will attract the same automatically from others anyway. Let me give you a head start.

“You have done a great job in your life! You have weathered many storms and have still come out alright. You have a good heart, have contributed to this world and those around you. You are awesome!” (Repeat things like this in first person to yourself. It’s alright to give yourself some good vibes for being such a great person!)

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

Re-evaluating The Hard Things: Talking About Shame

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When you were growing up, have you ever heard someone say to a child, “You should be ashamed of yourself!” This usually came after  some perceived error in judgment or just plain bad behavior. I wonder if any parent ever stopped to think about those words and what they might mean when someone becomes an adult. I wonder where parents heard those words themselves, took on the shameful perception of themselves, and then unconsciously passed it on as “good morality” teaching. When I hear those words myself, I see a little girl sitting cross legged on a bed with her head down ready to cry.

When a person grows up in shaming then shame is what they carry either unconsciously, consciously, or both. As shaming is passed down through family lines it becomes like a genetic disease. Most of the time it goes unnoticed like a program that runs in the background of a life, just like on a computer. Then it comes out the first opportunity it gets, to stab a person right into the shame wound. The next thing they know it comes out of their pores in the form of anger, fear, humiliation, and the list goes on.

Someone who has been seriously shamed can never take any type of correction, teaching, or instruction. They just believe they are being wronged, bruised, and shamed again and again. This does not end until awareness is brought to the wound. Once something is known it can not be unknown. It becomes a person’s truth and can be very transformative if an individual decides to make it that way.

The next time someone corrects you, tries to teach you, criticizes you, or worse, think about what feelings are suddenly brought up. How does your body feel and is it reacting as well? Sometimes you might feel sick in your stomach, your breath might become faster and shorter, or you might feel like you want to storm off, lash out, or RUN!  Pain is always an indicator of illness of any kind. It makes no difference if it is physical or emotional. It brings an opportunity to create healing. The next time a situation brings you distress, instead of blaming another person or a situation, let it be a healing moment.

Close your eyes, put one hand over your heart and one on your stomach. Breath deep and slowly. Ask yourself what feelings this issue is bringing up for you and if you would like to decide to heal yourself instead of react. If you want to heal yourself, sit with God and tell yourself the words that others never seemed to ever say. “I am valuable.” I am enough.” “Others’ opinions or thoughts of me don’t have to be made my own.” “I am deeply loved and admired.” “I am unique and God sees me as powerful.” There are many you can say. Maybe write down some of your own and keep them in a place where you see them every day. Then when shame comes to call, open the door with a self love bomb that sends it packing for good!

Practice makes perfect in this case. Let it become second nature to you. Refuse to pass shame down through family lines. Refuse to allow others words, actions, or thoughts of you make you feel less than what you really are. Instead of blame, heal. Instead of lash out or react, reaffirm. Instead of shame, brilliance!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

If you struggle with shame or if you tend to take on others thoughts of you, please call and make an appointment. I can guide you through a course of healing that can reaffirm who you really are!

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Transform Your Life by Renewing Your Mind DAILY

You know, God gave you the power to renew your mind and heal the neuro pathways of your brain to change your life! You CAN have an abundant and transformed life, but you need to work on those scripts that have been fed to your through life and change them to the truth! Watch!

Loving you from here!

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry

Addictions: Is There a Way Out?

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Before I begin with this blog post I want to say that addictions in our country is one of the hardest issues we deal with. The complications an addiction can bring to one life are so saddening. It often goes from wasting precious time to the loss of life. Regardless, addiction is not only a personal illness or disease. Addictions to substances or actions affect everyone the addict is in connection with. The worry, the concern, and the stress caused by being in connection with an addicted person can wear away at the life of those who love them.

Let’s Take a Look at the Bottom Line of Addiction and the “Whys” 

I’m going to just put this out there. It’s pretty simple actually. Every addicted person feels that they lack pleasure in life and need a substance, action, or even person, to bring comfort from the difficult feelings one has. For some reason every addict seems to believe that life is supposed to be blissful, joyful, and problem free all of the time. NOT TRUE! Life is a learning journey and there is no way any life will ever have complete peace all of the time. This world is filled with problems from relational to humanitarian. It might seem simplistic but one of the greatest battles to fighting addiction is for an addict to first come to the understanding that life will have challenges and will not always “feel” good all of the time. Going by feelings instead of faith or practical knowledge is probably the first mistake any addicted person makes. We all feel and all can be sensitive to one thing or another. Yet, being driven by feelings alone can create a multitude of issues.

Bottom line, we are not meant to be comfortable all of the time. Masking the hard issues in life by using a substance or situation only stops a person from receiving the life lesson they need to grow up as a human being. What is the result? Stunted growth; especially spiritual growth.

So what about the pleasure centers of the brain? 

Our brains are an amazing part of our creation. The brain is meant to control our bodily functions, guide our lives and record them. We also have pleasure neurotransmitters that are like carriers to the rest of the body. They tell us we are having a good experience or not. Sometimes they can control how we look at life if we allow them to. For instance, someone who has depression usually does not maintain adequate serotonin in the brain and therefore “feels” depressed. An anti-depressant can be given to help the brain maintain serotonin in order to correct the problem. Depending on the person, the same can be accomplished by helping the brain maintain the right level of dopamine. Both of these neurotransmitters are like “feel good” connectors. Those who have issues with neurotransmitter imbalances struggle with every day life and being able to enjoy life’s simple pleasures.

Much to our misunderstanding there is a way out of addictions and what they do to the brain chemistry. The neuro-pathways of the mind can be rewired by meditation, affirmation, and also hypnosis. Spiritual practices can also be just as uplifting as an anti-depressant given that the practice is created as a good habit in life. There is a way out! If you struggle with addictions of any kind you can correct the imbalances in your brain that life has created and actually overcome the addictions that plague you. Also, learning how to deal and cope with life’s setbacks is a real important part of the process. Dedication and desire come into play because without these nothing else will work out. If you really want out of the addiction trap the good news is there is one! The decision that you must make is if your dedication and desire are strong enough to really work on making the necessary changes. Often if a person experiences enough pain created by their addiction it can be enough to create a strong desire to change and heal.

Your life is waiting ahead of you! Why not consider making the change from being trapped in a nowhere life to really living the life you have been given! If you need help in this area, please call and find out how you can overcome your addictions!

++IMPORTANT Note: Detox from any substance such as a drug or alcohol is a very serious process and should not be attempted alone. Please seek medical attention before beginning any other process or along side a new process. Your overall health must be assessed. Remember, if you have been altered for a long period of time your entire body has been altered down to a cellular level as well. 

Loving you from here,

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD.  832-484-8306

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Do You Know How the Universal Law of Reaping and Sowing Works?

sky-space-dark-galaxy.jpgI was watching an episode of one of my favorite programs when one of the characters went into a speech about how people love to see others get sick, have financial issues, or even worse, announce they have a terminal illness. I thought to myself, “Why is it that some people love to see others not do well?” Does it come from a deep seeded need to be “better” than others? Or maybe just to feel like we are better than others? I’m sure this does not apply to everyone but it should make us want to think or consider what we put out there in the spiritual realm. Let me tell you why.

You see, we are like radio broadcasters in this universe. Our thoughts, comments, and actions are very seen and the energy they contain is also kind of recorded, if that makes sense. Basically, God hears, sees, and knows all. How could He not, He lives in us? At any rate, God did create a Universe that is standard and does not change. There is a Universal Law called the Law of Reaping and Sowing. It’s pretty self explanatory, we get back what we put out there. The major element about this is that it never ever fails. Like I said, the Universal Laws created by God are standard.

Can you grasp that your thoughts have matter to them? They create. This is why we are supposed to be renewing our minds; at least one of the reasons. What we think concerning others will come back to us just the same. What we say concerning others will also come back to us. It only makes sense that what we also do to others will come back upon us. Do we really want to wish ill will upon anyone in light of this information? I would hope not, especially since we are supposed to be loving one another. If we apply this to the Universal Law of Reaping and Sowing when we love, then love is returned. It might not come from the same person but it will come to us from wherever fate allows it to and it will not fail. It can’t.

So, let’s take a deep breath here and examine the meditations of our hearts. It was King David in the Bible who asked God to examine his heart meditations and wanted Him to find them to be pleasing. I’m sure he knew that his heart meditations will also create actions that create what his life would be like.

There is a huge reason why I really want to teach you this law more than any other. Not long ago someone wished me harm in writing. UGH. I felt like holding my breath. Not only did it hurt my feelings but there is a God part of me that truly knows the Universal Law will give that person a slap in the behind one day that will not be pleasant. Remember, it WILL NOT FAIL. Only the grace of God upon us, our asking forgiveness, and canceling out our actions will ever change what will eventually happen if we don’t take those actions. God’s grace is a power and a gift, but it will not take away lessons learned that are standard and created by God Himself accept by His grace.

For Heaven’s sake, don’t let pride keep you from correcting a huge mistake! You have time. God gives us grace, although I have seen reaping happen very suddenly as well. If it is not good reaping then we really end up regretting what we have sown. Please don’t live with regrets. Examine your heart, your speech, and your actions. Do you want your life to change for the better? Would you like to have more God love inside of you instead of wishing others ill will?

Meditate on this:

“God, help me to catch myself when the meditations of my heart do not align with Your divine love. Remind me to be humble, to drop my pride, and to ask forgiveness when I do harm. Bless my enemies and allow my life to be blessed as well. Bless humanity with the knowledge of the Universal Law of Reaping and Sowing. Let me be a peace maker and love creator in this world.”

I wish for you the very best in life and also to learn how to bring that about for yourself. I know you can do this!

Loving you from here

Jenine Marie Howry

How To Trust in an Un-Trusting World

pexels-photo-241322.jpegTrust is a very valuable thing. In the human world we EARN the trust of others. In the realm of God we can trust everything because God is faithful and never deviates from the true nature of who He is. What do we do in a world where it is so hard to trust? Can we ever truly trust anything outside of ourselves when humans are not perfect and can so easily make mistakes?

Trusting depends on where our trust is directed. Have you ever given thought to trusting yourself? Can you depend on yourself and do you believe in yourself too? When the chips are down and the world is hard to understand can you rely on yourself in any circumstance to bring things through, regardless of what that might look like?

Trusting yourself is your answer when it is hard to trust others. Let me give you an example. I get nervous when other people drive and I am in the passenger seat. It makes no difference who it is. No two people have the same responses to stopping, going, and how we determine speed etc. There have been many a time I have “put on the brakes” from the passenger side when I think there might be an unwelcome meeting with the car I am in and someone else’s. But, when I drive, I trust myself. I know myself and how I respond.  In the past I have swerved in order to avoid an altercation with another vehicle.

In fact,  anywhere in life when I am doing the driving, I am trusting life. It’s the same with self trust in any aspect of life. Once we know we can completely trust who we are then life becomes more bearable even when others are going haywire. In a world where it is hard to trust, place your trust in God, but also trust yourself in any process on the journey. It’s a gift you can give to yourself.

“Today, I will give myself the ultimate gift of trust. I know I can handle any obstacle that comes my way. I trust my faith, my ideas, and my decisions. Even in the wake of mistakes, I know I can trust my way out of them.”

Loving you from here

Jenine Marie Howry

Are You a Fraction of Yourself?

IMG_20171023_130408I would hate to be laying in that space between this life and mortal death with deep regrets over all of the things I wish I had explored in this life, but did not. Every now and then I think of this. Would I regret some of my choices or lack of choices? I wonder what I might of done or been but did not think myself worthy, or did not take the time. I even wonder more if I would have missed the boat on something special because others did not approve of what I was becoming, believing, or doing.

Remember that old quote “To thine own self be true?” Have you even asked your “self” what it wants or desires right now? Or have you asked and know what it is but are afraid to pursue it? We can always look outside of ourselves at others and see the things they “are” or “do” and think, “I would love to do that!” But, is it something that truly can belong to you? Does it cause your heart to sing and does it compliment you so much that you glow at the prospect?

Often we don’t even know what we want or what we desire to believe because we are too busy looking outside of ourselves to find it. Believe me, there is a seed deep inside of you that only you can be and believe to be. You will know it when you discover it because immediately it won’t fit anyone else’s “self” because it is uniquely yours. Whatever has been planted at this moment will make your heart sing, will cause others to walk away, will bring new people to your path, and will confuse you until you actually “do it”.

Our own personal truth is important because we are all important. No one has to approve of you. God already has. No one has to agree with you because God who lives in you is your witness. Whatever works for you, works for you, and it will be shown by success and joy!

There are a lot of things in this world we can fill the hole inside of us with. Sometimes it can be things or people. The greater things are those which are not tangible but they are eternal. The truths that are inside of you are there for your eternal well being and not for anyone else to approve of. You are who you are, and there is no one else who can take your place.

It can be so easy to not live up to our potential because we think others expect something else from us. If we walk in this way, we deny ourselves the full truth and we deny others of who we truly are. Think about this for a moment. Do you believe the things you believe because they have been shown to be true to you or because others have taught you what to believe and how? This is a hard one because so many of us have sat under the teaching of others. Its great to trust them with our hearts and life path, but no one could possibly know every facet of our being like God can. God lives in our being.

Seriously consider this; “Are you living as a fraction of your true self because you have been taught to believe a certain way, or be a certain way, by others?” I want better for you. I want the BEST for you! So be the best you that you can be! TRUST yourself and God who lives in you! Be “the one” for all that you are. Whatever you do, don’t lay in a sorrowful place some day and regret not showing the parts of you that you hide from everyone else because its not popular for some. Your tribe is there and they will find you, so be who you are; always!

“I am determined to never live as a fraction of myself but in the wholeness of my personal truth no matter what anyone else might feel or believe. I will not live with regrets and I will trust that all things truly do work for good for those who love God. I will trust God who dwells inside my temple for my life’s decisions and my personal truth.”

Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries LLC 

Honor Your Time of Going Within: The Winter Seasons

JenineHowry2Along with winter comes the desire and need to cover up from what is outside of us. We layer on extra protection, keeping us safe and warm. Winter challenges us to warm ourselves from the inside out. We have the opportunity to work on our inner guidance, direction, and issues that keep us stuck. Without the winter and inner work, we become bitter from the cold. Warmth on the inside gives us the promise of tomorrow and a new season that approaches where our new seeds can be planted in order to provide new growth.

The type of seeds we will plant is decided in the winter though. As we work through our inner selves and new ideas, our inspiration is to decide what new seeds we shall soon plant. Will this be a new book project, a resolution of some sort, a passing of sorrow or leading into a new filled joy?

Along with every season, winter must come just as the others. We are not the same without its coldness, the need to cover from the elements and go within, and the new decisions we will make while we await the spring. Many see time spent in the winters of life as a shadow cast upon them with darkness all around. This is alright. Without the shadows in life we would never come to understand how brilliant the light can be!

“I will come to honor the winter seasons with its shadows, coldness, and need for covering. I have faith that God will provide the covering and inspiration I need for a fresh new season when spring arrives. I intend for the best seed to be placed into my heart and hands for the greater harvest when the time is right.”

Loving you from here,

Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries LLC