I hope you are enjoying this video series. I believe ONE more will be coming after this one. First, we have to come through the darkness part. If you feel inclined, please subscribe to myYouTube channel and pass on the video series! They are my gift to all of YOU!
In this walk on the beach segment, we will be working with the power and energy of the sun to balance the first three chakras of our bodies. We will be working with the root chakra, the sacral chakra, and the solar plexus. This is beginning work today on releasing kundalini energy at the back of our spine. This energy is healing, it’s Wisdom and blockage releasing. If you have not worked with this kind of energy release or experienced it in your body before please go slowly. If you have any questions please do not hesitate to ask by emailing me:
Loving you from here,
Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry
My video segments for healing, creating, and manifesting in your life are not meant to replace medical or psychological advice. My methods are only used to enhance the current services you might be receiving. Picture credit to Pixabay Music and production compliments of iMovie.
Let’s face it, not everyone is going to accept everything about us. Problems arise for us when those who surround us are not accepting of who we are. Even more difficult is to be around those who simply do not support our vision in life. The condition has a tendency to cause us to be fake in order to be supported and accepted. If we are not strong enough in our convictions we will compromise our journey just to appease others.
People who have negative thoughts about what you believe, the vision you carry, or the person you desire to become, will cause you to struggle in your process. Not only that, they will never give you supportive comments and ideas that can help you along in your journey. No one is ever expected to create things in life by themselves. It takes the loving support of others to help us make our dreams come true. Like it or not, this is the process of Oneness we have in this life. People don’t have to join our journey with us but supportive views and even connections will help our plans succeed.
Our solution is to be strong enough and have more conviction inside ourselves to let people go when they are not supportive of our process. It’s a hard lesson because we tend to hold onto relationships for the sake of familiarity. The wisdom of the bible states if two do not agree they can not walk together. This means there is a need to be in agreement with what we are inside, what we desire to become, and what we want to accomplish.
Can you imagine those who put down your journey every time you mention it? This causes so much discouragement inside. We might think we are strong enough to endure it but remember. what goes out into the universe is returned to us. This means even through the company we keep!
Stick with those who support you and love you for who you are. They are those who encourage your steps, will applaud your successes, and even give you a hand along the way! Don’t be unequally yoked with people and relationships who will cause you to not be genuine within yourself and your beliefs. It’s true there are some who will agree to disagree, but to agree on the things we do will cause a flow of blessing like no other!
Take some time with me to create a holy moment for yourself for transformation into a new dream! We can not move onward to our deepest desires and dreams without making some inner and even outward changes. I have begun to develop this series for YOU to be guided as we take a walk on the beach at sunset.
Let the segments help you with your transformative journey! YOU DESERVE IT!
When you were a child, did you ever hold onto a toy you loved even though it was broken? It’s a sad situation when a broken thing can not be fixed and yet it’s held onto like it will somehow come back to life.
Relationships with people can be the same way. They might be broken, but for some reason, we keep on hanging onto what no longer works, or maybe never worked. All this will cause is suffering. We have to look at that broken thing every single day of our lives and just feel bad.
No matter what we think, believe, or imagine, someone who disrespects you or does not put into a relationship the same as you do is just dead weight. You will carry that broken thing until you are broken as well. Letting it all go might feel like hell for the moment but in the long haul… it’s a blessing.
Some connections are lessons to be learned, but once that lesson has been accomplished there is no reason to allow dead weight from an uncaring person to weigh you down. Rethink your relationships. A broken irreparable toy will never be of use to you again but will continue to make you feel loss over and over. Do you want or deserve that? Your life is more important than having someone come into it and break YOU because of their brokenness. Don’t allow that to happen again. Not ever.
Anxiety and depression are two of the most prevalent and devastating mental issues humans struggle with.
Whether the issues come from a chemical imbalance or life situations not dealt with, it’s all the same. If not addressed it can all become out of control!
Since the subjects are near and dear to my heart I am dedicating my services to anxiety, and depression and also will be adding grief support at a later time. I have struggled with anxiety and depression all of my life. Over the years I have discovered through education and my own life experience that there were so many things I did not know that I wish I had. To top off the struggles with symptoms I never understood, I am an OVER ACHIEVER! Yep, it has plagued me all of my life, sometimes to the point of shutting me down out of adrenal exhaustion.
We will get into that! My developing program will include:
6-hourly directional guidance sessions, one per week for 6 weeks.
6 Guided meditation recordings, one for each week, that can be downloaded and kept forever!
2 Hypnosis sessions are recorded and can be downloaded to use forever. These can be used at the beginning of the 6 weeks or split up however desired!
2 Energy healing sessions with Reiki, Chakra balancing, Chakra adjusting, and intuitive clairvoyant insights into your energy field. These sessions are done as partners and we work together to help bring out issues, clarify them and help heal them!
1 PDF file workbook all about anxiety and depression with journal prompts and spaces to do some writing or use your own journal!
I can’t wait to get these completed so you can begin to heal as soon as possible! I have one discounted price for all of it and a payment schedule to help you along.
All of my services can be booked separate from the program and have an hourly rate. I use PayPal as a payment method. You can not lose giving it a try!
Come visit me atJenineMarie.com and see a new developing blog just for anxiety and depression. Grief issues will be added later on!
Loving you from here!
Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry
** My programs and sessions are not to take the place of medical advice or clinical therapy but to enhance them and bring a more broad scope of healing information your way!
One piece of wisdom I’ve learned over time is once things are said, they can not be “unsaid.” Hurtful words can be forgiven but there is one thing to remember; once words come out of our mouths we can not unsay them. They spew out like a curse when they are hurtful and the person they curse is yourself. Words that are set out into the airways through your emotions can come back to haunt you if you are not careful. They are like little revelationary targets that will return to you.
In the bible, it says that God’s word will not be returned “void“, which means the words spoken out of that power will always reap a result. The thing about God is, that the power spoken through is pure unconditional love. When you speak words that come from the emotional ego-self they are not coming from the God part of you, nor unconditional love. They reveal things about you that are a whole lot less flattering than I am sure you would like. We all like to be seen in a good light. It is a part of our instilled nature.
When you speak things to someone out of your own hurt you just set up a curse against yourself that will come back right at you until you learn the lesson your words are speaking to you. Anger spewed out at others is not about them, it is about YOU. Your words are revealing to you just how you are feeling within yourself. People often believe, and feel, that what is going on around them is about other people, but in truth, your environment is about you, not them. You make your own choices about who is around you, who you speak to, and how you react to all of it.
If you are less than happy with outcomes in your life, you can thank yourself because you are the one who set up the whole scenario. It’s best not to blame others for the consequences of your own doing and the consequences of your own words. Where is the lesson in that? The lessons you put out there are for your own benefit. They are meant to reveal where your soul is scarred and therefore you can seek healing. If healing is not sought out, then the lesson will repeat itself over and over until you get the picture.
Maybe it is best to stop, breathe, and think before you speak a word curse over yourself, or hurt others in the process. Remember God lives in you and nothing that is said will return void. Your hurtful words will haunt you one day, guaranteed.
Loving you from here,
Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry
Come visit me and my new blog about anxiety, depression, and grief, at JenineMarie.com! Discover what these issues are we deal with and how comfort can be found through it all. Namaste!
Since life is about “relationship,” most likely, we have all had at least one relationship where we merely did not have much in common. The relationship imbalance can occur during any type of relationship, from romantic, to friendships to work relationships. Sometimes relationships are so out of balance it is hard to get along with one another, therefore there is continual friction. Usually, the lack of cohesiveness is recognized eventually, and people part ways. There is no difficulty in parting, and both parties will feel relieved to be finally apart.
This is not the case when there is trauma bonding involved. Trauma bonding occurs when one person or group in the relationship is toxic. I include groups here for the sake of employment and even religious groups. Toxic relationships are easy to spot, usually from the outside of one. There is a massive degree of control, manipulation, sabotage, jealousy, and a ton of friction. Why would someone want to be in a type of relationship like this? No one really would want that type of person (or group) in their life. None of us are happy when we feel controlled to the point where we are told what we can do and what we can’t. No one wants a relationship where they are controlled to the point of who they can connect with or not. We see this in religious groups, unfortunately.
People get locked into trauma bonding with someone because the other person or group always seems the best thing that ever happened to them. They are swept off their feet with charm, love, acceptance, and a feeling of bliss begins to create the release of powerful neurotransmitters in the brain that make us feel good. These can be a release of norepinephrine, oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin. To a drug addict, this is the addictive high they get while using and then dropped when the drug is no longer present and providing it for them.
It is the same with a trauma bond. The same neurotransmitters are released in the body when someone feels they are in love or have reached what is referred to as a “natural high.” In romantic relationships, the trauma bond can cause a person to continue to go back for more even when they are being treated poorly. This occurs after the “honeymoon” phase of toxic relationships is over. The relationship moves from the charming demeanor of a toxic person into manipulation and a whole lot of pain. Yet the bond from the initial high of the relationship keeps the other person trapped into wanting more of the high. So they keep going back for the fix even though they know it is not suitable for them and even after the world comes crashing down on them once again.
This type of relationship is not the same as the romantic kind, where there is such a strong sense of compatibility that the couple will both shine and sparkle from the inside out just being together. Even after things have settled, the love grows, matures, and deepens. This is not true with a toxic relationship. One person in toxic connections will suffer greatly at the hand and actions of the toxic person.
In many cases, the toxic person is considered to be a narcissist, and they might be just that. Sometimes, a person can have a narcissistic part of their personality, but they are not narcissists. It is up to a skilled professional to determine if someone has a full-blown personality disorder or not. Being involved with a toxic person is very painful and will rip your life into pieces. You will feel crazy, but you are not. People might think you are crazy because of what the toxic person has done or said behind you. Yet, you are not the crazy one.
The addiction to a toxic person (or group) is similar to that of a drug addict. It’s hard to kick the high, and it’s hard to see the damage being done while in its midst. All that is known is that you need more of the person or group to feel that high again and feel a sense of wholeness. We can get locked into a situation like this and feel very isolated because that is the idea of the toxic person or group. You are isolated and played with, so they will have a sense of power and control.
Remember, the trauma bond is an addiction, so don’t be hard on yourself if this is in your life. Love yourself enough to get help, just as a drug addict must reach out for help in their situation. You have to come to the point of hitting bottom. No one can make you get to that point. It all has to be done for yourself. Working on self-love, fostering good relationships privately, and finding a good counselor to help you out of your misery are essential to your health and well-being. Even after you are not under the influence of a toxic situation, there still might be a recovery time. Allow yourself that time! Remember your worth. You are gold in anyone’s life. Let your most significant relationship be with God and with yourself first. Work on your self-esteem and consider the reasons you lock into toxic people or groups, to begin with.
Come to recognize the trauma bond high and don’t allow relationships to happen too quickly. Any good relationship is nurtured over time. Be honest with those you leave behind and tell them from a place of safety that you feel they are not suitable for you. Be straightforward. It is essential to speak your truth at a safe distance as toxic people can also be dangerous. Make it crystal clear you want no more contact and why. Tell the other person or people why you feel your connection is not good for you or them. Even in situations where there is little in common, communication is important. In healthy people, breakups are easy like that. Healthy people communicate, “I don’t want to see you again” in a healthy way and is accepted healthily. If this is not expressed, don’t think you are in a trauma relationship if the other person does not understand and pursues you. You have to be clear for your sake and theirs!
It all sounds so complicated, and this could quickly turn into a book, but it is not that complicated. Let your happy indicator let you know if you are in a good relationship fit or not. Even with groups, it is the same thing. It might not be a good fit for you if one person in a place of power calls all the shots. Recognize power-hungry people and keep your distance. Your life will thank you with blessings you never dreamt of if you protect and guide yourself by the gut instincts God has given you.
If you have ever known me, or have been connected to me, you know how much I love my work. There is nothing more amazing to me than to be trusted enough to be allowed into another person’s heart and life. I count it an honor to be held in confidence. At times it has been to such a level, I have been told things that my clients have never revealed to another single soul.
There is nothing quite as satisfying to me than to know I have left a conversation and my client has had an “aha” moment, or has felt a great load being lifted from their shoulders. Yet, there have been those from time to time who have either come right out and told me I had not helped them at all. Or there have been those who have just quietly distanced themselves from me. In those cases I would get off the phone or go home feeling tied up in knots wondering what I could have done better. I took it hard and usually put all of the load on myself.
Comforting myself, I would reason that I am not perfect, and don’t know all of the answers. While this is true, there had been one piece of the puzzle I had not considered, “I can not assist anyone who does not love themselves enough to realize they need to make their own changes”. I can facilitate, but I can’t change anyone. Change comes from the inside out. One element that has to always be there is self love.
The amazing thing, is the most difficult clients revealed to me my own lack of self confidence and self love. Everyone is a mirror to us no matter what the role we play in one another’s lives. Literally, my rejecting clients expected me to fix them and I strained within myself thinking that it was my job.
Learning the lesson about fixing my own self, loving myself, and being confident within myself, has been a hard one. I’ve had to weed through all of the junk that led me to “people please” and allow others to judge me, or compromise my sense of self worth. Bottom line, we are all a work in progress. With my progression, I discovered it has been alright to walk away from those who dishonored me, because I could honor myself. It’s easier said than done.
This is the reality; no one changes without having to do the work and without finding self love first. Without self love we only live in the reflection of those who want us to conform to their image. I take a deep breath and relax when I remember that the only image I need to conform to is God’s. Even then, it is not God outside of me but God who is a part of my being. The power of love is in our own DNA. I had to get a grasp of this completely, or I would always feel like I would fall short.
It’s work, but when done right everything shifts in the right direction. People leave because they become insulted, irritated, or offended. I’ve learned to let them go. The payoff is others will appear. It’s like a miracle of life. Those that appear are the ones who are ready for what I have to offer and always give me the gift of appreciation in return.
This is the pleasure of life. Walking in the Light of love is always the greatest feeling in the world. Sometimes I forget, like I suddenly have some sort of amnesia. Spirit always draws me back to where I need to be. Sometimes this happens with a struggle but when I turn to the greatest love ever, I always remember.
So, with all of this said; the greatest work I have ever achieved was to love myself the way God does. When this happens everything falls into place. Resistance never allows miracles to happen. Self doubt and struggle will never bring balance or miracles. Yes, my clients have taught me the road to least resistance. The responsibility has always been their own. Mine is to be there, to listen, to interject wisdom when wisdom comes, and to smile at the end of the day.
A job well done always comes with a life well loved.
I entitled this blog post the way it is because I was thinking about choices this morning. My meditative practice was harder than usual because I had so many things swirling around in my brain. As it settled, some interesting thoughts came to me. Even though I don’t believe anyone should live in the past, I do believe the past has lessons we can still learn and sometimes those lessons even define who we eventually are.
A long time ago I worked for a commercial bank called Bay Bank of Commerce in San Leandro, CA. I think the years were somewhere around 1982. I was a single mother with one small son at the time. I loved that bank. I loved the way I was treated by those who founded it and those who appreciated me as a young professional. I have to thank the CEO and founder @DickKahler for the opportunity I was given. I was only there maybe close to 2 years, and worked in the commercial real estate loan processing department. Unfortunately, one person who worked above me gave me a very difficult time during a pregnancy that was pretty delicate. After some careful consideration I had to quit my job there.
No way had that move ever reflected on the wonderful way that commercial bank was built or how business was executed. I knew I had the finest of the best in the business. Yet, I had to stand up for myself due to one person’s treatment. I was a pretty shy and very unassuming person at the time. I have to say, quitting without another job to hang onto was not an easy prospect. It really took a lot of faith. Actually, it built my faith.
I went on to build a family, was married and then divorced. For many years I raised five children on my own with no real help from anyone. After consulting with a superior court family judge, I decided to educate myself. Her advice was straight on for me. Judge Chew, wherever you are, I LOVE YOU! I started at the community college level but that was only the beginning. My education took me to places I never thought I would be.
I was accepted by a pilot program through Stanford University in California. I studied with students from various places on the globe. I did some of my trans-personal/spiritual internship at Mt Madonna, CA. I graduated with a liberal arts degree with emphasis on psychology and human behavior through Southern New Hampshire University. I have three degrees in theological study leading to a Master’s from Grand Canyon University along with 3 years of Clinical Psychology study, and a Doctorate from the University of Sedona. I am excited to have studied in classes conducted by Harvard University. I also have learned from some wonderful spiritual, philosophical teachers from Daytona Beach, Boca Raton, and Miami, Florida. Much of my study led to certifications in Life Coaching, Trans-personal Counseling, Holistic Healing, and Hypnotherapy. Yes, I have a lot of education!
I was surprisingly privileged to conduct a class, a church service, and speak before some of our country’s leaders during one of the dedication moments near Arlington Cemetery on Memorial Day weekend. I was honored to be the Pastor of two small group churches, speak in local places of worship, and now I meet the most amazing people on earth that I call “my clients.”
My major point here is that one move to step into my own personal power, along with the power of God, created who I am today. I am assertive in ways I never would have been had it not occurred. It might seem simple and small, but it created a domino affect of so much more than I could have ever dreamed of. In fact, it changed my life. Over the course of time I have made good decisions and not so good. Fact remains that one step of empowerment made all of the difference in the world.
Don’t ever underestimate your own power to make decisions that could define the rest of your life. Step into it. Yes, you might step into some thick mud but lotus flowers bloom in thick mud, and so can you!