Anxiety and depression are two of the most prevalent and devastating mental issues humans struggle with.
Whether the issues come from a chemical imbalance or life situations not dealt with, it’s all the same. If not addressed it can all become out of control!
Since the subjects are near and dear to my heart I am dedicating my services to anxiety, and depression and also will be adding grief support at a later time. I have struggled with anxiety and depression all of my life. Over the years I have discovered through education and my own life experience that there were so many things I did not know that I wish I had. To top off the struggles with symptoms I never understood, I am an OVER ACHIEVER! Yep, it has plagued me all of my life, sometimes to the point of shutting me down out of adrenal exhaustion.
We will get into that! My developing program will include:
6-hourly directional guidance sessions, one per week for 6 weeks.
6 Guided meditation recordings, one for each week, that can be downloaded and kept forever!
2 Hypnosis sessions are recorded and can be downloaded to use forever. These can be used at the beginning of the 6 weeks or split up however desired!
2 Energy healing sessions with Reiki, Chakra balancing, Chakra adjusting, and intuitive clairvoyant insights into your energy field. These sessions are done as partners and we work together to help bring out issues, clarify them and help heal them!
1 PDF file workbook all about anxiety and depression with journal prompts and spaces to do some writing or use your own journal!
I can’t wait to get these completed so you can begin to heal as soon as possible! I have one discounted price for all of it and a payment schedule to help you along.
All of my services can be booked separate from the program and have an hourly rate. I use PayPal as a payment method. You can not lose giving it a try!
Come visit me atJenineMarie.com and see a new developing blog just for anxiety and depression. Grief issues will be added later on!
Loving you from here!
Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry
** My programs and sessions are not to take the place of medical advice or clinical therapy but to enhance them and bring a more broad scope of healing information your way!
The sacred is what someone might consider to be divine, holy, of religious content, or deserving of veneration. What is sacred is different for everyone. When I personally think of the word I consider what is holy for me. This can be a holy moment of meditative prayer. Or, it can be a meaningful photo of what is connected to the divine that I put up on my wall. Some consider the bible sacred, and for others it might be another book they hold to be holy.
We think of these things as holy and sacred because of the connection or ideas they bring up. Sometimes it’s a feeling or sense of reverence. Our bodies were meant for worship and containment of the divine. We are human and yet considered the temple of God. Sometimes when I close my eyes I think of the Spirit of God reflected from my heart and filled into my body. For me, this is a sacred moment. My heart has a sense of expansion with love and adoration of what is bigger and greater than my human self.
To know we house this greatness is also a sacred knowledge, for no one knows this unless they have been enlightened to that knowledge. Once it is known, one can not go back to unknowing. It becomes a solid and righteous part of our existence. To know what we embody and carry is very empowering. When we truly know, the empowerment is greatly expanded. The greatness remains solid within us as long as we consider it holy and sacred. Once our pride starts to think it comes from our humanness we have stomped on God’s power. It happens this way so we will keep God holy, sacred, and powerful in our lives. To do this is to inhabit the ways and character of God. To forsake it is to weaken ourselves, bowing down to what is human, flesh, and ego. This is pride and pride always comes before a fall.
Whatever is sacred for you, it’s best to remember why it is and to uphold it within that wisdom. Sacred time, for instance, is just that because it brings us presence of divinity we can receive in no similar way. To take a holy breath with God, to fill our hearts with the love of God, to enjoy fellowship within the presence of our Creator, is the greatest holy moment we can practice.
Practice is a key word here. Nothing stays sacred for us without sacred practice. We do this to create a habit. Remember, our lives spring forth from the issues we carry in our hearts. Without sacred and holy practice, we enter into a realm of forgetting who we are and why we are here.
To grab a sense of what is sacred for you, spend some special time practicing that moment and then do it daily. You will find it is habit forming. Within days your perspective will change to one that is a reflection of what is spiritually God. Your heart will be changed by being in the presence of holy love. If you are struggling with issues that drain you, or searching for answers, these moments become even more important.
I’m going to ask that you close your eyes for a few moments and simply ask that which is sacred to help remind you of who and whose you are. Breathe deeply. Take in the elements that nurture your being. They are the same elements of the earth. We have breath/air, water, fire/energy, nutrients similar to those that come from the earth’s soil, and space that we have available to fill our lives with presence.
Consider this today. What is sacred to you and what is sacred practice? Make it a habit in your life. Journal the changes this habit brings or adds to your life. Over time you will see what sacred practice does to enhance every part of your existence.
This morning I sat with my tea just waking up and taking in the new day. I closed my eyes for a moment and the first thing I noticed was all of the noise that usually goes unnoticed. The heater came on, a car went by outside, birds were chirping in the trees, and then the ding of a message coming in on my phone. Our lives and world is filled with noise every day. The only time we are really not consciously aware of it is when we sleep. I can’t explain it, with my eyes still closed, the world suddenly came alive with deeper sounds and things I never noticed before. I realized the heater also makes a howling noise when it is on, the house creaks, and I actually sense light even when my eyes are closed.
Taking a holy moment to just “be” is so revealing, especially when beginning to recognize personal thoughts, senses of the body, or setting intentions of how the day could unfold. I remember reading a book written by Marianne Williamson a long time ago and also her famous quote, “Sacred silence writes the universe.” I thought about the moment just prior to creation and how that silence might have been. What an amazing moment in a void space of time when God took a breath and began creating. It boggles my mind to even consider what a great mind God truly is. I think it goes beyond personal comprehension and is far greater than our human existence can even fathom. Then with great intention God creates.
It’s how our day should begin and how it could be if we design it that way; a holy moment with God and the intention to create the day whatever way we partner in creating it. Think about this, “Without intention our lives seem random as the day unfolds.” It does not have to be that way. Of course, things happen that we can not control but we can control how we respond to them. I wondered this morning, what it might be like to have a day that unfolds with sacred and intended responses.
“Today I will take a breath and intend to be patient when I am tempted to be impatient.”
“I will walk in acceptance that the only life I can have control over is my own.”
Intentions can be much more powerful than we even realize. Could it be because we are not listening or taking sacred silence? When we listen, answers are there for our questions and questions come up we never thought of. It almost feels like the world forgot how to breathe, ask, listen, observe, and intend. Have we forgotten about the holy moment God taught us to have when creation began? Maybe we are in too much of a hurry to take the time to actually do the work that creation and intention require? Not taking the time can be costly though. That leaves our lives and days to unfold in what seems like a random way. If the way we respond to what comes our way is not set with intention our responses are left to our ego self instead of the part of us that is connected to our creative creator.
Maybe this sounds way too deep to take in during a morning cup of tea, but it is important. Can you imagine if we all took a holy moment every day or even several times a day? We can intend to be more kind, respond with more wisdom, pause before we respond at all. Maybe we can be more conscious of what comes out of our mouths. Are our responses positive, necessary, or true? Taking a holy moment to set our intention for each day can help calm some of the emotion we deal with. Emotions are important but they can cause our lives to feel like we are riding in a sail boat being tossed around by an angry or uncontrollable sea. Jesus once calmed those angry and uncontrollable waves. I think it was King David who asked God to level the hills and valleys. Could he have been setting an intention with God to not react in such an emotional or uncontrolled way?
Life can be a “hills and valleys” kind of ride without taking holy moments to sit in sacred silence. If you have not, take that time now and take it every day when you wake. Yes, it requires you create a new habit if you don’t do this already. You will thank yourself and thank God if you do. Give it a try!
Living in a world filled with noise and distraction, its hard to remember to listen when we need to; but do we really hear? There is a huge difference between listening and hearing. Listening is what we take into our ears and process with our brains. Hearing is listening but also adding the heart, compassion, understanding, and emotion. When we hear we bring depth into our understanding of a situation or conversation. It is so important to actually hear while communicating with others. Hearing brings empathy while merely listening just transfers information.
It takes some practice if you have not been good at hearing or have not understood this. Meditation is one way to practice hearing. This is because we have to divert the thoughts running through our heads continually and draw them back into focus. A person with focus is someone who hears well. Hearing also heightens intuition. Someone who hears will intuitively know more about the conversation than just passing knowledge. We should be looking for depth in conversation not just making noise.
You will find your relationships will improve by practicing hearing. That means we honor the other with our whole self and not just our mind. We hear with our heart, compassion, empathy and understanding. So many are misunderstood because of merely passing knowledge and not truly hearing another in a conversation.
Your love life alone will improve just by becoming someone who hears well. Hearing brings honor. It means we are taking the time to truly pay attention with every part of us. In that way we honor others while we are conversing with them. If you really want to show someone they have value to you, then do more than listen. Truly hear with your heart. We are meant to have depth as people. Once again, this takes practice. Sometimes we don’t even realize how little heart we put into our conversations with others, especially in a world filled with technology that can be so impersonal.
Challenge yourself to be personal! Be a person who hears and not someone who merely listens! Watch how much your relationships will improve. Hear to have understanding, and then communication with compassion!
Out of all of the problems that individuals seem to need relief from, anxiety is at the top of the list. This also includes myself. We all have stress in our lives but anxiety is stress on steroids. Meaning to the max, and it can get worse if not addressed. I call it a multifaceted issue because it really truly is. Anxiety is not just feeling nervous or stressed out, it is a syndrome that comes from many different areas of a person’s life. These can be life stress, worries and concerns, emotional upheaval, what is taken into the body that stimulates, and the condition of a person’s spiritual understanding or walk. Some can come from the way a person’s brain is wired and therefore they are overstimulated and very sensitive to outer things that might be taken inward.
If you want to work toward getting rid of anxiety, start with the most obvious. The things that you take into your body can overstimulate you faster than anything else can. This includes caffeine, too much processed sugar, drugs, alcohol, and processed foods. For those of us who are easily adrenally stimulated any one of the things I just mentioned can put the body, and anxiety, into overload. Back when I was a teen, my mom used to love to drink coffee in the morning. She always wanted someone to drink it with her, so I was introduced to morning coffee at about age 14. It was always accompanied by some sort of processed sugar. I never could understand why I always felt so overstimulated. A lot of the time I went on huge drops in body sugars which resulted in hypoglycemia symptoms. Not once did I realize that I was doing this automatically to myself until I was in my 30’s. My doctor had me go off caffeine completely to see if my symptoms would get better.
Easier said than done! After years of caffeine use I found I actually had to taper off of it very slowly. Hello, caffeine is a drug! Eventually, I was off of it completely. I felt a thousand times better! It’s amazing how much easier it is to handle stressful issues when the body is not trying to process through an over stimulated adrenal system. There were times I tried coffee with caffeine again but eventually had to stop. It’s one thing in my life I can’t handle. My adrenal system thanks me!
Another aspect of anxiety is our thought life. We are what we think and our life reflects the thoughts we harbor. If worry, stress, and concerns, are all we choose to feed into ourselves then stress, worry, concerns and anxious thoughts of the future are all we will reap. This is why positivity and living in the moment are so important. Not that going into the past does not have its good points. To learn, to heal, and to understand, are very good reasons to explore past issues. We grow from understanding and knowledge. That is different than feeding ourselves negative and defeating thoughts. This might take some doing but changing your thought life will produce more positive results than you ever could imagine Positive in and positive out. Positivity helps counter anxiety. Take the Bible’s advice and “Be anxious for nothing.”
Meditate! Calm yourself with breath. Anxiety is real good at making us breath high in our heart area. Can you say, “Prescription for a heart attack?” Processed foods are not the only things that can clog an artery. Not properly oxygenating the blood stream can also reap havoc on the vascular system We are also more anxiety prone when we breathe from the higher heart area. Practice belly breathing during meditation. Even if your mind keeps going 100 miles per hour. Slow down your breath and breathe completely from the belly all the way up to the throat. Then slow it down and just continue with a nice normal flow of breathing. This is very calming and usually works pretty fast.
Where is your spirituality? Everyone has a spirit but are you aware of yours and what you are reaching for? Much to our misunderstanding we are not human beings who have spiritual experiences. We are spiritual beings having a human experience. Whatever you spiritually reach for is what your body, and life, will experience. If you walk in a fear based faith then your anxiety will always be attached to you. What is the opposite of fear? It’s love. Walk in a loving faith and spirituality and you will draw love toward yourself. This gives you a reserve to give to others. First love yourself and then love others. In other words put on your own oxygen mask before you try to help someone else with theirs. Fill your life with loving spiritual experiences. Ask for synchronistic experiences and then look for them. Remember, God is a positive Light, not a force to always reckon with. Nothing of the pure Christ Light will ever harm you. The great sages of the world have always been healers, especially Jesus. So be a sage and work to not only heal yourself but then others as well. What you reap will be magnificent after sowing the very best.
Watch what you ingest. This means through the eyes, ears, and thought life. Sometimes a good thriller on TV is fun to watch but definitely not when anxiety is at a high level in your life. The eyes are the windows to the soul and the ears draw in things that will become our thought life. Watch this carefully! Thoughts create! In addition to this, walk with integrity. Don’t engage in gossip, either starting it, spreading it, or hearing it. Be higher than this. You were made to be a healer, so be that! Walk as the sages of the ages have walked. Nurture love, harmony, peace, and serenity. What you focus on will be also your reward! Don’t you think being rewarded with the good feelings in life are better than with stress and disharmony? Refuse to listen to negative people! Change the subject, walk away, or even state that you can not hear this. Eventually, those around you will get the point. Do yourself a huge favor and dump the junk yard talk, or talkers, and give your adrenal system a break. Your body, your life, your loved ones will thank you!
Quite a while back Dr Wayne Dyer came out with his book, “The Power of Now”. Dr. Dyer, (aka one of my favorite bald guys), is no longer with us, but his book lives on. The main idea is living every day in the moment that has presented itself. This does not mean to not plan for the future, it means to not project yourself into it. It does not mean not to look at the past, it means to only learn from it.
If anyone can master the power of living in the present moment, I kid you not, it is truly a gift. Living in the present moment takes away the temptation to project assumptions on people’s intentions or the outcomes of life. It takes away the stress of feeling like the future is hopeless. We are then given the opportunity to trust and allow life to unfold with ease instead of causing dis-ease.
Another benefit is more meaning to the life lived and the feeling that life is moving way too fast is slowed down. Life is more enjoyable this way. That is not to say bad things won’t happen. It means, no matter what happens we honor the present moment honestly and truthfully. It means there is no worry about outcome so we are serene and mindful about how we are going to act on what has been presented.
If the moment brings sadness, then we honor our experience by tears. God gave them to us for a reason. If the moment brings something precious, then it is even more precious because we have mindfully slowed down our processing and can enjoy it. One reason we focus on the breath during meditation is to stop our brains from racing out of control and giving honor to the power of just being alive. Have you ever tried to just close your eyes and concentrate on breathing for 5 minutes? If meditation is not your regular practice then you will find it is so hard to keep your mind from going every direction. It seems to race out of control with thoughts, ideas, and “stuff”. Suddenly those 5 minutes feel like a lifetime.
Remember the saying “A watched pot never boils?” It only feels that way because all concentration is on that one moment. It feels like it takes forever! Every moment lived mindfully in the present is just like that! It is like time is slowing down and things that are normally missed are now called to attention. Insights are sharper and intuition can come through easier. Appreciation for the beauty in life becomes a part of life. Living in every mindful moment is powerful because we discover what is normally missed or ignored.
When a woman is in labor, every painful contraction feels like it lasts an eternity. She is forced to be mindful and to live in that moment because labor pains are very hard to ignore! The result; the birth of a beautiful new baby boy or girl. That moment of joy is only highlighted by the mindful passing of the pain it took to get there. Life can be like that! Our joys are mindfully much more wonderful because honoring the painful parts make them so much more amazing.
Do you see how living in the present moment is a gift? In life there will always be shadows, but they only cause the light to look so much brighter! When we refuse to slow down and allow our minds and actions to race through life, we miss this! It does not mean we just sit and do nothing all of the time. It means our minds can be trained to live each moment like it is eternity while we are active or not. We pay attention to even the little things that normally are missed.
Take a moment to just close your eyes and let the breeze just feel good on your face. Pay attention to only the breeze and how good it feels. When thoughts start to race in your mind just let them go by bringing focus back on the breeze. In mindful meditation we focus only on the breath. Just think of it going in and then going out. When thoughts come we honor them, let them pass, and turn focus back on the breath. It’s hard at first but meditation in this way trains us to be able to slow our thoughts down and get more focus in life. Remember focus is important because we draw toward us what we focus on. In that moment there is a choice. Focus on the racing of your mind, or the beauty of the breath. Focus on the heat of the day or the relief of the gentle breeze. Focus on the painful parts of life or giving it honor and trusting for a solution.
It takes practice, but practice has its rewards. It’s almost like a miracle when a solution to a problem presents itself because we have taken the time to slow down and be mindful of the experience. Practice it daily and you will see how issues seem to almost solve themselves. When things are hard, be mindful that the lotus flower blossoms in deep thick mud. That’s how life will be for you. When the mud hits you, then you will have learned to only blossom!
Loving you from here, and mindful of that miracle,
Keep this in mind as your week unfolds. That which you resist will become bigger and will continue. I know, I know! It does not seem fair. Yet, it is truth. For instance, if you continue to resist an emotional feeling that creates a lot of sadness within you, your focus will be on that feeling and you will get more of it. We tend to get what we focus on, so resisting is a form of focus upon that which we do not want. Ironically this is how we get more of it. UGH. It could become a never ending circle. So how do you get out of this?
Well, I am glad you are curious! I am too. This is why I love meditation so much. Meditation is not always about clearing one’s mind, but accepting and allowing thoughts to run through the mind and just act like the observer. In this type of mindful meditation we trust and allow the thoughts and feelings to just “be” with no response to them. If we respond, you got it, we get more of the same!
This principle works with EVERYTHING. I believe it was Carl Jung who originally came up with “what we resist persists”. He had a longer version but I think this says it all. So how do you deal with negative thoughts, emotions, ideas, and experiences? You walk through them, trust yourself, trust God, and allow them to come to you. You might find yourself acting upon some of what is occurring but as long as you do not resist or try to push it away, you can find your way to a resolution.
Sound confusing? It really isn’t. Try this. Close your eyes and just breathe. Focus on the breath for a moment and allow your thoughts to just come to you. Don’t resist anything negative, just observe it. If it brings a feeling of sadness, ask God at the moment how that sadness can be resolved within you. The answer will come. It might not come at that moment but it will come. Watch and see! Solutions and growth are what we are all about, not trying to avoid what we don’t want. Growth never comes from avoidance or resistance. Think of your negative experiences and thoughts as a boomerang that never ends unless you resolve to catch it and deal with it.
If you want to build physical muscle you use resistance. Remember this. A muscle gets stronger when you resist it and situations become bigger and stronger when you resist them. Good and bad. This is why unfulfilled attraction always seems the strongest; because we feel forced to resist it. If we let it go and just observe it then it loses its power to control our emotions. I believe many a marriage can be saved, and become stronger, by knowing this. The grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence because we feel we must “resist temptation”. That resistance only makes us want more of what we should not have. It’s really quite controlling. Don’t allow yourself to be fooled and controlled! Overcoming this type of resistance only makes us stronger in our conviction to maintain fidelity.
This week, deal with something difficult in your life. Don’t avoid it, don’t resist it, deal with it. There is a solution to every issue in life. Seriously, there is.
Before I begin with this blog post I want to say that addictions in our country is one of the hardest issues we deal with. The complications an addiction can bring to one life are so saddening. It often goes from wasting precious time to the loss of life. Regardless, addiction is not only a personal illness or disease. Addictions to substances or actions affect everyone the addict is in connection with. The worry, the concern, and the stress caused by being in connection with an addicted person can wear away at the life of those who love them.
Let’s Take a Look at the Bottom Line of Addiction and the “Whys”
I’m going to just put this out there. It’s pretty simple actually. Every addicted person feels that they lack pleasure in life and need a substance, action, or even person, to bring comfort from the difficult feelings one has. For some reason every addict seems to believe that life is supposed to be blissful, joyful, and problem free all of the time. NOTTRUE! Life is a learning journey and there is no way any life will ever have complete peace all of the time. This world is filled with problems from relational to humanitarian. It might seem simplistic but one of the greatest battles to fighting addiction is for an addict to first come to the understanding that life will have challenges and will not always “feel” good all of the time. Going by feelings instead of faith or practical knowledge is probably the first mistake any addicted person makes. We all feel and all can be sensitive to one thing or another. Yet, being driven by feelings alone can create a multitude of issues.
Bottom line, we are not meant to be comfortable all of the time. Masking the hard issues in life by using a substance or situation only stops a person from receiving the life lesson they need to grow up as a human being. What is the result? Stunted growth; especially spiritual growth.
So what about the pleasure centers of the brain?
Our brains are an amazing part of our creation. The brain is meant to control our bodily functions, guide our lives and record them. We also have pleasure neurotransmitters that are like carriers to the rest of the body. They tell us we are having a good experience or not. Sometimes they can control how we look at life if we allow them to. For instance, someone who has depression usually does not maintain adequate serotonin in the brain and therefore “feels” depressed. An anti-depressant can be given to help the brain maintain serotonin in order to correct the problem. Depending on the person, the same can be accomplished by helping the brain maintain the right level of dopamine. Both of these neurotransmitters are like “feel good” connectors. Those who have issues with neurotransmitter imbalances struggle with every day life and being able to enjoy life’s simple pleasures.
Much to our misunderstanding there is a way out of addictions and what they do to the brain chemistry. The neuro-pathways of the mind can be rewired by meditation, affirmation, and also hypnosis. Spiritual practices can also be just as uplifting as an anti-depressant given that the practice is created as a good habit in life. There is a way out! If you struggle with addictions of any kind you can correct the imbalances in your brain that life has created and actually overcome the addictions that plague you. Also, learning how to deal and cope with life’s setbacks is a real important part of the process. Dedication and desire come into play because without these nothing else will work out. If you really want out of the addiction trap the good news is there is one! The decision that you must make is if your dedication and desire are strong enough to really work on making the necessary changes. Often if a person experiences enough pain created by their addiction it can be enough to create a strong desire to change and heal.
Your life is waiting ahead of you! Why not consider making the change from being trapped in a nowhere life to really living the life you have been given! If you need help in this area, please call and find out how you can overcome your addictions!
++IMPORTANT Note: Detox from any substance such as a drug or alcohol is a very serious process and should not be attempted alone. Please seek medical attention before beginning any other process or along side a new process. Your overall health must be assessed. Remember, if you have been altered for a long period of time your entire body has been altered down to a cellular level as well.
Have you ever been curious about something so much that you just have to investigate further? Me too! I believe that God made us to “wonder” and to be curious. How else would so many discoveries and inventions be made? Wondering about the stars, galaxies, and planets caused man kind to venture out into what used to be the unknown. I guess we could say that wondering brings exploration, investigation, and contemplation.
I used to wonder what it would be like to have a baby. I had five! Sometimes wonder brings action and new decisions! I’m always happy about my decision to have children. It has not always been easy but it has always been worth it.
Wondering can be like dreaming. It seems passive but actually its not. Our thoughts create actions and actions create new decisions and new things in life. In fact, when I really sat down to meditate on it, I realized that I wonder about a lot of things. Maybe wondering is why so many children ask the question “Why?” so much. Some of my deepest wondering is about spiritual things or about the soul. I just have to know! I love to explore what makes a soul a soul and where the spirit is after it has left the body.
I remember a time I looked into a mirror and wondered who that was looking back at me. Have you ever done that? Who IS that person in there? Looking deep into my own eyes, I wonder what makes that spark of life in me the way it is. We exist. Isn’t that amazing? Have you ever wondered about your brain and how many thoughts you have in a day? What a miraculous creation our brain is! It’s like it never stops going as long as we are alive! Then there is the mind, which goes far beyond what our human brain contains. This is even more intriguing to me. The mind is virtually limitless because there are so many possibilities within its travels. The unconscious mind is the part of us that likes to play while sleeping. Ever wonder where your dreams come from?
I never thought of wondering as a power until I meditated on it. Our wondering brings creation through curiosity and exploration. It’s really quite remarkable. We can close our eyes and dream of any possibility and see it as possible.
What do you wonder? Spend some time meditating on it or catch yourself wondering. I bet you do it more than you even realize! Your wondering is creating in your life. Be bold to step out into the things you wonder about. There is a universe of possibilities waiting for you!.