All Along God So Loved…

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Something I read for school last night set me on the edge of the world, dangling my feet. One chapter of one book spoke so loud I cried. It’s too scary to say what it was about because it gave me such a feeling of failure. I thought of all of the choices I should have made but didn’t. I thought of the ones I did make that altered my life forever. It’s funny, out of all of the things I have done in life, it never seemed to be the right choice; not for me, and certainly not for anyone else. My approval rating went out the window last night. I felt lost in a world of unfeeling people whom I felt suddenly never cared.

I thought of all that I gave out and how it never was good enough, or just not enough. I ultimately believe we reap what we sow. I know for sure I have sown good things, and I know I have also sown not such good things. Either way, for that one moment in time, I felt like I have been reaping all of the hard parts and none of what I genuinely have desired in life.

As I sat there last night with my “I’m not good enough” mentality, I could not wrap my head around how I have been strong enough to get through the garbage I have had to wade through in life. Believe me, garbage stinks. I was never allowed to say it was wrong, that it stank, or that I felt unhappy about it. It was just my garbage, and I had to deal with it with no consolation. As I watched people go in and out of my life, I wondered if any one of them ever truly cared. Last night one by one, each of them came to my mind. Each time someone appeared I shook my head. I thought of how hard I tried, but it was never ever enough. I was always WRONG. My feelings were wrong, my heart was wrong, my life was just all wrong.

Of course, I cried. I cried until I slept. I wondered if anyone else ever felt like this, that their life was just wrong. At this very moment, it still feels the same. My heart aches, but one thing has changed. As I struggled to journal this morning, I could not get past just one line. I read all of my affirmations, said my prayers, and did my usual morning rituals. I could not write one thing to encourage myself or anyone else.

As I closed my eyes, I heard that deep voice within tell me, “I have loved you with an everlasting love.” I wonder who that was? Of course, I recognize the voice and the statement. There is still a well that is deep inside of me, inside of us all, that inhabits the Creator of all things. God, the one who has loved with an everlasting love, lives there, resides there, has taken up residence there. I could feel the sun come out and the Son come out. This morning, I realized the whole world could pass away, but one thing remains, God is always the strength of my heart. God is always the One who has loved with an everlasting love, and God so loved that He gave…

“From out of these ashes, this phoenix will still rise…” – Octavia Blake (paraphrased)

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

JenineMarie.com

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What Dealing With Covid Has Taught Me

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As I look back upon my life, I can not remember an illness as frustrating as COVID-19. I come from a generation who endured the mumps, measles, chickenpox and missed the old smallpox epidemic. The diseases of the past were irritating, except for some of the more life-threatening diseases.

I feel very blessed to have gone through a lot less than many people have endured regarding the illness department. I am so aware of those I cared for in the past who struggled with cancer forms or were dying from liver failure. When I reflect on those days of taking care of critically sick people, I feel doubly blessed not to have had endured them.

In my belief system, I feel everything in life is brought into our lives to teach us. My beliefs go beyond the old, “whatever does not kill us makes us stronger” mentality. To some degree, everything in life is a lesson, including becoming sick.

Before I continue to go off into left field, I want to stay true to my title and express what COVID-19 has taught me as an illness.

  1. The little things in life are just as important as the more significant issues, whether blessings or difficulties.
  2. Life is too short to complain about anything. We have chosen this ride on earth and can create in this life whatever we desire. If we are not happy with where we are, it is our fault. We can make life be as we envision we want it to be, so why not?
  3. Love is always higher than anything, and it is our love that determines how much we have in our lives.
  4. What we allow to stay will stay. If something is irritating, like a scratchy sweater, it is up to us to take it off and let it go.
  5. Breath is important. No one should ever take a good breath of air for granted. If you smoke, STOP! You WILL get lung cancer or compromise your breath.
  6. Don’t stress over the little things in life; they will pass just like everything else.
  7. It is alright to stay in your jammies if you don’t feel well!
  8. Leaving dishes in the sink is not a mortal sin. They will still be there later on when there is more energy to do them.
  9. People in our lives have a particular purpose; they are not just placeholders. Find the purpose for every person and do your best to learn from that connection, love despite disagreement, and know you are blessed to have the honor of understanding them.
  10. Difficult people are not only learning opportunities but are hurting human beings. Give them a break, especially when they are sick with COVID-19.

Aside from the evident appreciation for life, the comments mentioned above are not exhaustive in the least. When it comes to counting my blessings, I have far more than the stars, and they are uncountable. A little giving goes a long way. We all have things in life we have to process internally. We carry baggage. Some of us carry it over our shoulders, some in our hearts, and some are consumed in baggage without even awareness it exists. Burdens are not meant to be held but processed.

If you are dealing with COVID-19 illness, my heart and prayers go out to you; it is not a fun illness. Let God give you strength for the journey and a more healed heart for having been tried in the COVID-19 fire.  

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

JenineMarie.com

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Do You Live in a Vacuum With Your Words and Actions?

Quite a few times I have talked about how thoughts and words have power to create our lives. The symbolism for this is in the bible when God spoke the world into existence. Before there were words from God, there were thoughts from God. God is spirit, pure consciousness, has personality and presence.

Our thoughts and therefore words can create a sort of vacuum in our lives that begin to feel like a clogged drain. I can attest to clogged plumbing because that is what I have experienced lately in our home. Exactly like a clogged drain our thoughts and words clog up our lives and create a vacuum of what will eventually return to us. Just like a clogged drain filled with sludge and mess, a bunch of negative, hurtful thoughts and words can clog our lives with a bunch of messy issues.

The good news is, it is easy to recognize a clogged drain. It begins to build up and spew out water and everything with it onto the floor or counter. We can also recognize a clogged life. If we have done nothing but stuff sludge into life it will eventually show up as a mess spilling all out into our lives, going every place it can enter.

For a clogged drain we can use a plunger, pull out the mess, and let the vacuum seal free up the water for a more clear and clean emptying out. For a clogged life we can allow the universal vacuum to unclog the negative experiences we have by being more kind, more positive, more faith filled, and more compassionate. The big unclog also includes truth. Unfortunately, what people don’t know will not always hurt them, but it will hurt you. Living a lie is a clogged drain.

First and foremost, we have to love ourselves. If that is not happening this is where the first clog is. Beyond loving ourselves we need to guard our words. God tells us that the issues of life spill out through our words. This even means our tone, our slander, our gossip, our meanness, and so on. This also means our joy, our compliments, our compassion, and our love. The best way to unclog a messy life is to watch the flood gate of our thoughts and keep an ear out for the words we speak.

The lesson here: If you don’t want sludge coming out in your life then don’t put sludge into it. This also means your mind. Whatever you feed it, will eventually come out of it. The company you keep can also influence your life in a good way or negative way. Negative garbage will attract more negative garbage. Time for the garbage disposal. Give your life a royal flush and give yourself a break. This is an inside job, so don’t put this on anyone else. Your life might affect others close to you, but your personal experience only depends on YOU.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

JenineMarie.com

All Things in Life Have Flux and Flexibility

One amazing thing about life and our universe is its flexibility. The Greek philosopher Heraclitus said, “All is flux, nothing stays still.” Life flexibility works by learning to be bendable like the palm tree. The great palm will take gale-force winds and yet will only bend but not break. This is the type of flexibility it takes to not break within any new process.

Life is just that; a process. If you stay the course, don’t give up, and remember to stay flexible, you will make your destination. Our flux in this world is inevitable. We can make it intentional or leave our lives to chance and the flux of the universe.

Don’t leave things to chance and remember to bend. Those who know how to bend will not break in the process.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

JenineMarie.com

All Life Belongs to the Light of God

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I believe there is a place inside of us that reflects what God meant to be there. It is a heavenly place, created by Light, and in the image of divinity. We might not always act like we are God’s creation, but we are. Sometimes things are buried deep inside of us, so deep the Light of God is not seen. I repeat it’s there, though.

Like a baby born into space, it sucks into itself what is socially granted to him or her. Without any intention, from birth, we live the way we are socialized to live. As we grow, we learn to create a more sacred space, or not. It’s our choice. We can heal and have hope, or we can spoil in the soul scars we took on along the way.

No matter what stance we take, we are worth honoring because a genius Creator made us. We are life and a reflection of what that great love intended for us. We don’t always shine that way, although it is how it should be.  

Knowing this, we should honor all life no matter what form it takes. God created life with great intention, great love, and genius stamped upon it. For the respect of God, we honor. All life might not be honorable in action or deed, but we choose to forgive those things and praise anyway. Integrity is God’s pathway. Does a holy Father reject His son? Does a parent leave their offspring because of flaws they can not help?

What about the one who is buried deep within a mother’s womb? The sacred lies sweetly and innocently within a space created just for him or her. Should this sacred creation be taken from its nesting place before its time? Does it deserve to die when it has no choice of its own? We were all born with freedom of choice. Why, then, should we choose another? Is it not murder to disrespect a life that yet has no say?

Living in perfect formation, the unborn is innocent and has nothing to disrespect. The unborn are like sheep that are subject to slaughter, and we call it pro-choice. We say it’s a woman’s right to choose her own body, but does she have the right to select for one who is so perfect and innocent? Does she have the right to say this one who is yet to be born should not be? Do any of us have the right to take what is sacred and call it not holy?

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

832-484-8306

http://jeninemarie.com

When Something Leaves Your Life…

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It’s easy to get disappointed when something we wanted, or a relationship we really wanted, leaves our life. Don’t be disenchanted. It’s only a moment to pause in the creative process. It’s a pause to reflect, redirect, and reassess. We all go through moments of disappointment. This is normal. After this happens, pick yourself up and get right back into the creative process. If you don’t give up, you will see, that something new has always been on the horizon.

Sometimes we are held back because what we are reaching for is not good for us. The only time we could ever stagnate is if we stop in the process or give up. Don’t give up! Your dreams will always be held tightly in heavenly places. You are a gift to this life and you deserve the very best. Use pauses to create and recreate. You will hit the spot when you reach for what is truly meant for  you. This will be revealed when everything seems to just fall into place!

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

832-484-8306

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries LLC

Compassionate Listening

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The silence of the morning hours are the most precious moments I spend. It’s the time when I pray and meditate with God to connect with the pulse of creation and wisdom. In that silence this morning the message I heard was how powerful a person is while being a compassionate listener. To truly hear the heart of another with no condemnation or judgement is to be the greatest gift to this world.

Compassionate listening is to be silent while someone else speaks and truly hear the heart of that person. This is true of groups of people as well. We don’t have to agree to listen and hear. We don’t need to judge or even come to a conclusion, expression, or solution. Sometimes people just need to have someone listen and to be heard. When we listen to understand we become an ambassador who connects hearts instead of repelling them.

The greatest honor is to be trusted with the thoughts, ideas, and feelings of another. The greatest gift is to listen without judgement. It is in that context, in that moment, we become the greatest ambassador of love ever.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

832-484-8306

YOU Are Not a Lemon. Don’t Allow Anyone to Squeeze the Life Out of You!

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Lemons are amazing fruits. Detoxing daily with them can bring very good results for your body. Just some warm water or tea with fresh squeezed lemon can help your digestion, aid in preventing kidney stones and even help lose weight.

I watched myself squeeze a lemon into a glass of warm water one day and all of the life sustaining pulp and juices that started to flow out of the fruit. I even have a lemon squeezer that helps in this process. Since I seem to get messages out of life’s experiences this was no exception. I thought to myself, “Sometimes it feels like there have been people who have just squeezed the life out of me.”

Just like the lemon, when this happens, the life sustaining juices seem to get dumped into a place we don’t want life to take us. It’s so easy to become bitter as the lemon tastes. Yet, lemons do have a degree of sweetness to them as well. When toxic people cause a squeeze on our lives it’s important to remember that sweetness still resides in the waters. Life can feel bitter and distasteful sometimes.

Back away from all toxic experiences that feel like a huge lemon squeeze. Let sweetness still abide in the inner places of your being and even the sourness will become helpful to you in the days to come. We all need sour experiences to allow us to see where there is sourness inside of us. We can deal with it without having the life squeezed out of us.

In life’s big bowl of fruit you are the best lemons ever created. We all carry sweetness and sourness within us. The challenge is to process the sour parts before life sends us a lemon squeezer in the form of another person to do that work for us. Think about this very carefully. Karma is there to teach you. God will teach you. If you listen and heed the warnings before the lemon press is sent to give you more than a little squeeze.

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

832-484-8306

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries, LLC 

**The name of my blog will be changed to “Life Lessons by Jenine Marie”. Embrace change!

Choices We Make That Empower Us

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I entitled this blog post the way it is because I was thinking about choices this morning. My meditative practice was harder than usual because I had so many things swirling around in my brain. As it settled, some interesting thoughts came to me. Even though I don’t believe anyone should live in the past, I do believe the past has lessons we can still learn and sometimes those lessons even define who we eventually are.

A long time ago I worked for a commercial bank called Bay Bank of Commerce in San Leandro, CA. I think the years were somewhere around 1982. I was a single mother with one small son at the time. I loved that bank. I loved the way I was treated by those who founded it and those who appreciated me as a young professional. I have to thank the CEO and founder @DickKahler for the opportunity I was given. I was only there maybe close to 2 years, and worked in the commercial real estate loan processing department. Unfortunately, one person who worked above me gave me a very difficult time during a pregnancy that was pretty delicate. After some careful consideration I had to quit my job there.

No way had that move ever reflected on the wonderful way that commercial bank was built or how business was executed. I knew I had the finest of the best in the business. Yet, I had to stand up for myself due to one person’s treatment. I was a pretty shy and very unassuming person at the time. I have to say, quitting without another job to hang onto was not an easy prospect. It really took a lot of faith. Actually, it built my faith.

I went on to build a family, was married and then divorced. For many years I raised five children on my own with no real help from anyone. After consulting with a superior court family judge, I decided to educate myself. Her advice was straight on for me. Judge Chew, wherever you are, I LOVE YOU! I started at the community college level but that was only the beginning. My education took me to places I never thought I would be.

I was accepted by a pilot program through Stanford University in California. I studied with students from various places on the globe. I did some of my trans-personal/spiritual internship at Mt Madonna, CA. I graduated with a liberal arts degree with emphasis on psychology and human behavior through Southern New Hampshire University. I have three degrees in theological study leading to a Master’s from Grand Canyon University along with 3 years of Clinical Psychology study, and a Doctorate from the University of Sedona. I am excited to have studied in classes conducted by Harvard University. I also have learned from some wonderful spiritual, philosophical teachers from Daytona Beach, Boca Raton, and Miami, Florida. Much of my study led to certifications in Life Coaching, Trans-personal Counseling, Holistic Healing, and Hypnotherapy. Yes, I have a lot of education!

I was surprisingly privileged to conduct a class, a church service, and speak before some of our country’s leaders during one of the dedication moments near Arlington Cemetery on Memorial Day weekend. I was honored to be the Pastor of two small group churches, speak in local places of worship, and now I meet the most amazing people on earth that I call “my clients.”

My major point here is that one move to step into my own personal power, along with the power of God, created who I am today. I am assertive in ways I never would have been had it not occurred. It might seem simple and small, but it created a domino affect of so much more than I could have ever dreamed of. In fact, it changed my life. Over the course of time I have made good decisions and not so good. Fact remains that one step of empowerment made all of the difference in the world.

Don’t ever underestimate your own power to make decisions that could define the rest of your life. Step into it. Yes, you might step into some thick mud but lotus flowers bloom in thick mud, and so can you!

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

832-484-8306

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries, LLC 

**Special thank you to @DickKahler, @BayBankofCommerce (Sad to say the bank is now closed)

This Too Shall Passover

 

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All things in life will pass away, such as time, seasons, and even lives. On this Passover Day my thoughts wander to all of the things I would like God to pass over. They are the things closest to my heart and my personal as well as collective concerns. At this moment in time, we are all affected by the virus that has snuck up on us and ripped through the world like a wildfire out of control. It is only as it appears. God is always in control of everything, including wildfires and viruses.

Yes, we appear to be limited. It’s only an illusion. Our everyday routines, and some things we are used to have changed, but life is the same. We are thriving. Yes, I know, people are dying. I feel it very hard. We don’t have to be an empath to feel the grief the virus has caused but as an empath it is so much harder. We feel literally everything. Thank God! Some of us have to feel because many don’t. We need empaths in this world to be concerned for those who don’t or can’t feel the depth of things.

God wants us to feel His love at this time. This includes the depth, height and width of His love.  I can hear Him saying, “I want you to know you are loved in such a vast way and in a way you could never completely understand at this moment in time.” His love is perfect, and divine providence is a perfect design. Yes, even for those who have passed away due to the virus and what it has done in our world. All things pass away but the love of God remains forever.

To be bathed in that love on this Passover Day is the very best we could ever hope for. To receive a resurrection of life in days to come is even more than we could even think of asking for. Yet, we should ask. “Dear God, give to me a resurrection in the next few days. Please pass over me when it comes to the worldly things and destruction and allow me to arise with your glorious Son! Place me with your Son at Your right hand and allow me to thrive in ways I never have before. You are my peace, my love, my life, my passover power! Show me that power beyond the next few days and gear me up with shining armor of life and love. I love You Father God, my Creator, my first love and my life!” Amen.

What is it you desire God to allow to pass over in your life? Close your eyes and consider the depth of this answer. Know you need not have just one answer but anything that comes up for you. God is waiting for you right now. He is with you through the hard times and will remain the same through all time.

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry