This Too Shall Passover

 

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All things in life will pass away, such as time, seasons, and even lives. On this Passover Day my thoughts wander to all of the things I would like God to pass over. They are the things closest to my heart and my personal as well as collective concerns. At this moment in time, we are all affected by the virus that has snuck up on us and ripped through the world like a wildfire out of control. It is only as it appears. God is always in control of everything, including wildfires and viruses.

Yes, we appear to be limited. It’s only an illusion. Our everyday routines, and some things we are used to have changed, but life is the same. We are thriving. Yes, I know, people are dying. I feel it very hard. We don’t have to be an empath to feel the grief the virus has caused but as an empath it is so much harder. We feel literally everything. Thank God! Some of us have to feel because many don’t. We need empaths in this world to be concerned for those who don’t or can’t feel the depth of things.

God wants us to feel His love at this time. This includes the depth, height and width of His love.  I can hear Him saying, “I want you to know you are loved in such a vast way and in a way you could never completely understand at this moment in time.” His love is perfect, and divine providence is a perfect design. Yes, even for those who have passed away due to the virus and what it has done in our world. All things pass away but the love of God remains forever.

To be bathed in that love on this Passover Day is the very best we could ever hope for. To receive a resurrection of life in days to come is even more than we could even think of asking for. Yet, we should ask. “Dear God, give to me a resurrection in the next few days. Please pass over me when it comes to the worldly things and destruction and allow me to arise with your glorious Son! Place me with your Son at Your right hand and allow me to thrive in ways I never have before. You are my peace, my love, my life, my passover power! Show me that power beyond the next few days and gear me up with shining armor of life and love. I love You Father God, my Creator, my first love and my life!” Amen.

What is it you desire God to allow to pass over in your life? Close your eyes and consider the depth of this answer. Know you need not have just one answer but anything that comes up for you. God is waiting for you right now. He is with you through the hard times and will remain the same through all time.

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry

Characteristics of Love: Love Does Not Envy

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Envy is an interesting thing. It’s more than jealousy. It wants what someone else has, is or does. Sometimes envy even wants to live the life of another. It can truly go too far, and it happens. In Buddhist tradition, all suffering or discontentment comes from wanting what we can’t have. I think it also comes from wanting what others have and trying to get it. In my mind, suffering can be losing one’s true self in the midst of trying to have or obtain what others have. Sometimes envy gets us in trouble. When it goes way overboard, wanting what others have can cause people to do just about anything to have it, even to the extent of breaking the law and ruining what they could have had. No bail outs here. We have to learn the lesson.

Envy is an enemy of the soul. It robs us of who we are and our own personal expression of God given gifts. It also robs us of our contentment and satisfaction with our own lives. For some reason humans tend to think the grass is always greener in someone else’s back yard, fancy house, interesting job, or relationship. I could mention quite a few but I think you can come up with your own list. Have you ever wanted something someone else had? Even a relationship? Sometimes it might be a house or property, or a sense of status. We cause ourselves suffering by this type of envy and neglect self love and satisfaction.

Envy could never be a part of true love because loving has to do with being true to ourselves and others. Without truth and honesty then our love is not real, its fake and formed on no true foundation. God’s foundation is firm and built on truth, self awareness and awareness of who we are in God. How could we even know our true selves if we are always seeking what others have, what others think we need or what others seem to be? In all honesty, every single person has issues that they wish they did not. Our learning experiences tend to follow us until we have learned them.

I remember taking a trip to Monterey, CA one weekend. As I walked the beach I saw a lady looking out a very fancy expensive looking beach house. She appeared to be crying. I often dreamed of looking out the window of a beautiful house on the beach, watching the sun set, the sun rise, and the waves of the ocean tides. I might still experience that one day but not because I envied that woman. She obviously was not happy at the moment for what ever reason she had. My point, is we all have difficult moments, so to envy anyone’s life or experience is always based on a lack of knowledge.

I’ve heard many times of those who go into homes like that just to take what does not belong to them. It all comes from the root of envy and obtaining something either from the sale of an item or the experience of it. It is all an illusion and never brings true happiness. True happiness comes from the things in life that are obtained the way they are supposed to be. In this way they are a blessing on top of what we already have in the depth of ourselves. If that depth has true love then whatever comes from it is always a blessing and truly ours as a reflection of who we are and not what we think we need.

If you catch yourself with envy in your heart, ask yourself why and what is missing? It is true love of yourself or the lack of knowing the true gift of who you are? Maybe you are discontented with what your life looks like or feels like. True joy and happiness can only come from truth. Be honest with yourself. Its a defining moment to discover the treasures of what God has planted within you and what that contributes to; not only your life but the lives of others. Remember, value does not always come from dollars and cents. Value comes from understanding who we are as God made us and our true purpose here on earth. Once we have that understanding all things can be given to us in faith and they will be truly ours to have, either material or non-material.

Let yourself dream, but dream of what is truly a reflection of who you are and not what others might be or have.

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry

Putting Your Best Intention Forward for the New Year!

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I’m not sure where this belief came from for me but I truly believe our whole year will unfold the way we start it off. I know it is only linear time but as humans we determine and schedule our lives by it. There is also something spiritually energetic about the end of one year and the beginning of another. It is a moment of deep reflection of what is now behind us and almost an exciting expectation of what is ahead. The good thing is we get to plan much of what is ahead of us! We do this by setting our intention as to what we desire the new upcoming year to look like. Most of us call those intentions “resolutions”, or in other words, we have a resolve to accomplish a certain thing. Intention is stronger. It means we are placing the power of our thought processes to make sure we accomplish the goals we desire for the year to come. Remember, our lives will follow our thought processes. It sounds very psychological but actually it is a very spiritual process.

In the image of our Creator, we create with our thoughts as well. We are that express image and can also express the mind of Christ through our intentions. We can accomplish anything from spiritual to practical and it is not that hard. Placing our best foot forward, the first step is to consider what we learned from past experiences and work on entering into the new year with fresh integrity. Here are some thoughts:

  1. Live a life of honest integrity. Don’t cheat on anything. From your spouse, to taxes, to your diet, keep strict honesty. Don’t take what is not yours. The karmic repayment is peace of mind.
  2. Walk the talk. Whatever it is you promise; do it. Don’t forget to fulfill what your mouth speaks. God says it is better to not promise at all than to promise and not fulfill it. The karmic repayment is relationship harmony. When a promise is always fulfilled then people will trust you, and you will have relationship balance.
  3. What you place most of your focus on is what will become biggest in your life. If you focus on what you can not do or what is impossible, then that is what you get. If you focus on what is all possible then you will accomplish all of the things you set your mind to. The karmic repayment is satisfaction and esteem concerning goals that are fulfilled, and strength in the faith to secure them.
  4. What you place most importance on is what you draw most near you. If you place your highest importance upon your family and marriage, or any relationship, you will receive harmony in those areas. If it is your employment then the harmony will be there, but will be lost or less in other areas. Remember, relationship is what we are about on earth. Make the most important ones your main focus. The karmic repayment is a firm foundation within those relationships and you will have those people near you when times are hard to also be a support for you.
  5. Cleanse your life and rid yourself of anything that is from the old year that no longer serves you. Clutter, stuff, old emotions, bad relationships, anything that does not belong in the plans you have for your upcoming year. Excess baggage just weighs you down, so leave the baggage behind you. Old things do not belong in renewal or you will not have any renewal. When the energy of those past things are cleared away it creates space for new successes to enter into your life. You would not buy a brand new house and fill it with garbage. Right? So take out the garbage right now and let the path be clear. Life is like the ocean tides. It rises to the shore, sweeps away the sands, and the new sand is uncovered and washed as a result. Let the tide continue! The karmic repayment is a life that is clear to see ahead and the driving will be so much more smooth without too much to weigh you down.
  6. Be generous. A giving person is a happy person. Generocity is a gift of love that keeps on giving. The karmic repayment is a heart filled with love for humanity and will attract the very best for you all through the year!

These are just some things. Maybe sit and journal some of your own.

Happy NEW YEAR! Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

Do You Live According to Other’s Expectations?

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Expectations from others are hard to keep up with. Everyone has a different opinion of who or what we might be. This is hard for those who are people pleasing types. It can cause our thoughts to go one way, and then the next, creating a great deal of confusion on our life’s journey. What is really happening when people place expectations upon you is, they are wanting you to live or think the way they do. The problem with this is we don’t always agree with each other.

When someone expects something of us or for us to be a certain way, they are looking outside of themselves inside of inside. We get into a mess when trying to control our outer environment, especially people. When we accept their expectation and change then that person has controlled us and who we are. They are also empowered in a way they should not be. No one should determine who or what we are.

The hard thing is most people want to please others or make them happy. So, we end up adjusting to their desires so we can see that happen. This does not serve anyone. What does serve us is to be just exactly who and what we are with all the bumps, scars, and bruises that we have obtained along the way. Our lives might not be perfect, but they are still ours to be in command of.

To keep from adhering to other’s expectations, take an inventory of what you want in your life and who you truly want to be. If any of the things you come up with are different than what others expect, then set your intention to be empowered as to what you desire and not swayed by other’s ideas. We were all made unique and imperfect. We are meant to be that way. Don’t try to live up to someone’s sense of perfection. We can’t do it anyway, so why try?

Be who you are. Right now. Take the step and take that inventory. If you need help discovering and going over what that might be, then book a session with me! I would love to help you escape the habit of adhering to other people’s expectations. We are not clones of each other. Can you believe that you can be anything you want or desire to be? If you can’t answer this question as a yes, then it is time to talk and get straight with yourself on your life plan, who you are, and what you truly want out of life. We need to make it solid, so you won’t be swayed! I can help you do this if you are open to accepting assistance with it! If not me, then choose someone to be accountable to! You will thank yourself in the days and years to come. Riding someone else’s horseless carriage will never get you where you want to go. Only your own vehicle can do that!

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry

 

Mending Broken Glass With Dreams

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Right in the middle of a difficult move, a colorful vase dropped to the floor while unpacking. It shattered into what looked like a thousand pieces. I sat down on the floor at that point and just cried my eyes out. I had lost my home in the infamous housing and lending crash of 2008. It took a couple of years or so to actually lose it. I did all I could do to preserve it. It was a hard battle but clearly there was only one way it would go. I was going to have to lose the home that came to mean so much to me.

It was purchased with a down payment of tender money; my son’s life insurance policy from the United States Government. I kept telling myself it was only a bunch of walls and “stuff”. It was so much more than that though. It inhabited memories. Very tender and unforgettable memories. There were Christmas holidays, Thanksgivings when family was around the table, laughter I heard on the other side of the wall when my daughters were up late in the computer room. It was a place I cared for my first granddaughter for her first year of life. I heard her first words, saw her first steps and celebrated her first birthday. No doubt the house was full if first things but also full of last things too. Some hard and some a blessing.

As I picked up the pieces of glass off of the floor I wondered where on earth my life was going to go now. I found myself losing everything. I lost my business, my marriage, my dignity and I guess some respect I thought I had among friends and associates. Suddenly, in the blink of an eye I went from a perceived winner to perceived loser. That was not the problem though. The real issue was the wondering where my life would go. Where does one’s life go once we lose everything we worked for? I sat down right on the floor and stared at the broken glass. There were different colors and different shapes and fragments. My tears asked God, “What do I do now?”

Over days and days I kind of wandered around just walking through the motions of life. As with every storm, the clouds eventually clear. Mine did as well. When they did, I could hear God more clearly. He told me to not forget to dream. You see, it is our dreams that move us forward and onward. Without them we have no goal and begin to feel hopeless. With a sigh I looked around at all the broken pieces of my life. I remembered picking up all of the broken pieces of that vase and throwing them away. Like the vase, it was time to let go of all of life’s disappointments. Also, like the vase, I had to look at them as I threw them away. I thought to myself, “but God, that was just a vase. This is my whole life; everything I worked hard for, sacrificed for, and lived for.”

Suddenly, an idea came to me. It was like it came from nowhere but it was inside of me. In the process of grieving, moving, and business, I forgot to dream. God was recorded as speaking that His people were destroyed for a lack of vision. Without a dream and vision, our lives are empty. We wander like a ship without a sail. Dreams guide us through the most difficult storms. We might feel blind in the storm but the dream will be its light. Dreams are the promise of a new tomorrow. They heal the past and give hope to the future.

Dreams are the glue that put all of the pieces back together again. The colors and shapes might be different, and they are meant to be. Dreams cost only our willingness to pursue them. Other than that, what else do we have to lose? They still might cost something. In fact, they could cost everything. Meaning, letting go of what was behind us, we reach forward to that which is before us. Thank you Apostle Paul for that little chunk of wisdom.

Whatever you do, don’t stop dreaming. When one thing does not work, try something else. Keep on pursuing that dream until you have every single piece put back together again. It won’t look like the same vase, but it will shine just as beautiful and maybe even more.

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry …..broken but still dreaming.

The Shoe is on the Other Foot

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It will happen. “The shoe will eventually end up on the other foot.” The statement, “The shoe is on the other foot,” means someone who had the disadvantage in a situation now has the advantage in some area. I don’t know why, but having a shoe on the other foot always makes me think I am wearing a shoe on the wrong foot! It’s not what it means though. It means a shift in power or placement in a life situation. It is Karma in it’s best example.

In other words, what goes around really comes back around. Its basic, easy to remember, and always works the same way. It’s a universal standard. On a deeper level, it’s a life lesson. For example, a person might be up for a promotion but brags over and over how they are better at their job than another coworker. That person might get the promotion and be very happy about it. Then they discover the coworker they put down also received a promotion, but now they are the individual’s BOSS! See how the shoe has ended up on the other foot? The advantage and the power has shifted.

Let’s put the example in a business relationship. A family owns a great Italian restaurant that features old fashioned Italian cooking. One side of the family suddenly decides they should change to more contemporary food items to keep up with the times. The restaurant is already making a great profit so the need to change does not seem warranted. A conflict arises and the contemporary Italian cooks decide to break off and start their own competing restaurant with an attitude of “We will show them!”

At first, it appears the new restaurant is going to do better. The public loves it! Yet, it turns out the newness of the contemporary way of cooking has worn off. The public always has curiosity about any new business and will go try it out. I know I love to do that! Suddenly the old style Italian restaurant begins to pick up in profits again, only this time they rise higher! The shoe is definitely on the other foot now.

This type of situation can only happen when there is conflict, competition, or an air of arrogance. It is about the intention of the heart or attitude. If there is an attitude of equality, love, respect, and admiration, there is never a feeling anyone is doing better than anyone else. The shoe can not be on the other foot if we are happy with our own shoes! In other words, be happy with where you are in life, otherwise change it! While you are changing it, have no superior attitude. Remember, life is not a competition with others. Life is meant to be lived in ease, with love, and no comparison. Embrace and celebrate others successes and be content with your own.

Hoping you are wearing your shoes on the right feet, and loving you from here!

Dr Rev Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

Your Weekly Wisdom: By Comparison

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Could we be anymore flooded with images of what we should be or need to be? Who decided when we are supposed to make certain landmarks in our lives and what our value is or isn’t if we don’t? What about our choices? For instance, why is a woman looked at strange if she chooses to not have children in her life?

I remember back in my old undergraduate days studying statistics in social sciences. Society creates these “norms” for living life. For some reason we are supposed to adhere to them or we are looked upon as deviant. The hard part about trying to live up to society’s norms is we all have a different idea of achievement and what that means to us. We also have different ideas about what is beautiful in a person. Some look on the outside. The more wise, I think, look on the inside.

So who is society? The answer is us; we are. Then if we are those who are not “boat rockers” we want to go with the flow of what the majority thinks we should or should not do. We go with what the majority puts out there how we should or should not look, act, create, succeed. The list can be long. If we are those who are not comfortable in our own life’s skin we will begin to compare ourselves to those, we think, or believe are. If we are not apt to step up to the plate to make change. We will compare ourselves to those who we believe or think are more impressive. There are a lot of reasons we might think we missed the boat if comparison is the way we live our lives. Stick to the public’s norm and be happy? I don’t think so. Look like someone else and be admired and confident? I highly doubt it. Achieve what someone else has achieved and be satisfied with our lives? Not likely.

Living life by comparison is a very self defeating way to live. I am not sure why we always tend to think that life is greener in someone else’s bank account, marriage, family, business, or clothing size.  If you are one who finds yourself living in this way, I am willing to bet you suffer from self esteem issues. How can anyone think highly of themselves if they are not looking at their lives as they truly are meant to be? How can there be gratitude and acceptance? No one can keep up with living for someone else, not even for societies poorly thought out norms.

The only way anyone can be truly happy is to learn to carve their own path. This week, look at your outer shell with admiration. Your body got you through a lot of things in life. See what you have as plenty. Many have a lot less than you do. Respect your bank account. If you have some funds in it then you have a lot more than nothing. Admire your life’s choices. Good or bad, you chose them, and that makes them important. I challenge you this week to not live by comparison. It’s a lonely, empty, self defeating place to be. Branch out and be truly who you are. There is no duplicate in the world who is like you, so don’t try to duplicate yourself to be like anyone else!

Loving you from here,

Dr Rev Jenine Marie Howry

Truth About Energy Healing, Light, and the Mind, Body, Emotion Connection: Is Your Own Negativity Zapping Your Faith? (part 3 in a Series)

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Negativity, just like positivity, has a current, a flow, an energy. It flows outside of you from others and it flows inside of you from yourself. Your thoughts create energy, either negative or positive. Thoughts are a part of the flow, and they are never ending. Just close your eyes for a moment and observe your thoughts. They are running like a faucet, right? The Bible says, “As a man (or woman) thinks so he/she is.” Like it or not, your thought life creates the life outside of yourself and the life you live. Your thoughts affect the outcome of situations, how you handle them, and your emotional responses to what is happening.

I want to focus on negativity and faith for a moment. Let’s keep in mind that situations happen. Not so great things happen in life. That is our reality right now. We become sad, upset, go through grief etc. This is part of being human. Some things just can’t be controlled, but our actions and how we react to them can. If negative thoughts are all you have to bring to the table at any given situation your faith will suffer. In fact, negativity and faith cannot coexist just as light and darkness can not. Getting through anything difficult without faith is hard. God wants you to have faith; faith in Him, faith in yourself, faith in the “powers that be”.

Think about a recent trial you have had to endure or even something you are enduring now. Consider negative thinking about the situation. Where does that put your faith? While thinking negatively can you find faith anywhere? You can certainly have assurance that bad things are going to happen. If this is the case then they will occur. Remember, thoughts create our lives and our being. Add in some positive thoughts now. What does that do with faith? Can you find some now? Do you see a positive outcome or even that you can act positively through it all?

Faith and positive current go together. flow together, and create good things together. Even in bad situations you can find a positive lesson that will guide and help you get through whatever you face. Positivity and faith will breed strength. It’s like working out a muscle to make it stronger. Try working on your positivity muscle and allow faith to flow into your life as a true north that guides you. Then follow that true north. God is real big on following a shining north star. Accept this guidance as a part of your own life. It just might lead to the birth of something new and valuable. I know it did in the case of the birth of Jesus. Can anything else be a stronger example or as beautiful?

Loving you from here,

Dr Rev Jenine Marie Howry

 

Weekly Wisdom: A Lesson in Rest

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Recently I had the pleasure, and pain, of driving across 4 states to visit family and clear out some of my storage area. It had been too long since a visit and I was looking forward to seeing family again. Anyone who likes to take a road trip knows the excitement of starting out on a new journey. I already knew the path so I could not wait to drive once again through the scenery and see parts of Arizona I had missed so much.

One thing I did not count on is I got very sick! I could not imagine what was wrong with me. Later, as I completed my visit and began my travel back home I realized it must have been motion sickness and exhaustion. I learned to stop every two hours to get out, walk around, rest my eyes, and let my insides adjust. It was an easier trip home but a hard lesson to learn while driving there. What should have been a 3 day trip had to be a 6 day trip for me. I believe 4-5 hours of driving is really my limit.

This morning I thought about our life’s journey and all of the twists and turns we take as life changes and we change life. I thought about good times and bad times and came to a conclusion. As I laid down with the lumbar part of my back resting on a nice warm heating pad, I realized there must always be a time of rest. Contrary to some beliefs, resting is not being “lazy”. Resting means our bodies can’t take much more of the journey without rest or sickness comes. Just like with my travels, the key is taking that rest before we become sick. In fact, a meditative rest every day will bring great benefits. Our bodies need time to recharge, disengage, and rebalance.

Yes, life can bring motion sickness. If it’s always in motion things start to tilt and our world comes crashing down around us. If we don’t take that time, our bodies will force it with loud complaints. I got the message, “Use the heating pad to relax before the back strain comes!”

Today, and the rest of this week, remind yourself to rest. It is important for your health, well being, and balance in life. Eat things that are good for you, sleep a good 8 hours a night, take a cat nap, warm your lumbar area, let your mind balance, and enjoy the scenery without life having to always be in motion!

Loving you from here,

Dr Rev Jenine Marie Howry

Weekly Wisdom! Don’t Allow Negative Surroundings Affect You

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I love to wake up happy, don’t you? There is nothing better than a morning cup of coffee, some meditative time, and enjoying the sunrise. Appreciating the best things in life is one of the greatest keys to happiness. Love what you have, live what you love!

In the midst of just trying to get along with the rest of the world, there is always that gloomy negative person, or people. They happen. Somehow they just have not received the memo that the key to having more happiness in life is the appreciate it, be grateful for it, and give love instead of heartache.

Today, and this week, don’t allow negative people to rain on your parade! Love the life given to you and be in joy no matter what. Soak up the beauty of life like a sponge and not the negative junk that happens around you. God shines in you, so let all of that God love light shine stronger than any garbage the world wants to dump into your lap.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev Jenine Marie Howry