How We Find Peace in the Moment and Bring Out Joy

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For a very long time, I was a seeker of peace. After all, peace is what I was taught to pursue. To me, having peace meant happiness. Even more profound, having peace meant going beyond happiness and into joy. I have come to realize that joy is peace expressed. When inner peace overtakes the soul, we have joy and joy-filled responses to the world around us.

It’s a lot like genuinely being in love; the world can be falling around us, and we don’t care that much. True peace is the same. When we have it, we know it because the world can be in utter crisis, and we still have the expression of peace: joy.

From what I have gathered just by observing my own life, and maybe some others, true peace comes from living in the moment. The moment can be filled with torrential seas and churning emotions. Our answer is to be still during that churning moment. Jesus taught us when the boat begins to rock in the storm, our response is “Peace be still.” Being still in the torrential moment is the answer to peace. I determine to do nothing except breathe for that moment. Each moment passes as they always do. Not one moment can be captured and held.

So, we let that torrential moment pass and allow peace to flood into us and eventually out of us. We will enable the breath of the moment to fill us with tranquil thoughts and, ultimately, peace during our bodies’ surge of uncertainty. Pursuing this type of peace takes practice because we have to override our instincts to react and act. In truth, our actions can wait for the torrential moment to pass on by; and it will.

“Trust and allow” are words that always have echoed into my spirit after a torrential moment has surged up to haunt me, overtake me, or wreck me. The reality is, the world can wait, people can wait, and life’s issues can wait for one sacred moment when peace will expand inside. Let’s make a pact with ourselves to survive the next torrential moment with a breath, with peace, and with dignity. The peace gate might take a few moments or more to open. So our solution is to sit, not to keep our eyes on the storm surge, but to focus on peace entering into us with breath and with life.

This is the body’s medicine for the soul. Breathing in peace and getting into the habit of continually doing this will save a great deal of heartache and allow healing to begin within the wounds that are begging to be exposed and healed. Let’s heal ourselves while there is time on earth. We can do this! It’s not hard. All it takes is the dedication to wanting to live a more peaceful, serene, and joy-filled life!

Remember, you influence the rest of the world around you. Being in peace and having joy-filled responses will heal you and heal those you influence.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

JenineMarie.com

I Learned the Greatest Lesson of All…from MY Clients

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If you have ever known me, or have been connected to me, you know how much I love my work.  There is nothing more amazing to me than to be trusted enough to be allowed into another person’s heart and life. I count it an honor to be held in confidence. At times it has been to such a level, I have been told things that my clients have never revealed to another single soul.

There is nothing quite as satisfying to me than to know I have left a conversation and my client has had an “aha” moment, or has felt a great load being lifted from their shoulders. Yet, there have been those from time to time who have either come right out and told me I had not helped them at all. Or there have been those who have just quietly distanced themselves from me. In those cases I would get off the phone or go home feeling tied up in knots wondering what I could have done better.  I took it hard and usually put all of the load on myself.

Comforting myself, I would reason that I am not perfect, and don’t know all of the answers. While this is true, there had been one piece of the puzzle I had not considered, “I can not assist anyone who does not love themselves enough to realize they need to make their own changes”. I can facilitate, but I can’t change anyone. Change comes from the inside out. One element that has to always be there is self love.

The amazing thing, is the most difficult clients revealed to me my own lack of self confidence and self love. Everyone is a mirror to us no matter what the role we play in one another’s lives. Literally, my rejecting clients expected me to fix them and I strained within myself thinking that it was my job.

Learning the lesson about fixing my own self, loving myself, and being confident within myself, has been a hard one. I’ve had to weed through all of the junk that led me to “people please” and allow others to judge me, or compromise my sense of self worth. Bottom line, we are all a work in progress. With my progression, I discovered it has been alright to walk away from those who dishonored me, because I could honor myself. It’s easier said than done.

This is the reality; no one changes without having to do the work and without finding self love first. Without self love we only live in the reflection of those who want us to conform to their image. I take a deep breath and relax when I remember that the only image I need to conform to is God’s. Even then, it is not God outside of me but God who is a part of my being. The power of love is in our own DNA. I had to get a grasp of this completely, or I would always feel like I would fall short.

It’s work, but when done right everything shifts in the right direction. People leave because they become insulted, irritated, or offended. I’ve learned to let them go. The payoff is others will appear. It’s like a miracle of life. Those that appear are the ones who are ready for what I have to offer and always give me the gift of appreciation in return.

This is the pleasure of life. Walking in the Light of love is always the greatest feeling in the world. Sometimes I forget, like I suddenly have some sort of amnesia. Spirit always draws me back to where I need to be. Sometimes this happens with a struggle but when I turn to the greatest love ever, I always remember.

So, with all of this said; the greatest work I have ever achieved was to love myself the way God does. When this happens everything falls into place. Resistance never allows miracles to happen. Self doubt and struggle will never bring balance or miracles. Yes, my clients have taught me the road to least resistance. The responsibility has always been their own. Mine is to be there, to listen, to interject wisdom when wisdom comes, and to smile at the end of the day.

A job well done always comes with a life well loved.

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry, Phd

JenineMarie.com

Here Is Your Weekly Wisdom!

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“To have joy one must share it. Happiness was born a twin.” – Lord Byron 

Can you remember times when something amazing happened and the first thing you wanted to do was to share it with someone special? There is something about sharing our joy and happiness that makes it larger and brighter when shared with others. True joy and all of its fullness comes from giving it to someone else. There is a special bond with those we share our joy with. Remember, you are an atmosphere changer. You can bring joy to those who need uplifting and within that giving you also lift yourself higher.

Today, make it part of your plan to share something joyful with someone special or even a stranger. They might not be a stranger for long!

Loving you from here!

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries LLC

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Here Is Your Weekly Wisdom!

WeeklyWisdomLogoJoy comes through mourning~~

I know you have been through grievous times. We all have been through one thing or another at certain times in life. Gods strength has shined brightly through you coming up out of those hard moments when life seems so uncertain. There is a joy that follows the end of the grief process. Freedom and release from the worry and concern of difficult heart wrenching issues can bring such joy after the storm has lifted. Remember always that joy is promised to follow your grief and moments of mourning. God is good on His promises , always!

Affirm: I will remember, and reach for joy, when mourning comes upon me. I know that the design God has given humanity is based upon His promises. Through Christ, His promises are even more free. I will walk in liberty after all grief and pain are over because Jesus understood the pain I have felt. His example has shown me ultimate joy after the most horrible pain to imagine….death on the cross. I will arise because He is arisen!

 

Loving you from here,

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry

832-484-8306

Re-creation of Good Childhood Memories for Healing and Joy!

11988378_10153670839814255_4027848974804248960_nRecently, I posted an update on Facebook asking what my friends fondest childhood memories are. I think we focus so much on the negative in life when looking back that we tend to forget some of the great things that have happened in life. When I look back to my childhood I can remember beautiful sunny days playing in the yard, running around with our family dog, and our big old house we lived in with so much to explore. I loved to pretend I was making tea on the heater vents on the floor and serving it up to my dolls with lunch.

No one experiences only negative things, although many of us have had a lot of hard things happen. Yet, I guarantee if you focus real hard on the positive and good things that were a part of childhood you can find some good ones! I still love the rain hitting the windows in our older house we just purchased over a year ago, just like I loved the rain hitting the windows of the old house I began my early days in.

Replicating the good memories and living some of them out brings back peace and some childlike feelings like when we ran through the grass on Easter morning anticipating the events of the day! Close your eyes for just a few moments and find some childhood memories that were wonderful and see where you can find them or reenact them in your life today. Having a childlike spirit brings joy and carefree days in our lives.

The Bible teaches us to come to God with a childlike spirit. A sense of wonder and wide eyed innocence can not only enhance faith but bring a more fancy free feeling as we travel through life. Think of maybe doing some things you used to do when a child. Take a trip to the zoo, plan to travel to Disneyland, spend the day at the beach finding shells and letting the water chase you as you run through the sand.

Recreate meals that were served at family gatherings that were fun and enjoyable. In Biblical times, gathering for meals were considered to be a sacred time. They took time with their meals, prayed over them, and spent the rest of the evening dancing to music and playing like children. Somehow we have lost this in our society and we really need to bring it all back!

What happened to the days when the neighborhood got together for a block party, roped off the area, and shared a large buffet together with great food and conversation? This happens more rarely these days than in the past. Since when did we have to be so distant and separated? I remember summers riding go carts with the boys up the street and having water balloon fights on the grass.

These are the things that have made life worth living and worth remembering. These are the things that should be recreated in life. Children have a faith that is strong and innocent. Work toward that childlike faith and your relationship with God will even soar on eagles wings!

What memories will you recreate today? Think of all of the possibilities!

In laughter and joy,

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

800-421-1765

 

YOU Are the Joy of His Life!

zephaniah-3-17I remember when my father was struggling with lung cancer. Actually he was dying. He used to call me every Wednesday night, before “Streets of San Francisco”, to talk with me. He made it clear that was one of his favorite shows and he could not miss it! One Wednesday he called and had a bit more of a serious tone. He was quieter than usual, like something was on his mind. He began to tell me how strong I am and that I could do anything I put my mind to. I knew this conversation was obviously going to be different. He continued, and highlighted everything he felt was great about me. To hear these things from one’s father is a very powerful thing, especially when the relationship had been distant for a long period of time. Then before I could completely absorb all I was hearing he said to me, “You have been one of the greatest joys of my life.”I could hear the emotion in his voice as he stated the words quietly and directly to my heart. I have tears writing them again because the impact of those words have lasted me 27 years. Don’t ever underestimate the power of a father’s edification. It has lasting effects on our self worth and confidence. To know we have been so valued is one of the greatest gifts a person can give someone.

Our heavenly Father feels that way about us as well. He speaks these words to us so we will know how much He values us from His father’s heart.

Psalm 149:4 “For the LORD takes delight in his people; he crowns the humble with victory.”

Zephaniah 3:17 The LORD your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing.”

Your God rejoices over you, He takes delight in you, and values you as a person. If you listen closely enough, You can hear His song. They are always songs of love, edification, and empowerment. He wants to give you victory, but more than that, He wants to give you the understanding of how His heart truly feels about you!

You are an incredible human being! You are one of the greatest joys of His life! Take the edification of your heavenly Father today. Take it right to your heart. He has expressed His true feelings for you in the greatest love letter ever written, the Bible. Not only that, His Holy Spirit longs to reinforce His words for you! “YOU are the joy of my life!”

Take these words with you today and everyday! Your Father knows your mistakes and He knows all of the things you struggle with. His love is the same and will never ever change!

Be in HIS joy!

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching

800-421-1765 for prayer