Repeat after me: It’s never a bad time to clean out the closet! Although, I usually like to shift things when the weather shifts. I have been noticing lately that my closet has been in deep need of sorting and clearing. There is a slight amount of dread that goes with this awareness and a bit of excitement as well!
One HUGE reason the closet clean out is so important is it shifts energy. Yes, your closet has energy! Weeding through and making executive decisions as to what to keep and what to donate starts energy in motion. You are setting your intention to draw more desired items into your closet that you will use the coming new season.
You don’t have to wait until a designated sale comes along to do your energy sorting. I’d like to advise you to do it when the spirit moves you. That way you will do it all the way and not leave it in the dust, just collecting dust. Seriously, when room is made in your closet, that room will be filled in no time.
After you are done, complete the energy shift by burning a nice scented candle nearby or adding a lightly scented decorative bowl of potpourri to a shelf. Your closet will thank you and so many others who will receive your donated items!
Maybe I am sensing it is time! My closet is calling me.
If you have read my blog for any length of time you would have come across my ideas about how thoughts create our reality. These things are in my blog because its very true! Thoughts do create what is inside and outside of us!
The amazing part is we all have control over what thoughts we desire to be prominent in our lives and what we desire on the outside of us. My suggestion before creating thought patterns for your outer life, is to create thought patterns that first help change the inner parts.
I say this because we choose according to what we feel, desire, and believe. If we choose with brokenness inside of us, then our outer lives will reflect choices of an unhealed person.
Try this as an affirmation: “Today, I pursue the best and most complete inner healing my soul can render. My thoughts and desires will reflect healing within so I can create a beautiful life outside of myself as well!”
Loving you from here,
Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.
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Have you ever wondered why you attract the same types of people that are hard to be around? Or maybe there are wounds inside of you that you just can’t seem to get over. Sometimes we just want life to be better but don’t know how that works or what to do.
Does the Law of Attraction and Universal Law really help make life changes, and if so, how? Dr. Jenine Marie explains some of the answers in detail in this video! Please feel free to subscribe for upcoming new videos!
There are so many assumptions and even misunderstandings about hypnotherapy. Many have no idea what hypnosis is and also what it is not. The benefits of hypnosis are beyond explanation because they are uncountable!
Dr. Jenine Marie talks about her own hypnosis experiences and also what hypnosis can do to change a life for the better! Also included in this video is some education about the practice. Decide for yourself! You can live the life you have always wanted, free from fear, anxiety and depression. You can change your thought processes and therefore what you attract into your life!
This very detailed video will help you understand how the law of attraction works with your wounds and how the practice of hypnosis can change it all!.
When we ponder relationships, we don’t often consider the relationship we have with ourselves. We do, in fact, have a self-relationship. We all get an image of our personal relationship with ourselves daily. Acknowledging our self-relationship can bring a lot of insight and healing when we choose to be honest with ourselves. Please don’t underestimate the importance of taking a little moral inventory to see where self-image can be improved, adjusted a little bit, or maybe a lot! Your “self” is calling and talking out loud! You, and only you, can make changes in yourself and make a difference in the quality of your life and your self-relationship.
Examples of ways we have a relationship with ourselves:
We see our personal relationship with ourselves through our temperament.
If you are a spouting geyser every time something rubs you the wrong way, your “self” is telling you it’s time to cool your heels. Remember, what you put out there in life is what will eventually come back, if not already. People view you, make assumptions and judgments about you according to your temperament. Even closer, your feelings about yourself are revealed through what you spew out. Don’t try to kid yourself here. You might try to fool others, but you can never kid yourself. You know who you are. The question is, “Why do you let the pressure valve out on everyone, and where does that anger come from?”
Maybe some emotional healing work is needed to cool down the emotional relationship you have with yourself. Believe me; eventually, your body will remind you to quit being such a hot head by breaking down in ways you don’t expect it to. Make it “be kind to your body time” and take steps to cool the hot embers in your heart.
Our personal relationship with ourselves is revealed through our self-image.
If you find you are continually comparing yourself to others, feel slighted by what others have, or wish you had attributes others have, then your self-image is screaming at you! It is easy to state how unique you are, how special God made you, or remind you of your gift to this world. The more challenging part is to learn how to believe how valuable you are, just the way you are.
If there are simple ways to improve upon your outer image, then do those things. Exercise, diet changes, and a little external enhancement can go a long way. For something you can not change, learn acceptance by loving yourself daily. We are all bombarded by images of others that are photoshopped, have attributes others admire, and tempt us toward self-loathing. Self-image is not only about the outside but the inside as well. Many of our programmed loathing comes from what we have been exposed to. The subconscious mind will hold these things for you! Gee, thank you very much, right? Try some self-image-enhancing hypnotherapy or meditation. There are many videos out there. If you find it hard to stick to routines, you might need a hypnotherapist. Invest in the money to get at least six sessions for a Hypno-change! Your self-relationship will thank you!
Our personal relationship with ourselves is revealed through the act of procrastination.
If there are things in life, you would like to do but never seem to get around to it. Or, if there are things that need to be taken care of but you never do, you are being held captive by the procrastination monster! When you procrastinate about doing something you know you should, you could either be suffering from a form of depression or your mind is too fixed on overthinking other things. You are lacking motivation and need a revving up of your self-motivator.
I know this might sound redundant but get organized! A scattered schedule lends toward too much time on your hands. Sooner or later, you end up putting off for another day what could have been done right now. Take the bull by the horns and get the more pressing things done first. Then go to the things you want to do to enhance your life. If you feel you need help for depression, see a counselor and help find the root of your distress. If you are overthinking, get your thoughts down on paper in a journal or talk to someone who can simply listen. Clear your mind, your heart, and your life from clutter. You will find more room to get those “need to do”or“want to do” things accomplished! If you are having trouble sticking to a routine or getting organized, once again, find a hypnotherapist! I can not say enough about the ability hypnosis has to help change unwanted habits to those desired!
I hope you see what I am getting at here. Your relationship with yourself will determine your ability to have one with others. Do some digging and excavating. If there are things you know that need changing then change them! It is never too late to have a great self-relationship and enhance your relationship with others around you! You might even find yourself attracting new friendships, new people, and new opportunities into your life. Don’t take yourself for granted. You guide your own ship. Do it with honesty and with self-revelation!
Have you ever seen such a time in history as we are going through now? We have so much strife in our country. The only place it can begin is in our spiritual walk and then within our hearts. Remember, our mouths speak out of the inner chambers of our hearts. The words and hateful comments coming out of the mouths of people these days are coming from souls that have become bitter and hateful.
There are some ways you can personally overcome and change the coldness that might be residing in your heart.
Ask God to examine your heart. King David in the Bible did this very same act. David asked God to reveal any wicked way within; he wanted a pure and clean heart. David knew his mouth would speak out of the inner working of his heart. Therefore, the world could cloud David’s decisions with hatred or bitterness if he did not cleanse his soul and render it to God’s ways.
Be willing to admit to yourself you have an issue within you and resolve to deal with it. If you can not accept this, then no change can happen. Only through our clear and honest evaluation can you overcome any bitterness that might arise out of your wounds.
Accept that everyone has wounds. That includes you. When you see others know, they might also be acting out of their injuries. It is your responsibility to seek out healing for your wounded heart and soul scars. Once you recognize your inner wounds, it is time to take action. God within you can reveal internal injuries and helps you change your ways.
Seek out to only speak light whenever you can. Speaking from a place of light means talking out of grace and mercy. Talking out of grace and mercy is taking upon yourself the characteristics of God. Remember, this does not negate wisdom. Sometimes we all need to be blunt and to the point. Ask God for knowledge in your heart and speaking, and He will give you wisdom
Confess your wounds and the need for healing. Opening up to someone you trust is paramount to healing whatever it is within you. Becoming open is not a session where you point fingers at others. Your honest thoughts are between you and God’s presence within you alone.
Bringing more love, mercy, grace, and healing into this world starts with you. It has to start somewhere! Tell others what you have decided to do! Telling others will help the domino effect even more. Let the fire begin! We need a revival of good-hearted people arising in our country. A revival means loving those who do not love themselves. If we can’t love them in person because of their hearts’ harshness, then love them in prayer. Lift the spirits of those who are around you by pouring out goodness to them whenever you can. Do this without harming the boundaries of those you love. Remember where those are and stay within those lines!
You can do this! You can begin to change the world right now! Let the change begin within you and then with you! The country will thank you, and the world will thank you!
Every morning without fail, I go about the same routine. I love to wake up slowly. It is just my thing. I stumble to the coffee maker half awake and grab that warm mixture I create every day. Then, without thinking, I get into bed, meditate, write, read, or be as I drink my coffee. This is my time to be me. It’s a habit I have created over a long period of time, and I don’t deviate from it much.
Most of the time, when we talk about habits, we think of bad ones. There are good ones too! In fact, I have found the good ones can become a great comfort. They are just like a security blanket because we know they will be accomplished in the same manner we always do. We can count on them, and we don’t have to think about them. Habits don’t need will power to accomplish them. They are automatic conditioned acts and responses we have created over time.
We only become aware of them when something comes along to interrupt them. One morning I woke up, and the ice maker was spewing water all over the kitchen floor. The line had broken, and I grabbed towels right and left, attempting to ensure the water was contained until it could be attended to. The one thing I noticed more than anything was my morning coffee and meditative time was interrupted. Had nothing unusual happened, I would not have given it a second thought.
Usually, when we want to make changes, we think we need will power to do it. Maybe it’s a new diet or exercise program. Or, it might be a new direction we want our life to go. Will power is not what we need, though. Will power never works. Only habits work. Whatever we want to accomplish has to be made into a habit, or we don’t do it. It has to be so automatic that we don’t even notice we are doing it unless it is interrupted, just like my coffee time.
I have heard it takes 21 days for the brain to establish a new habit. It has to be done every single day the same way it was the day before. It might take less time or even more depending on differences in people. The conditioning is the same, though. Some might liken this to classical conditioning in the field of psychology, and that is pretty much what it is. It does not have to be complicated, though. Just choose a new habit to work on and commit to it daily. It will become a daily routine over time, and you will do it without even thinking about it.
So, forget the diet will power or whatever it is you think mind over matter will accomplish. Just do the same thing daily for a period of time until you see the result. It will come! If you brush your teeth daily, have coffee and meditate, enjoy some time out in the sun before your shower, without even thinking about it, you can find another thing to add, and your life will be happier for it!
If you have ever known me, or have been connected to me, you know how much I love my work. There is nothing more amazing to me than to be trusted enough to be allowed into another person’s heart and life. I count it an honor to be held in confidence. At times it has been to such a level, I have been told things that my clients have never revealed to another single soul.
There is nothing quite as satisfying to me than to know I have left a conversation and my client has had an “aha” moment, or has felt a great load being lifted from their shoulders. Yet, there have been those from time to time who have either come right out and told me I had not helped them at all. Or there have been those who have just quietly distanced themselves from me. In those cases I would get off the phone or go home feeling tied up in knots wondering what I could have done better. I took it hard and usually put all of the load on myself.
Comforting myself, I would reason that I am not perfect, and don’t know all of the answers. While this is true, there had been one piece of the puzzle I had not considered, “I can not assist anyone who does not love themselves enough to realize they need to make their own changes”. I can facilitate, but I can’t change anyone. Change comes from the inside out. One element that has to always be there is self love.
The amazing thing, is the most difficult clients revealed to me my own lack of self confidence and self love. Everyone is a mirror to us no matter what the role we play in one another’s lives. Literally, my rejecting clients expected me to fix them and I strained within myself thinking that it was my job.
Learning the lesson about fixing my own self, loving myself, and being confident within myself, has been a hard one. I’ve had to weed through all of the junk that led me to “people please” and allow others to judge me, or compromise my sense of self worth. Bottom line, we are all a work in progress. With my progression, I discovered it has been alright to walk away from those who dishonored me, because I could honor myself. It’s easier said than done.
This is the reality; no one changes without having to do the work and without finding self love first. Without self love we only live in the reflection of those who want us to conform to their image. I take a deep breath and relax when I remember that the only image I need to conform to is God’s. Even then, it is not God outside of me but God who is a part of my being. The power of love is in our own DNA. I had to get a grasp of this completely, or I would always feel like I would fall short.
It’s work, but when done right everything shifts in the right direction. People leave because they become insulted, irritated, or offended. I’ve learned to let them go. The payoff is others will appear. It’s like a miracle of life. Those that appear are the ones who are ready for what I have to offer and always give me the gift of appreciation in return.
This is the pleasure of life. Walking in the Light of love is always the greatest feeling in the world. Sometimes I forget, like I suddenly have some sort of amnesia. Spirit always draws me back to where I need to be. Sometimes this happens with a struggle but when I turn to the greatest love ever, I always remember.
So, with all of this said; the greatest work I have ever achieved was to love myself the way God does. When this happens everything falls into place. Resistance never allows miracles to happen. Self doubt and struggle will never bring balance or miracles. Yes, my clients have taught me the road to least resistance. The responsibility has always been their own. Mine is to be there, to listen, to interject wisdom when wisdom comes, and to smile at the end of the day.
A job well done always comes with a life well loved.
Hello to everyone! I love that you are my subscriber! Having you read my blog is such an honor! This blog has finally gone over 900 viewers. I want to make it 900,000! Or even more! In the meantime I am changing the title to “Life Lessons by Jenine Marie”. I feel this title better suits who I am and future projects I have in mind! I hope you don’t mind the change! I want to keep you dear and near to me!
I entitled this blog post the way it is because I was thinking about choices this morning. My meditative practice was harder than usual because I had so many things swirling around in my brain. As it settled, some interesting thoughts came to me. Even though I don’t believe anyone should live in the past, I do believe the past has lessons we can still learn and sometimes those lessons even define who we eventually are.
A long time ago I worked for a commercial bank called Bay Bank of Commerce in San Leandro, CA. I think the years were somewhere around 1982. I was a single mother with one small son at the time. I loved that bank. I loved the way I was treated by those who founded it and those who appreciated me as a young professional. I have to thank the CEO and founder @DickKahler for the opportunity I was given. I was only there maybe close to 2 years, and worked in the commercial real estate loan processing department. Unfortunately, one person who worked above me gave me a very difficult time during a pregnancy that was pretty delicate. After some careful consideration I had to quit my job there.
No way had that move ever reflected on the wonderful way that commercial bank was built or how business was executed. I knew I had the finest of the best in the business. Yet, I had to stand up for myself due to one person’s treatment. I was a pretty shy and very unassuming person at the time. I have to say, quitting without another job to hang onto was not an easy prospect. It really took a lot of faith. Actually, it built my faith.
I went on to build a family, was married and then divorced. For many years I raised five children on my own with no real help from anyone. After consulting with a superior court family judge, I decided to educate myself. Her advice was straight on for me. Judge Chew, wherever you are, I LOVE YOU! I started at the community college level but that was only the beginning. My education took me to places I never thought I would be.
I was accepted by a pilot program through Stanford University in California. I studied with students from various places on the globe. I did some of my trans-personal/spiritual internship at Mt Madonna, CA. I graduated with a liberal arts degree with emphasis on psychology and human behavior through Southern New Hampshire University. I have three degrees in theological study leading to a Master’s from Grand Canyon University along with 3 years of Clinical Psychology study, and a Doctorate from the University of Sedona. I am excited to have studied in classes conducted by Harvard University. I also have learned from some wonderful spiritual, philosophical teachers from Daytona Beach, Boca Raton, and Miami, Florida. Much of my study led to certifications in Life Coaching, Trans-personal Counseling, Holistic Healing, and Hypnotherapy. Yes, I have a lot of education!
I was surprisingly privileged to conduct a class, a church service, and speak before some of our country’s leaders during one of the dedication moments near Arlington Cemetery on Memorial Day weekend. I was honored to be the Pastor of two small group churches, speak in local places of worship, and now I meet the most amazing people on earth that I call “my clients.”
My major point here is that one move to step into my own personal power, along with the power of God, created who I am today. I am assertive in ways I never would have been had it not occurred. It might seem simple and small, but it created a domino affect of so much more than I could have ever dreamed of. In fact, it changed my life. Over the course of time I have made good decisions and not so good. Fact remains that one step of empowerment made all of the difference in the world.
Don’t ever underestimate your own power to make decisions that could define the rest of your life. Step into it. Yes, you might step into some thick mud but lotus flowers bloom in thick mud, and so can you!