New Blog Title! “Life Lessons by Jenine Marie”

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Hello to everyone! I love that you are my subscriber! Having you read my blog is such an honor! This blog has finally gone over 900 viewers. I want to make it 900,000! Or even more! In the meantime I am changing the title to “Life Lessons by Jenine Marie”. I feel this title better suits who I am and future projects I have in mind! I hope you don’t mind the change! I want to keep you dear and near to me!

I love you all from here!

Dr Jenine Marie Howry

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This Too Shall Passover

 

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All things in life will pass away, such as time, seasons, and even lives. On this Passover Day my thoughts wander to all of the things I would like God to pass over. They are the things closest to my heart and my personal as well as collective concerns. At this moment in time, we are all affected by the virus that has snuck up on us and ripped through the world like a wildfire out of control. It is only as it appears. God is always in control of everything, including wildfires and viruses.

Yes, we appear to be limited. It’s only an illusion. Our everyday routines, and some things we are used to have changed, but life is the same. We are thriving. Yes, I know, people are dying. I feel it very hard. We don’t have to be an empath to feel the grief the virus has caused but as an empath it is so much harder. We feel literally everything. Thank God! Some of us have to feel because many don’t. We need empaths in this world to be concerned for those who don’t or can’t feel the depth of things.

God wants us to feel His love at this time. This includes the depth, height and width of His love.  I can hear Him saying, “I want you to know you are loved in such a vast way and in a way you could never completely understand at this moment in time.” His love is perfect, and divine providence is a perfect design. Yes, even for those who have passed away due to the virus and what it has done in our world. All things pass away but the love of God remains forever.

To be bathed in that love on this Passover Day is the very best we could ever hope for. To receive a resurrection of life in days to come is even more than we could even think of asking for. Yet, we should ask. “Dear God, give to me a resurrection in the next few days. Please pass over me when it comes to the worldly things and destruction and allow me to arise with your glorious Son! Place me with your Son at Your right hand and allow me to thrive in ways I never have before. You are my peace, my love, my life, my passover power! Show me that power beyond the next few days and gear me up with shining armor of life and love. I love You Father God, my Creator, my first love and my life!” Amen.

What is it you desire God to allow to pass over in your life? Close your eyes and consider the depth of this answer. Know you need not have just one answer but anything that comes up for you. God is waiting for you right now. He is with you through the hard times and will remain the same through all time.

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry

I’m Here During Difficult Times…

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It’s almost like we were stalked and pounced upon. Suddenly the coronavirus came on the scene and thousands of people started to become ill. (Are you tired of hearing the word coronavirus yet?) I heard today this week things are expected to worsen before they get better. I know it is not something any of us really want to hear. I try to keep my sense of balance and sense of humor. I’m sure you are all doing the same!

As things become challenging I want to remind you all that I am here! The amazing thing is I can already talk to you via phone and offer my services like I always have, but this time I am taking $20 off my usual hourly fee for spiritual directional counseling. This also includes practical guidance too! I have found we can’t divide one part of us from the other. We are always body, mind, spirit.

For the next 4 weeks from today my services will be discounted as a way to do my part in the efforts to give comfort, guidance, and relief from stress during these very unusual times. (Being out of work is a stress in and of itself!) I can address most things in life, so please don’t hesitate to get in touch with me and pass me along ! Blessings for your good health and well being!

As always I am loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

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The Gifts

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Some things in life seem so little but mean so much. Even with all of the junk that goes on in our world today, the true human heart always rises above it all when love abounds. Whatever you do, don’t take anything in this life for granted, especially when it comes to those closest to you. We are but a whisper in time on this planet and then we are gone. When we are young it seems like so much time is ahead. Yet, the older we get it feels like time begins to wind down. Make time count, even with little things.

When I was in grammar school we made tie clips for our Dads for Father’s Day. I love those school made gifts, don’t you? I remember when he opened it. His face lit up like it was the greatest thing he ever saw! I think I was about 8 years old. Later in life he passed away due to lung cancer. While looking through some of his things the first thing that stood out to me was that tie clip! Dad kept it all that time! I think by then I was in my 30’s. I still have it. Every time I look at it, I tear up. It obviously was a gift that meant a lot to him to save it so long.

Some things might seem insignificant but the love and thoughts behind them certainly are not. I still have Mother’s Day and Christmas gifts my children made when they were in grammar school. My boxes are filled with hand prints, handmade candles, photos of my kids glued to Christmas ornaments and paintings on large rolls of paper. Over the years the gifts evolved into things that reflect our faith, love, and sense of family. I still have all of those things, including necklaces and special rings my son used to get out of a gumball machine using the change from his lunch money. For awhile he did this daily. I can’t ever forget the smile on his face every time he gave me one. It was always like the first time.

Another precious gift I have is a plastic bag with locks of my hair when I was small child. The hair was from my first haircut that my mother saved in her bible. It’s still there. When times seem challenging, these are the gifts to my heart that mean so much to me. Sometimes I smile, knowing one day my children will open a box filled with things I have saved for many years and understand how much I have cherished every gift and part of their lives. They have been my gifts. More precious than gold, and more loved than life itself. The very most precious of memories to me were the moments I held each of them the very first time. Their eyes so filled with light, right from heaven, the greatest gifts of love I’ve ever known.

Loving you all from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry

and…Mom

 

Putting Your Best Intention Forward for the New Year!

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I’m not sure where this belief came from for me but I truly believe our whole year will unfold the way we start it off. I know it is only linear time but as humans we determine and schedule our lives by it. There is also something spiritually energetic about the end of one year and the beginning of another. It is a moment of deep reflection of what is now behind us and almost an exciting expectation of what is ahead. The good thing is we get to plan much of what is ahead of us! We do this by setting our intention as to what we desire the new upcoming year to look like. Most of us call those intentions “resolutions”, or in other words, we have a resolve to accomplish a certain thing. Intention is stronger. It means we are placing the power of our thought processes to make sure we accomplish the goals we desire for the year to come. Remember, our lives will follow our thought processes. It sounds very psychological but actually it is a very spiritual process.

In the image of our Creator, we create with our thoughts as well. We are that express image and can also express the mind of Christ through our intentions. We can accomplish anything from spiritual to practical and it is not that hard. Placing our best foot forward, the first step is to consider what we learned from past experiences and work on entering into the new year with fresh integrity. Here are some thoughts:

  1. Live a life of honest integrity. Don’t cheat on anything. From your spouse, to taxes, to your diet, keep strict honesty. Don’t take what is not yours. The karmic repayment is peace of mind.
  2. Walk the talk. Whatever it is you promise; do it. Don’t forget to fulfill what your mouth speaks. God says it is better to not promise at all than to promise and not fulfill it. The karmic repayment is relationship harmony. When a promise is always fulfilled then people will trust you, and you will have relationship balance.
  3. What you place most of your focus on is what will become biggest in your life. If you focus on what you can not do or what is impossible, then that is what you get. If you focus on what is all possible then you will accomplish all of the things you set your mind to. The karmic repayment is satisfaction and esteem concerning goals that are fulfilled, and strength in the faith to secure them.
  4. What you place most importance on is what you draw most near you. If you place your highest importance upon your family and marriage, or any relationship, you will receive harmony in those areas. If it is your employment then the harmony will be there, but will be lost or less in other areas. Remember, relationship is what we are about on earth. Make the most important ones your main focus. The karmic repayment is a firm foundation within those relationships and you will have those people near you when times are hard to also be a support for you.
  5. Cleanse your life and rid yourself of anything that is from the old year that no longer serves you. Clutter, stuff, old emotions, bad relationships, anything that does not belong in the plans you have for your upcoming year. Excess baggage just weighs you down, so leave the baggage behind you. Old things do not belong in renewal or you will not have any renewal. When the energy of those past things are cleared away it creates space for new successes to enter into your life. You would not buy a brand new house and fill it with garbage. Right? So take out the garbage right now and let the path be clear. Life is like the ocean tides. It rises to the shore, sweeps away the sands, and the new sand is uncovered and washed as a result. Let the tide continue! The karmic repayment is a life that is clear to see ahead and the driving will be so much more smooth without too much to weigh you down.
  6. Be generous. A giving person is a happy person. Generocity is a gift of love that keeps on giving. The karmic repayment is a heart filled with love for humanity and will attract the very best for you all through the year!

These are just some things. Maybe sit and journal some of your own.

Happy NEW YEAR! Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

Inner Integrity

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I’ve always liked the word “integrity”. I like the meaning even more. The word integrity is defined as “the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles, moral uprightness.” In my world inner integrity is one of the most important things a person can consider. It means being honest with ourselves and standing strong on the principles we deeply believe in and strive to adhere to. We might fall short a time or maybe two, but integrity as a compass will always drive us to the most honest outer experience we could have.

In a world where we deal with an element of “fakehood” every single day, integrity is a treasure both inside and outside of ourselves. Back in my earliest spirituality days my biggest prayer was always to be my true self and honest about who that is. When I fall short of myself, I know I have nowhere to look accept myself. The best part of this reality is no one else can determine who or what I should be. No one else can determine my moral compass or how I react, act, or deal with my outer world. There can be plenty of opinions of what I might be or not be, but bottom line, my full identity belongs to myself and God. Only the great Universal and most loving spiritual force inside and out can ever truly have the highest opinion of who and whose I am.

Other opinions are just plain irrelevant. Who else but God can see the inner-most working of my heart? I always loved the guiding words, “If I should wake and find myself sitting in darkness, it will be my God who will shine the Light and guide me through.”  What or who else could ever be my true compass? The miracle is, if God is my only true compass then no one else is qualified to completely guide me anywhere. God inside of me can guide me and qualify me. When I fall short, Grace will qualify me. When I forget my compass Forgiveness will qualify me. When I make willful mistakes then Discipline will also qualify me. When I am lost and alone then Love will qualify me.

This way, no one else can determine my rightness or wrongness. God and I determine this. Lofty thoughts, I know. Sometimes lofty thoughts are needed. Sometimes they are life savers in the making. After all, our thoughts create and guide. Since this is true then lofty thoughts will guide to higher places. I’d rather be there than any inner low place of less integrity.

Life is precious; created for us and also by us. Time is irrelevant, really, but linear time is not something to waste on what is less than what any of us deserve in life. Inner integrity tells us what we do or don’t deserve. I’m thinking I deserve the best and I am sticking with that thought. I know it will drive me to the best. It can’t help it, because, remember, our thoughts create.

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie

Everything Shifts

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Early this morning I heard there was a 4.5 earthquake in the state of California. The faults are just adjusting and relieving some pressure. I feel that same need sometimes too, don’t you? When life gets on my nerves it’s almost like sleeping on my arm too long. Sooner or later it’s time to adjust. Movement causes relief and we always know when we need to do it. The pressure builds up. We become uncomfortable, emotional, and sometimes down right cranky. Let it go long enough, next thing we know there is a fire blazing. California is a great example of this too. I think the state has a temper. Or maybe she just needs an adjustment?

When scientists study the reactions that happen from beneath the earth’s surface they come to theories as to why things need to shift. We have those same excavation capabilities. Go deep enough and it is easy to see where the cranky is coming from. Usually it means a change is coming or needed. If we don’t recognize the need, sometimes the change comes as a surprise, much like a good old fashioned California earthquake.

Honestly, everything has to shift. Nothing ever stays the same. I think it was Plato who first made that conclusion. When things become unbearable to the point where we are cranky more days than not, it is a good indicator that things are about to shift either by choice or by force. Sometimes both! Nothing ever becomes new or exciting without a good shift. I think that is why I love to move to different places so much. I am not fond of the process but the shift gives things a sense of newness that is usually much needed. Maybe I should have been a gypsy?

Internally, we move as well. Emotionally all things need a shift now and then to relieve the steam and pressure. I can close my eyes and take a deep sigh because I know what that feels like. Sometimes it is a shift in belief, mindset, or a new way of dealing with things. Whatever brings relief is what we should seek as long as it is not an addictive, or harmful thing. Sometimes it’s a new business or job. Others, it might be a new state or location. Then again, it can be a whole new mindset and way of believing. Meditative practice is a great new shift. I am all for peace of mind. It never comes without some sort of new action or change.

Without shifting there is no growth or maturity. We become unsettled and build up tension. Just like the earth we find it time to shake things up a bit just to allow the jolt to let us see life from a different perspective.

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry

God Knew, and Knows

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Back in the early 90’s I had a friend named Alberta. She is no longer on earth but while she was her impact on my life was as tremendous as her heart. Life always has had its challenges. God always sends me an earth angel to get through them. At that time, it was Alberta. She was kind of a stout woman, had been through a lot herself, and to me one of the most loving people I had ever met.

When life got crazy, and it often did, she would always repeat the very same thing. She would say, “Now sister, almost 2000 years ago when Jesus hung on the cross, He knew this moment in time would be going on for you. You are no surprise to God!” Hahaaa! I always thought I shocked everyone, with my out of the box thinking and always pondering my next mindful and spiritual experience. Somewhere in there lies the duality of life. We are spirit and we are human. I just wish the human part would not be as hard as it often is.

Alberta made it easier back then. She was like a broken record but it always stuck in my mind. God knows. He always knows. God knew back then every part of the life I live now and every step I took to get here. I often wonder if He shakes His head. Maybe. I guess since I truly believe we are all a part of God we might all shake our heads! Oh the stories I could tell!

Back to my point. God knew back then and knows now. Just to be a little scriptural, “Though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, thou art with me, thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.” Pretty good for an old Pastorly gal who usually can hardly remember where she put her car key! (And God help me if I lock it in the car!). Thankfully, we live in an age now where the car seems to “know” too and tells me when the key is in there. It’s an aggravating sound but it does the trick.

At the risk of this post getting too long, all of this story has occured to let you know that God knows right where you are and knows every step it took to get there. If you find yourself in a dark place, maybe retrace your steps. There is a road you took to get there. Thankfully, there is always also a road out as well. Find that road and take it as soon as you can! Life is too short and goes too fast to linger in the dark spots. We never know what tomorrow brings because tomorrow has never been promised to us here on earth. Our spiritual tomorrow is still there. As for me, I don’t think I’m done writing my blog messages yet. 🙂

Loving you from here,

Dr Rev Jenine Marie Howry

 

 

Mending Broken Glass With Dreams

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Right in the middle of a difficult move, a colorful vase dropped to the floor while unpacking. It shattered into what looked like a thousand pieces. I sat down on the floor at that point and just cried my eyes out. I had lost my home in the infamous housing and lending crash of 2008. It took a couple of years or so to actually lose it. I did all I could do to preserve it. It was a hard battle but clearly there was only one way it would go. I was going to have to lose the home that came to mean so much to me.

It was purchased with a down payment of tender money; my son’s life insurance policy from the United States Government. I kept telling myself it was only a bunch of walls and “stuff”. It was so much more than that though. It inhabited memories. Very tender and unforgettable memories. There were Christmas holidays, Thanksgivings when family was around the table, laughter I heard on the other side of the wall when my daughters were up late in the computer room. It was a place I cared for my first granddaughter for her first year of life. I heard her first words, saw her first steps and celebrated her first birthday. No doubt the house was full if first things but also full of last things too. Some hard and some a blessing.

As I picked up the pieces of glass off of the floor I wondered where on earth my life was going to go now. I found myself losing everything. I lost my business, my marriage, my dignity and I guess some respect I thought I had among friends and associates. Suddenly, in the blink of an eye I went from a perceived winner to perceived loser. That was not the problem though. The real issue was the wondering where my life would go. Where does one’s life go once we lose everything we worked for? I sat down right on the floor and stared at the broken glass. There were different colors and different shapes and fragments. My tears asked God, “What do I do now?”

Over days and days I kind of wandered around just walking through the motions of life. As with every storm, the clouds eventually clear. Mine did as well. When they did, I could hear God more clearly. He told me to not forget to dream. You see, it is our dreams that move us forward and onward. Without them we have no goal and begin to feel hopeless. With a sigh I looked around at all the broken pieces of my life. I remembered picking up all of the broken pieces of that vase and throwing them away. Like the vase, it was time to let go of all of life’s disappointments. Also, like the vase, I had to look at them as I threw them away. I thought to myself, “but God, that was just a vase. This is my whole life; everything I worked hard for, sacrificed for, and lived for.”

Suddenly, an idea came to me. It was like it came from nowhere but it was inside of me. In the process of grieving, moving, and business, I forgot to dream. God was recorded as speaking that His people were destroyed for a lack of vision. Without a dream and vision, our lives are empty. We wander like a ship without a sail. Dreams guide us through the most difficult storms. We might feel blind in the storm but the dream will be its light. Dreams are the promise of a new tomorrow. They heal the past and give hope to the future.

Dreams are the glue that put all of the pieces back together again. The colors and shapes might be different, and they are meant to be. Dreams cost only our willingness to pursue them. Other than that, what else do we have to lose? They still might cost something. In fact, they could cost everything. Meaning, letting go of what was behind us, we reach forward to that which is before us. Thank you Apostle Paul for that little chunk of wisdom.

Whatever you do, don’t stop dreaming. When one thing does not work, try something else. Keep on pursuing that dream until you have every single piece put back together again. It won’t look like the same vase, but it will shine just as beautiful and maybe even more.

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry …..broken but still dreaming.

The Changing of a Season

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One thing that can always be counted on in nature is the changing of seasons. I have found it to be true in our lives as well. Just like the book of Ecclesiastes in the Bible says: “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.” We all go through it. We cry, we laugh, we mourn and we celebrate. It seems every part of life has an opposite. There is a time to plant and a time to dig up roots and move onward.

Navigating the seasons is not always easy. Sometimes it comes with hard decisions. I’m good at making decisions, just not always good at the hard ones. Regardless to how easy or hard things might seem, there is always an air of moving toward a new season, and when it comes time there is no choice. Just like a baby being born, we labor in our hearts and in or decisions. Yet, we know when the change must happen or new birth will not occur.

Labor is painful. Growth can be painful. Moving onward and changing with a season can be hard. When the rain begins and the thunder is unrelenting, we have to endure it. It’s natures way. I remember my mother saying, “Into each life a little rain must fall.” Wise words. Guaranteed, if certain choices are not made then the rain will fall in life. My mother also used to tell me when it rains it’s God crying. I’m not sure if that is true, but when a season changes for us as humans… the crying part is all too real.

Loving you from here,

Dr Rev Jenine Marie Howry