“From Out of These Ashes: The Phoenix”

In mythology, the phoenix is symbolic of moving from parts of life that are dying, then rising to a new birth. Depending on our culture, we identify with this powerful bird in many different ways, but all represent dying and rising. In Christianity, the bird can represent death and resurrection, or in ancient Greece, it can represent burning away in flames, then rising again into regeneration.

All of life seems to follow this pattern of dying and regeneration. The fall brings shedding of leaves, dying of grasses, and winter preparation in the animal world. For people, dying and rising can represent the letting go of a life we had in exchange for a life we desire. Or the phoenix can represent a burying of what is already dead then anticipating the birth of what shall renew.

Regardless of how we see this powerful symbolic bird, change is inevitable. Sometimes we have a choice as to what dies, but sometimes we don’t have that choice. Our choice is within how we regenerate. When our bodies die, we hope to reunite with the spark that is God. When parts of our lives must die, our choice is to how we are going to rise.

Therefore, our life plays out according to the choices we make when the moment is offered. Shall we continue to die with the flames and embers of a life that is not moving onward? Or shall we rise in the beauty and transformation that a new opportunity of metamorphosis brings us? Again, the choices are ours. I will make this more personal: the choice is yours!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

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I Learned the Greatest Lesson of All…from MY Clients

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If you have ever known me, or have been connected to me, you know how much I love my work.  There is nothing more amazing to me than to be trusted enough to be allowed into another person’s heart and life. I count it an honor to be held in confidence. At times it has been to such a level, I have been told things that my clients have never revealed to another single soul.

There is nothing quite as satisfying to me than to know I have left a conversation and my client has had an “aha” moment, or has felt a great load being lifted from their shoulders. Yet, there have been those from time to time who have either come right out and told me I had not helped them at all. Or there have been those who have just quietly distanced themselves from me. In those cases I would get off the phone or go home feeling tied up in knots wondering what I could have done better.  I took it hard and usually put all of the load on myself.

Comforting myself, I would reason that I am not perfect, and don’t know all of the answers. While this is true, there had been one piece of the puzzle I had not considered, “I can not assist anyone who does not love themselves enough to realize they need to make their own changes”. I can facilitate, but I can’t change anyone. Change comes from the inside out. One element that has to always be there is self love.

The amazing thing, is the most difficult clients revealed to me my own lack of self confidence and self love. Everyone is a mirror to us no matter what the role we play in one another’s lives. Literally, my rejecting clients expected me to fix them and I strained within myself thinking that it was my job.

Learning the lesson about fixing my own self, loving myself, and being confident within myself, has been a hard one. I’ve had to weed through all of the junk that led me to “people please” and allow others to judge me, or compromise my sense of self worth. Bottom line, we are all a work in progress. With my progression, I discovered it has been alright to walk away from those who dishonored me, because I could honor myself. It’s easier said than done.

This is the reality; no one changes without having to do the work and without finding self love first. Without self love we only live in the reflection of those who want us to conform to their image. I take a deep breath and relax when I remember that the only image I need to conform to is God’s. Even then, it is not God outside of me but God who is a part of my being. The power of love is in our own DNA. I had to get a grasp of this completely, or I would always feel like I would fall short.

It’s work, but when done right everything shifts in the right direction. People leave because they become insulted, irritated, or offended. I’ve learned to let them go. The payoff is others will appear. It’s like a miracle of life. Those that appear are the ones who are ready for what I have to offer and always give me the gift of appreciation in return.

This is the pleasure of life. Walking in the Light of love is always the greatest feeling in the world. Sometimes I forget, like I suddenly have some sort of amnesia. Spirit always draws me back to where I need to be. Sometimes this happens with a struggle but when I turn to the greatest love ever, I always remember.

So, with all of this said; the greatest work I have ever achieved was to love myself the way God does. When this happens everything falls into place. Resistance never allows miracles to happen. Self doubt and struggle will never bring balance or miracles. Yes, my clients have taught me the road to least resistance. The responsibility has always been their own. Mine is to be there, to listen, to interject wisdom when wisdom comes, and to smile at the end of the day.

A job well done always comes with a life well loved.

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry, Phd

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Choices We Make That Empower Us

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I entitled this blog post the way it is because I was thinking about choices this morning. My meditative practice was harder than usual because I had so many things swirling around in my brain. As it settled, some interesting thoughts came to me. Even though I don’t believe anyone should live in the past, I do believe the past has lessons we can still learn and sometimes those lessons even define who we eventually are.

A long time ago I worked for a commercial bank called Bay Bank of Commerce in San Leandro, CA. I think the years were somewhere around 1982. I was a single mother with one small son at the time. I loved that bank. I loved the way I was treated by those who founded it and those who appreciated me as a young professional. I have to thank the CEO and founder @DickKahler for the opportunity I was given. I was only there maybe close to 2 years, and worked in the commercial real estate loan processing department. Unfortunately, one person who worked above me gave me a very difficult time during a pregnancy that was pretty delicate. After some careful consideration I had to quit my job there.

No way had that move ever reflected on the wonderful way that commercial bank was built or how business was executed. I knew I had the finest of the best in the business. Yet, I had to stand up for myself due to one person’s treatment. I was a pretty shy and very unassuming person at the time. I have to say, quitting without another job to hang onto was not an easy prospect. It really took a lot of faith. Actually, it built my faith.

I went on to build a family, was married and then divorced. For many years I raised five children on my own with no real help from anyone. After consulting with a superior court family judge, I decided to educate myself. Her advice was straight on for me. Judge Chew, wherever you are, I LOVE YOU! I started at the community college level but that was only the beginning. My education took me to places I never thought I would be.

I was accepted by a pilot program through Stanford University in California. I studied with students from various places on the globe. I did some of my trans-personal/spiritual internship at Mt Madonna, CA. I graduated with a liberal arts degree with emphasis on psychology and human behavior through Southern New Hampshire University. I have three degrees in theological study leading to a Master’s from Grand Canyon University along with 3 years of Clinical Psychology study, and a Doctorate from the University of Sedona. I am excited to have studied in classes conducted by Harvard University. I also have learned from some wonderful spiritual, philosophical teachers from Daytona Beach, Boca Raton, and Miami, Florida. Much of my study led to certifications in Life Coaching, Trans-personal Counseling, Holistic Healing, and Hypnotherapy. Yes, I have a lot of education!

I was surprisingly privileged to conduct a class, a church service, and speak before some of our country’s leaders during one of the dedication moments near Arlington Cemetery on Memorial Day weekend. I was honored to be the Pastor of two small group churches, speak in local places of worship, and now I meet the most amazing people on earth that I call “my clients.”

My major point here is that one move to step into my own personal power, along with the power of God, created who I am today. I am assertive in ways I never would have been had it not occurred. It might seem simple and small, but it created a domino affect of so much more than I could have ever dreamed of. In fact, it changed my life. Over the course of time I have made good decisions and not so good. Fact remains that one step of empowerment made all of the difference in the world.

Don’t ever underestimate your own power to make decisions that could define the rest of your life. Step into it. Yes, you might step into some thick mud but lotus flowers bloom in thick mud, and so can you!

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

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**Special thank you to @DickKahler, @BayBankofCommerce (Sad to say the bank is now closed)

I Know of a Man Who Was Named Saul

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There once was a man named Saul. He seemed to be a very heartless person. You see, Saul had a spirit of self righteousness and absolutely hated Christians! We all know how the ego part of us get us in to trouble. Well, Saul had a big one of those! I have a personal theory that Saul persecuted Christians because deep in his heart he was jealous of them. The bible does not say he was jealous, but I feel that could have been some of his motivation. There they were, a newly excited people, named Christians because of their belief in the Christed One; Jesus. They had an encounter with the risen Christ. How could they not be excited? There was new evidence that more awaited them after they left this world as they knew it.

Saul was determined to dampen their spirit but he could not. The joy of the new Christians was so overwhelming that nothing could take away their excitement. Yes, there was persecution. We all endure this today. We are persecuted whether we are Christian or not. It makes no difference. Still, in certain circles if we mention the name Jesus, people will move away from us. It’s all good. It’s not our issue.

Anyway, God, who sees the hearts of all men and women, apparently looked into Saul’s heart and saw something he obviously did not allow to show. There was great love and also extreme determination. Very slyly Jesus met Saul while he was traveling down a long lonely road to Damascus. Jesus, at this time was arisen! So He appeared as His glorified self to Saul. What a sight that must have been!

Saul had a change of heart after his experience that left him blind for a few days. Any time we look into a great light our eyes can not see anything but a shadow of the figure we were staring at. Jesus is a great light! After this experience Saul’s name was changed to Paul to reflect the heart that was revealed within him. God had taken a heart of stone and gave Saul a heart of flesh. In other words, he was softened. A heart that once caused him to glare at Christians in order to kill them, now had great love for them. I’m sure this confused many. God knew that Paul had what it took to carry on and spread good news to all he encountered and move onward to write most of what we know as the New Testament of the bible.

What a difference a day makes, right? God does not look at worthiness in us, He sees potential. Nothing can ever make us worthy, but a lot can give us potential. We have the potential to love, create, give, have compassions, and do great things among the people of our age. Need I go on? As I stare at a statue of Jesus with his arms lifted high in the air that my son gave to me one Christmas, it reminds me of the potential my son carries in his heart. His actions might not have always reflected the right choices, but I know that his heart is a sweet one that God loves very much. I know God sees his goodness and his love for a Savior who will never allow him to be out of His reach.

It is the same with you. God will never move away from you. My late son, Jayson, loved the book of Romans chapter 8 in the bible. The book explains that nothing can ever take God’s love from us, and I mean NOTHING. This is important for those who truly need to know they are loved. Sometimes we feel we are not. God always loves us. Even during our darkest hours. In fact, He is there for us more during our times of darkness shining brightly and waiting for us to call on Him. When we do, he reveals Himself in as much a profound way he did to Saul. Our road might not be the same as Sauls and we might not write books that stand the test of time, but no matter what we do, the Lord is with us. He says, “Even to the end of the age…”

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry

Hypnosis: The Reframing and Renewing of the Mind

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Do you wonder where your life is going? Let me answer that very simply. It always goes where your thoughts drive it. Read that again! Thoughts are crazy things. Sometimes we seem to manufacture them and others they are below the surface of our conscious mind. There is a huge reason why God wants us to transform our lives by the renewing of our minds. Its because our lives go where our conscious and unconscious thoughts will guide it. We are only transformed as much as we are willing to change our minds. This is both our conscious and unconscious.

The unconscious mind (or subconscious) is a tricky little stinker. It always wants to drive the bus. Meaning, our lives tend to be on auto pilot until we take hold of it and make the changes we desire. Otherwise it never will change. I love hypnosis for this. Unlike what most people think, hypnosis is not an altered state, but a heightened state of awareness. This means that things become more clear and also more in control. We change our minds every single day. Why not change the unconscious part of our minds? Even our Creator knows this, and beckons us to transform our lives through renewal.

Ever wonder why those who seek healing from addictions, weight loss, fear, anxiety or depression, never seem to accomplish this even though they might have faith that they can? I have our answer. It’s because it always takes action. Yes, you have to also do the work. That is where learning happens and where miracles happen too! God made our minds very sensitive to suggestion and we can change just about anything by the renewing of our minds. We let go of old patterns and renew our thought processes with new ones that we want to feed into our higher minds.

This works! We might let go of old patterns but if not replaced by new ones then the old ones will just slip back in. Plus, we have to make the new patterns  stick by creating them to be a habit. Most people believe this takes about 21 days. I believe it takes as long or short a time as it takes. We are all different. It probably takes a shorter period of time if there is more passion for the change. Either we are hurting enough to really want it or the desire is so strong we really want it. So goes the magic of transformation!

If you need or desire change this coming year, why not try hypnosis? I have some great downloads coming up that will be pre-recorded OR a session can be created for your change process. Start out with renewing your mind from top to bottom!

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry, PhD, 832-484-8306, angelwings7777@gmail.com, Dr Jenine Marie Howry link

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Make Room for New Things This Year!

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Why is it that beginning a new year prompts the expectations of new things on the horizon? Maybe it’s because we are so used to counting time through years. Whatever the reason the new year always seems to bring up new hope, new ideas to plant, and new desires for what the year will bring. Do you want to be in the creation flow this year?

Everything in nature has a cycle or a flow. Seasons go through cycles every year. People have cycles of health, rejuvenation, and there are creation cycles in women. Rivers have a flow, and the ocean has a tide that goes in and out. If you think about it all, you can see and feel the very heartbeat of God’s creation. Everything has its perfect cycle, flow, and timing. I find that reassuring, don’t you?

The major thing that every act in nature has, is something has to move onward, change, die, or fall to the ground to begin again. Everything gets moved to a new position in life. Take a look at the trees. In the fall the leaves turn yellow, golden, and brown. They fall to the ground to make new space for the tree to create new life. A river moves things along with it, smoothing rocks, shifting rubble, and carving out areas of land as it moves toward a larger body of waters. The ocean moves the sands along the edge of the beach. Every time the tide goes back out it sweeps the edge of the land and that area will continue to change.

The energy of change can be an exciting one if you have great desires for the new year! Keeping in mind that things might have to be shifted, moved along, washed away, and allowed to fall to the ground, in order to create what you have on your heart and in your mind. Creating things God’s way is not hard. A roadmap has already been designed for you! Now all you have to do is clear out the clutter and allow what is new to come into the flow of your life! Remember, resistance is never the way to get what you desire. A river never flows upstream. Nothing in nature goes backward, it all moves forward and always changes. If it were to stop moving then creation would not sustain itself. If it were to move backwards it would disrupt the process of what is needed to sustain balance on the earth.

What will it be this year as you clear the clutter and shift the sands in your life? Some things will have to go and some things will have to change. You might find yourself releasing many things, or allowing the past to die so new life can spring up into your heart and soul.

Create a new space this year for what you need to do in order to have all of what you expect. Every area of your life will work this way whether it is emotional, spiritual, or physical. Don’t forget your road map! Everything happens by design and no one goes on a journey without a map!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

Here Is Your Weekly Wisdom! From Where to Take Your Lessons In Life

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This is a very different weekly wisdom than my usual ones. It has some depth to it. I was tossed as to whether I wanted to make it a regular blog post or my weekly wisdom post. I think it brings wisdom so I am putting it here! I will write it out as I “heard” it inside me.

“Take your lessons in life from the place you began this life on earth; your mothers womb.
It is a place where you can hear the very heartbeat of someone who anticipates your arrival. This is where cells are actively dividing and transforming, where God’s universe automatically supports your existence, and where you are automatically fed, automatically nurtured, automatically kept warm, and comforted. This is a place where you are complete with God and God alone. There is nothing else you need to ask for because it has all been given to you already. You are protected and whole just as you are for each moment of development, regardless to where that is. Every phase is a perfect one, every change leads to the next. There is nothing more important then what is happening right at this moment and darkness is never a fearful issue but a place where the most amazing metamorphosis takes place; your development and growth.”

Just as your mother’s womb was a place for you to be surrounded by all that feeds and protects you, the same is true about your existence and life on earth. You are surrounded, protected, and fed by the God of the Universe. It’s all perfect in design and your life is never a mistake but a transformation always evolving and in process.

Loving you from here!

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry

Transform Your Life by Renewing Your Mind DAILY

You know, God gave you the power to renew your mind and heal the neuro pathways of your brain to change your life! You CAN have an abundant and transformed life, but you need to work on those scripts that have been fed to your through life and change them to the truth! Watch!

Loving you from here!

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry

“Life Can Turn On a Dime”

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For something to “turn on a dime” actually refers to a vehicle or something turning quickly without expectation and with precision. When we apply this to life, it has come to refer to a sudden shift in direction without notice or warning.

I think it was at least a decade ago, or more, I received a late call from a woman I had never spoken to before. She must have seen my advertising for my counseling/coaching office and desperately needed to talk. I sat on the floor on the phone next to my bed just listening as she sobbed and explained how her husband had come to her all of a sudden and told her he had been seeing someone else. He not only wanted a divorce but he gave her papers that explained he had wanted her to move out of the house they had lived together in for almost 25 years. She was in her late 50’s and could not imagine what she would do with her life now.

The next morning, we met for breakfast. Through sobs she said, “I never saw this coming.” My heart went out to her. She had so much life still ahead and yet so much of it had been lived with the same man for so long. She could not imagine what life was going to be like. Her life had turned on a dime.

Another woman I had met had given birth to a baby girl several years prior. During her pregnancy she had learned her child would be born with a rare birth defect and was given the opportunity to decide to end the pregnancy (which she chose not to). I listened to her story as her eyes filled with tears, recalling the day she received the news. Life would never be the same again. This child would need continual care the rest of her life which would require the woman to give up her medical career she studied and worked hard for. Her life turned on a dime.

Yet, another couple struggled as they watched their young daughter fight for her life after being hit by a car. She was in a coma and had a very slim chance of living. Up until then, their lives had a pretty set routine. As one of the most precious joys of their lives slipped away in front of their eyes, with tears, they shook their head in disbelief. Yes, their life turned on a dime.

Not all sudden changes are good news. Many of them are very trying. As I look back, I can recall many times when life changed very quickly and without notice. I wonder, “Is this God’s way of shaking us up a bit, or maybe waking us up?” Of course, there are those who have amazing turns, like getting an unexpected promotion or the surprise of a marriage proposal. Even still, life is going to change. Dramatically it will change a person’s history and future. There can also be the sudden fulfillment of all we ever dreamed of. I suppose in the scheme of things, we all would rather have those shifts but life is not always like that. For some reason many of our life’s turns are those that follow difficult news to choke down.

We are learning here. Our playground changes scenes and sometimes the players change as well. It often feels like a cruel force of nature but we face the challenge of needing to be flexible and pliable. Think of the palm tree. These tall massive trees with thin trunks tend to bend and bow like a Q-tip when faced with gale force winds or hurricanes. Rarely do they snap. At any moment the trees might be subjected to something that will cause them to rely on their firmly planted roots and pliable trunks. By comparison, many other less grounded trees can be uprooted, broken into pieces, and torn apart.

You know where I am going with this already, right? What kind of tree do you want to be? There is a choice. You can choose to be stiff and rigid like many of the trees we have on earth, or like the palm, deeply planted and rooted and pliable against sudden changes. The message here, is those who are the survivors are strong yet flexible. If you are not now, guaranteed you will learn to be, because life can turn on a dime and you will find yourself with a new direction staring you in the face. You will need to make new decisions, and change the old ones. Life will make a U-turn and the scenery will change.

Will you be strong and flexible?

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries LLC 

Are We Trying to Teach People to Transform Into the Image of God or the Image of Ourselves?

IMG_20171023_130408Recently, I found myself becoming very frustrated with others “teachings”. It seemed like no matter what I did it was WRONG in someone’s eyes. Bottom line, I know by now to do what I feel God says is right for me but the question of so many conflicted communications haunted me continually. I asked God, “How do we become as One with one another and also One with You if we have so many conflicting ideas?”

The question perplexed me because there hardly seemed to be a way to even come to a happy medium on the subject.  I found myself entrapped in so many “don’ts”. Don’t wear this. Don’t say that. Don’t pray this way. Don’t preach as a woman. Don’t this and don’t that. I found myself in sorrow because it caused me to feel that there was no place I could possibly belong with so many RULES and don’ts.

It was not until I sought God for the answer alone did I truly find my answer in this question. “Are we, as the children of God, transforming ourselves in the image of our Creator or are we attempting to transform one another into each other’s image?” It was harsh to read when I came to the teaching on self righteousness in my doctoral course in spiritual psychology. Basically, this is what it is when God’s children try to change one another into their own image instead of reflecting God’s.

There is only one way to become ONE as Jesus had prayed to the Father. That is to SEE ourselves as ONE. When we judge, criticize, or scrutinize one another we are actually doing it to ourselves. We are all a part of the ONE that Jesus prayed for. We are in conflict. We misunderstand. If we want to reflect the One that Jesus was speaking of then the rules have to go out the window.

Our goal is to transform by the renewing or our minds. This means every part of our own minds. It is about our conscious mind and our subconscious mind. If we don’t, then our subconscious mind will take over and do the driving. Our personal and individual commitment with God is to actively pursue that transformation, not to tell others how they should transform.

We can act as a guide to one another but forcing our views on each other only side steps God. Do we really want to do this? God sees us as One with each other and One with Him. This is the TRUTH. We are the ones who separate ourselves out of our self righteous need to be the one who knows it all. In honesty, we don’t know it all. We know in part. This is what God has said. This is me quoting God, not an idea I brewed myself.

I wonder what would happen if we took the judgement, the rules, the criticism, and the pointing of fingers out of the equation and just saw that we are One as God has made us to be. We are each a unique facet of a beautiful diamond called the people of God. We shine with brilliance in God’s sight. Why can’t we shine with brilliance when we look at one another? Do we have to become so uncomfortable that we are forced to change our view of how we are One? I mean, we can either do things the easy way or the hard way. Its our choice.

Together as ONE. –

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

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