Choices We Make That Empower Us

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I entitled this blog post the way it is because I was thinking about choices this morning. My meditative practice was harder than usual because I had so many things swirling around in my brain. As it settled, some interesting thoughts came to me. Even though I don’t believe anyone should live in the past, I do believe the past has lessons we can still learn and sometimes those lessons even define who we eventually are.

A long time ago I worked for a commercial bank called Bay Bank of Commerce in San Leandro, CA. I think the years were somewhere around 1982. I was a single mother with one small son at the time. I loved that bank. I loved the way I was treated by those who founded it and those who appreciated me as a young professional. I have to thank the CEO and founder @DickKahler for the opportunity I was given. I was only there maybe close to 2 years, and worked in the commercial real estate loan processing department. Unfortunately, one person who worked above me gave me a very difficult time during a pregnancy that was pretty delicate. After some careful consideration I had to quit my job there.

No way had that move ever reflected on the wonderful way that commercial bank was built or how business was executed. I knew I had the finest of the best in the business. Yet, I had to stand up for myself due to one person’s treatment. I was a pretty shy and very unassuming person at the time. I have to say, quitting without another job to hang onto was not an easy prospect. It really took a lot of faith. Actually, it built my faith.

I went on to build a family, was married and then divorced. For many years I raised five children on my own with no real help from anyone. After consulting with a superior court family judge, I decided to educate myself. Her advice was straight on for me. Judge Chew, wherever you are, I LOVE YOU! I started at the community college level but that was only the beginning. My education took me to places I never thought I would be.

I was accepted by a pilot program through Stanford University in California. I studied with students from various places on the globe. I did some of my trans-personal/spiritual internship at Mt Madonna, CA. I graduated with a liberal arts degree with emphasis on psychology and human behavior through Southern New Hampshire University. I have three degrees in theological study leading to a Master’s from Grand Canyon University along with 3 years of Clinical Psychology study, and a Doctorate from the University of Sedona. I am excited to have studied in classes conducted by Harvard University. I also have learned from some wonderful spiritual, philosophical teachers from Daytona Beach, Boca Raton, and Miami, Florida. Much of my study led to certifications in Life Coaching, Trans-personal Counseling, Holistic Healing, and Hypnotherapy. Yes, I have a lot of education!

I was surprisingly privileged to conduct a class, a church service, and speak before some of our country’s leaders during one of the dedication moments near Arlington Cemetery on Memorial Day weekend. I was honored to be the Pastor of two small group churches, speak in local places of worship, and now I meet the most amazing people on earth that I call “my clients.”

My major point here is that one move to step into my own personal power, along with the power of God, created who I am today. I am assertive in ways I never would have been had it not occurred. It might seem simple and small, but it created a domino affect of so much more than I could have ever dreamed of. In fact, it changed my life. Over the course of time I have made good decisions and not so good. Fact remains that one step of empowerment made all of the difference in the world.

Don’t ever underestimate your own power to make decisions that could define the rest of your life. Step into it. Yes, you might step into some thick mud but lotus flowers bloom in thick mud, and so can you!

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

832-484-8306

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries, LLCĀ 

**Special thank you to @DickKahler, @BayBankofCommerce (Sad to say the bank is now closed)

Transitional Periods Should Be a Time of Rest and Peaceful Waters

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Transition is as faithful as God is faithful. If there is no transition then there is no growth, gain in wisdom, or gain in strength. I often call them new seasons but right now transition seems more appropriate. Taking the emotion out of the upheaval is the harder part. We struggle under the pressure of new things almost seemingly forced upon us. With tender hearts and sometimes our tail between our legs we venture into what feels like the unknown.

God is giving us an opportunity to trust during these times. Its easy to have faith when things are seen but having faith in the unseen is a bit harder, especially when life feels less secure. I think transitional prayer should be a “thing”. Its probably one of the more important times for prayer. God listens from the inside out and knows our dreams, our fears, and our sorrows. He counts our tears, and beckons us to become stronger. Ultimately, if we place our heart in His hands we will be stronger for it.

God has a universe of support for us during times or seasons of transition. Asking Him to provide that support with grace is an important part of the step toward a stronger transitional period. The words of Jesus, “Peace be still” echos through my spirit. He is good at calming the storms and wants us to become good at it too. So today, I am speaking to my own heart and soul as well as yours if you need it, “Peace be still”. Let the waters of the storm calm down and become soft like a glassy lake in the sunset.

Peace be still though tears and rain,

Peace be still through sickness and hardship

Peace be still through dreams and triumph

Through all of life, peace be still.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry