Do You Have a Good Relationship With Yourself?

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When we ponder relationships, we don’t often consider the relationship we have with ourselves. We do, in fact, have a self-relationship. We all get an image of our personal relationship with ourselves daily. Acknowledging our self-relationship can bring a lot of insight and healing when we choose to be honest with ourselves. Please don’t underestimate the importance of taking a little moral inventory to see where self-image can be improved, adjusted a little bit, or maybe a lot! Your “self” is calling and talking out loud! You, and only you, can make changes in yourself and make a difference in the quality of your life and your self-relationship.

Examples of ways we have a relationship with ourselves:

We see our personal relationship with ourselves through our temperament.

If you are a spouting geyser every time something rubs you the wrong way, your “self” is telling you it’s time to cool your heels. Remember, what you put out there in life is what will eventually come back, if not already. People view you, make assumptions and judgments about you according to your temperament. Even closer, your feelings about yourself are revealed through what you spew out. Don’t try to kid yourself here. You might try to fool others, but you can never kid yourself. You know who you are. The question is, “Why do you let the pressure valve out on everyone, and where does that anger come from?”

Maybe some emotional healing work is needed to cool down the emotional relationship you have with yourself. Believe me; eventually, your body will remind you to quit being such a hot head by breaking down in ways you don’t expect it to. Make it “be kind to your body time” and take steps to cool the hot embers in your heart.

Our personal relationship with ourselves is revealed through our self-image.

If you find you are continually comparing yourself to others, feel slighted by what others have, or wish you had attributes others have, then your self-image is screaming at you! It is easy to state how unique you are, how special God made you, or remind you of your gift to this world. The more challenging part is to learn how to believe how valuable you are, just the way you are.

If there are simple ways to improve upon your outer image, then do those things. Exercise, diet changes, and a little external enhancement can go a long way. For something you can not change, learn acceptance by loving yourself daily. We are all bombarded by images of others that are photoshopped, have attributes others admire, and tempt us toward self-loathing. Self-image is not only about the outside but the inside as well. Many of our programmed loathing comes from what we have been exposed to. The subconscious mind will hold these things for you! Gee, thank you very much, right? Try some self-image-enhancing hypnotherapy or meditation. There are many videos out there. If you find it hard to stick to routines, you might need a hypnotherapist. Invest in the money to get at least six sessions for a Hypno-change! Your self-relationship will thank you!

Our personal relationship with ourselves is revealed through the act of procrastination.

If there are things in life, you would like to do but never seem to get around to it. Or, if there are things that need to be taken care of but you never do, you are being held captive by the procrastination monster! When you procrastinate about doing something you know you should, you could either be suffering from a form of depression or your mind is too fixed on overthinking other things. You are lacking motivation and need a revving up of your self-motivator.

I know this might sound redundant but get organized! A scattered schedule lends toward too much time on your hands. Sooner or later, you end up putting off for another day what could have been done right now. Take the bull by the horns and get the more pressing things done first. Then go to the things you want to do to enhance your life. If you feel you need help for depression, see a counselor and help find the root of your distress. If you are overthinking, get your thoughts down on paper in a journal or talk to someone who can simply listen. Clear your mind, your heart, and your life from clutter. You will find more room to get those “need to do” or “want to do” things accomplished! If you are having trouble sticking to a routine or getting organized, once again, find a hypnotherapist! I can not say enough about the ability hypnosis has to help change unwanted habits to those desired!

I hope you see what I am getting at here. Your relationship with yourself will determine your ability to have one with others. Do some digging and excavating. If there are things you know that need changing then change them! It is never too late to have a great self-relationship and enhance your relationship with others around you! You might even find yourself attracting new friendships, new people, and new opportunities into your life. Don’t take yourself for granted. You guide your own ship. Do it with honesty and with self-revelation!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph. D.

Women’s Life Advancement Coach and Hypnotherapist

Amazing Facts About Hypnotherapy

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Hypnotherapy or hypnosis is a fantastic tool to help change and overcome negative thoughts or reactions in life. While placed in a mild form of trance, an individual can receive desired suggestions from a skilled hypnotherapist to assist in weight loss, release pain or anxiety, help with depression, and even stop unwanted habits. One of the more profound changes that can be introduced through hypnosis is behavior modification or behavior changes. Behavioral change is a benefit of hypnosis supported and researched by the Mayo Clinic.

Since our lives and outcomes of situations are about our behavior, changing unwanted behavior and responses can completely change the quality of an individual’s life. Even relationships can be improved by behavioral modification through hypnotherapy.

Unlike what some might expect, hypnosis is not falling asleep but more of a heightened state of awareness. Even so, some individuals might fall asleep due to the relaxation state achieved through a hypnotic induction. WebMD explains two ways hypnosis can be used in a therapeutic or a counseling situation; for analysis during therapy or suggestion.

During hypnotic analysis, a client is placed into a mild trance where responses to the leading questioning can help bring out reasons for distress or hidden heart wounds. Since we all tend to lead and live according to many of our heart wounds, bringing them to the surface to heal them can help tremendously in the process of discovery and recovery.

Hypnotic suggestion is just as it sounds to be. Hypnosis can be used to place an individual into a deeper trance state, and the therapist feeds suggestions to reprogram or reformat the subconscious mind. Changing the subconscious is an effective way to change lifelong poor habits and gain new, more productive habits! Some of the wonderful ways to make changes are to have the subconscious mind accept suggestions for more productivity, abundance, self-worth, self-confidence, or even get that old tendency toward eating the wrong things out of mind and out of sight!

One prevalent and sometimes controversial reason for hypnosis is for past life regression. Our past life can be considered what happened in the past during this lifetime. Those who adhere to reincarnation hypnotic regression can regress clients into former lives with amazing clarity. During a regression, an individual’s reasoning or conscious mind is bypassed while the hypnotherapist guides into the subconscious mind that has a recall of all that has been experienced before. Through this process, the higher self, or what some call the superconscious mind, is connected with, and discoveries can be made, recorded, and analyzed to help bring more insights into the present life lived.

Although past life regression is controversial to some people, it can help those who embrace the concept or are willing to be open-minded about it (pun intended)! Even seeking back into one’s forgotten childhood experiences can be overwhelmingly helpful as situations and experiences are brought forth to help bring healing and hope for new things on the horizon.

Interesting reading regarding past life regression can be found in the book Many Lives, Many Masters: The True Story of a Prominent Psychiatrist, His Young Patient, And The Past-Life Therapy That Changed Both Their Lives by author Brian L Weiss M.D. The preface of Dr. Weiss’ book begins like this:

“ I know that there is a reason for everything. Perhaps at the moment that an event occurs, we have neither the insight or the foresight to comprehend the reason, but with time and patience, it will come to light” (Weiss 1988).

Regression, analysis, and hypnotic suggestions can all work together to help bring ease, enlightenment, and new focus into life. Even more, some of the old un-useful habits can be released and reprogrammed for better ones. Several sessions are usually needed as mindfulness, subconscious thoughts, and past life thoughts are recorded, analyzed, and reprogrammed. The final results can be absolutely life-changing! Hypnosis is one of the most relaxing and revolutionary tools to use in complicated cases or even to stop the old habits that hold us back from being our authentic and true selves.

Although hypnosis is not for everyone, such as those with dissociative or severe mental illnesses, the practice can help many achieve the freedom and lives they desire. Healing is what we are here for. Once we heal, we are enticed to help others heal too. In fact, our recovery can bring substantial healing to others without trying. We affect everyone around us every day of our lives.

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

Life Advancement and Empowerment Coach, Relationships, Hypnotherapy

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Hypnosis: The Reframing and Renewing of the Mind

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Do you wonder where your life is going? Let me answer that very simply. It always goes where your thoughts drive it. Read that again! Thoughts are crazy things. Sometimes we seem to manufacture them and others they are below the surface of our conscious mind. There is a huge reason why God wants us to transform our lives by the renewing of our minds. Its because our lives go where our conscious and unconscious thoughts will guide it. We are only transformed as much as we are willing to change our minds. This is both our conscious and unconscious.

The unconscious mind (or subconscious) is a tricky little stinker. It always wants to drive the bus. Meaning, our lives tend to be on auto pilot until we take hold of it and make the changes we desire. Otherwise it never will change. I love hypnosis for this. Unlike what most people think, hypnosis is not an altered state, but a heightened state of awareness. This means that things become more clear and also more in control. We change our minds every single day. Why not change the unconscious part of our minds? Even our Creator knows this, and beckons us to transform our lives through renewal.

Ever wonder why those who seek healing from addictions, weight loss, fear, anxiety or depression, never seem to accomplish this even though they might have faith that they can? I have our answer. It’s because it always takes action. Yes, you have to also do the work. That is where learning happens and where miracles happen too! God made our minds very sensitive to suggestion and we can change just about anything by the renewing of our minds. We let go of old patterns and renew our thought processes with new ones that we want to feed into our higher minds.

This works! We might let go of old patterns but if not replaced by new ones then the old ones will just slip back in. Plus, we have to make the new patterns  stick by creating them to be a habit. Most people believe this takes about 21 days. I believe it takes as long or short a time as it takes. We are all different. It probably takes a shorter period of time if there is more passion for the change. Either we are hurting enough to really want it or the desire is so strong we really want it. So goes the magic of transformation!

If you need or desire change this coming year, why not try hypnosis? I have some great downloads coming up that will be pre-recorded OR a session can be created for your change process. Start out with renewing your mind from top to bottom!

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry, PhD, 832-484-8306, angelwings7777@gmail.com, Dr Jenine Marie Howry link

Hypnotherapist for

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Does Hypnosis Really Work?

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Did you know you are always “on”? What I mean by that is, your mind is always working. Not just your brain, but your mind. This includes what we call the “unconscious” mind. You have both consciousness and a part of you that is always running in the background. The unconscious mind is kind of like a computer program that just runs and monitors everything. The only thing is, the unconscious mind also controls a lot of things; much more than you might believe.

Also, like a computer, it can be programmed to change things you desire to change. It’s really quite simple. You tell it what you want instead of having it run on autopilot in the background telling you how life will be. Much of what is there can be attributed to what you have experienced in the past and other things are habits you have picked up along the way as a result of past and choices you have made.

In an article printed this month by Chicago Magazine, a writer speaks of her experience going to a certified hypnotist in order to stop her from clenching her jaw. This is something many of us do. It comes from stress, becomes a habit, and not only grinds the teeth down but causes headaches too. The title of the article is “A Hypnosis Skeptic Gets Very, Very Sleepy.” In the article she explains how hypnosis proved to be advantageous and effective in making much needed, or desired, changes in life.

Like the author, many go into hypnosis sessions very skeptical. I know I did at one time. The hypnotist proved me wrong. I had a very uncomfortable situation to face in life and it brought about a great deal of fear. It was fear of being in the presence of a person and confrontation. During the first session I suddenly saw this person as a small mouse and I was a huge cat! The hypnotist did not feed this into my brain, it just appeared! As she did her thing, vision after vision entered into my mind. I was so relaxed, empowered, and honestly wanted to fall asleep. Yet, I was also aware of everything. My fear was resolved and I confronted my situation with confidence and won!

Most people only go into mild hypnosis, which is the Alpha state of trance and are aware of what is being said, and surroundings. In fact, just reading this article you might still be aware of what is going on around you while you read. Or you might stare at your phone reading a text, and yet be working out what to fix for dinner at night. Then there is the situation where you might be driving and envisioning other scenarios at the same time. Before you know it, you are at your destination. It seems like time has flown and you have been mildly entertained at the same time. This is hypnosis. Its not deepeened hypnosis but it is still hypnosis.

We all have things we would love to change; some things more critical than others. Hypnosis can do this! There is nothing scary or freaky about it. You do it every day of your life. The difference between that and going to see someone for a clinical hypnosis session is the decision is mutually made to make a change and the intent is focused on that change. Usually it only takes a few sessions and a recording of the original hypnosis session to take home with you. It’s quite an amazing miracle for those who truly suffer from anxiety, fears, habits, depression, weight issues, and more. Unlike what many are led to believe, the hypnotist does not have control of your mind and can’t give you any suggestions that you would normally not accept. You are still in control of everything, especially the desired change you truly want!

So, to take away the fear of coming out of a hypnotic trance clucking like a chicken, let me assure you in this. The stage hypnosis we have been taught in days gone by are not the results that will happen while seeing a certified and trained hypnotherapist. Why not give it a try for those things you wish were different in your life? It won’t help you control others but it will help you handle others actions better if that is what you are seeking.

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry

When You are Most Suggestable

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Arising in the morning is a very sacred time, and I will tell you why. It is the most suggestable time of the day. Your very first 5 – 10 minutes upon waking are exactly like a hypnotic state. This is the time when your unconscious mind is still very active and suggestibility is very strong.

So, what does this mean for you? It means upon waking, as soon as you are able to have a conscious thought, your unconscious mind is “listening”. It will take in your thoughts as suggestions just as if you were going through a guided hypnosis session. Only this is natural hypnosis! Remember, thoughts create. Whatever you choose to think about or not think about will begin to rule how your day is going to unfold.

How can you use this to help you? First of all, do NOT look at your phone first thing. (I am guilty of this too!). Your first moments awake should be given only to yourself. After all, this is what guides your day. If you look at your phone first thing, you are giving your power over to whatever it is you read off of your phone. Leave the phone alone! Wait until you have had your moment together with yourself.

Grab your coffee, get up and do your routine as you usually do, but think positive and affirmative thoughts! Spend the first moments from the second you think, to the moment you open your eyes, to the time you get out of bed, as sacred moments. These are reserved for YOU! This is how God has created us as beings. When we awaken we are open to suggestion. It is the most creative time of the day.

Choose wisely! Consider before you go to sleep what you will think about as soon as you awaken. Refuse anything less than positive and affirmative thinking! When those moments have passed, then attend to your phone, brush your teeth, etc. I challenge you to give this a try for at least a week and then go back and examine how your week has unfolded. Use affirmations and guide your day in the form of “I Am” statements.

Examples:

“I am abundant and my day will be filled with abundant blessing.”

” I am trustable and everyone I encounter will welcome me with a trusting heart.”

“I am creative. Today, I will be inspired with wisdom and divine creativity.”

You can choose one thing to work on or a different affirmation every day. Or you can simply meditate upon how you want your day to unfold. See yourself as happy. See everyone around you as happy, laughing, joy filled, and productive. For those whom you have conflict with, surround them with love in your first morning moments! You will be surprised what can develop out of your first moments of suggestion as you awaken to each day!

Loving you from here,

Dr Rev Jenine Marie Howry, PhD