Do You Hold Back Your Truth Just to Keep Peace? Here is What You Need to Know

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Let me encourage you to be completely honest with yourself. First, I need to ask you this question. Do you avoid bringing up subjects you are concerned about in relationships to try to maintain peace? If your answer is yes, let’s stop and consider this question for a moment. Close your eyes and think about a time when you held back your emotions, comments, expressions, or your truth.

Now that you have a good example place one hand on your stomach and one on your heart. Keep that moment when you are held back in your mind as you breathe. What does holding back the issues you had on your mind cause you to feel inside? Can you feel the impact of the emotion or the disturbed feelings within yourself?

Holding back your ideas, comments, emotions, honesty, and truth can deeply harm your mind and body. Consider these questions. What are you afraid of, and what will happen if you express to someone what you honestly are thinking? Will your open expression cause a rift in your relationship or make someone angry at you? Do you imagine you will end up in tears or harming your own body as you absorb the impact of someone else’s responses?

As you answer the questions I have posed above, consider the control issues in your life. Are you are allowing inner torment to keep perceived peace? Energetically not speaking your truth will cause an imbalance in your throat, heart area, center, and even at the base of your spine. As an energy healer, I can tell you, holding back your true thoughts and emotions from someone whose response has conditioned you to do so will imbalance you in ways that can eventually cause damaging physical problems.

You were born with tenacity and courage. You have the power of an infinite spirit that resides within you. Everything that is encountered in your life can be handled efficiently and confidently when you connect with your Creator’s power inside of you. Nothing stops you! Knowing God is within you, and divine support also enfolds you on the outside can release you from tormenting issues you need to express but can’t find the courage in your human self.

Consider all of the things I have just presented to you and meditate for a few moments on what you can do to solve your holding patterns. Not everyone will be a safe harbor for you, but you can be that for yourself as you allow God to help you rise and be someone who walks in balance and truth!

Let’s rise!

“Infinite Spirit of God, release me into the hands of true courage. I am all I was created to be. I am the express image of my true Creator and comforter. Be my comforter and my compassion as I release my emotions, honesty, and truth, toward those who have offended me, held me back, oppressed me, or kept me from being my true self.”

Release yourself today and every day! YOU are a unique being who walks in high places with the One who will never let you down!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph. D.

When You are Most Suggestable

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Arising in the morning is a very sacred time, and I will tell you why. It is the most suggestable time of the day. Your very first 5 – 10 minutes upon waking are exactly like a hypnotic state. This is the time when your unconscious mind is still very active and suggestibility is very strong.

So, what does this mean for you? It means upon waking, as soon as you are able to have a conscious thought, your unconscious mind is “listening”. It will take in your thoughts as suggestions just as if you were going through a guided hypnosis session. Only this is natural hypnosis! Remember, thoughts create. Whatever you choose to think about or not think about will begin to rule how your day is going to unfold.

How can you use this to help you? First of all, do NOT look at your phone first thing. (I am guilty of this too!). Your first moments awake should be given only to yourself. After all, this is what guides your day. If you look at your phone first thing, you are giving your power over to whatever it is you read off of your phone. Leave the phone alone! Wait until you have had your moment together with yourself.

Grab your coffee, get up and do your routine as you usually do, but think positive and affirmative thoughts! Spend the first moments from the second you think, to the moment you open your eyes, to the time you get out of bed, as sacred moments. These are reserved for YOU! This is how God has created us as beings. When we awaken we are open to suggestion. It is the most creative time of the day.

Choose wisely! Consider before you go to sleep what you will think about as soon as you awaken. Refuse anything less than positive and affirmative thinking! When those moments have passed, then attend to your phone, brush your teeth, etc. I challenge you to give this a try for at least a week and then go back and examine how your week has unfolded. Use affirmations and guide your day in the form of “I Am” statements.

Examples:

“I am abundant and my day will be filled with abundant blessing.”

” I am trustable and everyone I encounter will welcome me with a trusting heart.”

“I am creative. Today, I will be inspired with wisdom and divine creativity.”

You can choose one thing to work on or a different affirmation every day. Or you can simply meditate upon how you want your day to unfold. See yourself as happy. See everyone around you as happy, laughing, joy filled, and productive. For those whom you have conflict with, surround them with love in your first morning moments! You will be surprised what can develop out of your first moments of suggestion as you awaken to each day!

Loving you from here,

Dr Rev Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

 

Here Is Your Weekly Wisdom! Give Yourself Credit

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For some reason we are conditioned to expect our acknowledgement, and credit where credit is do, from others outside of us. I think it comes from a world which has the idea that we don’t have all we need from the inside out. It’s easy to look back and place blame on those who raised us for not giving us the “kudos” we always wish we had, but in spite of what we think we were lacking, those experiences have actually been teaching us to give those “kudos” to ourselves.

Yes, it is very nice and greatly appreciated when others appreciate us. We do need that, but when we don’t get it, we also should not die on the inside from feelings of lack. Today, take some time to close your eyes, put your hand on your heart, and give yourself the compliments you always have wanted and needed to hear. Remember, they are just as important coming from you than from anyone else. We live in a fast paced society where others have their minds filled with whatever life is throwing at them. Their occupied minds don’t mean they don’t appreciate you. Give them grace! Send yourself love and appreciation every single day, and believe me, you will attract the same automatically from others anyway. Let me give you a head start.

“You have done a great job in your life! You have weathered many storms and have still come out alright. You have a good heart, have contributed to this world and those around you. You are awesome!” (Repeat things like this in first person to yourself. It’s alright to give yourself some good vibes for being such a great person!)

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

Re-evaluating The Hard Things: Talking About Shame

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When you were growing up, have you ever heard someone say to a child, “You should be ashamed of yourself!” This usually came after  some perceived error in judgment or just plain bad behavior. I wonder if any parent ever stopped to think about those words and what they might mean when someone becomes an adult. I wonder where parents heard those words themselves, took on the shameful perception of themselves, and then unconsciously passed it on as “good morality” teaching. When I hear those words myself, I see a little girl sitting cross legged on a bed with her head down ready to cry.

When a person grows up in shaming then shame is what they carry either unconsciously, consciously, or both. As shaming is passed down through family lines it becomes like a genetic disease. Most of the time it goes unnoticed like a program that runs in the background of a life, just like on a computer. Then it comes out the first opportunity it gets, to stab a person right into the shame wound. The next thing they know it comes out of their pores in the form of anger, fear, humiliation, and the list goes on.

Someone who has been seriously shamed can never take any type of correction, teaching, or instruction. They just believe they are being wronged, bruised, and shamed again and again. This does not end until awareness is brought to the wound. Once something is known it can not be unknown. It becomes a person’s truth and can be very transformative if an individual decides to make it that way.

The next time someone corrects you, tries to teach you, criticizes you, or worse, think about what feelings are suddenly brought up. How does your body feel and is it reacting as well? Sometimes you might feel sick in your stomach, your breath might become faster and shorter, or you might feel like you want to storm off, lash out, or RUN!  Pain is always an indicator of illness of any kind. It makes no difference if it is physical or emotional. It brings an opportunity to create healing. The next time a situation brings you distress, instead of blaming another person or a situation, let it be a healing moment.

Close your eyes, put one hand over your heart and one on your stomach. Breath deep and slowly. Ask yourself what feelings this issue is bringing up for you and if you would like to decide to heal yourself instead of react. If you want to heal yourself, sit with God and tell yourself the words that others never seemed to ever say. “I am valuable.” I am enough.” “Others’ opinions or thoughts of me don’t have to be made my own.” “I am deeply loved and admired.” “I am unique and God sees me as powerful.” There are many you can say. Maybe write down some of your own and keep them in a place where you see them every day. Then when shame comes to call, open the door with a self love bomb that sends it packing for good!

Practice makes perfect in this case. Let it become second nature to you. Refuse to pass shame down through family lines. Refuse to allow others words, actions, or thoughts of you make you feel less than what you really are. Instead of blame, heal. Instead of lash out or react, reaffirm. Instead of shame, brilliance!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

If you struggle with shame or if you tend to take on others thoughts of you, please call and make an appointment. I can guide you through a course of healing that can reaffirm who you really are!

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Staying In Integrity While Dealing With Narcissistic People

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One of the more difficult people to deal with in relationship are those who are narcissists. For some reason this has become a buzz phrase to attach to anyone who seems to be “in to themselves”, but a true narcissist is more than just a cliche. A narcissist can spin someone’s head around so fast it happens before they know what hit them. One of the traits a narcissist will use on their victim is to not stay in integrity with what they have done or said. Basically this means they will say something one moment and then later, or even in the next five minutes contradict what they said or even deny saying it.

This is enough to make anyone frustrated and upset. So, if you are one who deals with this now, don’t despair even if you are reacting in harsh ways. You are trying to make sense of something that does not make sense and you are standing up for your self preservation.

The Bible says that a “double minded man is unstable in all of his ways.” When someone flip flops between their words that is called being double minded. That person is the one who is unstable, not YOU. You can become unstable through the interaction, which is the point of this post. I want to feed some mantras into you.

Affirm this:

“I know what I know and I know what I heard.”

“I matter and my thoughts, ideas, feelings, and opinions matter.”

“I will stay in integrity with myself even when others around me are not.”

“I will be true to who I am and what I know to be true about me.”

“I will not blame myself for others actions but will only take responsibility for my responses to them.”

” I will seek peace with myself and live in that peace even when there is chaos around me.”

“I will confide in someone I trust and ask for help when life becomes too hard to bare.”

You might come up with some of your own. After having had lived with a narcissist before, I know the trauma that can be taken on by someone else’s lack of balance and inconsistency. Narcissistic abuse can be emotional, mental, and sometimes physical. It causes what is termed a “trauma bond” which alters brain chemistry. Most of the time the trauma bond begins in childhood with those who interact with us and around us. The relationship to an out of balance person becomes our “normal” and so that is all we understand until we experience better.

Keeping in your own integrity will keep you in balance. Stay true to who you are and what you want in life. Have trust in God and trust in the love He made you from. Let God guide you through the storms of life. Listen carefully for that guidance and stick to what you know and understand about someone. People teach you who they are in the beginning. Always believe them….

Loving you from here,

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry

832-484-8306 (If you are dealing with narcissistic abuse)

Meditation for Lower Blood Pressure

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This is no kidding! If you want to help lower your blood pressure then learn meditation techniques. It has been found those who practice meditation on a regular basis can lower their blood pressure and even lower the amount of medication they take. This interesting study was written in an article by Allison Aubrey, a correspondent for NPR news, called, “To Lower Blood Pressure Open Up and Say ‘OM’.”

In Aubrey’s article she cited a study on meditation and the effects on those with high blood pressure and on medication. She wrote, “It helps increase the formation of a compound called nitric oxide, which causes blood vessels to open up. This, in turn, lowers blood pressure” (web).

Using meditation for health purposes whether emotional or physical has nothing to do with religion or faith unless those things are incorporated by those who are involved in the practice. There are many videos, audios, and suggestions on the web. I have personally found that meditation helps me focus better and helps my discernment and intuition. I find the practice relaxing. Meditating can also help positively reprogram the mind and the neurological path- ways of the brain.

Adding positive affirmation to meditations can mindfully help change or renew the mind and also redirect one’s life. When modern medicine supports and ancient practice, it is worth taking a look at. Agree?

Loving you from here,

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries, LLC

832-484-8306 for instructional appointment via internet or in person

Reference: Aubrey, Allison. To Lower Blood Pressure, Open Up and Say ‘OM’. npr. August 21, 2008. Retrieved May 16, 2018. Web. https://www.npr.org. 

How To Trust in an Un-Trusting World

pexels-photo-241322.jpegTrust is a very valuable thing. In the human world we EARN the trust of others. In the realm of God we can trust everything because God is faithful and never deviates from the true nature of who He is. What do we do in a world where it is so hard to trust? Can we ever truly trust anything outside of ourselves when humans are not perfect and can so easily make mistakes?

Trusting depends on where our trust is directed. Have you ever given thought to trusting yourself? Can you depend on yourself and do you believe in yourself too? When the chips are down and the world is hard to understand can you rely on yourself in any circumstance to bring things through, regardless of what that might look like?

Trusting yourself is your answer when it is hard to trust others. Let me give you an example. I get nervous when other people drive and I am in the passenger seat. It makes no difference who it is. No two people have the same responses to stopping, going, and how we determine speed etc. There have been many a time I have “put on the brakes” from the passenger side when I think there might be an unwelcome meeting with the car I am in and someone else’s. But, when I drive, I trust myself. I know myself and how I respond.  In the past I have swerved in order to avoid an altercation with another vehicle.

In fact,  anywhere in life when I am doing the driving, I am trusting life. It’s the same with self trust in any aspect of life. Once we know we can completely trust who we are then life becomes more bearable even when others are going haywire. In a world where it is hard to trust, place your trust in God, but also trust yourself in any process on the journey. It’s a gift you can give to yourself.

“Today, I will give myself the ultimate gift of trust. I know I can handle any obstacle that comes my way. I trust my faith, my ideas, and my decisions. Even in the wake of mistakes, I know I can trust my way out of them.”

Loving you from here

Jenine Marie Howry