The other night I watched a movie where a plane went down and in the debris was found a note written by a father who wanted his child to know his final feelings. A reporter discovered it and made it her mission to find the child and deliver the note so the child could have closure. It was a very touching story.
The subject got me thinking though. I wondered, “What would I say if I knew I only had three more minutes to live and could write a note to each of my loved ones?” Of course “I love you” would be a part of it but they do know that I love them. I pondered this for awhile. I wanted it to be profound, you know, something they would always remember.
It was harder than I thought because three minutes is not a long time to say something profound. There seemed so much I would want to say aside from I loved them. I would want to leave my children good advice, my grand children a piece of history to hold onto, and my other family members a memory they would think of and always smile.
Like I said, it is hard to fit all of that into three minutes. There was only one way I could think of that made sense. That is to say everything I want to right now! One never knows what will happen in the next second and we have no idea if we would have time to write something or not. Most of those sudden last moments don’t give time for any of that. That leaves the obvious. Tell the people we love the things we want to say NOW while there is time. It leaves time to say everything along the way. It’s like a lifelong project of connection and the leaving of memories that can be looked back upon when they miss us.
I found myself making a list of those things. What would I want to continue to always tell my loved ones and in what modes? Do I want to write them letters and cards, or just emails and text messages? I think letters would be best. They are the things that are kept. Cards are usually kept as well. I even thought it would be great to send a card, a photo of us together or something meaningful , and a meaningful statement that can be saved and always remembered. It’s about leaving a legacy of love behind until the moment comes when we all shall meet again!
Loving you from here,
Pastor Jenine Marie Howry