Let’s talk about all things relationships when it comes to women!
This post is about what women want and desire from the outside that carries them on the inside. I am speaking of soulful desires and maybe some of them can be considered rights as well. We fight battles, often silent and sometimes spoken loudly upon ears that don’t always hear us. This post is dedicated to those inner things women desire in personal relationships.
What women really desire:
Is to be heard. We have an open need to have our wisdom expressed. Women carry intuitive wisdom, thoughts, guidance, and expression. Without the ability to express our wisdom and thoughts we become spiritually bound and our energy centers begin to shut down. The spoken word is everything when it comes to creation. Our Creator spoke life into this universe and that is exactly what women do when we are allowed to express our thoughts without interruption. Do you want life spoken into your surroundings? Allow the woman in your life to express her wisdom without hesitation. The gift will keep on giving life.
Our hearts to be carried. Women tend to carry within our hearts the emotional weight of the world. We emotionally “hear” our families, our friends, our partners, and our loved ones. We “hear” the pulse of the world and we carry the concerns in our hearts. That weight can become so profound the love we hold will start our tears flowing. We are the main emotion of relationships and because this is weighty we need our hearts to be held and carried. This means “have our emotional back”. Support us with love, compassion, and empathy. Know when we need rest and support that need by backing us up with your action and strength. Understand our need for alone time, companion time, and just plain time.
We need to be valued. As women who are generally more intuitive than men can often be, we need to be valued. When we know, we know. This inner knowing is something many women have and don’t express because we feel we will not be taken seriously. So our intuitive gifts go unheard or disrespected. Don’t shut us down or make it seem strange we know things that others might not. We don’t need your ego to rise up and try to be “right”. Your “rightness” will not discard our intuition or make it go away. It will only cause valuable intuition to be crushed down into the center of our being causing us to shrink back from warning signals that we have been created to have and express.
We need the gift of time. Time is the only thing in this life we can never get back once it is lost. Have you ever looked back and wished you spent more time with someone and now you can not go back and fix it? It’s best to not live with regrets. Giving us your time allows us to know our value more deeply, and express our thoughts. It also gives us the strength we often need when time allows the opportunity for your support. Time gifts us with much-needed companionship which is what relationship is all about anyway. Without companionship, there is no relationship. So give us your time.
We need love. This should be an obvious one but unfortunately, it is often overlooked. Love comes in many forms. It might be the little things you provide for us or support us in. Sometimes it is your shoulder when our tears reveal the burdens we have needed to release. Love and affection go hand in hand. Affection denied kills the soul. Believe me, when you truly love the woman in your life you will be gifted many times over with more love in return than you can ever be grateful for.
We need respect. When a woman does not receive respect or is disrespected her heart will leave you. Even if her physical being is still with you her heart will not be there. Respect is something that can not be overstated. If you desire respect from a woman then don’t disrespect her! Disrespect takes away her dignity and reduces her to feel “less than”. Remember, once disrespectful words or actions are done they can not be undone. They go out into the universe and create karma for you that you will wish never hit you. Have you ever wondered why Jesus defended women so much in biblical accounts? It’s because women were so disrespected and devalued in the time He lived in. It does a person good to keep a closed mouth than to disrespect a woman. It also does a person good to do the right and upstanding things in life rather than disrespect a woman behind her back. Even if she does not know…God does! I think you get it!
Loving you from here,
Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry