When a person devalues you they don’t respect the individual you are nor do they care about your welfare. Whether it’s emotionally or physically the neglect leaves a sense of loneliness and pain. In devaluation your life, your thoughts, your ideas don’t matter. Your heartaches are overlooked and it’s your heart that is left broken.
Deep conversation is never allowed in devaluation because it means your thoughts and emotions are given a chance to be important. Of course that is too threatening to someone who does not value your existence. The one who devalues can’t allow you to have meaning or importance because they feel it takes away from theirs. Breaking the heart of others gives them a sense of power and control. They will discredit you, shut you down, put you down, and then try to make it all up to you so they can do it again.
The one who devalues will not care about your feelings or desires but will try to make you feel bad for wanting to be heard. You are an inconvenience to this person and someone who has to be made wrong so they can feel right. Your heart won’t matter so in the presence of this type of person you might as well not waste your breath. It’s not worth the pain. You are better off without the inner struggle. They are too emotionally immature to care about yours.
Most likely they never were valued or given a voice growing up so all they know is to shut you down, break your heart, and make themselves to be right by making you wrong. See it for what it is and stop the bleeding. You will never be right in their eyes and to keep it in control they will talk about you behind your back to reinforce their need to be the “right one”.
Remember your worth and your value. You are more precious than gold, your heart matters, and you deserve to be loved and heard. Those who devalue you need to heal their inner child and grow up to behave in a way worthy of your love and respect. Everyone has their own journey. Give value to yours by not allowing anyone to shut down your thoughts, ideas, expressions and needs. You matter.
Loving you from here,
Jenine Marie
Life Lessons by Jenine Marie
Life Lessons by Jenine Marie 