There was nothing more sweet than watching the romantic dances between my mother and father as a young child. I would peek around the corner just to watch them dance to their favorite music, lights dimmed low, and serenity on their faces. Life was not always serene with them but there were those sweet moments that reveals themselves when my parents were caught up in the magic and romance of marriage and relationship.
I have to admit the moments gave me that old time movie impression of what romance was supposed to be like. It was always the wine, roses, music, and of course the dance of romance. I think it’s why I embraced marrying couples for a time. The sweet smiles, gentle tears, glowing faces, and of course the romance between two people.
There are so many ways to keep that magical moment sparkling for years to come. Life does not have to get boring or dull. Marriage can evolve into a depth of companionship that goes beyond the sun and sky. If we are together, it might seem strange to say, we were meant to be together. Even if it is for a moment in time.
Our moments should be cherished although some of them might be strained. It is the dance between two people making their way toward becoming one. We don’t always feel this way, but our oneness is magical. We attracted a person into our lives in order to learn, to love, and to be entranced by that magical dance.
I know it is not always a pretty sight. We strain to find our way when there are moments we feel we have packed our bags and moved in with an alien from another planet. I have to tell you, though, when you feel this way, look around sweetheart. Like attracts like, and you just married yourself in another form. Yes, we differ in some ways. Those are the gifts we bring to the other. It’s the greatest trade off in all the history of humanity. This beautiful and sometimes strenuous dance, we might call a mess at times and others we call it MAGIC!
Loving you from here,
Dr. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD