I’ve often discussed we are like transmitters that send out information over the spiritual airwaves. In the same respect, we are also like mirrors who show others a good look at themselves when they look at us. We can shine back at someone and show their light or respond when they lash out and show them their wounds. We come together for this purpose. Couples mirror one another often. When one does or says something mean to the other, their injury is imposing on the other.
Most of the time, the unhealed are tempted to take someone’s lashing out personally. It can be, but honestly, it is not. People always spill out their wounds onto others. Or they will help us process our own when we choose to react instead of search our hearts to find where we need to heal. An individual can always know when they heal internal wounds when nothing seems to affect them much anymore. Don’t mistake this for the hardness of heart. It is more like a coming of age from the inside out. It is a transformation that reveals we have grown, healed, and are happy within ourselves.
When growth is being tempted during these moments, remember we have the roots of unholy messes all bottled up inside of us. Many of us don’t even realize it because we are too busy blaming someone else. Life begs us to take a good look at ourselves. It is our responsibility to heal from the inside out and is for our own sake.
Realize we all have “stuff.” There are no exceptions. If you spend less time trying to judge others, feeling hurt by others, and getting angry, you will have time to settle into yourself and discover where you need to heal. Bringing out those issues can come either willingly, or God will send a messenger that you attract to help do that for you! You can choose either one way or the other.
If you want good relationships, start one with yourself. Learn to love yourself enough to heal. Learn to accept you have flaws like everyone else and work on your wounds. You will know you have completed the work to heal when people don’t seem to rub you the wrong way any longer. When your injuries no longer affect you, your responses will no longer bring you anxiety or anger. You will finally have come to yourself and stepped into your power!
Loving you from here,
Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD.