I think most of us know when anger is not a good idea. Those are the moments when it is out of control. Anything out of balance can destroy instead of enhance. For example, a lit candle is beautiful but a fire destroying a home is devastating. Water can be soothing but a flood that ruins and takes lives is not so soothing. In the same respect, anger in its right place can be an asset when out of control it harms everything in its way.
So, when is anger an asset? Let’s take a look at this. It certainly is an emotion we are given and therefore it must have it’s place, right? Anger can tell us alot about how we feel about a situation. It can be a part of that gut intuition we have been given to discern and decide. There is a good anger. What about righteous indignation? We can be angry at racism, sexism, dirty politics, or when the neighbor next door throws their garbage over our back fence. Do you see where I am going with this?
Let’s consider how anger can help:
1) It can show us how we really feel about something going on outside of us or even inside of us. Anger gives revelation.
2) It can help us draw boundaries as to what we want in our lives and what we do not from others. Anger is a protection.
3) It can be a driving force to get us out and going when we have been complacent. Anger is a motivator.
4) It can show us where we have been hurt inside because of the response to what someone has done. Anger is a compass.
So, you see, it is not all bad all of the time. Being angry is not such a mortal sin. It has its uses and some are very good uses. Just like the rising ocean waves, just don’t let it get to high and like the fire that is only a flame, don’t allow it to get out of control!
Loving you from here,
Dr Jenine Marie Howry