YOU Are Not a Lemon. Don’t Allow Anyone to Squeeze the Life Out of You!

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Lemons are amazing fruits. Detoxing daily with them can bring very good results for your body. Just some warm water or tea with fresh squeezed lemon can help your digestion, aid in preventing kidney stones and even help lose weight.

I watched myself squeeze a lemon into a glass of warm water one day and all of the life sustaining pulp and juices that started to flow out of the fruit. I even have a lemon squeezer that helps in this process. Since I seem to get messages out of life’s experiences this was no exception. I thought to myself, “Sometimes it feels like there have been people who have just squeezed the life out of me.”

Just like the lemon, when this happens, the life sustaining juices seem to get dumped into a place we don’t want life to take us. It’s so easy to become bitter as the lemon tastes. Yet, lemons do have a degree of sweetness to them as well. When toxic people cause a squeeze on our lives it’s important to remember that sweetness still resides in the waters. Life can feel bitter and distasteful sometimes.

Back away from all toxic experiences that feel like a huge lemon squeeze. Let sweetness still abide in the inner places of your being and even the sourness will become helpful to you in the days to come. We all need sour experiences to allow us to see where there is sourness inside of us. We can deal with it without having the life squeezed out of us.

In life’s big bowl of fruit you are the best lemons ever created. We all carry sweetness and sourness within us. The challenge is to process the sour parts before life sends us a lemon squeezer in the form of another person to do that work for us. Think about this very carefully. Karma is there to teach you. God will teach you. If you listen and heed the warnings before the lemon press is sent to give you more than a little squeeze.

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

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Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries, LLCĀ 

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Getting Real With the Word “Toxic”

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The word toxic has become a buzzword lately when it comes to a certain kind of relationship. Toxic in the original sense means something that is poisonous or potentially harmful in a chemical. Now, the word toxic, being applied to relationships has come to be known as something that is abusive or corruptive.

What I am seeing and sensing, though, is the word has gone crazy out of hand. Now the word toxic is being used any time someone believes something different from someone else. Or, if there is any difference of opinion. One person might like something and someone else not like it at all. Now, this somehow has become known to be a toxic relationship.

Or, a toxic relationship has been identified as one person being abusive to another. Although abuse does occur, the sensitivity of certain situations has become vastly misused. We are being taught to stay away from those who differ or do not agree on one situation or another. One person is considered to be toxic to another if they feel their opinion or attitude will hinder them in some way. This is such a misuse of what God has intended for relationships. Not to mention, no one can affect another on the inside of them unless they allow it.

God does not want us to distance ourselves because of differing opinions. In fact, the Apostle Paul taught if one person eats pork and another does not then not to judge the one who eats pork. What he was saying is to just allow people to be themselves and if they differ not to judge them. Even better yet, not to distance from them or take offense because of differences. Our differences are what make us unique and amazing even if they are hard to deal with or work through. In married situations our struggles are what help us come to an understanding of one another. Sometimes the struggle is real and even very hard. Yet, its hard when two people try to come to an understanding or meeting of the minds with one another when they have been very wounded deep inside.

We carry our wounds and sometimes wave them like badges of courage when we should be healing them. Our conflicts are what exposes them. This is an opportunity to heal them together. It is a hard lesson to learn and we all have to learn it. It’s so much easier to just push away, but who will ever heal and become stronger that way? No one.

Maybe we can put the word toxic back in its place and not apply it to human beings? Toxic can be poison if it likes, but people are not poison. Humans were created to be a gift even if they are differing in opinions or even misbehaving. Although we are not encouraged to take abuse, we should love the person and not the actions. Realize our actions come from a place inside that have been learned in society over time. Relearning the best way to live, love, and be, takes time and encouragement. Push them away and you have not created victory. What you have done is allow wounds to remain unhealed. It’s brave to expose one another and sometimes confrontation is hard. Confrontation is the only way to come to a meeting of the minds sometimes. Understanding is what Paul taught us to have, not isolating from one another.

Loving you from here (and not being toxic)

Dr Jenine Marie Howry