No doubt we live in a world that is filled with so many diverse people and personalities. In all honesty, this is what makes life worth living and exploring. We are “about” relationship. Without others there is no true evolution of our souls or healing of our scars. Keeping this in mind, there is one real truth that tends to bring grace, mercy, and understanding to the difficult personality.
Here it is. Are you ready? People act out of their own personal pain from the inside and they project it outward toward a person or situation that they feel is unfavorable. Usually it all comes out in anger or blame. Some people are consumed with their anger and resentment. Have you ever met the “perpetual walking bad mood”? They are difficult to say the least.
The real truth is, the walking bad mood has deep scars that create a vacuum or blockage for anything that resembles peace and harmony in life. They appear to just project their bad mood outward but what they really are doing is revealing their own personal pain. This might be on a very unconscious level, even unknown to them as to why they act or feel the way they do.
Do you know a person or people like this? Let me give you some insight as to how to deal with them. It’s more like how to “see” them. Their outer expressions are much more revealing than anyone truly thinks.
- First of all know and understand that people act out of their personal pain. Someone who is difficult to deal with most likely has an unconscious mind that is driving on auto pilot and they have no idea why they are as difficult as they are.
- See the God part within them. This is not as hard to do as it seems. Just believing we all were created in the image of God helps to reveal to us the great parts of difficult human beings
- See them through God’s eyes. You have God living within you. Consciously remind yourself that the part of you that inhabits God can look through your eyes and see spiritually, intuitively, and soulfully, the truth about any human being.
- Don’t return anger for anger. This only multiplies the anger that is already there. The Bible tells us that a soft answer will turn away wrath. This is truth. We can turn someone’s angry day into a better one just by being more positive and loving toward someone who is hard to be around.
- Know we all struggle. You struggle, I struggle, and everyone struggles. We all have soul scars from this life we have led and we all project them onto others whether we intend to or not. We are in this together. We all have been humanly flawed.
- Remember we carry God in our inner temple. We are now the temple of God who dwells within us and there is nothing more powerful than this truth in our lives. That power can be used anytime, anywhere, and with anyone. All you need is to believe and have faith in that power to heal and deal with another in order to do so.
Affirm: “I choose to see past the difficulty in other’s lives and actions, knowing we all struggle with them, and see the God part of each person. Because I know the truth about their actions and that God lives inside of all of us, I can be at peace with them. I have the power from God within me to overcome my own struggles and handle others as well. I see their expressions of difficulty and anger as the hurts that were formed inside of them as they have lived their lives. I wish and pray for them healing in the midst of the storms of life. I pray them healed and made whole. I choose to see their beauty and the treasure that they are no matter how difficult they become. What I focus on becomes bigger, so their beauty outshines any difficulty they might present.”
Ask God for the eyes of compassion in all things and you will know and understand how to handle any or all difficult issues with others.
Jenine Marie Howry