Give Respect to Loved Ones While they are HERE

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When someone we have loved passes over the first thing we think of is the funeral. That old costly way that family, friends, loved ones, and not-so-loved ones show up to grieve their passing. For those of us who have had very close loved ones unexpectedly pass away it is a terrible last memory to have. I can’t even say how much I wish I did not have to see the lowering of my children’s caskets into the ground. The vision haunts me and the somberness of the moment just about traumatizes me.

The one thing that echos in my mind when I think of my crossed-over loved ones is they are still alive. They are just in another form without this clunky body to carry around with all of its earthly burdens. I’m willing to bet if we could just sit and ask how they are, they would say they are happy. If we were to ask them about the old funeral ritual I’m just about sure they will not be all that impressed by those who thought paying respect to them was meaningful after they left their bodies.

I shake my head when I think of the family arguments, and issues with so-called friends. Then there is the torment that happens after someone passes and people struggle with their funeral attendance. People get hurt because they can’t go, feel guilty when they don’t go, and others get upset when they do go. It’s all so ridiculous when I think about it. More issues are made about funerals than people need to create.

I have a better idea. Why not honor the people we love while they are here? As long as they know, and have known, we have loved them isn’t that what truly matters? Saying goodbye is not easy. I said goodbye to my daughter long before she was lowered into the ground. I did it in my heart. I know she felt it because love NEVER dies. Can we even imagine if I had not gone to my own daughter’s funeral? Of course, I felt I had to go. Society makes me feel that way. In all honesty, I would have been much better off without those last images in my mind. They cause me more grief than her passing. In all honesty, I could have done without the “sermon” given by an unknown pastor who never knew my daughter and could not possibly memorialize her. It was the same with my son. The more important issue is that they knew I loved them. My mother knew I loved her. I still love them! I always will.

Love the people who are here in body NOW. If you can’t see them then TELL them! Life always has a flow of its own and we can’t be all places at all times. Technology gives us the wonderful opportunity to give our loved ones those last “I love yous” we so long to give. Even without them, love already “knows”.

It’s just about insane to get all “butt hurt” because of funeral issues. As long as we know, and our loved ones knew. that love was there it’s all that has ever mattered. They live on. We don’t have to believe that but I do. I’m sure they can do without bickering over property left behind. who attends the funeral and whose presence is wanted or not. So leave the guilt behind. If you know in your heart the feelings that were there, then that is all that is important.

As for me; I think I will skip the funeral arrangements. My parents did the same. They were both cremated with no big funeral issue. Frankly, I adore them for that. I don’t see how gathering with people to cry would have made it all that better. I am skipping that part. I will be smiling in my new form, knowing those who loved me cared enough to respect me while I am HERE and not in a ritual where I am lowered into the ground and everyone has to watch.

Agree with me or not. It’s ok.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

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Signs From Crossed Over Loved Ones

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As a mother who had her son pass over when he was age 20, I’ve been so curious about the life that we call death here on earth. After my Jayson crossed over, I stopped believing in death, although we often call it that. I’m not sure “crossed over” is a good way to describe when someone leaves their body. I have wondered where we cross over to?

As Jesus explained, there is no actual death, just a crossing over to a new phase of life; being born again into a new state of being. Eternity is not for a few, but everyone. We were initially created as eternal beings in spirit. This remains the truth regardless of what our religious boxes want to teach us. I know my son still lives; I have seen the proof of this through signs. No, it is not an illusion, and it is not my wishful thinking or a coincidence.

Not long ago, I felt a distance from my son. I get that way now and then. I like to be reassured he is still with me. I know there will never be a disconnection in my heart because love can never be divided or separated. God made sure of this. Yet, I like to see some evidence. It makes my heart beat a bit faster to know I am supported, loved, and surrounded by my crossed-over loved ones.

So, I set up a sign by speaking out loud about what I would like my son to bring to me. I have always been partial to dragonflies, so that is what I asked him for; dragonflies. I don’t see them very often around where I live, so this would be a unique sign for me.

One day I came out of the bedroom, and my cat was doing crazy out in the living area! Upon the wall, high near the ceiling, was a huge dragonfly! I thought to myself, “Thank you, Jayson, and thank you, God!” It was not the last one for me to see. I had to take a long trip to my doctor’s office, and I had some apprehension about the long drive back and forth. I jumped into the car with my lunch and GPS to find the best route for the day. The moment I got into the car, a big dragonfly came flying up to the driver’s side of the windshield and fluttered there for a few moments. I could not help but smile because I knew it was from my dear son, showing me he was with me!

I know this all might sound nuts to some people but passed over loved ones are always with me in my life. They show me when I ask them to and usually not too often when I don’t ask. Now and then, I get a surprise, and something out of the blue will happen for me, to make me smile! Our love for those who spent lives with us will never die; why should we believe they have left us? Love is love in every sense of the word. After all, God is love, and God will never leave. In my world, so it is with our loved ones. They love connecting with us, and they sure don’t want it to be a spooky experience but a delightful one!

Experiment with your loved ones and ask for a sign from them! You will be surprised at what you might see in the days following!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

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Here Is Your Weekly Wisdom!

WeeklyWisdomLogoJoy comes through mourning~~

I know you have been through grievous times. We all have been through one thing or another at certain times in life. Gods strength has shined brightly through you coming up out of those hard moments when life seems so uncertain. There is a joy that follows the end of the grief process. Freedom and release from the worry and concern of difficult heart wrenching issues can bring such joy after the storm has lifted. Remember always that joy is promised to follow your grief and moments of mourning. God is good on His promises , always!

Affirm: I will remember, and reach for joy, when mourning comes upon me. I know that the design God has given humanity is based upon His promises. Through Christ, His promises are even more free. I will walk in liberty after all grief and pain are over because Jesus understood the pain I have felt. His example has shown me ultimate joy after the most horrible pain to imagine….death on the cross. I will arise because He is arisen!

 

Loving you from here,

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry

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