What Dealing With Covid Has Taught Me

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As I look back upon my life, I can not remember an illness as frustrating as COVID-19. I come from a generation who endured the mumps, measles, chickenpox and missed the old smallpox epidemic. The diseases of the past were irritating, except for some of the more life-threatening diseases.

I feel very blessed to have gone through a lot less than many people have endured regarding the illness department. I am so aware of those I cared for in the past who struggled with cancer forms or were dying from liver failure. When I reflect on those days of taking care of critically sick people, I feel doubly blessed not to have had endured them.

In my belief system, I feel everything in life is brought into our lives to teach us. My beliefs go beyond the old, “whatever does not kill us makes us stronger” mentality. To some degree, everything in life is a lesson, including becoming sick.

Before I continue to go off into left field, I want to stay true to my title and express what COVID-19 has taught me as an illness.

  1. The little things in life are just as important as the more significant issues, whether blessings or difficulties.
  2. Life is too short to complain about anything. We have chosen this ride on earth and can create in this life whatever we desire. If we are not happy with where we are, it is our fault. We can make life be as we envision we want it to be, so why not?
  3. Love is always higher than anything, and it is our love that determines how much we have in our lives.
  4. What we allow to stay will stay. If something is irritating, like a scratchy sweater, it is up to us to take it off and let it go.
  5. Breath is important. No one should ever take a good breath of air for granted. If you smoke, STOP! You WILL get lung cancer or compromise your breath.
  6. Don’t stress over the little things in life; they will pass just like everything else.
  7. It is alright to stay in your jammies if you don’t feel well!
  8. Leaving dishes in the sink is not a mortal sin. They will still be there later on when there is more energy to do them.
  9. People in our lives have a particular purpose; they are not just placeholders. Find the purpose for every person and do your best to learn from that connection, love despite disagreement, and know you are blessed to have the honor of understanding them.
  10. Difficult people are not only learning opportunities but are hurting human beings. Give them a break, especially when they are sick with COVID-19.

Aside from the evident appreciation for life, the comments mentioned above are not exhaustive in the least. When it comes to counting my blessings, I have far more than the stars, and they are uncountable. A little giving goes a long way. We all have things in life we have to process internally. We carry baggage. Some of us carry it over our shoulders, some in our hearts, and some are consumed in baggage without even awareness it exists. Burdens are not meant to be held but processed.

If you are dealing with COVID-19 illness, my heart and prayers go out to you; it is not a fun illness. Let God give you strength for the journey and a more healed heart for having been tried in the COVID-19 fire.  

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

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During this Era of Covid -19

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There are few words I feel I can come up with to describe this era of coronavirus we are going through in our nation and our world. This afternoon I sat and stared out the window in disbelief about how things seemed to escalate so quickly. If I focus on the statistics and the breaking news I hear daily; my heart melts into my stomach. Yet, if I shift my focus on what I am looking at right now, my whole demeanor shifts.

Right out the window, life seems just as it always has been. The trees are blowing in the wind, cars are going by, and I see a squirrel running along the walkway. In this very now moment, life is alright. This moment is the one we live in, or we should. For some of us, our tomorrows can be counted by God on the one hand, and our fingers can represent other decades. No matter what category we are in, this very now moment is precisely the same.

With a deep sigh, I can take in a good long breath and let it out. Everything is just fine, right now. In the past, when things got hard in life, I used to toss and turn all night long, wondering how I was going to work things out. One night, I figured out my moment is the same, regardless of how tomorrow pans out. There is such power living in the moment we call now. I used to think to myself, “Right now, everything is alright,” and then go to sleep.

It is alright. Yes, we plan for the future, but no one can know it all. Just for now, I think I will close my eyes and remember moments that felt just like this. The trees were blowing in the breeze, through my hair, and across my face. The birds were nesting, flying, and seeking out food. These things are always here and forever a comfort.


In this world, we will have labor. In the Bible, they were/are assigned. Men labor to care for their mates and families. Women work to have children and then raise them in faith. Some of those roles have changed over the years as we changed as humans. Right now, I think I will take refuge in the things that never change. They are the love of God, the simplicity of creation, and the promise of better tomorrows.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

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After the Storm: Healing from the Effects of Grief and Loss

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We have all been recently affected by a global pandemic that just about brought our world to a standstill. My heart goes out to all of those who have suffered losses during the spread of COVID-19. I know the grief and the feeling of loss. It is not easy. The news media only barely touch upon that part of what is happening because of this virus. Every single time I see the death toll go up; I think of my own challenges with grieving the loss of loved ones along my journey. Recovering is not an overnight thing. It takes time and understanding.

Our world has gone mostly virtual suddenly and seemingly overnight. Thank goodness we have the internet! What used to merely be social media is now a necessity in order to function in this world. With all of this said, I cling to hope. Hope is an extraordinarily strong motivator. My advice is to walk daily and take one step at a time but always have hope for a better day to come. They WILL come!

Biblically speaking, “hope deferred makes the heart sick.” This means without hope we become sick. The last thing we need is to become more ill. Heart sickness will kill the soul even faster than a virus will kill the body. Therefore, it is so important to keep our hearts light and shine as much light as we can for others as well. We are ONE world and together we will overcome what has been presented to us.

If not anything else, the pandemic has brought us all together in ways we never have experienced before. It has made heroes out of medical personnel and healers out of those who normally would not have ever stepped up to the plate. I believe virtually we can all be healers as well. It is why this platform is so important right now. We NEED to talk about it all. We need to vent, we need to cry, and we need to heal ourselves back into hope.

I might not know you, but I love you. Its God-given to love those we do not know. God loves this world and God will help us heal and heal the world we live in. Don’t we appreciate it so much more now? I know it is hard when we have lost loved ones. It is a tough road to walk. Will you let me be a part of your healing journey? I would be honored to walk with you through it all.

You can find me on Virtual Therapist Network at this link:

Dr Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry, PhD