Time is a Human Made Illusion

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Just recently I had the pleasure of traveling 1800 miles to see my adult children and grandchildren. My journey took me across 4 states and two time zones. What was interesting is the time in my car does not automatically change but on my cell phone it does. Coming from the south east and going to the west, the only difference I noticed was the daylight and night changes. My body wanted to fall asleep during my usual time zone but it was early for others. It really is interesting how routine our bodies are and how they can adapt and be conditioned to our environment. As long as I got at least 8 hours of sleep I knew I was alright.

The thing that struck me the most is during my travel time back and forth. As I moved along either way, it really did not matter what time it was. All that mattered was that I ate when hungry, rested when tired, and got some exercise when the journey was too overwhelming. Had I never looked at the time I really would not have noticed any change at all. It’s amazing how addicted to the time clock we are in this life. We talk about “punching a time clock” while working but actually we punch a time clock every day of our lives. The interesting thing is, it is not necessary. Aside from work, appointments and things like that, our bodies tell us what we need when we need it.

The basic things in life are timeless. Also, the most important things in life are timeless as well. These are things such as love, companionship, dedication, friendship, and living in the moment. Time does seem to march on but actually its an illusion. It’s not time that really moves forward, we just age and grow. Hopefully along the way we grow more wise, more adaptable, and more mellow as the days complete themselves. At the end of the day does it really matter what our chronological age is or how much “time” we think we have left on this earth? For children the world is timeless. They play, interact, and exist in a world of “moments“. I can see why Jesus instructed us to be as a child. Children have no real sense of aging, time frames, or stress that come from deadlines. Small children live in the moment.

I wonder how much better your life would be if you choose consciously to live in the moment like a child does? Can you imagine being relieved of the stress of thinking we know what tomorrow will bring? Actually, it’s all an illusion. We really don’t know what will unfold until it does! We gain nothing by our tears, fears, and stressors. Life will unfold as it should and will be as we choose to make it. So, what will be your choice? Will you live life like you are punching a time clock, or will you breathe into every moment no matter what it brings? Yes, things will be hard sometimes and others life will be easier. Either way, remember its all an illusion and to breathe!

Loving you from here,

Dr Rev Jenine Marie Howry

The Need to Be Certain in an Uncertain World


To be certain is to know for sure that something is going to be there for us to help us survive. It can be a person, a situation, and even an addiction. Sometimes it is our spirituality or the need for love or comfort. Regardless to where it comes from or how we get it, being certain brings us a sense of security. We feel we need this in this uncertain world and as a human being. In fact, we sometimes need this so much that we will either compromise love for it or we will mistake it for love. It makes no difference what is compromised, if being certain is important, our choices will be guided by it.

Here is an example. A young woman is out on the street and has nowhere to go. Her life has had one crisis after another. Suddenly, she meets a man who offers her comfort. Maybe this is that he will be there for her, or give her some sort of sense of security. The woman is feeling very uncertain about her life or where to turn, so his offer for security is mistaken for love. The man can be totally wrong for her, or even detrimental to her life and well being. Yet, she stays because now she believes his being there gives her certainty in an uncertain world.

Let me give you another example. For some, feeling certain is having a bank account that is always filling with what they believe will give them security, comfort, and a certain stable life. This is an illusion. When life changes dramatically, like a loved one dies, an accident happens or in a face of a tragedy, that bank account is no longer able to be strong enough to give certainty. If someone suddenly becomes paralyzed or has a stroke, the bank account is rendered useless because it will not fix something that can not be changed by money. Money does not solve everything. It is only an energy exchange to be used not savored as false sense of security.

The reality is, none of us can have a true sense of certainty or security until we learn to love and trust, first God and then ourselves. We need to be able to count on our ability to spring back from tragedy, create newness in life, move forward in transition, and face our deepest fears. No one can have a sense of security without the strength to love and take action through the knowledge of what love truly is. If you really want a certain and secure life that is not an illusion, learn about love in its fullest. God asks us to learn the depth, width, and breadth of love. Along with that knowledge comes trust in God and in ourselves. With those things we can face anything.

Loving you from here,

Dr Rev Jenine Marie Howry, PhD