When “Things” Are Not Meant to Be

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I believe that life has a natural flow and when we are willing to look deep enough we can see where things are shifting. This flow is not as easily seen as the seasons when they change in weather but they can be seen, felt, and discerned. It’s always hard to shift to a new season, or direction in life. This means it’s time to say good-bye to that which no longer serves us so there will be room for that which does.

Some indications that something is meant to leave your life or your direction is changing:

  1. Nothing seems to go right any more when attempting to do what you have been doing.
  2. Suddenly it feels very negative and is filled with negative people.
  3. Authority is shifted and you no longer have the upper hand in your own life path when it comes to this certain thing.
  4. People who normally feel very connected no longer do.
  5. Your heart just does not seem “in it” any longer.
  6. You no longer feel joy from what you are doing.
  7. New things begin to entice you into a new direction.
  8. You find that your interests have changed.
  9. You are bored with the same old processes in life and the same old routine.
  10. You have a hunger for more, to learn more, to shift to a new position in life, to find new peace for your mind and soul.

These are just some things you might notice when the “flow” is changing in a particular area of your life. Just as the seasons change, everything must die so that new growth can present itself. As with anything, it can be hard at first, but also the excitement and prospect of new things can propel you forward.

What to do:

Let go of that which is behind and reach forward to that which is before you! Look at the new horizon and stay fixed on the beauty of it all!

Onward and upward! Embrace change, and don’t resist it. You just never know. You might wake up with a whole new facet of life ahead of you!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

Moments of Decision’s Past

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Some moments in time are like dividing lines between seasons of learning, maturing, and growing. Think of those moments where your decisions might have been a bit more wise, clear, and spiritually discerning. Mind you, we don’t live in the past, but we should reflect on it in order to learn. Over the last few weeks I have been in a mode where even in my dreams my past decisions have been looming up in front of me. It’s amazing how the thoughts of possible upcoming trials can spin us into moments of evaluation.

It’s good to evaluate. It brings clarity into our lives and sometimes we even see the gift that resides within what we deem as mistakes. Remember, whatever choices you made in the past were the right ones for the moment according to where you were in maturity, understanding, and faith. There is nothing that grows us up faster than what we see as a wrong decision. Putting things in perspective, there is never really a wrong decision. It is just a decision. The label of “wrong” is something we place upon ourselves out of judgement.

Judgement comes from criticism and thinking something is below or beneath us. Observation comes with logic from the mind and spiritual grace with discernment. Remember when evaluating the past or even the present, to do so as “the observer” and not “the judge and jury”. God’s grace is sufficient to cover us in all of our decisions regardless to how we tend to label them, Often we are concerned about others judgment of us, when we are usually the greatest judge of ourselves. After all, others tend to mirror back to us what is within us anyway. Its like looking into a clear still lake when watching others and seeing our reflection.

When bringing up things of the past that you have deemed as “wrong” decisions, remember to:

First be kind to yourself and understand where you were in mentality and growth at the moment.

Make a list of those things you believe you could have done better.

Look at your list with the spirit of observation not judgement.

Rip up the list or shred it and say good-bye to all of the perceived mistakes you have made in life.

Go out into the breezy sunlight and allow the warmth to radiate on your face. Let the breeze remind you that your life has moved on. (Use a fan and close your eyes if there is no breeze)! 

Be grateful for the experience and laugh over the humor in some of the ways things used to be. Be thankful you are in this place of understanding today. God is always good! 

All things must be dealt with in the open and brought into the Light of God in order to deal with them and heal from them. Seeing them as learning experiences will release you from the bondage of being a mistake. Thank yourself and God for the lesson! Remember your shift in understanding is a creative miracle! Allow the emotional part of all of it be healed in the presence of God’s Spirit!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coachng and Ministries LLC