Listening to The Messages of Our Bodies

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We all have felt that gut feeling that enters into our stomach area when something is not right in life. More often than not we ignore it. When we listen to the feeling by using silence and mindfulness we can uncover answers to our most pressing issues in life.

Our intuitive bodies and emotions are always guiding us. I’ve often heard that anger is stored in the bones. I am inclined to believe this is true. When bone issues start to show up it is time to release the anger in a safe way. Our emotions also will drive us when we pay attention. When that pressing feeling enters into our center it’s time to ask what this means and what we need to do about the answer.

When we are in meditative states answers come more easily. Silence speaks more loudly than we often realize. Within the quiet of a new dawn, I have received more messages that I might have missed in the middle of a noisy day. Allowing our inner messages to bypass our brains we find an opportunity to choose. Do we want to harbor bad emotions or let them go? Do we want to counteract the bad emotions and turn life into one filled with good emotional feelings?

It takes practice to get our body, mind, emotional communication right, but once we do, we have it! Practice catching your difficult emotions today and settle into some quiet to ask what you can do about them. Usually they can just be turned around into good feelings, thoughts, ideas, and emotions. When this is done we can change our lives. Be aware you might change your surroundings as well! This is always a good and positive thing when working with positive emotions, thoughts, and actions.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry Ph.D.

Compassionate Listening

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The silence of the morning hours are the most precious moments I spend. It’s the time when I pray and meditate with God to connect with the pulse of creation and wisdom. In that silence this morning the message I heard was how powerful a person is while being a compassionate listener. To truly hear the heart of another with no condemnation or judgement is to be the greatest gift to this world.

Compassionate listening is to be silent while someone else speaks and truly hear the heart of that person. This is true of groups of people as well. We don’t have to agree to listen and hear. We don’t need to judge or even come to a conclusion, expression, or solution. Sometimes people just need to have someone listen and to be heard. When we listen to understand we become an ambassador who connects hearts instead of repelling them.

The greatest honor is to be trusted with the thoughts, ideas, and feelings of another. The greatest gift is to listen without judgement. It is in that context, in that moment, we become the greatest ambassador of love ever.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

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Sometimes We Just Need to Be Heard

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I began this blog a bit more than 4 years ago. It was because expression, communication, and my voice are always my strong place. I might seem unassuming to those who first meet me but don’t mistake my quiet presentation at first glance, as one of a shy demeanor. I’ve learned there are moments to be silent and times when rockets need to flare out of my mouth because the subject matter is just that important to me. Bottom line, if its important its going to get expression from me. It might not win a popularity contest for me but I’ve come to a point in life where having the integrity to stick to my boundaries out weighs anyone’s thoughts about me.

I have thought about the reasons I often speak the way I do, and at the times that I do. I’ve learned the answer from having sessions with my clients. There are times when we need to be heard or our guts will pour out, fall out, or even explode out. We sure don’t want the latter! The human heart needs expression just like an artist needs a canvas and paint. Our expression is our paint and the subject is our canvass. Sometimes I know I paint with precision and others I know I need to splash the paint all over and in every direction. Its all expression. Without it and without being heard, we are a bottle with a cork stuck in it ready to give way any moment.

Nothing is more frustrating or more degrading than to speak and not be heard. Its like sound that bounces off of a piece of stone and floods right back into the gut. It creates a sort of tidal wave inside of me when this happens. Being heard is important but being heard and understood is even more important. I am not talking about agreement. I am talking about understanding. I truly feel that understanding is one of the greatest gifts that can be given over to communication. Talking to someone who will not hear or understand is like talking to a brick wall. Very frustrating. I’d like to take a battering ram and create a break in the brick in those cases. Hearing and understanding is a part of compassion within communication.

I like to speak my mind, that’s for sure. Even if no one wants to hear it. Even if no one agrees with me. Even if there is no compassion or caring. There are moments when expression needs to convert to communication. If you have no one to communicate with, consider a pouring out session with me. I kid you not, you will feel so much better. Listening and hearing are two other things that are my best friends within communication skills. A lot can come to light and more understanding even if its just to hear yourself express your thoughts. You would be amazed at what the unconscious mind will feed into your conversation.

If you need to communicate, let me hear you, “Sign me up”! Don’t allow your stuff to become an exploding volcano. Take it easy on your body and allow tears to flow but more than that allow communication to flow like a river. Illumination will come from it and compassion will be the gift you can receive.

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry, Phd

832-484-8306  (for your venting and your need for someone to hear)