Feelings Can’t Be Neglected

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I’m not sure why emotional expression got such a bad reputation. Maybe it’s because they make so many people uncomfortable when they are expressed. This is not a great condition to be in. Being able to express feelings and emotions openly is the only way to heal a heart that has been broken, to let someone know how we feel about them, and to express love genuinely.

Those who can not express their feelings openly are easy to spot. They are either filled with nervous anxiety because someone is causing them to withhold them or being pressed down by someone who does not personally want to deal with them. It does not mean they are not there. When someone cannot express their own emotions, they seem to become a very angry and negative person. When someone’s feelings are suppressed by another, they tend to become depressed and despondent.

We all need expression. We all have differing opinions. Being able to express our views openly is not only healthy but our right. Freedom of expression is what our country has been built upon. When this is not allowed, then our country becomes sick. Freedom of expression is what our lives are built upon, and when this is not allowed, we personally become sick.

I can’t even state this truth enough. It’s why we need friends, family, counselors, and ministers. It’s because we need to express who we are safely and healthily. Without this luxury, we all become sick.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

Listening to The Messages of Our Bodies

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We all have felt that gut feeling that enters into our stomach area when something is not right in life. More often than not we ignore it. When we listen to the feeling by using silence and mindfulness we can uncover answers to our most pressing issues in life.

Our intuitive bodies and emotions are always guiding us. I’ve often heard that anger is stored in the bones. I am inclined to believe this is true. When bone issues start to show up it is time to release the anger in a safe way. Our emotions also will drive us when we pay attention. When that pressing feeling enters into our center it’s time to ask what this means and what we need to do about the answer.

When we are in meditative states answers come more easily. Silence speaks more loudly than we often realize. Within the quiet of a new dawn, I have received more messages that I might have missed in the middle of a noisy day. Allowing our inner messages to bypass our brains we find an opportunity to choose. Do we want to harbor bad emotions or let them go? Do we want to counteract the bad emotions and turn life into one filled with good emotional feelings?

It takes practice to get our body, mind, emotional communication right, but once we do, we have it! Practice catching your difficult emotions today and settle into some quiet to ask what you can do about them. Usually they can just be turned around into good feelings, thoughts, ideas, and emotions. When this is done we can change our lives. Be aware you might change your surroundings as well! This is always a good and positive thing when working with positive emotions, thoughts, and actions.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry Ph.D.

Self Care and Self Love: What is the Difference? (video)

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Healing and Restoration Through Memory

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I will always cherish the moments my mother would bring me grilled cheese sandwiches and tomato soup when I was sick as a little girl. She would tuck me into bed during the day, put a little black and white television in my room next to me and bring me my comfort food with a little glass of apple juice on a tray. All day, my job was to get better. I watched old black and white episodes of “I love Lucy” and anything else that came on after that.

Every now and then I would drift into a deep sleep and wake feeling much better. Sometimes Mom would bring me hot chocolate or some tea with sugar in it to soothe my throat or whatever else was bothering me. They were not medicine in the form of pills but they healed because love was in the giving of them and the receiving of them.

Sometimes on lazy Saturday afternoons I would wander into the spare room where the sun was shining brightly on the floor. I would have a book in my hand and ready to snuggle into a cozy green lounge chair with a blanket for the day. My day was spent lost in the stories of the book I had chosen for that day. The characters, the scenery, the chapters, became my reality just for that moment. It was so much more than that though. My thoughts were also lost in the innocence and beauty of the story and how the ending would unfold. It was not so much the story, the book, the chair, the sunshine, or the room that was healing to me, but the love I felt for myself at the moment. Self care is actually learned early on. We choose to somehow unlearn it over time. It’s like we begin to think spending time on ourselves is a waste of time so we lose out on that experience.

Whenever life becomes hard for me and tears end up flowing from my eyes and heart, I like to wander back to those moments in time. Since there really is no time when we think of eternity, my experience is just the same now as it was then. I get just as much comfort in the memory and reenacting the moment in my mind. In fact, it has been found that our bodies will respond to what we are thinking of and visualizing at the moment, just like they did when the actual event had happened the first time.

This is why it is so important to dwell on things that are uplifting for us. Our bodies respond to our thoughts. Whatever is good, pleasing and admirable; think on these things. The Bible always has had good advice. When I want to feel love I go back and dwell on what gave me that child like experience of love before I knew any different. Sometimes we overemphasize the harm of “comfort food” that we forget that sometimes there is a use for it. That would be when the act of giving it created a feeling and experience of healing love. If that is not what you are feeling then put down the cupcake! I think you get what I am saying.

Sometimes I close my eyes and watch myself play with jax on the hardware floor of an old three story house we used to live in when I was little. Or there was the time I used to use the floor heaters to pretend to make tea for my little tea parties. The memories are endless and they are so healing as long as I know I can stay with the good loving feelings that they can reproduce in my body. When this happens depression can be lifted, anxiety can be calmed and the body can be restored to a cell level. Our bodies “remember” what state it was in when those things happened. To our bodies there is no time or space. It is like the scene is happening again right at the moment of remembering and feeling.

On a particular windy day I remember walking down a familiar street and suddenly stopping to close my eyes and just feel the breeze against my face. I remember how I smiled at that moment. To this day, bringing back that memory when I am meditating will still bring me a smile.

I completely believe our bodies, minds, and souls can be restored just by allowing them to “remember” to that deep of a level. It’s not modern medicine. It’s not a pill, and it does not really make sense to many people but it does work! All we have to do is remember to remember. Our unconscious mind will bypass the conscious mind and take over like it has been waiting to bring some wisdom of thought! This is why hypnosis works so well. It brings the body into alignment with what is being programmed into the unconscious mind instead of analyzing every little thing that is happening in front of us. Habits can be changed to good ones. If we don’t reprogram our unconscious mind it will drive our lives with all the mess we have experienced over the years.

I ask you. Do you really want that? Or, do you want to be restored by the renewing of your mind?

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry

Being Bruised

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Lately, I have noticed bruises pop up on my body seemingly out of nowhere. It’s been happening for more than a month now. Even where my arm has felt trauma from injections for a recent biopsy, the bruising has been more than I usually would have. I thought maybe I’ve lacked a vitamin or something, but I take them every day and eat pretty well.

Today, I was spending my morning meditative time just listening to music and talking to God. Then suddenly, really without thinking why, I wrapped my arms around myself and gave myself a huge hug. I stayed that way for awhile because it felt so comforting and peaceful.

The thoughts came to me; those higher ones that seem to come bubbling up out of nowhere. I am bruised. My body is showing me bruising because my heart is bruised. I’m an empath, and I have taken other people’s bruising all of my life. It has never mattered if it was directed at me or not but a lot of the time it has been directed at me. People act out of their own bruises and soul pain. An empath will suck it in like a sponge. The energy and emotion has to go somewhere, so sensitive people and empath’s will retain it and become the walking bruised.

So today, I released it all, gently. Because that is how things should always be for me: gentle. It’s how God wants it; gentle. Some people are born awakened to God. Why that is, I have no idea, but we are. When that happens we see things differently from the beginning. We see and notice other people’s “stuff”. We see and feel their pain. We notice their struggle. We experience their joy higher. We know their lies, even the ones to themselves. We sense their inner soul pain, and we soak in their bad behavior toward us like arrows that have no other place to go.

We receive spiritual messages from literally everything and we have to share them because we feel like we would explode if we don’t. It’s meant to be that way, we are made that way. We are a walking message, already opened, and revealed no matter where we go. We seem to be solemn at times, quiet, and unassuming. We are soaking things in and processing. Then other times we are outrageously joy filled and we have felt like we just touched the soul of heaven. No, it’s not bipolar, its a difficult gift. It’s meant to warn, to direct, to be on guard, to ignite passion, to bring profound understanding, and to bridge the gap between God and humanity.

If this is you, rejoice! Your battle has been hard. You have been taxed more than any  one person ever should have. Life has seemed unfair because you have given more than you could ever imagine and yet you still take the sting from others stuff. It’s so you can point them the way to heal it. You feel there is no other choice, and there isn’t. You are one of life’s amazing gifts from God. You walk on earth, but it feels like the dirt is always murky thick mud because the struggle is real. Remember though, the lotus flower grows and blossoms in thick mud and it’s one of this earth’s most amazingly beautiful flowers. So are you!

Loving you from here,

Dr Rev Jenine Marie Howry

Truth About Energy Healing, Light, and the Body, Mind, Emotion Connection (Part 1 of a Series)

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Quite a few years ago I became interested in energy medicine after the loss of my son. I still can’t believe that it has been 20 years now! Understanding how I was going to get through the rest of my life was a challenge. Grief is such a hard thing to handle when it is as intense as losing a child. The effects of prolonged grief on the body and emotions can be devastating. I wondered if I was ever going to make it through it all. Obviously I did!

I prayed a lot during that time, talked to God, and did a whole lot of crying. The depth of crying of a mother who has lost a child is unlike any other. It’s like it comes from a deeper place than we ever expected existed. Believe me, it’s there. I found that depth during that time and I found God presence too. I also discovered energy healing. I began with an interest in Reiki which means “God’s Wisdom” and “life force energy.” It is a Japanese word and technique of energy healing based on energy or life force inside and outside of the body. Reiki is not a religion or spiritual technique. It is a therapeutic  exchange and balance of energy that brings harmony and healing to the receiver. Using Reiki methods energy can be moved within the body in order to bring emotional and also assist physical healing. It can be used with or without one’s faith, not much different than modern medicine but without some of the adverse effects of medications.

The process of receiving Reiki was so soothing and harmonizing I immediately wanted to become a Reiki Master and then a Chios and Shambala Master. They all work basically the same, with the movement and balancing of energy outside and inside of the body. Ancient Chinese medicine had integrated energy work and recognized the energy flows of the body centuries ago. Now modern medicine embraces the existence of energy centers within the body and how they affect the organs, emotions, and bodily processes. Much information can be read about this subject in a book called The Scientific Basis of Integrative Medicine. 

Over the years I have found in my own practice that energy work and energy healing can help bring forth stored emotional scars and help to heal them. Through allowing a person’s energy to guide the energy/emotional therapist to “see” imbalances, the client and therapist can  work together to clear them. This also goes along with emotional healing work, some types of talk therapy, and releasing stored emotions that can damage the body physically. I have read that it has been found scientifically that energy centers within our bodies do exist and they contribute to either the health or disease of the vital organs of the body and bodily processes.  I have personally found through work with my own clients that the discovery of emotional issues and the release of them through experienced energy work is very helpful in any healing process. Of course, like anything, it is a process. This means one can’t expect to see complete results in one session but several. Sometimes one session can bring out so much of an unconscious emotional issue it can take a while to process it while going through energy balancing.

Over time and practice I created my own process I call, Emotional Transformation Energy Balancing. The process is a combination of energy work, intuitive insight, talk therapy/coaching, breath work, and release. Again, this is a process which takes patience with one’s self and one’s feelings/emotions. All energy healing is self healing. All talk therapy and coaching is self therapy. It is only facilitated by someone who guides, acts as a sounding board, and interjects wisdom as it is received.

Believe me, this is just as much of a God thing as it is an emotional and physical one. All life is created by God and His presence dwells within us. We are made in God’s image. God created us unique, energetic and full of life force. Why would we not use this knowledge to help heal when God has gifted it to us? We use modern medicine and often trust the knowledge obtained through it. Why not trust the knowledge given to us through God about the life giving energy force that exists not only outside of us but within us as well. Again, energy work is not about religion, faith, and it is not contradictory to these things either. Energy and life force just “is” because God created it to be so, just like gravity.

To do this type of work on one’s self or for others it takes compassion, empathy, wisdom, and patience. It is an integrative process that can also be used for relaxation, meditation, along side medical treatments for those such as cancer or other diseases. Energy and breath work can also be used during childbirth, and in fact has been used for a long time without the label of “energy work”. For the sake of one’s faith, prayer applications and affirmations can be added. It all depends on the individual. There are no two alike and no two processes are the same. Like anything it works if we work it. One can’t be lazy and think something is going to be effective. Dedication to transformation and healing is just as important as dedication to a better diet or exercise. We are body, mind, and spirit. We are also energy and light charged beings. The moment one recognizes this is the moment true healing can begin. It is amazing what a release from a past trauma can do for one’s life and future. Mindfully learning to live in the now moment is a part of the process and recognizing, accepting, and allowing emotions and feelings to present themselves and heal is crucial.

There is nothing evil, voo do like, or spiritually unacceptable about the process. God gives us knowledge to use it. So, why don’t we? The only way to know is to experience it for one’s self. The whole process can be done in person, on the phone, or internet. Just like with modern medicine, faith and beliefs can be added. It’s all relevant and it’s all needed to step into a more balanced life. Learning to live with ease is a process of counteracting disease.

If you want a starting place, learn to breathe, accept, allow, and be mindful of emotions that present themselves. Looking at life as the observer is a much easier way of living than being so tied up in knots that eventually physical ailments appear. Release damaging emotions before this happens! Your body will thank you!

Loving you from here,

Dr Rev Jenine Marie Howry

Emotional Transformation Energy Balancing 

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Are You Living Outside of Yourself?

IMG_20171023_130408Do you find yourself continually affected by other people’s actions, attitudes, or things that happen to you? If you are, then you are not alone. We all tend to do this and for some reason make our lives harder than it has to be. Have you ever noticed if you walk into a room filled with people in a bad mood your mood tends to change to align with theirs? Or maybe your relationship partner will get to you by their actions or personality now and then. We all do affect one another’s lives but we are not meant to live outside of ourselves to the point where everyone and every other thing affects how we are or feel inside.

For some reason, people tend to be like sheep. We follow others instead of being our own leader. Jesus referred to people as sheep a few times in His conversations. I certainly can see why. The hard thing about living in a way where we are always affected by others, is that we never really end up finding ourselves in the mess around us. Leadership starts within because God lives within each of us. We are supposed to now be the temple of the Holy Spirit, and with that truth, be personally and individually guided by Him. We can’t live for others. We can serve them but not live for them. The idea is to learn to live our own lives from within ourselves.

God created you to be a unique human being, unlike any other. You are meant to be lead by His Spirit and to hear God for yourself. Your life is too precious to be a reflection of someone else’s. A life lived well is one lived true to one’s self and not mirroring others lives.

If you have looked into the mirror lately and have not recognized yourself. Maybe some good emotional release coaching would be of great benefit to you! You only have ONE life to live here on earth. Why not live it as the best you that you could possibly be?

In love and release,

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

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Nail It! What Are You Resurrecting?

iStock_000003036203XSmall-300x199As we approach Resurrection Sunday our thoughts are upon the cross and the death and resurrection of our Lord Jesus. His laying down of His life has to be the most profound event in all of history. For centuries the cross has been a symbol of salvation, freedom from illness, sinfulness, trauma, and our past. The moment each of us become aware of Jesus’ act upon the cross, and what that act has done for us, we are brought into His freedom from sin and death.

At the moment we accepted Christ, we began our journey of regeneration and unspeakable joy. At the same time we also discover that we don’t feel as free as we thought we would be. Life does not suddenly become a bowl of cherries. Why? This is because our old sinful nature still is affected by the experiences we had before we accepted Christ. The stored memories, the emotional trauma, the times we made such big mistakes come looming up at us in the darkness and take the dazzle out of the light. We are in the process of being transformed but we are not there yet.

Until those things are set free they lay in a tomb waiting to understand the resurrection to new life. We carry those things around with us and our lives become driven by them until they are nailed to the cross with Jesus. Those things need to experience death on the cross in order for those parts of us they affect to be resurrected into His new life.

We know those things intimately because we have lived with them in our lives. They come out at the most inappropriate times, in memories, through arguments, and others might point them out to us. Our emotions are triggered by the scars they created.

For the sake of transformation, I beg of you, don’t ignore them! Bring them out and vent them to the resurrected and ascended Lord; your Savior. Then nail them to the cross to die in the spiritual power of Jesus’ death.If they come up again, speak to them, “‘You’ have been nailed to the cross with Jesus! Bad memory, emotional trauma, horrible mistake, you can NO longer be a part of my life. Jesus has already set me free from sin and death!” Let the Lord resurrect the parts of you they affected into new life in Him.

Continued Prayer for You. Name It, and Nail It! 

Dear Father, in the authority and the name of Jesus, I nail___________ to the cross to die and never return. Now my emotions, my mind, my body, and my life, are set free from its affects from now on and through the rest of my life. __________ you can no longer return to haunt me, the devil can not tempt me, and the issue it caused can no longer hinder me. I thank You Jesus, for loving me, for dying for me, and for living, that I might live with You! amen.

May the Lord bless you in your new found freedom in Christ Jesus!

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

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