The Shoe is on the Other Foot

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It will happen. “The shoe will eventually end up on the other foot.” The statement, “The shoe is on the other foot,” means someone who had the disadvantage in a situation now has the advantage in some area. I don’t know why, but having a shoe on the other foot always makes me think I am wearing a shoe on the wrong foot! It’s not what it means though. It means a shift in power or placement in a life situation. It is Karma in it’s best example.

In other words, what goes around really comes back around. Its basic, easy to remember, and always works the same way. It’s a universal standard. On a deeper level, it’s a life lesson. For example, a person might be up for a promotion but brags over and over how they are better at their job than another coworker. That person might get the promotion and be very happy about it. Then they discover the coworker they put down also received a promotion, but now they are the individual’s BOSS! See how the shoe has ended up on the other foot? The advantage and the power has shifted.

Let’s put the example in a business relationship. A family owns a great Italian restaurant that features old fashioned Italian cooking. One side of the family suddenly decides they should change to more contemporary food items to keep up with the times. The restaurant is already making a great profit so the need to change does not seem warranted. A conflict arises and the contemporary Italian cooks decide to break off and start their own competing restaurant with an attitude of “We will show them!”

At first, it appears the new restaurant is going to do better. The public loves it! Yet, it turns out the newness of the contemporary way of cooking has worn off. The public always has curiosity about any new business and will go try it out. I know I love to do that! Suddenly the old style Italian restaurant begins to pick up in profits again, only this time they rise higher! The shoe is definitely on the other foot now.

This type of situation can only happen when there is conflict, competition, or an air of arrogance. It is about the intention of the heart or attitude. If there is an attitude of equality, love, respect, and admiration, there is never a feeling anyone is doing better than anyone else. The shoe can not be on the other foot if we are happy with our own shoes! In other words, be happy with where you are in life, otherwise change it! While you are changing it, have no superior attitude. Remember, life is not a competition with others. Life is meant to be lived in ease, with love, and no comparison. Embrace and celebrate others successes and be content with your own.

Hoping you are wearing your shoes on the right feet, and loving you from here!

Dr Rev Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

Your Weekly Wisdom: By Comparison

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Could we be anymore flooded with images of what we should be or need to be? Who decided when we are supposed to make certain landmarks in our lives and what our value is or isn’t if we don’t? What about our choices? For instance, why is a woman looked at strange if she chooses to not have children in her life?

I remember back in my old undergraduate days studying statistics in social sciences. Society creates these “norms” for living life. For some reason we are supposed to adhere to them or we are looked upon as deviant. The hard part about trying to live up to society’s norms is we all have a different idea of achievement and what that means to us. We also have different ideas about what is beautiful in a person. Some look on the outside. The more wise, I think, look on the inside.

So who is society? The answer is us; we are. Then if we are those who are not “boat rockers” we want to go with the flow of what the majority thinks we should or should not do. We go with what the majority puts out there how we should or should not look, act, create, succeed. The list can be long. If we are those who are not comfortable in our own life’s skin we will begin to compare ourselves to those, we think, or believe are. If we are not apt to step up to the plate to make change. We will compare ourselves to those who we believe or think are more impressive. There are a lot of reasons we might think we missed the boat if comparison is the way we live our lives. Stick to the public’s norm and be happy? I don’t think so. Look like someone else and be admired and confident? I highly doubt it. Achieve what someone else has achieved and be satisfied with our lives? Not likely.

Living life by comparison is a very self defeating way to live. I am not sure why we always tend to think that life is greener in someone else’s bank account, marriage, family, business, or clothing size.  If you are one who finds yourself living in this way, I am willing to bet you suffer from self esteem issues. How can anyone think highly of themselves if they are not looking at their lives as they truly are meant to be? How can there be gratitude and acceptance? No one can keep up with living for someone else, not even for societies poorly thought out norms.

The only way anyone can be truly happy is to learn to carve their own path. This week, look at your outer shell with admiration. Your body got you through a lot of things in life. See what you have as plenty. Many have a lot less than you do. Respect your bank account. If you have some funds in it then you have a lot more than nothing. Admire your life’s choices. Good or bad, you chose them, and that makes them important. I challenge you this week to not live by comparison. It’s a lonely, empty, self defeating place to be. Branch out and be truly who you are. There is no duplicate in the world who is like you, so don’t try to duplicate yourself to be like anyone else!

Loving you from here,

Dr Rev Jenine Marie Howry