Do an Honest Assessment of Yourself

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It’s not unusual for me to receive messages while in my sleep. I often wake up with them rolling around in my brain. I do not want to assume I know where they came from. I guess any answer can do. Information can be coming from God, angels, my higher self, or any other spiritual avenue. I am at the point of not even questioning how things happen with me or how I know or hear things. I just know it does, and that is good enough for me.

Honesty has been the theme of the morning as I drink my morning coffee. It is so important to take an honest assessment of one’s self. As I reflect on some incidents of the past that occurred in my life, my heart feels relieved. Honesty does two things:

  1. One is to give us a clear assessment of who we are as people. Honesty can reveal the deep inner issues we need to deal with and process through. Sometimes we need to forgive ourselves, and sometimes we need to confess our wrongdoing. God has control over that, and it’s between the individual and God.
  2. Honesty can also reveal the things that happened and were not our fault. When this happens, it is a great relief. Take the time to forgive others but also take the time to breathe in truth and comfort. When honesty reveals other people’s wrongdoing we have taken upon ourselves, it is time to let it all go. We are never responsible for other people’s actions, no matter how close they might be to us. Sometimes we are punished for what others have done because they are close to us. If the influence is in the family, then we have no choice. Our families are ours for a lifetime to learn, grow, and understand how to forgive.

When honestly brings us to the things we were punished for that others have done, it is time to forgive ourselves for holding onto the shame or guilt of it all. Society has a way of determining fault and pointing fingers when fingers should be pointed back at them. Usually, when finger-pointing happens, it is because they are the ones who need to process honesty.

When it comes to judging other people, think of these things first; Moses murdered, Noah got naked and drunk, prophets ran from their calling, women were treated as possessions and abandoned by powerful men whom “God had called.” We are not perfect beings. The point is God loves us anyway, and we are still a part of God. The heart is what matters. Each person reflected in biblical writings did wrong things. Well, I guess not Jesus. Aside from Him, we are all in the same rocky boat.

We might as well be honest with ourselves. Take a deep inventory of who you are, what you have done, and do it in the presence of God. Meditate on it and forgive yourself. You can not be forgiven for things you will never admit. No one is there except you and God or whatever angels are allowed to be there for you. Alright, you might have some crossed over loved ones present. I like to think the family is always with us. So, be honest with yourself today. It’s called taking moral inventory. Forgive yourself and ask for forgiveness of things you have done. Then be relieved and start each day again clear from all of those things you lie to yourself about because you don’t want to admit them to anyone. We all have those things. So it is alright.

Take the moral dumper and after you do, as I said, forgive yourself, ask God to forgive you, and move onward clear and clean. Being honest with ourselves is the way we are washed. Close your eyes and allow forgiveness, mercy, and grace to flow over you like a river. Take time for tears because they cleanse the soul. Your life will be freer because of it. Don’t wait on this. You are too important to let it go. In all honesty, you are worth it!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

https://jeninemarie.com

The Difficulty of Being Alone

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When I write my blog posts, I mostly get my information spiritually for others. Sometimes my writing is about myself. Tonight, this blog is for me. It is because my heart is aching, and it feels like no one would want even to come close to understanding. None of us can ever be an inspired person all the time. Life is just like a bowl of mixed nuts, all filled with different things that we end up eating along with everything else.

As I think back on some of the good things I have accomplished in life, I feel proud. There have been some great times and good moments that I cherish and hold dear. There have been some intensely sad moments when I thought my heart would break in half, but it did not. God has always been standing by with the glue gun to make sure my heart gets put back together whenever the need arises.

I think of those I have counseled over the years, the emotions I have calmed in others, and the situations I have brought people through, and I have to wonder why I never have the pleasure of being heard and comforted when the time arises. Do I appear too confident or together? Lately, I do not feel that way. Maybe I put out the air that I do not need anyone. It could not be further from the truth. We all need one another.

Sometimes I think of Karma and wonder if maybe there is something, I did to attract a situation where I always have to stand alone when things are the hardest. Can it be I tread on waters so torrential that no one else dares tread with me? Sometimes my heart is too sensitive. It’s what makes me compassionate. Sometimes my heart feels like It is going to break into a thousand pieces, like now.

Regardless of what the reason, I have felt almost invisible for the last seven years or so. My expressions of distress are met with things like, “I’m sorry to hear that,” or ” I hope you feel better soon.” Then the door is shut. As long as I have no uplifting words for someone else, there is nothing left to say.

I think to myself; I can talk to God and all the spiritual support I have. Tonight, I need more than that. We all come to a crossroads where someone who truly has mutual compassion is necessary. Suddenly I feel very alone. I am not lonely, just alone. There is a difference, you know. I can be alone for long periods and never feel lonely. Yet there are other moments I wish I had not walked the road I have. It appears to be a dark alley, and all along, I thought it was a bright tunnel filled with lights and guidance.

When guidance is not enough, yet God is enough, sometimes I need Him to send me some earth angels. I feel like my heart is hurting so much it can be heard all across the world and back, and yet all I get is an echo and then silence.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

God as Source and Home

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There were days in the past that I struggled so hard to grow, survive, and live. Every angle I chose, every road I took seemed to be the hardest ever. You see, I had five children to care for all on my own. I struggled every day of my life. Yes, there were days I cried my brains out. Then there were also days of great victory and support. Support always came from God as my Source. Whenever I feel I am struggling the most, I have forgotten who my Source is.

Life can always be more comfortable. Some things fly out of control, but we can find that control again. The things we can control are our attitudes, our faith, our choices, our mindset, and our ultimate decisions. We can choose faith over fear. We can choose to be gracious over ungrateful. We can choose to have a God mindset over an ego mindset. Our decisions can be wise ones, or we can select unwisely and must take the consequences.

Any time I felt weakness, it was not because I cried or felt down. Fault always has come from forgetting who I am and Who lives in me. Weakness always comes from disconnecting from the One with whom I have always belonged.  God is the Source of all my inheritance, my joy, my victory, and my convictions.

These have always been my convictions. Do I slip up sometimes? Yes! I slip up a lot, but I also chose that God would be my compass and sealed this eternal choice. With God as a compass, there is no going back. God will always arrange life so that I will drive my way home, no matter what. A home is a place of comfort, hope, and security. When we lose “home,”; we lose our comfort, hope, and safety.

My hope for you today is to find “home” and to determine your Source. Seal yourself in permanent betrothal with the One who always knows you best and will never let you down.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

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All Life Belongs to the Light of God

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I believe there is a place inside of us that reflects what God meant to be there. It is a heavenly place, created by Light, and in the image of divinity. We might not always act like we are God’s creation, but we are. Sometimes things are buried deep inside of us, so deep the Light of God is not seen. I repeat it’s there, though.

Like a baby born into space, it sucks into itself what is socially granted to him or her. Without any intention, from birth, we live the way we are socialized to live. As we grow, we learn to create a more sacred space, or not. It’s our choice. We can heal and have hope, or we can spoil in the soul scars we took on along the way.

No matter what stance we take, we are worth honoring because a genius Creator made us. We are life and a reflection of what that great love intended for us. We don’t always shine that way, although it is how it should be.  

Knowing this, we should honor all life no matter what form it takes. God created life with great intention, great love, and genius stamped upon it. For the respect of God, we honor. All life might not be honorable in action or deed, but we choose to forgive those things and praise anyway. Integrity is God’s pathway. Does a holy Father reject His son? Does a parent leave their offspring because of flaws they can not help?

What about the one who is buried deep within a mother’s womb? The sacred lies sweetly and innocently within a space created just for him or her. Should this sacred creation be taken from its nesting place before its time? Does it deserve to die when it has no choice of its own? We were all born with freedom of choice. Why, then, should we choose another? Is it not murder to disrespect a life that yet has no say?

Living in perfect formation, the unborn is innocent and has nothing to disrespect. The unborn are like sheep that are subject to slaughter, and we call it pro-choice. We say it’s a woman’s right to choose her own body, but does she have the right to select for one who is so perfect and innocent? Does she have the right to say this one who is yet to be born should not be? Do any of us have the right to take what is sacred and call it not holy?

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

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http://jeninemarie.com

Five Ways You Can Remove Coldness from Your Heart

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Have you ever seen such a time in history as we are going through now? We have so much strife in our country. The only place it can begin is in our spiritual walk and then within our hearts. Remember, our mouths speak out of the inner chambers of our hearts. The words and hateful comments coming out of the mouths of people these days are coming from souls that have become bitter and hateful.

There are some ways you can personally overcome and change the coldness that might be residing in your heart.

  1. Ask God to examine your heart. King David in the Bible did this very same act. David asked God to reveal any wicked way within; he wanted a pure and clean heart. David knew his mouth would speak out of the inner working of his heart. Therefore, the world could cloud David’s decisions with hatred or bitterness if he did not cleanse his soul and render it to God’s ways.
  2. Be willing to admit to yourself you have an issue within you and resolve to deal with it. If you can not accept this, then no change can happen. Only through our clear and honest evaluation can you overcome any bitterness that might arise out of your wounds.
  3. Accept that everyone has wounds. That includes you. When you see others know, they might also be acting out of their injuries. It is your responsibility to seek out healing for your wounded heart and soul scars. Once you recognize your inner wounds, it is time to take action. God within you can reveal internal injuries and helps you change your ways.
  4. Seek out to only speak light whenever you can. Speaking from a place of light means talking out of grace and mercy. Talking out of grace and mercy is taking upon yourself the characteristics of God. Remember, this does not negate wisdom. Sometimes we all need to be blunt and to the point. Ask God for knowledge in your heart and speaking, and He will give you wisdom
  5. Confess your wounds and the need for healing. Opening up to someone you trust is paramount to healing whatever it is within you. Becoming open is not a session where you point fingers at others. Your honest thoughts are between you and God’s presence within you alone.

Bringing more love, mercy, grace, and healing into this world starts with you. It has to start somewhere! Tell others what you have decided to do! Telling others will help the domino effect even more. Let the fire begin! We need a revival of good-hearted people arising in our country. A revival means loving those who do not love themselves. If we can’t love them in person because of their hearts’ harshness, then love them in prayer. Lift the spirits of those who are around you by pouring out goodness to them whenever you can. Do this without harming the boundaries of those you love. Remember where those are and stay within those lines!

You can do this! You can begin to change the world right now! Let the change begin within you and then with you! The country will thank you, and the world will thank you!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

http://jeninemarie.com

Ideas to Nudge Your Inspiration!

Glean from these great ideas to get your innovative ideas rolling again!
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We all go through dips, where inspiration and encouragement seem far from us. I decided to bring some good ideas to inspire those who are feeling a bit less motivated right now. Glean from these and create your own! Do not forget to dream. When you do, dream BIGGER!

Meditate to gain access to the seeds of innovation that live inside of you! We all have those God-given seeds of destiny planted within our spiritual DNA. When we seek, we find. Jesus taught us this great lesson! When feeling less inspired, dig deeper within, ask the right questions, and wait for the answers.

Keep focused on your destiny. Copying others will cause you to miss what future is meant for just you! God has a specific plan for your life. When you find those plans, point your determination due north and follow that star to your purpose!

Journal your ideas and read them back to yourself often. Writing will often cause inspiration to flow where you were once clogged. Journaling ideas or doodling them on paper will always help purpose flow. Thoughts are like rivers. They have their own current. Do not follow the river of others. Keep in your own river. Fish for the right things and draw up your nets from the areas that show you the most prosperity.

Record your inspiration in your own voice on your phone, computer, or recorder. Then play it for yourself over and over. Add ideas and create a running recording of all the things that come to you.

Watch for signs in life. God and angels bring us signs and ideas that lead us toward our destinies. We have help! Signs and words also come from other people. Keep attuned to what others say, record, or write what is relevant to you.

Keep fostering inspiration daily. Pray for it, and you will receive it. God created a Universe of desire, inspiration, and innovation.

Find a role model and study how they brought their ideas to fruition! We are all parts of a whole. We learn from others. Do not forget to give others credit where credit is due! They deserve it for all they have taught you!

Remember, you are bigger than you think. You are a vast person with infinite potential. All you truly need to do is believe, receive, and achieve!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

http://jeninemarie.com

Comfort and Success in Daily Habits

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

Every morning without fail, I go about the same routine. I love to wake up slowly. It is just my thing. I stumble to the coffee maker half awake and grab that warm mixture I create every day. Then, without thinking, I get into bed, meditate, write, read, or be as I drink my coffee. This is my time to be me. It’s a habit I have created over a long period of time, and I don’t deviate from it much.

Most of the time, when we talk about habits, we think of bad ones. There are good ones too! In fact, I have found the good ones can become a great comfort. They are just like a security blanket because we know they will be accomplished in the same manner we always do. We can count on them, and we don’t have to think about them. Habits don’t need will power to accomplish them. They are automatic conditioned acts and responses we have created over time.

 We only become aware of them when something comes along to interrupt them. One morning I woke up, and the ice maker was spewing water all over the kitchen floor. The line had broken, and I grabbed towels right and left, attempting to ensure the water was contained until it could be attended to. The one thing I noticed more than anything was my morning coffee and meditative time was interrupted. Had nothing unusual happened, I would not have given it a second thought.

Usually, when we want to make changes, we think we need will power to do it. Maybe it’s a new diet or exercise program. Or, it might be a new direction we want our life to go. Will power is not what we need, though. Will power never works. Only habits work. Whatever we want to accomplish has to be made into a habit, or we don’t do it. It has to be so automatic that we don’t even notice we are doing it unless it is interrupted, just like my coffee time.

I have heard it takes 21 days for the brain to establish a new habit. It has to be done every single day the same way it was the day before. It might take less time or even more depending on differences in people. The conditioning is the same, though. Some might liken this to classical conditioning in the field of psychology, and that is pretty much what it is. It does not have to be complicated, though. Just choose a new habit to work on and commit to it daily. It will become a daily routine over time, and you will do it without even thinking about it.

So, forget the diet will power or whatever it is you think mind over matter will accomplish. Just do the same thing daily for a period of time until you see the result. It will come! If you brush your teeth daily, have coffee and meditate, enjoy some time out in the sun before your shower, without even thinking about it, you can find another thing to add, and your life will be happier for it!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

http://jeninemarie.com

Reference:

Rubin, Gretchen (2015). Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives. Crown Publishers New York. Print.

Let’s Bring Good Change and FAST!

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Each passing day it becomes apparent that the world is changing so quickly. Aside from the natural things going on with our planet, some people are changing too. I’ve always had faith in God that He planted the very best in people; created in the image of the divine. Yet, God also gave us freedom of choice too.

We can choose right over evil, compassion over destruction, or beauty over ashes. It seems more people are choosing wrong over right lately. I wonder if they know they are mistaken. Do they care if they are destroying the inner working of their lives: therefore, others too? We are all connected. It’s like God created a great big puzzle out of us. We are all a part of the whole.

When one person harms someone, we are all harmed. Our lives have a ripple effect. The only way to counteract it is to create better at a faster rate. So, I am going to challenge you today. Go and see how much good you can do in this world today. Let the good things be the bigger wave! Let freedom be in the hearts of all of us. Let us heal one another.

There will always be those who do not care to create good in the world. Its called the pride of life in the Bible. We can tip the scales, though. We can make so much good that the prideful will shrink down and humble themselves. If we want better for our children and those after them, then we at least must try. We have a lot to lose if we do not.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

832-484-8306

May You Find Forgiveness and Peace!

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“A life well examined is a life that embodies peace,” Dr. Jenine Marie

Inner reflection is time well spent. When time is used to examine our lives for the harm, we might be responsible for; we have entered a place of mastery. It’s easy to blame others, leave things in the dark, or let things go and not deal with them. When time is used to find our wrongdoings in life and seek out forgiveness for those wrongs, we make room for new growth in our lives.

It is a lot like pulling weeds from a beautiful garden. Once the weeds are pulled, the garden is free for more growth, expansion, and beauty. We are that garden. Our inner spaces are just as important as our outer presentation. Taking time to seek out the weeds and pull them to the surface to deal with them is a labor of love. Once we have sought forgiveness for those moments that have not been so lovely, we are freeing up space inside us to expand and grow into a better version of ourselves.

Forgiveness shares space within divinity. Often, we think of forgiveness as something we do for others, but actually, it is what we do for ourselves. Sometimes we think we do it for God. God does not need for us to be forgiven but God wants us to be. Our lives can be as exciting as we can make it, but without forgiveness for our wrongdoings, we are not growing.

Do you want to get past all the past? Maybe you have not taken the time to examine the inner workings of your heart. Be honest with yourself. Have you forgiven yourself and others for what has happened in life? I believe our lives are entirely examined the moment we take our last human breath and move into only spirit. You might not think you need it. If you want more freedom, if life is not what you would like it to be, then you need it!

Do not waste another moment hiding in the shadows with your issues. In the light of God, you hide nothing. During this Day of Atonement or any day, examine your heart. Ask God to help you and to reveal any way in you that might be less than free because of the sludge of unforgiveness. Forgive yourself, forgive others past transgressions against you. You need not draw hurtful people back into your life, or even keep them. Just forgive them. Free up space in your garden. Stop looking and pointing out other’s faults or mistakes. Yours are worth looking at, and you are worth freeing!

Loving you from here,-

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

832-484-8306

You Can Manifest Your Goals. Don’t Give Up!

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One of the hardest things to do is get moving again once good habits have been let go of. There are always those defeating thoughts that go through our minds, like, “When I get enough money I will buy some new exercise equipment and then I will get into shape.” Or maybe this excuse hits home, “I’m not feeling well today. I need an indulgent treat to get through this emotional time. I will get more healthy tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, next decade…” Meanwhile, life is passing by, time is going faster than we realize, and before we know it we feel lost.

I’ve seen this a million times in others and myself. It makes no difference what the goal is, the excuse seems bigger. The only thing that has to change to make a goal a reality is to make the goal bigger and more in focus. Whatever we focus upon always comes closer to us. We see this in daily synchronicities all of the time. If our thoughts are on dragonflies,  suddenly we see them everywhere. When our thoughts focus on the main goal we want to achieve; the answers, the incentive, and the victories are displayed everywhere.

We live in a universe that has been set up by God to be supportive and it always is as faithful as its massive Creator. Focus on self love and more self love comes to you. It’s no accident, it always works. What really hits things out of the ballpark is to BE what you are in desire of manifesting and you will see your victory in front of you all of the time until it becomes a reality.  Feel and see your goals with every part of your being and you will draw to you the most amazing help and victories you ever have witnessed.

Sometimes it takes a small crawl before hitting the highway to do a long jog. Sometimes we have to be willing to start at the beginning before we can ever see the end. The main thing is to begin. When you do, you will see, you will have more encouragement you ever have witnessed to get you right where you want to be.

Think of something you want to manifest more than anything else on earth. Keep that image around you all of the time. Write down the pathway you want to take and then add photos to encourage you on the way. Feel the result with every part of you. Be the result and you will have your dreams and victories. Don’t allow trials or setbacks to discourage you. Get back up, get on the road, and make that victory yours!

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry, PhD