It Used to Be…

Something came over me today about how things “used to be” in this world. Sometimes we take for granted that “this is how it is now” and forget who we are or were. So things started flooding into my mind about how things used to be. I felt a little sad until I realized things can change for the better, always. So here is my list of “used to be” things :

It used to be when someone lied not only did they apologize when it hurt someone but they were expected to apologize. It’s called accountability.

It used to be people valued their position in their job so much that they treated those who worked for them with respect. They knew they would not be where they were but for those who worked hard to keep them there. It’s called integrity.

It used to be when we called someone they called us back, not leaving a text, a voicemail, an email, or an excuse. It’s called mature communication.

It used to be we helped someone when they were down and lifted them up. It’s called compassion.

It used to be when we reached out to someone they responded in love instead of ignoring our hearts. They genuinely wanted to help. It’s called responsibility.

It used to be people would right a wrong by being upfront and apologetic. It’s called honesty.

I’m sure I could go on with my “used to be” things but I will leave it open. It’s food for thought, right? When we were in kindergarten we shared our cookies with those who did not have any. Why can’t we share supplies and food with those who need it? When we were in kindergarten we didn’t understand “hoarding”. hmmm

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

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Is Love Supposed to be Defined and then Divided?

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I had to giggle out loud when I saw a posting that compared “real love vs imaginary.” I thought to myself, “Seriously?” The very first thing that spirit brought to my mind was the Scripture, ” For God so loved the world that He gave…” Of course, the personna is there ie. “he” when God clearly has been defined as spirit and not a person. Then the next place spirit went with me was the creation of the world story. Out of the higher consciousness, or higher mind of our Creator our world was formed and fashioned. Was this not a thought or imagination that created the world? So if God created the world first out of thought and imagination and God also loved the world then imagined love is still love itself. Imagination creates.

Love is defined in biblical terms in qualities such as patient, kind, long-suffering, basically tolerant, etc. Either way, love is love. It all begins with thought and imagination and it is all valid. Even if love is not returned it is still our love that is valid. Love need not be returned and there is no degree of love. Love simply “is,” and it stands on its own.

Love expresses itself in different ways through relationships. First, it is our relationship with God’s light inside of us. We express love within ourselves and in fact, should embody love if we have any sense of God. In this world, our love can be directed as friendship, romantic love, love of family, and love for our planet or pet. Where we direct love does not validate or invalidate it. Love simply is love. God is love and God simply “is.”

PLEASE don’t let anyone invalidate you because you “love” them. Your love is valid and it is alright to experience it inside of you. Would you rather have hatred? I fully believe we are not meant to love just one human on earth and that is it. We are meant to love as God loves, and see the good where we direct it! Please don’t see love as limited but a limitless gift is given to you by your Creator to direct wherever you desire!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

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When someone awakens, they come to a realization or awareness about something more vast in life. This is not just merely opening one’s eyes to see but one’s heart to embrace, one’s mind to understand, and one’s spirit to embrace truth. The response to awakening to a new understanding concerning our existence, spiritual truths, and new concepts is like waking up on Christmas day and discovering a whole new type of gift waiting to be unveiled.

There is a child-like innocent joyfulness to begin to walk with a more open heart and embrace truths that once were in the dark but are now exposed to the mind. Once things are exposed, they can not be covered again. Even if an individual tries to turn a blind eye to them, they transcend the darkness within a person’s own spiritual sight. Once we understand something to be true, it can not be untrue again. Once we understand, we can not misunderstand. Once we see, we can not go back to being blind. The gravitational pull toward the honesty within the soul can never return to where it was.

Awakening is arising to embrace a more vast understanding of who we are, why we are here, and our divine purpose for being here. It is a transcendent pull toward serving humanity from simply serving one’s self. This comes from our capacity to see ourselves as one human existence with many pieces within the puzzle of life. We come to understand what Jesus spoke of when He asked the Father to make us One as He is One with His Creator.

It is a new birth into a new and more broadened lifestyle. Awakening sparks creativity, charity, love, and healing. There is no healing without transcending to new levels of understanding. We can not heal stuck in the same mud we have walked in for years. Healing takes movement, trust, allowance, and an open heart. When we awaken, we honor ourselves as a whole and are filled with possibilities instead of hindrances. Jesus spoke, “There is none so blind as those who will not see.” He spoke of spiritual blindness and a willful closing off of what is truth. His description is true blindness that causes sickness of the soul.

Our healing of ourselves and humanity depend upon awakening to who we are, why we are here, and our interconnectedness to all of what has been created for us to experience. Our lives and existence depend upon our acceptance of one another within our fold because we are One in the eyes of God. Therefore, we must become One in our own eyes to be a humanity filled with love and God’s light. Healing takes place through accepting what is and rejecting what once closed our hearts off to the reality that we are nothing without one another.

Be all you can be, and seek out an awakened heart and soul. Seek, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the spiritual door will be open with light that shines brightly into your heart and spiritual eyes.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

“Compassion” Will You Please Stand Up?

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As I picked up the vacuum this morning to do a little house cleaning, I found myself becoming more than emotional. It’s not unusual for me. I am an empath, so this happens to me a lot. My heart suddenly felt like it dropped into my stomach. I stopped the vacuum and took a deep breath. Something has been on my mind and in my heart lately and it has to do with compassion in this world.

A memory came back to me during a time when I published a newsletter that circulated around for a couple years or so. One particular article was submitted by my mother concerning my reaching out as an editor and writer. One way she described me in the article was an individual who could never understand why people treated each other with such lack of love and compassion. As I grew I came to know and understand that the dark sides of life tend to make the light look so much brighter. In the balance of things we tend to create both in this world. I still struggle with people’s lack of compassion for others. I guess I could describe it as the worst form of “self centeredness”.

I realize that not everyone is at the place of understanding how we all affect one another and also “what goes around comes around”. I can’t help wishing some days that more of humanity would learn this. Give out compassion, receive it. Give out grace, and receive it. Give out self centeredness and get that back in experience. The only thing I know of that intercepts this Karmic law is God’s grace. Unfortunately, most people have to come to a point of desperation in order to even look for God, let alone ask for grace and forgiveness.

Although I’ve written on compassion before, it is a sensitive topic for me today. I have tears as I write this; not for myself, but for the hard heartedness I see and wish there was a lot less of. The Bible speaks of a perfect Kingdom. We really truly are not there yet. It would be nice to have it though. I only know to do my part, and that is to send out compassion with my prayers and intentions as much as I can. Every individual makes a difference and every person affects humanity as a whole. It’s a large view, I know! It’s the truth though.

This morning I found myself asking if compassion “could please stand up.” “Compassion, I need to see you today!” So, in a big way, today I am closing my eyes and sending compassion wherever it needs to seep into. Compassion, please enter into the dark places in the hearts of humankind, and cleanse out the dark places, misunderstandings, hurtful feelings toward others, and self centered absorption. I don’t have the answer to world peace, but I do know we can choose to be a piece of it. It can be hard, especially when the world seems unfair and we really want to take on a tude about it. We have those days. But, please get back in balance! We all need you and whatever love and compassion you can give this world.

“Compassion, please stand up and take your place in the hearts of humankind. We need you today and every day.”

If you will, close your eyes for a moment and think of someone or something you truly love. When that love feeling fills your heart, send it out with intention to every area of the earth. Imagine compassion and love seeping into the dark places and hold this image as long as you can. I know I will be grateful for you today. Let compassion be your way of life and as a part of love on this earth.

Loving you from here,

Dr Rev Jenine Marie Howry


Ever Wonder What Your “Self” Is?

pexels-photo-954559.jpegI recall a pivotal moment when I heard the expression, “Out of all the things you miss in life, do you miss your mind the most?” I’m not sure who first said that, but I would certainly give credit if I could. I only know it was years ago now and I had to stop and think about it. Do I miss my mind, and what does that really mean? If my mind is missing, does that mean I am out of my mind? So many questions, so little time, right?

More confusion came lately as I began to study for my doctorate. I was reading books faster than a speeding bullet and I am pretty sure I broke the sound barrier one night. Several books later and probably about a pound of pretzels, I found myself getting real irritated. All I kept reading about was the “self”. Old adages came back to my brain, “Be true to yourself,” Be real with yourself,” Be kind to yourself.” I could feel my eye brows taking the concerned look and then my right one going up like I had a strange question. I knew it was coming. I waited. Then there it was. “Do you really KNOW yourself? Oh dear God! Out loud I suddenly found myself saying, “Oh self, self SELF!”

Like a magnet, I found I was suddenly attracted to the mirror. I looked real deeply. Who IS this person looking back at me? For heaven’s sake I know every line crinkle and crease of the face that was looking back at me.  I really tried to focus. I told myself all of the things I have done and come through. I am the one who endured this and I came through that. I am also so and so’s mother and his wife, her minister, her friend, a prayer partner. Dang, the list went on and on but I realized not one of those things really described my “SELF”.

Think about this. Take away all of the things you identify yourself with. Take away the writer, the cook, the cleaner, the worker bee, the husband or wife. You get the picture. Now that you are empty. Answer this question. Who the heck are you, and who or what is your SELF? I guess we could all use those descriptive things like being a child of God or a treasure in this universe. I’m shaking my head here because that is still not it. I never realized how much we label our “selves”. Crazy, huh? I was at a loss. Who was this self all of the books were talking about, and what does it mean to me?

I felt myself just sigh right at this moment. I never took the time to find out! I realized that I have always identified myself in the reflection, or in the relation to other things or people. Without all of those things, what is there left? I looked in the mirror again. Just me. I swear at that moment I could hear God. You know, that moment where Moses talked to Him on the mountain and He told him His name was “I AM”. I heard “I AM”! I closed my eyes and pictured God in me, and heard the whisper…”I AM”. Just as mysterious and mystical as God Himself, I could feel that “I AM”. Ever try to describe God without stating what He does or what He is in relation to us?

For a moment, I sat in the silence. This transcendent, esoteric, strangeness came over me. I sat there with just “I AM”. Whooosh! The calm and the quiet peace was so silent it was loud. Does that make sense at all? I am here because God birthed me. That was my main thought. I am here, and even more profound, because I am here the world is complete. Now that is a lofty statement, right? But its true! Think of this. You are here and so therefore the world is complete and would not be complete without you. The serenity (my new buzz word) is just so thick we can almost touch it at even the thought of who we really are and how important our “selves” really are.

Imagine a chain with a broken link. Would it be strong enough to endure all things if that link was too weak to hold the rest together? That is us. That is humanity. Without any one of us at our appointed time the chain is too weak to hold us up. We are THAT connected. Our deep self is that important to the rest of everyone else. After all these thoughts hit me I struggled just to make sure I was not on some strange sugar high or a massive pretzel carb load. Nope, I knew it right then and there it was all true. My SELF is the link in the chain that makes us all strong, along with all the other links.

Wrap your head around this. Without you, we are lost. Together we create a humanity that is the image of God because He made us in His image. There is NO separation from God or each other. So when a loved one leaves this planet they are not “lost” as we describe them. They are found! They are right here, still connected to this great soul train that God brought to life in the beginning with one deep breath. Phew. Now that is heavy lifting!

Needless to say I did finish reading all of the rest of my books for my school work. But now I have a better idea of how important our “self ” really is and all of the quirky things about us that make us a unique person. Don’t ya just love it? You will never ever be lost because you are tied to the greatest creation in all the earth. Human kind.

Loving you from here

Dr Jenine Marie Howry