Truth: Everyone, I mean, EVERYONE has good things about them and not so great things. We all struggle with the SAME condition. It’s called being HUMAN. If this were not true we could all pack up and just go home. Our mission would be done. But, our mission is not done. We are not perfect, and we are not ready for the purity of our spiritual home yet. As much as we would love to always walk in spiritual practice, see with spirit eyes, and love one another the same, it is not complete in us as of yet.
I am stating this truth because I have another point to make here. Since we are all flying on the same worldly aircraft here, we all struggle to get things right in our lives. We make mistakes. We are human beings. The odd thing about how we see people is we see them how we choose to see them. They are actually a reflection of ourselves. So for instance if Suzy is a great cook but horrible at sewing, don’t criticize her for her sewing flaw just because you are great at it. You might be a lousy cook! Do you get my point here?
If you look at someone and ONLY see their flaws it is YOUR flaw that is showing. That is why Jesus advised to take the log out of your own eye before you judge the speck in someone else’s. A person in our lives is a reflection of how or what WE choose to see. The other way around, if there is someone you look at and only see the good things about them, it’s a great thing! You are looking at them with love and positivity. But, be careful with this one too! You can get yourself in one hot mess not being honest about another person’s character.
Here is my advice. Be honest about YOUR character. How are YOU doing? Life in any respect is always a reflection of how you choose to see it and who you are from the inside out. If two people are looking out over a body of water at sunset, one might see the pollution in the water while the other might see the beauty of the sunlight reflecting off the water. One will think its ugly, the other will think its breathtaking! If you only see toxic water and not a glorious sunset with brilliant colors then maybe it’s YOU who needs to adjust your view.
As I thought about writing this blog post I wondered what it really would accomplish. I actually was going to get some sleep but suddenly I felt the desire to write this. This is a different blog post than what I usually write. I’ve always been somewhat of a teacher. I’ve been a Pastor, mentor, friend, and sometimes a challenge. Over the years I know I probably have had more hardships and heart aches than one woman should have to endure in one lifetime. I’ve also done some pretty amazing things too, and that makes the other things seem less painful.
All in all I think I’ve done well. I’ve made mistakes but I do know the intentions of my heart have always been good. That I am certain I can be proud of. Opposition always comes in life. We would never grow if there was not a force to come against us to make us stronger. Although opposition breaks me down, it also builds me up, just like when a body builder works on muscle tone. Every muscle breaks down first and then the scar tissue it creates makes it bigger and stronger. That’s why I know I should write this. I’m being made stronger.
Recently, I witnessed some mockery of me. I think I should be more flattered than upset. After all, I’ve been down this road before. It’s always the same. Someone sees something that they wish they had or could do and they decide to create some sort of circus act out of what is supposed to be the good parts of us. It doesn’t mean it feels good. It always hurts. If I have a heart it will hurt no matter how many times it happens or who it comes from. I have decided it’s alright, because if it did not hurt it would mean I am hardened in my heart and I don’t want to be that way. I just have considered the gross immaturity of those who just have not grown up enough to understand until it happens to them. Believe me, it will. We do live in a spiritual state of sowing and reaping. We can call it Karma if we like. It’s the same no matter what we call it. What goes around always comes back around.
When I look back into history, I think of all of the people who have gone through so much. They are those who were mocked, talked about, endured attempts at deception, and lied about. I think some of that behavior comes from envy but most of it from gross immaturity. There were cases where it was just plain evil and hatred. There have been amazing people who have gone through so much while working toward doing such great things. There was Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. who lost his human life while doing passionately what he believed in. Of course there have been countless military men and women who have sacrificed their earthly lives over decades and even centuries for what they believe in. We can also squeeze in John the Baptist and Jesus in the group, along with every prophet biblical stories are about over many years. Jesus’ life was probably the most profound on this earth. He made such an impact we even divide time before His birth, during His ministry, and after His death.
I always marveled at the stories of the wonderful healings Jesus did and still does. I marvel at His words because they are filled with such wisdom and love. Yet, he hung on a cross, crucified, beaten, and torn, while everyone watched. People had no idea those days Jesus suffered that all of humanity was broken open as well. Just like Adam and Eve were stripped naked in their lies, humanities hatred was laid open naked for all of history to see in one crucifixion moment. The story is always the same. Goodness is challenged by hatred in any form someone can come up with. Deception, lies, mockery, and emotional crucifixion still are alive in this world because we are humans who suffer from forgetfulness of who we really are and who created us for divine purpose.
In moments of immaturity our sisters and brothers slam one another in fits of human amnesia. I guess you can tell my heart feels saddened tonight. I have for some time. I’m not sad for myself, although I do feel hurt. I am more sad for those who just don’t get it. When I created a video today I spoke about a message left behind from my dear heavenly son. He said, “We can’t live without love.” I have to echo his thoughts. We can’t.
I’ll get over my heartache. I am not a stranger to what humans do to one another. I will forgive the best that I can. Sometimes it’s hard, but what matters is I keep on trying. When I want to be bitter or anger gets the best of me, I remember that we can’t live without love. Love begins inside of us all, so I know it has to live in me first before I can embody whatever God’s character is. God forgives the foolishness of this world and I am so glad for that truth. That means every time I have done something I consider stupid, I know that God understands. I might get some discipline, but in the end I will get love, grace, and forgiveness. That is what I hope for those who do not understand tonight. For those who make a mockery out of the lives of those who are just trying to live the best way they can. Forgiveness comes so much easier when I realize it is their pain they are mirroring to the rest of the world, not mine. Humanities nakedness is still exposed. Not everyone is noticing, but some are. I’m grateful for those who carry with them the maturity God grew in them.
I have a habit of being too hard on myself in cases I just witnessed but not this time. This time is different. We are all hurting little girls and boys until God helps us grow up into mature and powerful individuals we are meant to be. Until then, “Forgive us all, dear God, we don’t always know what we are doing.”
I’m not sure where this belief came from for me but I truly believe our whole year will unfold the way we start it off. I know it is only linear time but as humans we determine and schedule our lives by it. There is also something spiritually energetic about the end of one year and the beginning of another. It is a moment of deep reflection of what is now behind us and almost an exciting expectation of what is ahead. The good thing is we get to plan much of what is ahead of us! We do this by setting our intention as to what we desire the new upcoming year to look like. Most of us call those intentions “resolutions”, or in other words, we have a resolve to accomplish a certain thing. Intention is stronger. It means we are placing the power of our thought processes to make sure we accomplish the goals we desire for the year to come. Remember, our lives will follow our thought processes. It sounds very psychological but actually it is a very spiritual process.
In the image of our Creator, we create with our thoughts as well. We are that express image and can also express the mind of Christ through our intentions. We can accomplish anything from spiritual to practical and it is not that hard. Placing our best foot forward, the first step is to consider what we learned from past experiences and work on entering into the new year with fresh integrity. Here are some thoughts:
Live a life of honest integrity. Don’t cheat on anything. From your spouse, to taxes, to your diet, keep strict honesty. Don’t take what is not yours. The karmic repayment is peace of mind.
Walk the talk. Whatever it is you promise; do it. Don’t forget to fulfill what your mouth speaks. God says it is better to not promise at all than to promise and not fulfill it. The karmic repayment is relationship harmony. When a promise is always fulfilled then people will trust you, and you will have relationship balance.
What you place most of your focus on is what will become biggest in your life. If you focus on what you can not do or what is impossible, then that is what you get. If you focus on what is all possible then you will accomplish all of the things you set your mind to. The karmic repayment is satisfaction and esteem concerning goals that are fulfilled, and strength in the faith to secure them.
What you place most importance on is what you draw most near you. If you place your highest importance upon your family and marriage, or any relationship, you will receive harmony in those areas. If it is your employment then the harmony will be there, but will be lost or less in other areas. Remember, relationship is what we are about on earth. Make the most important ones your main focus. The karmic repayment is a firm foundation within those relationships and you will have those people near you when times are hard to also be a support for you.
Cleanse your life and rid yourself of anything that is from the old year that no longer serves you. Clutter, stuff, old emotions, bad relationships, anything that does not belong in the plans you have for your upcoming year. Excess baggage just weighs you down, so leave the baggage behind you. Old things do not belong in renewal or you will not have any renewal. When the energy of those past things are cleared away it creates space for new successes to enter into your life. You would not buy a brand new house and fill it with garbage. Right? So take out the garbage right now and let the path be clear. Life is like the ocean tides. It rises to the shore, sweeps away the sands, and the new sand is uncovered and washed as a result. Let the tide continue! The karmic repayment is a life that is clear to see ahead and the driving will be so much more smooth without too much to weigh you down.
Be generous. A giving person is a happy person. Generocity is a gift of love that keeps on giving. The karmic repayment is a heart filled with love for humanity and will attract the very best for you all through the year!
These are just some things. Maybe sit and journal some of your own.
Expectations from others are hard to keep up with. Everyone has a different opinion of who or what we might be. This is hard for those who are people pleasing types. It can cause our thoughts to go one way, and then the next, creating a great deal of confusion on our life’s journey. What is really happening when people place expectations upon you is, they are wanting you to live or think the way they do. The problem with this is we don’t always agree with each other.
When someone expects something of us or for us to be a certain way, they are looking outside of themselves inside of inside. We get into a mess when trying to control our outer environment, especially people. When we accept their expectation and change then that person has controlled us and who we are. They are also empowered in a way they should not be. No one should determine who or what we are.
The hard thing is most people want to please others or make them happy. So, we end up adjusting to their desires so we can see that happen. This does not serve anyone. What does serve us is to be just exactly who and what we are with all the bumps, scars, and bruises that we have obtained along the way. Our lives might not be perfect, but they are still ours to be in command of.
To keep from adhering to other’s expectations, take an inventory of what you want in your life and who you truly want to be. If any of the things you come up with are different than what others expect, then set your intention to be empowered as to what you desire and not swayed by other’s ideas. We were all made unique and imperfect. We are meant to be that way. Don’t try to live up to someone’s sense of perfection. We can’t do it anyway, so why try?
Be who you are. Right now. Take the step and take that inventory. If you need help discovering and going over what that might be, then book a session with me! I would love to help you escape the habit of adhering to other people’s expectations. We are not clones of each other. Can you believe that you can be anything you want or desire to be? If you can’t answer this question as a yes, then it is time to talk and get straight with yourself on your life plan, who you are, and what you truly want out of life. We need to make it solid, so you won’t be swayed! I can help you do this if you are open to accepting assistance with it! If not me, then choose someone to be accountable to! You will thank yourself in the days and years to come. Riding someone else’s horseless carriage will never get you where you want to go. Only your own vehicle can do that!
Early this morning I heard there was a 4.5 earthquake in the state of California. The faults are just adjusting and relieving some pressure. I feel that same need sometimes too, don’t you? When life gets on my nerves it’s almost like sleeping on my arm too long. Sooner or later it’s time to adjust. Movement causes relief and we always know when we need to do it. The pressure builds up. We become uncomfortable, emotional, and sometimes down right cranky. Let it go long enough, next thing we know there is a fire blazing. California is a great example of this too. I think the state has a temper. Or maybe she just needs an adjustment?
When scientists study the reactions that happen from beneath the earth’s surface they come to theories as to why things need to shift. We have those same excavation capabilities. Go deep enough and it is easy to see where the cranky is coming from. Usually it means a change is coming or needed. If we don’t recognize the need, sometimes the change comes as a surprise, much like a good old fashioned California earthquake.
Honestly, everything has to shift. Nothing ever stays the same. I think it was Plato who first made that conclusion. When things become unbearable to the point where we are cranky more days than not, it is a good indicator that things are about to shift either by choice or by force. Sometimes both! Nothing ever becomes new or exciting without a good shift. I think that is why I love to move to different places so much. I am not fond of the process but the shift gives things a sense of newness that is usually much needed. Maybe I should have been a gypsy?
Internally, we move as well. Emotionally all things need a shift now and then to relieve the steam and pressure. I can close my eyes and take a deep sigh because I know what that feels like. Sometimes it is a shift in belief, mindset, or a new way of dealing with things. Whatever brings relief is what we should seek as long as it is not an addictive, or harmful thing. Sometimes it’s a new business or job. Others, it might be a new state or location. Then again, it can be a whole new mindset and way of believing. Meditative practice is a great new shift. I am all for peace of mind. It never comes without some sort of new action or change.
Without shifting there is no growth or maturity. We become unsettled and build up tension. Just like the earth we find it time to shake things up a bit just to allow the jolt to let us see life from a different perspective.
As I picked up the vacuum this morning to do a little house cleaning, I found myself becoming more than emotional. It’s not unusual for me. I am an empath, so this happens to me a lot. My heart suddenly felt like it dropped into my stomach. I stopped the vacuum and took a deep breath. Something has been on my mind and in my heart lately and it has to do with compassion in this world.
A memory came back to me during a time when I published a newsletter that circulated around for a couple years or so. One particular article was submitted by my mother concerning my reaching out as an editor and writer. One way she described me in the article was an individual who could never understand why people treated each other with such lack of love and compassion. As I grew I came to know and understand that the dark sides of life tend to make the light look so much brighter. In the balance of things we tend to create both in this world. I still struggle with people’s lack of compassion for others. I guess I could describe it as the worst form of “self centeredness”.
I realize that not everyone is at the place of understanding how we all affect one another and also “what goes around comes around”. I can’t help wishing some days that more of humanity would learn this. Give out compassion, receive it. Give out grace, and receive it. Give out self centeredness and get that back in experience. The only thing I know of that intercepts this Karmic law is God’s grace. Unfortunately, most people have to come to a point of desperation in order to even look for God, let alone ask for grace and forgiveness.
Although I’ve written on compassion before, it is a sensitive topic for me today. I have tears as I write this; not for myself, but for the hard heartedness I see and wish there was a lot less of. The Bible speaks of a perfect Kingdom. We really truly are not there yet. It would be nice to have it though. I only know to do my part, and that is to send out compassion with my prayers and intentions as much as I can. Every individual makes a difference and every person affects humanity as a whole. It’s a large view, I know! It’s the truth though.
This morning I found myself asking if compassion “could please stand up.” “Compassion, I need to see you today!” So, in a big way, today I am closing my eyes and sending compassion wherever it needs to seep into. Compassion, please enter into the dark places in the hearts of humankind, and cleanse out the dark places, misunderstandings, hurtful feelings toward others, and self centered absorption. I don’t have the answer to world peace, but I do know we can choose to be a piece of it. It can be hard, especially when the world seems unfair and we really want to take on a tude about it. We have those days. But, please get back in balance! We all need you and whatever love and compassion you can give this world.
“Compassion, please stand up and take your place in the hearts of humankind. We need you today and every day.”
If you will, close your eyes for a moment and think of someone or something you truly love. When that love feeling fills your heart, send it out with intention to every area of the earth. Imagine compassion and love seeping into the dark places and hold this image as long as you can. I know I will be grateful for you today. Let compassion be your way of life and as a part of love on this earth.
Back in the early 90’s I had a friend named Alberta. She is no longer on earth but while she was her impact on my life was as tremendous as her heart. Life always has had its challenges. God always sends me an earth angel to get through them. At that time, it was Alberta. She was kind of a stout woman, had been through a lot herself, and to me one of the most loving people I had ever met.
When life got crazy, and it often did, she would always repeat the very same thing. She would say, “Now sister, almost 2000 years ago when Jesus hung on the cross, He knew this moment in time would be going on for you. You are no surprise to God!” Hahaaa! I always thought I shocked everyone, with my out of the box thinking and always pondering my next mindful and spiritual experience. Somewhere in there lies the duality of life. We are spirit and we are human. I just wish the human part would not be as hard as it often is.
Alberta made it easier back then. She was like a broken record but it always stuck in my mind. God knows. He always knows. God knew back then every part of the life I live now and every step I took to get here. I often wonder if He shakes His head. Maybe. I guess since I truly believe we are all a part of God we might all shake our heads! Oh the stories I could tell!
Back to my point. God knew back then and knows now. Just to be a little scriptural, “Though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, thou art with me, thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.” Pretty good for an old Pastorly gal who usually can hardly remember where she put her car key! (And God help me if I lock it in the car!). Thankfully, we live in an age now where the car seems to “know” too and tells me when the key is in there. It’s an aggravating sound but it does the trick.
At the risk of this post getting too long, all of this story has occured to let you know that God knows right where you are and knows every step it took to get there. If you find yourself in a dark place, maybe retrace your steps. There is a road you took to get there. Thankfully, there is always also a road out as well. Find that road and take it as soon as you can! Life is too short and goes too fast to linger in the dark spots. We never know what tomorrow brings because tomorrow has never been promised to us here on earth. Our spiritual tomorrow is still there. As for me, I don’t think I’m done writing my blog messages yet. 🙂
It’s not uncommon for me to get more than one message in a day. When I Pastored my churches I often had more messages lined up than I could give at one time! This one is so timely and important always. Being a female it always kind of bugs me that the Bible more often speaks lessons in the male personna rather than the female, but that is not what this is about.
As created people, for some reason we tend to love to pass some sort of judgement upon another. I am sure that is not what God intended for us when we were created. We are challenged daily to operate out of our higher God created self rather than our ego. The ego LOVES to point fingers, doesn’t it? Since I am on a roll here with brotherly, sisterly love and our “oneness“, another message came to mind. It’s about causing another to stumble. Meaning setting someone else up to fail in some way so they can be judged.
Oh how the ego loves this! Let’s check out and see if so and so will mess up so we can be high and superior. Let’s watch him/her FAIL. Oh my goodness. This saddens me more than most other things because it is not open hatred it is so called “justified deceitfulhatred.” In the Bible, book of Romans chapter 13, Paul talks about not passing judgement on our brother and to not set up or put up a stumbling block in his way. This is simple to figure out. Don’t stick something in front of someone just to test them to see if they will fall for it and fail. Then they can be judged or punished in some way?
Let me give you an example from my life:
Before I was married I dated a so called “Christian man” who said he had become more than very fond of me. Yet, I always felt like I was on trial. Oh, he did some very nice things for me, kind of under the guise of testing me. We had a serious discussion about addictions one night over dinner. I’ve never had the usual up front well known addictions. Mine tend to be strange. Like one time I got real addicted to Hostess Cupcakes. It was after my son was murdered and I felt like nothing on earth could comfort me anyway. Yet, there I was often sitting in the parking lot of a local grocery store stuffing Hostess Cupcakes in my face and crying my brains out. Was not long before things started to not fit me right. I caught myself and decided to knock it off. I lost weight, got into my usual jeans again and that was that. I had told this story to my new “friend“, (and I say that loosely). He was a recovering alcoholic and supposedly had not had a drink in quite awhile.
Soon, my birthday came up and he invited me to have a little party in a beautiful setting and play in the snow. It was lovely. When it came to the time to go inside from the cold a table was set up before me for my birthday. One “gift” was a computer printed photo of us together just cut out of computer paper and the other was a pyramid of Hostess Cupcakes set up to look like a tiered birthday cake. They were all still in the wrappers and honestly it reminded me more of the shape of a wedding cake. On the top was one that was open and had a lit candle right in the middle. Now, this might seem kind of cute at first, right?
He asked me to go ahead, blow out the candle and have one! So, not wanting to be rude, I made my wish, blew out the candle and ate my Hostess Cupcake with gratitude. I asked him if he was going to have one and he said no. I thought that was strange. After I was done, he said, “Have another one!” Can you see where this is going? He was testing me to see if I was going to be addicted to the cupcakes and keep trying to eat them! How absurd it sounds now! My “No thank-you,” was met with “Are you sure?”
Then came the other fun part. He pointed out the computer printed copy of the photo of us and asked how I liked my birthday present. I guess if he was in poverty, and honest, it might have been touching. He was only trying to get a reaction out of me, or some sort of disapproval. I told him it was sweet. As I look back, I realize the entire time I was being “tested“. He was always trying to see if I was “marrying material“. Actually, I don’t think he was marrying material for me!
I’ve often had discussions with others as to whether God “tests” us to see if we will be tempted to go for something and fail. I want to assure you right now, God does NOT do this to His created children! Seems to me the only tester and tempter was Satan in the Biblical story, so how could it be Godly? Let me give you some blessed assurance here. God never sets up His children for failure and then judge them. It is not His nature or character. Humans test each other, set up stumbling blocks and then judge and point fingers. Even worse, they punish. Believe me, this is not wisdom and it is not Godly either.
Since we live in a universe of reaping what we sow, would you want to be the one to test someone just to see them fall on their face, get angry, be hurt, or punished? I know I wouldn’t want that. But we do reap what we sow. I trust in that universal law of lovely Karma. Good ole’ Karma. We always know when she’s been around because it often feels like a slap in the face. Actually it’s a lesson to be learned.
Before you have to learn this lesson, let me spare you. Don’t set up your brother, or anyone, to stumble! Do NOT test another human being with the intent to see if you will have to punish or judge them! You might end up on the wrong side of the Karmic wheel and it won’t feel very good.
I always loved the song “Light of the World”.
“Light of the world shine on me, love is the answer.
Shine on us all, let us see, love is the answer…”
I hope this message is relevant. I know to many it could be. Tripping someone up is not a loving thing to do. Not in any situation. Putting someone to the test to see if they are worthy just might cause YOU to be the one who is unworthy someday when you stand in the Light of God. Don’t do it.
I always knew there would come a time when one of my children, or all of them, would have kids. I remember thinking how that would make me a grandmother! I don’t know why we always associate being a grandparent as being old. We are not older, we are wiser. It’s just like having lines appear on our faces; those crinkles that pop up almost suddenly. They don’t mean we are old. They just mean we have had expression. We have lived, laughed, been surprised and even cried. They become etched upon our faces to remind us of the moments we enjoyed and those we overcame.
In the same way, grandchildren remind us of a job well done. We are blessed! God says that birthing children is an inheritance. That inheritance goes onward to become even more “grand” as the years go by. I saw both of my granddaughters as soon as they were born. Alexsys, my first, was with me the first year of her life during the day while her mama went back to work. I got to see all of her firsts. Her first word, step, smile, and everything in between. When my second granddaughter, Iryss, was born, I slept in the car in the hospital parking lot and part of the time on the couch near the waiting room.
I will never forget their eyes the first time I saw them and they seemed to look at me. It’s instant love just like when all of my kids were born. These are the ones who move onward, passing down the family inheritance; good and not so good. I dream sometimes about what they might be in the future. My hope for them is that God will always bless them with the very best of everything. Nope, they don’t make me older, they make me hope filled. I know they will discover new things in this world when my time here is over.
I know, one day I will watch from another form, with hopes, dreams, and prayers, just like I do now. They are a legacy that love lives on way after we leave this earthly existence. They are our spiritual wonders.
Today, my hope and prayers are for your grandchildren! May they inherit the very best parts of you and all that you are!
We have all heard of jealousy as being the “green eyed monster”, but I feel assuming is more green and more monstrous. Assumption speaks out a lie about someone else. When someone assumes they think they know what the other is thinking, or what the intentions of the heart are, without asking. The first thing that happens with a negative assumption is we react. Usually its with hurt or anger. The hard part is the reaction is just as much as a lie as the assumption. When we really think about it, when someone assumes they are lying to themselves. It’s not the other person or situation, it is actually a reflection of the assumer’s own consciousness.
We assume out of our pain, anger, or past experiences. Assumption believes that another person’s actions are like someone else they knew, or an experience they had before. So what are the keys that unlock assumption?
ASK the other person about their intent, words, or actions.
BELIEVE the best in the situation and not just take on the worst
KNOW that assumption is teaching you about yourself and has very little to do with another person.
Remember, relationship is not about “getting along” as much as it is about learning. We are not only learning about someone else or others, but we are learning more about ourselves. Relationships come into our lives as mirrors to show us the faces of our own souls. If we always remember this, then the anger comes less and the lesson comes more!