Addictions: Is There a Way Out?

addiction aid bottle capsule
Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com

Before I begin with this blog post I want to say that addictions in our country is one of the hardest issues we deal with. The complications an addiction can bring to one life are so saddening. It often goes from wasting precious time to the loss of life. Regardless, addiction is not only a personal illness or disease. Addictions to substances or actions affect everyone the addict is in connection with. The worry, the concern, and the stress caused by being in connection with an addicted person can wear away at the life of those who love them.

Let’s Take a Look at the Bottom Line of Addiction and the “Whys” 

I’m going to just put this out there. It’s pretty simple actually. Every addicted person feels that they lack pleasure in life and need a substance, action, or even person, to bring comfort from the difficult feelings one has. For some reason every addict seems to believe that life is supposed to be blissful, joyful, and problem free all of the time. NOT TRUE! Life is a learning journey and there is no way any life will ever have complete peace all of the time. This world is filled with problems from relational to humanitarian. It might seem simplistic but one of the greatest battles to fighting addiction is for an addict to first come to the understanding that life will have challenges and will not always “feel” good all of the time. Going by feelings instead of faith or practical knowledge is probably the first mistake any addicted person makes. We all feel and all can be sensitive to one thing or another. Yet, being driven by feelings alone can create a multitude of issues.

Bottom line, we are not meant to be comfortable all of the time. Masking the hard issues in life by using a substance or situation only stops a person from receiving the life lesson they need to grow up as a human being. What is the result? Stunted growth; especially spiritual growth.

So what about the pleasure centers of the brain? 

Our brains are an amazing part of our creation. The brain is meant to control our bodily functions, guide our lives and record them. We also have pleasure neurotransmitters that are like carriers to the rest of the body. They tell us we are having a good experience or not. Sometimes they can control how we look at life if we allow them to. For instance, someone who has depression usually does not maintain adequate serotonin in the brain and therefore “feels” depressed. An anti-depressant can be given to help the brain maintain serotonin in order to correct the problem. Depending on the person, the same can be accomplished by helping the brain maintain the right level of dopamine. Both of these neurotransmitters are like “feel good” connectors. Those who have issues with neurotransmitter imbalances struggle with every day life and being able to enjoy life’s simple pleasures.

Much to our misunderstanding there is a way out of addictions and what they do to the brain chemistry. The neuro-pathways of the mind can be rewired by meditation, affirmation, and also hypnosis. Spiritual practices can also be just as uplifting as an anti-depressant given that the practice is created as a good habit in life. There is a way out! If you struggle with addictions of any kind you can correct the imbalances in your brain that life has created and actually overcome the addictions that plague you. Also, learning how to deal and cope with life’s setbacks is a real important part of the process. Dedication and desire come into play because without these nothing else will work out. If you really want out of the addiction trap the good news is there is one! The decision that you must make is if your dedication and desire are strong enough to really work on making the necessary changes. Often if a person experiences enough pain created by their addiction it can be enough to create a strong desire to change and heal.

Your life is waiting ahead of you! Why not consider making the change from being trapped in a nowhere life to really living the life you have been given! If you need help in this area, please call and find out how you can overcome your addictions!

++IMPORTANT Note: Detox from any substance such as a drug or alcohol is a very serious process and should not be attempted alone. Please seek medical attention before beginning any other process or along side a new process. Your overall health must be assessed. Remember, if you have been altered for a long period of time your entire body has been altered down to a cellular level as well. 

Loving you from here,

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD.  832-484-8306

Life Lessons by Jenine Marie 

Freedom is Not Always Just About Our Country but Also About Humanity

36404822_10156759836734255_1300871849369927680_nOn this day where we celebrate freedom I can’t help thinking about those who live in a prison no one seems to understand or often recognize. I’m talking about DEPRESSION. No matter how free we express we are on the outside or in our country, if there is a battle going on inside we are never free. Our out side will always reflect what is happening on the inside. Depression is a dark prison of the thoughts, emotions, and sometimes complicated brain chemistry. Not everyone wants to talk about it or admit they have it. It’s like it has become an embarrassment to say “I feel depressed”. Its not a situation where someone can just say, “Be positive” or “Cheer up”. It just does not work that way. No matter how we believe it got there; whether demonically influenced, chemical imbalance, deep grief or sadness, chemical addictions, or some sort of hole inside that never seems to be filled, it does not take away from the truth. DEPRESSION KILLS LIFE and that is the truth. Armies are not only just ones that fight for our constitutional freedoms in our land, but armies are also those who fight for emotional , mental, and soul freedom too. They are the army of God and those who are enlightened enough to realize and accept that we are all a part of one another. When one is sitting in darkness, we ALL do, whether we want to admit this or not. We are the hands, feet, mouth, face, and experience of God. I can’t help but wonder when our true armies of the soul will arise and help peace and healing be the norm instead of the opposite. I pray it soon. I pray it swiftly. I pray it now. No one should sit in a dark place, EVER. We are born free and meant to live that way. Our peace is in the serenity that God brings inside of us and the truth that we can all heal one another…..if we truly want to. Please WANT to. Amen

Loving you from here,

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries LLC

Virtual Therapist Network 

832-484-8306

Inner Deliverance and Deeper Healing Part 2 (video )

11988378_10153670839814255_4027848974804248960_nContinue to learn about healing from the inside out, what the devil likes to attach to, and how to get rid of him! Casing out demons is not enough. Inner healing takes excavation of the inner parts.

-Blessings, Pastor Jenine Marie

800-421-1765

 

 

 

The God of the Break OUT!

cropped-14208503182375381246Do you need to break out of a situation or even maybe a habit that does not serve you? Maybe you have been sitting in darkness and you really feel surrounded by the enemies camp. God put on  my heart this morning that He is not only a God of break through but of break OUT! Take a look!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Break free !

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

800-421-1765

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries 

BLESS the Waiting…God is FAITHFUL!

72e9e9e56ad45df4432b96f328f8ba36It might seem like things are taking a very long time, but it has been my witness, when God has someone wait, there is something AMAZING in store! So, keep your patience and your diligence, because there is something AMAZING in store for you if you stay faithful, prayerful, and PRAISE HIM! You might feel like a sardine, all stuffed up inside of yourself just wiggling around in the oil, BUT GOD is perfecting you in His anointing and that oil will spill out on everyone you touch at His most PERFECT TIMING! So , in the mean time…..PRAISE HIM and wait in His oil because it will be so worth it. You will see!

The Lord will pour out His Spirit on ALL flesh! That is HIS promise! Be ready to receive Him because He will NOT fail you! If you are sick in your body, if your heart is aching, if you are stuck in a bad situation, PRAISE HIM because He is faithful to heal, to bind up your wounds, and deliver you from any situation. You have a God of love, but you also have a GOD of POWER and He will never forsake you.

So, you made a mistake? PRAISE HIM! Let Him fill you to overflowing. Holy Spirit Come! He has a fire for you that will never go out. When others forsake you. When financial woes plague you. He will uplift you, because His ways are higher than all of these things. He is a God of refuge and strength. Proclaim all that He is and you will come to know Him in that way!

 

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries 

Learning to Live Again After Abuse: Emotional Release and Deliverance

downloadRomans 6:4 

“We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.”

In days gone by I remember a morning I woke up and wondered, “How in the world did I get here, and even more important, how do I get out?” Life had come to a point where every single day was a strain being married to someone who oppressed, never had a good thing to say about me or to me, and controlled literally everything through intimidation. He was an addictive person, a narcissist, and showed sociopath tendencies. Life was hell on earth. As the years went by, I had five beautiful children, who were always the light of my life. It wasn’t easy, doing the cycle of abuse dance while making sure the kids had what they needed. (Before you ask me why I had kids with this man, please become more knowledgeable about the abuse cycle. People put their best foot forward in the beginning of a relationship, especially a narcissist. Life could be like a bed of roses for a period of time and then suddenly change in a heartbeat. As time goes on a person develops what psychology calls “learned helplessness”. Its like a slow indoctrination into someone else’s agenda. We have no idea what is happening until it is too late).

I’m thankful that God is gracious, a delivering God, and one who is intimately involved in our lives. I did receive deliverance out of that situation but the healing part of it was only just beginning. How does one erase years and years of character assassination, demeaning comments, threatening proclamations, and a life of fear and anxiety? The physical release was even harder because an abused person goes into the world and everything seems difficult and fearful. Its like the abuse robs us of our ability to function the way we did before the relationship. Everyone around becomes suspect and a possible threat to our livelihood. So, in the beginning we travel a lot of it alone, not trusting a single soul to help us survive.

The better part is that I personally had to learn how to lean on God for all I needed. I struggled, but I also saw some life changing miracles during those times. His protection is uncompromising and His love beyond anything a person could measure. It was during those days that I found Him and He was always in our midst. The longer and harder part of the freedom journey was the healing of the heart and renewing of the mind. I learned that it takes work and a lot of faith and consistency. It takes desire. A person has to want to be healed and free for it to happen. I was free on the outside, but the inside was just as captive as when I was in the marriage. Then it takes deliverance. Being in the presence of my Savior has always been the regenerating, healing, and strengthening process that brought the freedom I required to pull my life together.

The process has to be this way. I learned there are no shortcuts. One could go and receive deliverance ministry all day long but if the inner wounds are not dealt with first than deliverance is futile and the effects are temporary. The dark side of life will always attach itself to our inner wounds because that is where we are the most weak and can be rendered ineffective and incapacitated. Healing the inside first is critical for full freedom and deliverance from the effects of abuse. Like Pastor Paula White has always said, “You can’t correct what you don’t confront.” Then once that process is complete, the dark forces in life are weakened and can be cast away in the presence of Jesus and with His authority.

This can certainly be done on one’s own, but I don’t recommend it. A process of talking, praying, and releasing  is the first thing I recommend for a full and complete deliverance. Otherwise the old attacks keep coming back to make life miserable. Like I said, it takes work and preferably  with someone who knows how to get you where you want to be; delivered and free!

The next phase is the spiritual deliverance part. This can also be very intense but extremely effective. Believe me, when it is done right, there is nothing like a spiritual deliverance from the  enemy who bound you in the first place. He wants to keep you bound, but there is no match for Jesus’ power! A good deliverance minister who has been there is the best choice to facilitate this part of the process. You could go to God yourself but there is more power when two gather together in the midst of Holy Spirit. Not to mention there is protection and strength together.

The final part of the process is commitment to renewing your mind through the Word of God. For me personally, I had years of reprogramming to do and still need to do that work on a regular basis and as an ongoing lifestyle. Remaining in God’s presence is crucial in this part of the process as well.

It can seem like a long road to recovery but it is one that has been well worth it for me and it will for you too! If you have been affected by another person’s abuse, consider emotional healing and deliverance ministry. God wants you free even more than you desire it yourself. He is waiting for you to want to receive this healing work. Jesus died for your liberty! That is good news! You have a future and a hope just as I have always had. God has been faithful through my whole journey and He will for you too!

If you need emotional healing and deliverance help from the affects of someone else’s abuse, please consider connecting with me! If not me, than please consider someone who is recommended and gifted for this type of work. There is no reason to live bound! You will have no idea just how much holds you back until you start the process. Liberty is complete in Jesus Christ!  Remember that you were buried with Christ through baptism and faith. Now you are also raised with Him and sit in high places as you place your trust in Him! 

As for my services and Pastoral Care, Emotional and Deliverance Ministry, they are free to those who need them. I only ask for a donation toward my time if that is possible. God’s gift of freedom is just that; a gift. Yet, He also wants to make sure I receive what I need to survive as a minister and a Pastor.

I do not provide this work as a replacement for the local church, but I in fact, stand beside “her”, working toward a more healthy, whole, and liberated Body of Christ! It can be intense work, but it is always worth it! —

If you would like more information, please call me at 800-421-1765. It takes someone who knows the bumpy road to guide others toward the streets of gold!

Here’s to freedom!

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries 

 

 

“Woman, the Effects of Coldness, I have Removed,” says the Lord!

So many women endure coldness and darkness around them in their lives, whether personal or professional. In this video the Lord has allowed me to prophesy into the lives of those who have been effected by coldness and darkness. He has encouragement for you!

Please see my video at this link…

Woman, I Have Removed the Effects of Coldness from Your Life, says the Lord

Or you can view it here in the blog

Here is the plant I speak of in my message!

God bless you and I love you! Hope to hear from you soon!

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

800-421-1765

Jenine Marie Coaching

A Deeper Sense of Thanksgiving

sept_feature_02_hPsalm 95:2 “Let us come before his presence with thanksgiving, and make a joyful noise unto him with psalms.”

As we approach Thanksgiving, tradition tells us that we are supposed to be thankful. After all, we have been through this year after year. Each year, we are reminded we are supposed to be thankful. Isn’t it easy to take being thankful for granted when tradition takes over? It can be very easy to become numb to the feeling we try to even muster up as we cook the turkey, plan for family visits, and fellowship together. For some, Thanksgiving is a reminder of those who are not with us, or a reminder of how hard life has been this year.

Regardless as to the feelings it brings up in us, it is still so easy to allow tradition to speak to us that this day that comes once every year is a day we are supposed to be thankful. Most of the time we truly are thankful even with the traditional reminder. I know that I am. I’m grateful I get to eat one more day, to breathe and smell good food cooking, and to be with those around me who love and care about me.

The truth is, my greatest gratitude comes from a place that was delivered out of adversity or strain. The meaning of giving thanks is magnified by the feeling of a deep sense of amazing grace that I have ,or had, experienced through the harder times. A deeply thankful person has been saved from tragedy, death, sure destruction, and sometimes sickness. When someone comes up from a deep sense of sadness or finally had a breakthrough that suddenly has made life much more worth living gratitude and thanksgiving come flowing out like a fountain from a deep well that once was stagnant but somehow a radiant love has stirred the pool and it comes alive once more!

This Thanksgiving holiday let there be less tradition and more true gratitude from the places inside of us, and around us,  that have been delivered from the most difficulties in life. Allow the meaning of Thanksgiving be transformed into our witness that God has been good to us over the years and will never cease His goodness or His delivering love. The pilgrims of yesteryear might have felt this deep sense of gratitude for all they had, mostly because they had somehow been saved from the most horrendous storms in life.

We are still as those pilgrims. We have been saved from sure destruction and if we think about it hard enough, we realize that God has stepped into our lives over and over to give us His powerful deliverance. We have been saved through the devastation of cancer, abuses, financial hardships, defamation of character, and grievous losses. Our pilgrimage here on earth has never been easy, even if his year seems to have been a bit more tolerable. We all have things in life that have given us cause to be more grateful than tradition speaks to us we should be.

This year I am deeply thankful that the illness I have experienced over the last year and a half has been resolved and I am feeling so much better. It was a hard and very financially expensive year. I am thankful for the roof over my head because 2 years ago I had no place to call my own, like a vagabond on this earth with no direction. I am thankful for relationship and support when I have needed it, for God and His spirit, for answered prayers, and for blessings upon family members. I am grateful to have heard my son talk about Bible stories and grateful he has a renewed sense of his relationship with God. There are many more things I could mention that have pulled at my heart strings. All of them give to me a sigh of deep relief. Thanksgiving sure does not come from tradition this year. It comes from having come out of the desert and still being intact, knowing God loves me completely, and some of the insanity of this world is just a bit less insane because His restoration is a true thing and not just something we occasionally preach about.

God bless you in your Thanksgiving holiday ! May God reveal the deeper sense of thankfulness that comes from adversity and His great delivering love!

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

Thankful for you!

**Image from FaithPub

 

Do You Need to Be Set Free From a Controller?

canstockphoto11547372-300x199Control is not the same as command. A person who is in command of their life is one who knows their boundaries and expresses them. A commanding person is like the general of their own life. That person knows what they want in life and knows what they don’t want, so they let others know what is acceptable and what is not. The commanding person stands at the gate of their life and they will allow those through the gate that will respect, honor, and value them as a person even if they disagree. This also means that if there are those who will not respect them as a person then the gate is shut. They might still love them, but their actions are not allowed through the gate. Yet, command never seeks to manipulate someone to do things their way in order to get through the gate. It loves people as they are as people, but does not accept their behavior.

Control seeks to manipulate people to do things their way. It is a spirit that attaches itself to a wound that says, “I am not enough,  I do not have enough, or I will lose what I have”. So, what happens is the person has evil spiritual influences that say, “My way or the highway, or “you will be punished if I don’t get my way”. A controlling person has unreasonable boundaries. This spirit will state, “If you don’t do things my way then you are not acceptable as a person and you must be punished”.

You can always tell when there is a controlling situation because people around them who are being controlled are afraid to cross their decisions and controlling actions. Control feeds on the FEAR of others. Don’t trick yourself into thinking that you are respecting a controlling person by doing their bidding regardless to how close to them you might be. A controlling person does not live to get respect, they live to get their way and impose it upon others.

A spirit of control is a hard one to get someone to release. The inner wounds below the surface need to be addressed and healed first. Once those are released then the controlling spirit is weakened and then they can be spiritually cast away.

How do you know if you are being controlled?

  1. Are you unhappy when you feel you have to succumb to someone else’s needs and desires?
  2. Does this person keep you from family and those you love because they don’t accept them?
  3. Do they have your best interest at heart and not just their own?
  4. In order to get their way do they have to put someone else down or start gossip about them?
  5. Does this person act out of love and protection or hatred of other human beings?
  6. Are they selfish in their quest for money or power?
  7. Will they take what they want with no regard to your feelings or reputation?
  8. Do they make you feel comfortable and happy around them or nervous and self conscious?

A person with a controlling spirit will get rid of you if you stand in their way of what they perceive is their own happiness. This is an illusion. It takes a lot of energy to keep up controlling behavior. So that person will try to recruit others to control with them. Usually this is done by putting someone down or trying to discredit another.

How do you break free? 

One way is by telling that person the truth about themselves. I know it will be most likely be met with hostility, but the truth is what sets people free, not enabling their behavior. Another is by keeping your distance until or unless that person decides to release their wounds and release that controlling spirit. Sometimes it takes a person to hit the bottom in life in order for them to see this. Many who are controlling are so afraid of losing things that they hold onto them too tightly. FEAR controls their life and they don’t even see it!

Romans 16:17-18Now I urge you, brethren, keep your eye on those who cause dissensions and hindrances contrary to the teaching which you learned, and turn away from them. For such men are slaves, not of our Lord Christ but of their own appetites; and by their smooth and flattering speech they deceive the hearts of the unsuspecting”.

Titus 3:10Reject a factious man/woman after a first and second warning,

Keep in mind, you are not hating the person, but rejecting their actions. Some people we just can not have in our lives because to be in them will cause chaos. God wants you to walk in peace and that takes wisdom! We all need to be the gate keepers of our own lives. Not everyone out there is someone you can trust! So please do not trust a controlling person! It will cause more problems in your life than you can imagine.

Pray for the person instead. Pray for them to get a breakthrough healing and a deliverance from that controlling spirit. Forgive them of their deeds but do not accept their actions back into your life unless they have truly changed. Walk in wisdom. Love the person from afar because love is a spiritual and delivering power. Pray for your own healing for the things that have caused you to allow their control in your life and ask for deliverance from the weakness and fear you have had. Then STAND in your own God given power!

Dear Jesus, with your authority I release those who are being controlled by someones wounded heart and controlling spirit. Heal their wounds that cause fear and deliver them from the control and manipulation of others in Your mighty name! Deliver and set free those who control and show them what it is to command instead! We love You Lord and are grateful for Your delivering power! amen

Walking free,

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching

Do you need healing and deliverance prayer concerning control?

800-421-1765 (leave a message for a prayer time to be scheduled)