Addictions: Is There a Way Out?

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Before I begin with this blog post I want to say that addictions in our country is one of the hardest issues we deal with. The complications an addiction can bring to one life are so saddening. It often goes from wasting precious time to the loss of life. Regardless, addiction is not only a personal illness or disease. Addictions to substances or actions affect everyone the addict is in connection with. The worry, the concern, and the stress caused by being in connection with an addicted person can wear away at the life of those who love them.

Let’s Take a Look at the Bottom Line of Addiction and the “Whys” 

I’m going to just put this out there. It’s pretty simple actually. Every addicted person feels that they lack pleasure in life and need a substance, action, or even person, to bring comfort from the difficult feelings one has. For some reason every addict seems to believe that life is supposed to be blissful, joyful, and problem free all of the time. NOT TRUE! Life is a learning journey and there is no way any life will ever have complete peace all of the time. This world is filled with problems from relational to humanitarian. It might seem simplistic but one of the greatest battles to fighting addiction is for an addict to first come to the understanding that life will have challenges and will not always “feel” good all of the time. Going by feelings instead of faith or practical knowledge is probably the first mistake any addicted person makes. We all feel and all can be sensitive to one thing or another. Yet, being driven by feelings alone can create a multitude of issues.

Bottom line, we are not meant to be comfortable all of the time. Masking the hard issues in life by using a substance or situation only stops a person from receiving the life lesson they need to grow up as a human being. What is the result? Stunted growth; especially spiritual growth.

So what about the pleasure centers of the brain? 

Our brains are an amazing part of our creation. The brain is meant to control our bodily functions, guide our lives and record them. We also have pleasure neurotransmitters that are like carriers to the rest of the body. They tell us we are having a good experience or not. Sometimes they can control how we look at life if we allow them to. For instance, someone who has depression usually does not maintain adequate serotonin in the brain and therefore “feels” depressed. An anti-depressant can be given to help the brain maintain serotonin in order to correct the problem. Depending on the person, the same can be accomplished by helping the brain maintain the right level of dopamine. Both of these neurotransmitters are like “feel good” connectors. Those who have issues with neurotransmitter imbalances struggle with every day life and being able to enjoy life’s simple pleasures.

Much to our misunderstanding there is a way out of addictions and what they do to the brain chemistry. The neuro-pathways of the mind can be rewired by meditation, affirmation, and also hypnosis. Spiritual practices can also be just as uplifting as an anti-depressant given that the practice is created as a good habit in life. There is a way out! If you struggle with addictions of any kind you can correct the imbalances in your brain that life has created and actually overcome the addictions that plague you. Also, learning how to deal and cope with life’s setbacks is a real important part of the process. Dedication and desire come into play because without these nothing else will work out. If you really want out of the addiction trap the good news is there is one! The decision that you must make is if your dedication and desire are strong enough to really work on making the necessary changes. Often if a person experiences enough pain created by their addiction it can be enough to create a strong desire to change and heal.

Your life is waiting ahead of you! Why not consider making the change from being trapped in a nowhere life to really living the life you have been given! If you need help in this area, please call and find out how you can overcome your addictions!

++IMPORTANT Note: Detox from any substance such as a drug or alcohol is a very serious process and should not be attempted alone. Please seek medical attention before beginning any other process or along side a new process. Your overall health must be assessed. Remember, if you have been altered for a long period of time your entire body has been altered down to a cellular level as well. 

Loving you from here,

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD.  832-484-8306

Life Lessons by Jenine Marie 

Freedom is Not Always Just About Our Country but Also About Humanity

36404822_10156759836734255_1300871849369927680_nOn this day where we celebrate freedom I can’t help thinking about those who live in a prison no one seems to understand or often recognize. I’m talking about DEPRESSION. No matter how free we express we are on the outside or in our country, if there is a battle going on inside we are never free. Our out side will always reflect what is happening on the inside. Depression is a dark prison of the thoughts, emotions, and sometimes complicated brain chemistry. Not everyone wants to talk about it or admit they have it. It’s like it has become an embarrassment to say “I feel depressed”. Its not a situation where someone can just say, “Be positive” or “Cheer up”. It just does not work that way. No matter how we believe it got there; whether demonically influenced, chemical imbalance, deep grief or sadness, chemical addictions, or some sort of hole inside that never seems to be filled, it does not take away from the truth. DEPRESSION KILLS LIFE and that is the truth. Armies are not only just ones that fight for our constitutional freedoms in our land, but armies are also those who fight for emotional , mental, and soul freedom too. They are the army of God and those who are enlightened enough to realize and accept that we are all a part of one another. When one is sitting in darkness, we ALL do, whether we want to admit this or not. We are the hands, feet, mouth, face, and experience of God. I can’t help but wonder when our true armies of the soul will arise and help peace and healing be the norm instead of the opposite. I pray it soon. I pray it swiftly. I pray it now. No one should sit in a dark place, EVER. We are born free and meant to live that way. Our peace is in the serenity that God brings inside of us and the truth that we can all heal one another…..if we truly want to. Please WANT to. Amen

Loving you from here,

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries LLC

Virtual Therapist Network 

832-484-8306

A Deeper Sense of Thanksgiving

sept_feature_02_hPsalm 95:2 “Let us come before his presence with thanksgiving, and make a joyful noise unto him with psalms.”

As we approach Thanksgiving, tradition tells us that we are supposed to be thankful. After all, we have been through this year after year. Each year, we are reminded we are supposed to be thankful. Isn’t it easy to take being thankful for granted when tradition takes over? It can be very easy to become numb to the feeling we try to even muster up as we cook the turkey, plan for family visits, and fellowship together. For some, Thanksgiving is a reminder of those who are not with us, or a reminder of how hard life has been this year.

Regardless as to the feelings it brings up in us, it is still so easy to allow tradition to speak to us that this day that comes once every year is a day we are supposed to be thankful. Most of the time we truly are thankful even with the traditional reminder. I know that I am. I’m grateful I get to eat one more day, to breathe and smell good food cooking, and to be with those around me who love and care about me.

The truth is, my greatest gratitude comes from a place that was delivered out of adversity or strain. The meaning of giving thanks is magnified by the feeling of a deep sense of amazing grace that I have ,or had, experienced through the harder times. A deeply thankful person has been saved from tragedy, death, sure destruction, and sometimes sickness. When someone comes up from a deep sense of sadness or finally had a breakthrough that suddenly has made life much more worth living gratitude and thanksgiving come flowing out like a fountain from a deep well that once was stagnant but somehow a radiant love has stirred the pool and it comes alive once more!

This Thanksgiving holiday let there be less tradition and more true gratitude from the places inside of us, and around us,  that have been delivered from the most difficulties in life. Allow the meaning of Thanksgiving be transformed into our witness that God has been good to us over the years and will never cease His goodness or His delivering love. The pilgrims of yesteryear might have felt this deep sense of gratitude for all they had, mostly because they had somehow been saved from the most horrendous storms in life.

We are still as those pilgrims. We have been saved from sure destruction and if we think about it hard enough, we realize that God has stepped into our lives over and over to give us His powerful deliverance. We have been saved through the devastation of cancer, abuses, financial hardships, defamation of character, and grievous losses. Our pilgrimage here on earth has never been easy, even if his year seems to have been a bit more tolerable. We all have things in life that have given us cause to be more grateful than tradition speaks to us we should be.

This year I am deeply thankful that the illness I have experienced over the last year and a half has been resolved and I am feeling so much better. It was a hard and very financially expensive year. I am thankful for the roof over my head because 2 years ago I had no place to call my own, like a vagabond on this earth with no direction. I am thankful for relationship and support when I have needed it, for God and His spirit, for answered prayers, and for blessings upon family members. I am grateful to have heard my son talk about Bible stories and grateful he has a renewed sense of his relationship with God. There are many more things I could mention that have pulled at my heart strings. All of them give to me a sigh of deep relief. Thanksgiving sure does not come from tradition this year. It comes from having come out of the desert and still being intact, knowing God loves me completely, and some of the insanity of this world is just a bit less insane because His restoration is a true thing and not just something we occasionally preach about.

God bless you in your Thanksgiving holiday ! May God reveal the deeper sense of thankfulness that comes from adversity and His great delivering love!

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

Thankful for you!

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Do You Need to Be Set Free From a Controller?

canstockphoto11547372-300x199Control is not the same as command. A person who is in command of their life is one who knows their boundaries and expresses them. A commanding person is like the general of their own life. That person knows what they want in life and knows what they don’t want, so they let others know what is acceptable and what is not. The commanding person stands at the gate of their life and they will allow those through the gate that will respect, honor, and value them as a person even if they disagree. This also means that if there are those who will not respect them as a person then the gate is shut. They might still love them, but their actions are not allowed through the gate. Yet, command never seeks to manipulate someone to do things their way in order to get through the gate. It loves people as they are as people, but does not accept their behavior.

Control seeks to manipulate people to do things their way. It is a spirit that attaches itself to a wound that says, “I am not enough,  I do not have enough, or I will lose what I have”. So, what happens is the person has evil spiritual influences that say, “My way or the highway, or “you will be punished if I don’t get my way”. A controlling person has unreasonable boundaries. This spirit will state, “If you don’t do things my way then you are not acceptable as a person and you must be punished”.

You can always tell when there is a controlling situation because people around them who are being controlled are afraid to cross their decisions and controlling actions. Control feeds on the FEAR of others. Don’t trick yourself into thinking that you are respecting a controlling person by doing their bidding regardless to how close to them you might be. A controlling person does not live to get respect, they live to get their way and impose it upon others.

A spirit of control is a hard one to get someone to release. The inner wounds below the surface need to be addressed and healed first. Once those are released then the controlling spirit is weakened and then they can be spiritually cast away.

How do you know if you are being controlled?

  1. Are you unhappy when you feel you have to succumb to someone else’s needs and desires?
  2. Does this person keep you from family and those you love because they don’t accept them?
  3. Do they have your best interest at heart and not just their own?
  4. In order to get their way do they have to put someone else down or start gossip about them?
  5. Does this person act out of love and protection or hatred of other human beings?
  6. Are they selfish in their quest for money or power?
  7. Will they take what they want with no regard to your feelings or reputation?
  8. Do they make you feel comfortable and happy around them or nervous and self conscious?

A person with a controlling spirit will get rid of you if you stand in their way of what they perceive is their own happiness. This is an illusion. It takes a lot of energy to keep up controlling behavior. So that person will try to recruit others to control with them. Usually this is done by putting someone down or trying to discredit another.

How do you break free? 

One way is by telling that person the truth about themselves. I know it will be most likely be met with hostility, but the truth is what sets people free, not enabling their behavior. Another is by keeping your distance until or unless that person decides to release their wounds and release that controlling spirit. Sometimes it takes a person to hit the bottom in life in order for them to see this. Many who are controlling are so afraid of losing things that they hold onto them too tightly. FEAR controls their life and they don’t even see it!

Romans 16:17-18Now I urge you, brethren, keep your eye on those who cause dissensions and hindrances contrary to the teaching which you learned, and turn away from them. For such men are slaves, not of our Lord Christ but of their own appetites; and by their smooth and flattering speech they deceive the hearts of the unsuspecting”.

Titus 3:10Reject a factious man/woman after a first and second warning,

Keep in mind, you are not hating the person, but rejecting their actions. Some people we just can not have in our lives because to be in them will cause chaos. God wants you to walk in peace and that takes wisdom! We all need to be the gate keepers of our own lives. Not everyone out there is someone you can trust! So please do not trust a controlling person! It will cause more problems in your life than you can imagine.

Pray for the person instead. Pray for them to get a breakthrough healing and a deliverance from that controlling spirit. Forgive them of their deeds but do not accept their actions back into your life unless they have truly changed. Walk in wisdom. Love the person from afar because love is a spiritual and delivering power. Pray for your own healing for the things that have caused you to allow their control in your life and ask for deliverance from the weakness and fear you have had. Then STAND in your own God given power!

Dear Jesus, with your authority I release those who are being controlled by someones wounded heart and controlling spirit. Heal their wounds that cause fear and deliver them from the control and manipulation of others in Your mighty name! Deliver and set free those who control and show them what it is to command instead! We love You Lord and are grateful for Your delivering power! amen

Walking free,

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching

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Indignation Will Keep You From God’s Miracles!

devils and angels7777Indignation means to have a righteous anger about an unjust action, mistreatment, or an insult. It’s good to stand up for what we believe in and also to defend others against injustice. In fact to see sin or injustice and do nothing is also sin.

“Remember, it is sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it”. (James 4:17)

Jesus had righteous indignation when he saw people misusing the temple courts. His anger turned the tables against wrong doing. But Jesus was completely righteous and his anger was not something He held onto. He picked His battles correctly, standing up for God, proclaiming the house of God to be a house of prayer.

While many times we are justified to have indignation because of what has been done to us or someone, it is not good to hang onto it. Hanging onto indignation is anger with an attitude and attaches itself to pride. We all know, or should know, that pride always comes before a fall.

Indignation is a sneaky little thing. Since it is caused by some injustice it always “feels right” to hang onto it. After all, no one should get away with injustice. Our God is a God of justice as much as He is a God of grace and love. God’s justice is always righteous. With us it is not always the case. That is why God tells us that vindication is in His hands not ours.

“Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD. (Romans 12:19)

If any of us are to have right attitude then we have to learn to leave the results to God when we come against injustice. We all should take a stand against malice and the evil in this world. Sometimes we take a public stand and sometimes we fight it in the spirit. Often we do both. Again, the hang up is when we hold onto the outcome with indignant anger.

The Bible tells us to anger but sin not. We get angry, and we do become indignant. People can actually become quite offended. Sometimes its just plain justified, but by no means does this mean there is permission to hold onto the offense and allow it to be rooted into a stronghold of bitterness. Evil strongholds are caused by the enemy and not God, but we allow them.

Indignation comes from an action that has caused a wound. The indignation might be justified but we are never justified in allowing a wound to fester. Once we have done all we can to stand, our instructions from God is to continue to stand. He will fight our battle as the righteous judge and believe me, those who committed the injustice will eventually understand their error! God truly IS a righteous judge and He is good at bringing people to repentance. Just remember that even though letting people know they have wronged you is the right thing to do, punishing them is not.

You have to learn to let go and let God handle things. The spirit of indignation would love to attach itself to you and drain the life out of you. Also that prideful anger would love to keep you from God’s miracles. Any sin separates us from God and hanging onto any part of anger once it is expressed is sin.

What a lot of people do not realize is that indignation is a spirit as much as it is an emotion. In fact the sneaky spirit of indignation attaches itself to the emotion in hope of keeping a person angry and upset. This is all a well constructed strategy to keep God’s people from receiving His miracles and blessings.

Today, I want to see you released from indignation that might have been caused for a good reason, but now it has become a stronghold due to hanging onto it. Don’t be fooled. That stronghold of indignation loves to fester inside the wound that was caused from someone’s actions. Don’t let this happen! It will keep you from God’s miracles and it will cause you to react out of the wounds instead of have right actions.

Healing and Deliverance 

Dear Jesus,

We thank You for Your goodness and revelations of freedom. Dig deeply into wounds caused by indignation and release them through tears, repentance, and humility.

Release your wounds to Jesus now and let Him take care of the heartache that injustice has caused you. Spend some time doing this with Him. I promise He will meet you right there and will be kind and gentle with you. 

Through the power of God’s Holy Spirit and in Jesus’ name, now renounce and cast out the spirit of indignation. Call it what it is, kick it to the curb, wave “bye bye”! Don’t take it back on again! 

Dear Jesus, Reveal and break down every stronghold of indignation. Heal wounds and place Your sweet balm upon them. We release every injustice against us into Your hands to deal with as You see fit. We trust Your righteousness to be fair and just. Thank you for healing and for freedom! amen

Free along side you!

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching