Addictions: Is There a Way Out?

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Before I begin with this blog post I want to say that addictions in our country is one of the hardest issues we deal with. The complications an addiction can bring to one life are so saddening. It often goes from wasting precious time to the loss of life. Regardless, addiction is not only a personal illness or disease. Addictions to substances or actions affect everyone the addict is in connection with. The worry, the concern, and the stress caused by being in connection with an addicted person can wear away at the life of those who love them.

Let’s Take a Look at the Bottom Line of Addiction and the “Whys” 

I’m going to just put this out there. It’s pretty simple actually. Every addicted person feels that they lack pleasure in life and need a substance, action, or even person, to bring comfort from the difficult feelings one has. For some reason every addict seems to believe that life is supposed to be blissful, joyful, and problem free all of the time. NOT TRUE! Life is a learning journey and there is no way any life will ever have complete peace all of the time. This world is filled with problems from relational to humanitarian. It might seem simplistic but one of the greatest battles to fighting addiction is for an addict to first come to the understanding that life will have challenges and will not always “feel” good all of the time. Going by feelings instead of faith or practical knowledge is probably the first mistake any addicted person makes. We all feel and all can be sensitive to one thing or another. Yet, being driven by feelings alone can create a multitude of issues.

Bottom line, we are not meant to be comfortable all of the time. Masking the hard issues in life by using a substance or situation only stops a person from receiving the life lesson they need to grow up as a human being. What is the result? Stunted growth; especially spiritual growth.

So what about the pleasure centers of the brain? 

Our brains are an amazing part of our creation. The brain is meant to control our bodily functions, guide our lives and record them. We also have pleasure neurotransmitters that are like carriers to the rest of the body. They tell us we are having a good experience or not. Sometimes they can control how we look at life if we allow them to. For instance, someone who has depression usually does not maintain adequate serotonin in the brain and therefore “feels” depressed. An anti-depressant can be given to help the brain maintain serotonin in order to correct the problem. Depending on the person, the same can be accomplished by helping the brain maintain the right level of dopamine. Both of these neurotransmitters are like “feel good” connectors. Those who have issues with neurotransmitter imbalances struggle with every day life and being able to enjoy life’s simple pleasures.

Much to our misunderstanding there is a way out of addictions and what they do to the brain chemistry. The neuro-pathways of the mind can be rewired by meditation, affirmation, and also hypnosis. Spiritual practices can also be just as uplifting as an anti-depressant given that the practice is created as a good habit in life. There is a way out! If you struggle with addictions of any kind you can correct the imbalances in your brain that life has created and actually overcome the addictions that plague you. Also, learning how to deal and cope with life’s setbacks is a real important part of the process. Dedication and desire come into play because without these nothing else will work out. If you really want out of the addiction trap the good news is there is one! The decision that you must make is if your dedication and desire are strong enough to really work on making the necessary changes. Often if a person experiences enough pain created by their addiction it can be enough to create a strong desire to change and heal.

Your life is waiting ahead of you! Why not consider making the change from being trapped in a nowhere life to really living the life you have been given! If you need help in this area, please call and find out how you can overcome your addictions!

++IMPORTANT Note: Detox from any substance such as a drug or alcohol is a very serious process and should not be attempted alone. Please seek medical attention before beginning any other process or along side a new process. Your overall health must be assessed. Remember, if you have been altered for a long period of time your entire body has been altered down to a cellular level as well. 

Loving you from here,

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry, PhD.  832-484-8306

Life Lessons by Jenine Marie 

Freedom is Not Always Just About Our Country but Also About Humanity

36404822_10156759836734255_1300871849369927680_nOn this day where we celebrate freedom I can’t help thinking about those who live in a prison no one seems to understand or often recognize. I’m talking about DEPRESSION. No matter how free we express we are on the outside or in our country, if there is a battle going on inside we are never free. Our out side will always reflect what is happening on the inside. Depression is a dark prison of the thoughts, emotions, and sometimes complicated brain chemistry. Not everyone wants to talk about it or admit they have it. It’s like it has become an embarrassment to say “I feel depressed”. Its not a situation where someone can just say, “Be positive” or “Cheer up”. It just does not work that way. No matter how we believe it got there; whether demonically influenced, chemical imbalance, deep grief or sadness, chemical addictions, or some sort of hole inside that never seems to be filled, it does not take away from the truth. DEPRESSION KILLS LIFE and that is the truth. Armies are not only just ones that fight for our constitutional freedoms in our land, but armies are also those who fight for emotional , mental, and soul freedom too. They are the army of God and those who are enlightened enough to realize and accept that we are all a part of one another. When one is sitting in darkness, we ALL do, whether we want to admit this or not. We are the hands, feet, mouth, face, and experience of God. I can’t help but wonder when our true armies of the soul will arise and help peace and healing be the norm instead of the opposite. I pray it soon. I pray it swiftly. I pray it now. No one should sit in a dark place, EVER. We are born free and meant to live that way. Our peace is in the serenity that God brings inside of us and the truth that we can all heal one another…..if we truly want to. Please WANT to. Amen

Loving you from here,

Dr. Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries LLC

Virtual Therapist Network 


Christian Energy Healing: Emotional Energy Release

IMG_20171023_130408Energy is What Moves All Things. It’s Motion

Energy is a part of God’s created universe and is a part of every living thing. The Bible tells us that there was nothing created that Jesus did not create from the beginning. Energy describes motion of what God has created.  Thousands of years ago people discovered the healing properties of moving energy in the human body. This process also can facilitate emotional release and therefore emotional healing. Our bodies were created to work as one unit; body, mind, spirit/soul. One part of us out of balance can create problems in other parts of us and keep us out of balance. A body that achieves more balance is a healthier, happier, body and therefore person.

Much to the error in belief of many in the Christian faith, energy healing is not of the occult, nor is it demonic. It is only that, if it is used in that manor. In fact, there is no religion or belief system that is attached to energy healing accept that energy exists and God created it as it is. If God is a part of everything He created, then He is apart of energy or movement, and therefore how energy can facilitate emotional healing. Christ is involved in any process if we involve Him. The devil certainly does not want people to be healed, made whole, or glorifying God for what He created to be faithful and true.

Energetic emotional release is a process that helps stored effects of emotional imbalance to be released from certain areas of the body from past or present experiences. Holistic chiropractors have done this work for a long time. They work with meridian points in the body to release stored stress that cause the body to be in a state of unease. This causes disease.

Much to many beliefs, energy healing and energetic emotional release is not against Christian principles or against God. There is nothing in the Bible that says, “Do not activate or move energy.” Only when we leave God out of the equation and focus on the energy release itself as a healer is it then idolatry. I’ve given this topic a great deal of prayer and consideration before putting it “out there”. If energy healing helps release stored emotions that cause disease then the benefits are worth the practice. If God is brought into the equation then He is glorified in the process!

Jesus healed in many ways and the way He healed is primarily a mystery. He laid on hands, had healing virtue flow out of His body, and commanded demons to depart. His ways were hardly standard for His time. Even the Pharisees accused Him of using demonic powers to cast out demons, which is absurd. Why on earth would the devil want anyone set free or healed?

The ground breaking pioneer of Christian energy healing Sarah J Thiessen affirmed the practice in her book “Splankna”, which is an energy healing technique she developed from her research. The type of energy healing and release techniques that I personally use are not quite the same, but regardless of how energy healing is provided, the main thing is that Christ is a part of the process and that it works!

While it is true that New Age believers practice this type of healing it does not mean the practice is New Age. In fact, it has no religious affiliation at all. I have been trained in two different types of energy healing and have developed energetic emotional release from the techniques I have studied. Christ is a part of the process in that He is invited through Holy Spirit to be present during the entire session. The release and praise is the gratification and all the support we need to understand how helpful this can be. To God be all the glory for what He provides for us in every way, because He loves and cares for us deeply!

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry


**Although similar, the emotional energy release technique I speak of is not the same as Splankna which is practiced through the Splankna Therapy Institute. All information above was learned myself as I went through various forms of energy release techniques and teachings.

Do You Need Deliverance That Comes From High Places?

arguingOne warm summer night I had decided to go to the store and get a treat to end my long hot day. As I drove up to a parking space my attention was called to a couple in the car across from me. They were in a heated argument in the car. It was pretty intense. I could hear their words with both our windows up. Both were extremely upset and neither seemed willing to calm down.

I sat quietly and observed for a few moments feeling like I was somehow intruding where I did not belong, but felt compelled to stay. Suddenly the woman broke down into tears, both got out of the car, and continued their argument in the middle of the driving area. It all came to a point where she could take no more, threw down a cup she was drinking from, and began to walk off with him following her.

A moment later the car door opened once again and a little figure exited the car. It was a little boy probably about 2 years old. He sat down on the edge of the curb by the car with his head in his hands, sobbing. Just as I was about to get out of the car, the woman who was probably his mother, came back to comfort him.

I wanted to go out to comfort them both but something held me still as I prayed for them. She wrapped her arms around her child and both of them sobbed. A few moments later the man reappeared and as the woman and her child got back into the car I heard her yell out to him, “I will never allow you to do this to me again”! She drove off with her child, leaving the man behind. She was notably angry but obviously sobbing. I continued to observe and pray as the man watched the car drive out of sight.

I did not have to know them to understand what had just happened. This woman was broken down, her son was being effected, and she could take no more. I don’t know what happened to them after that. She might have gone back to him or she might have gone and packed her things and left him. I was praying for the latter.

I might not have known what the argument was about, but I did hear the comments from the man when they were out of the car. They were demeaning, heartless, and unforgiving. Even in the face of her sobbing, he was relentless and cared nothing of her brokenness. Regardless how it started, what it was about, or who was originally at fault, there was no way any man should be allowed to treat a broken woman the way he treated her. First he broke her, then he battered her down with more insults. Yes, it is true, they both argued, but it was obvious her heart was not being cared for.

I hoped she left him and never returned to the battle field. The enemy had a field day that evening. He broke apart a relationship. It was hard to see it all in action; watching two people destroying their lives and their peace of mind and heart. It was all so senseless and cruel. I was the witness to two wounded people creating another new wounded person in the little boy. It happens far too much in our society.

Only Christ can remove the spirits that torment the wounded and only Christ can heal them by the power of His shed blood. This chaos is what happens when the enemy is given legal access to a family or relationship. The sad truth is that the enemy has no legal grounds in taking what belongs to God; not unless we allow him to. So many allow him!

Jesus has already declared the enemy guilty and we are already free. We just need to approach the heavenly realms in order to allow God to judge the demonic powers that torment us and proclaim Jesus’ shed blood for our freedom. It is that simple and that powerful!

If you are struggling with demonic interference in your life and need a spiritual intervention, don’t wait any longer please! We all struggle but when we go boldly to the throne room of God together to be delivered from the oppression from the enemy, amazing changes can happen!

My deepest prayer for you is release, deliverance, and freedom in Christ Jesus. He will guide you and free you from the torments of Satan’s evil army.

If you need help in this area, please call me at 800-421-1765. I would love to guide you through!

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries 


Learning to Live Again After Abuse: Emotional Release and Deliverance

downloadRomans 6:4 

“We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.”

In days gone by I remember a morning I woke up and wondered, “How in the world did I get here, and even more important, how do I get out?” Life had come to a point where every single day was a strain being married to someone who oppressed, never had a good thing to say about me or to me, and controlled literally everything through intimidation. He was an addictive person, a narcissist, and showed sociopath tendencies. Life was hell on earth. As the years went by, I had five beautiful children, who were always the light of my life. It wasn’t easy, doing the cycle of abuse dance while making sure the kids had what they needed. (Before you ask me why I had kids with this man, please become more knowledgeable about the abuse cycle. People put their best foot forward in the beginning of a relationship, especially a narcissist. Life could be like a bed of roses for a period of time and then suddenly change in a heartbeat. As time goes on a person develops what psychology calls “learned helplessness”. Its like a slow indoctrination into someone else’s agenda. We have no idea what is happening until it is too late).

I’m thankful that God is gracious, a delivering God, and one who is intimately involved in our lives. I did receive deliverance out of that situation but the healing part of it was only just beginning. How does one erase years and years of character assassination, demeaning comments, threatening proclamations, and a life of fear and anxiety? The physical release was even harder because an abused person goes into the world and everything seems difficult and fearful. Its like the abuse robs us of our ability to function the way we did before the relationship. Everyone around becomes suspect and a possible threat to our livelihood. So, in the beginning we travel a lot of it alone, not trusting a single soul to help us survive.

The better part is that I personally had to learn how to lean on God for all I needed. I struggled, but I also saw some life changing miracles during those times. His protection is uncompromising and His love beyond anything a person could measure. It was during those days that I found Him and He was always in our midst. The longer and harder part of the freedom journey was the healing of the heart and renewing of the mind. I learned that it takes work and a lot of faith and consistency. It takes desire. A person has to want to be healed and free for it to happen. I was free on the outside, but the inside was just as captive as when I was in the marriage. Then it takes deliverance. Being in the presence of my Savior has always been the regenerating, healing, and strengthening process that brought the freedom I required to pull my life together.

The process has to be this way. I learned there are no shortcuts. One could go and receive deliverance ministry all day long but if the inner wounds are not dealt with first than deliverance is futile and the effects are temporary. The dark side of life will always attach itself to our inner wounds because that is where we are the most weak and can be rendered ineffective and incapacitated. Healing the inside first is critical for full freedom and deliverance from the effects of abuse. Like Pastor Paula White has always said, “You can’t correct what you don’t confront.” Then once that process is complete, the dark forces in life are weakened and can be cast away in the presence of Jesus and with His authority.

This can certainly be done on one’s own, but I don’t recommend it. A process of talking, praying, and releasing  is the first thing I recommend for a full and complete deliverance. Otherwise the old attacks keep coming back to make life miserable. Like I said, it takes work and preferably  with someone who knows how to get you where you want to be; delivered and free!

The next phase is the spiritual deliverance part. This can also be very intense but extremely effective. Believe me, when it is done right, there is nothing like a spiritual deliverance from the  enemy who bound you in the first place. He wants to keep you bound, but there is no match for Jesus’ power! A good deliverance minister who has been there is the best choice to facilitate this part of the process. You could go to God yourself but there is more power when two gather together in the midst of Holy Spirit. Not to mention there is protection and strength together.

The final part of the process is commitment to renewing your mind through the Word of God. For me personally, I had years of reprogramming to do and still need to do that work on a regular basis and as an ongoing lifestyle. Remaining in God’s presence is crucial in this part of the process as well.

It can seem like a long road to recovery but it is one that has been well worth it for me and it will for you too! If you have been affected by another person’s abuse, consider emotional healing and deliverance ministry. God wants you free even more than you desire it yourself. He is waiting for you to want to receive this healing work. Jesus died for your liberty! That is good news! You have a future and a hope just as I have always had. God has been faithful through my whole journey and He will for you too!

If you need emotional healing and deliverance help from the affects of someone else’s abuse, please consider connecting with me! If not me, than please consider someone who is recommended and gifted for this type of work. There is no reason to live bound! You will have no idea just how much holds you back until you start the process. Liberty is complete in Jesus Christ!  Remember that you were buried with Christ through baptism and faith. Now you are also raised with Him and sit in high places as you place your trust in Him! 

As for my services and Pastoral Care, Emotional and Deliverance Ministry, they are free to those who need them. I only ask for a donation toward my time if that is possible. God’s gift of freedom is just that; a gift. Yet, He also wants to make sure I receive what I need to survive as a minister and a Pastor.

I do not provide this work as a replacement for the local church, but I in fact, stand beside “her”, working toward a more healthy, whole, and liberated Body of Christ! It can be intense work, but it is always worth it! —

If you would like more information, please call me at 800-421-1765. It takes someone who knows the bumpy road to guide others toward the streets of gold!

Here’s to freedom!

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries 



Narcissism in a “Nutshell”

downloadBefore I start this post I have to ask you to pardon the pun in the title. It is not meant to be humorous, but it more describes the life of one who is closely connected to a narcissist. It makes a person feel nuts and also shrinks them down to a shell of a person. It’s a volatile connection that makes a person feel crazy inside and out, and can also be very dangerous depending on the type of narcissist.

A narcissist is a person who has no capacity to love, lacks real true empathy, and can be very demeaning. I read one woman’s article that likened the connection to “rape of the soul”. Paul describes a narcissist in his letter to Timothy when he spoke of a type of people in the last days.  He also gives us direction regarding them. He says, “Have nothing to do with such people. ”

2 Timothy 3: 2-5

 People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive,disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good,  treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God  having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.”

The word narcissist comes from the name Narcissus in Greek Mythology. According to legend, Narcissus was a prideful person and hated all of those who loved him. Once taken to a pool of water to witness his reflection he had fallen in love with himself so much that he refused to leave his own image until he died. [2]

Psychology coined the word narcissist in that the personality disorder is of one who is prideful and hate those who love them because they can not love anyone else. The Mayo Clinic quotes some of the personality traits of a narcissist as determined by the DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual for Mental Illness). Some of these are:

A sense of entitlement, exaggerated sense of importance, requires admiration, takes advantage of others, unwilling to recognize the needs of others, (lacks empathy), believe themselves to be superior. [1] A narcissist is in love with only themselves and can not relate to giving real love to others. Narcissist/Sociopaths can be very dangerous in that they are apt to create and do evil to others. They can spin a person’s head around just by interacting with them.

Narcissists love attention and will do anything to bring it to themselves. They will dazzle you with their charm and then destroy you with their anger and brash ways, only to dazzle you again. Bad situations in your life with this person will always be YOUR fault in their mind and will make you feel that is true. A narcissist can be double minded and say one thing but do another. They can also say one thing and then contradict what they said right afterward to make you feel nuts. This person will have no compassion for you and will try to cause you to feel as though everything you do is wrong. Interacting with them will cause you to feel like you are responsible for the world’s unhappiness. They gain power and their worth by crushing others and need to do this in order to get their narcissistic supply.

They will back stab and triangulate you with other people in order to create drama and chaos. You will wonder why people around you seem to not like you. It’s because the narcissist has spoken poorly of you in their need to set you up for a painful experience. They truly thrive on the pain of others.

This is a real illness and there is NO cure. You will always know when you have been lured by one of these people because all of a sudden your life will seem out of control from chaos you can’t explain. If you meet someone like this, RUN! Nothing is worth the pain they create in the lives of others. God and God alone can deal with them, so please, do not try to “fix them”. You can’t.

Why am I writing about this? Because I know what it is like to have encountered people like this. In fact, I know what it is like to encounter a sociopath. Believe me, when you do, you know it. This person will screw your head on backwards and turn your guts inside out. They will stalk you, make you look bad, slander you, cause you to think you are the one who is crazy, flawed, or messed up. You will doubt your own judgement and your life will spin out of control.

If you are in a relationship like this, please seek out the help of a professional in order to be released from them. That is your hope, and hope in God. He will show the way and will empower you to heal afterward. In Him, you are in good hands. There is hope for YOU.

I want to pray for you :

Dear God, help those effected by narcissistic people to see them for who they are. Open their eyes and help their hearts. Provide for them safe escape and bring them to a place of healing of the heart and soul. Send them a person to lean on and surround them with peace, love, and acceptance. We thank You, Lord, for all You are and the healing You provide, in Jesus’ name. Amen.

In love, healing, and peace,

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry


Jenine Marie Coaching




[1]Mayo Clinic. Narcissistic Personality Disorder. 2016. Retrieved from:

[2]Wikipedia contributors. “Narcissus (mythology).” Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia. Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia, 16 Dec. 2016. Web. 16 Dec. 2016.

Regeneration and Deliverance Are an Ongoing Process

Praying WomanEver wonder why it seems that although we are delivered by Jesus when we are saved so many still are so discontented and struggling? Maybe you have experienced this yourself. You go into church, love the worship, feel that strength and love from God, but then go home and not long afterward it feels like a flood of discontentment just comes right back on in. There is a real good reason for this. Much of the church does not understand that regeneration along with deliverance are an ongoing process through life. (This is not a judgement, just an observation).

When you were saved, your spirit was set free and you are now free from sin and death because of Jesus’ act upon the cross. He has also given to you complete healing and the power of deliverance in His name from that moment on through His sacrifice. Although your spirit is instantly delivered and your life given eternal salvation, your emotions, mind, and soul are still in need of regeneration and therefore also deliverance as well. You still have residue from the life you have lived up until you accepted Christ as your Savior. These are the things that Paul speaks of when he instructed the church to “work out your salvation with fear and trembling” (Philippians 2:12.) Working out salvation does not refer to doing good works. We are not saved by works but by grace. It refers to regeneration with God through Christ.

Philippians 2:12-13

“Therefore, my dear friends, as you have always obeyed—not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence—continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose.”

You have the power of instant deliverance at the point of salvation but there are things still within you that have yet to be submitted to Christ. Many of them you are not even aware of because they have become subconscious things that work in the background in your life. These are from wounds, generational curses, inappropriate mindset, and soul ties. These are the things your adversary attaches to and causes you to believe his lies instead of being set free in God’s truth.

Some tend to believe that just thinking and speaking positive will do the healing eventually. While it is true that thinking and speaking positive helps, it does not heal our inner wounds nor does it deliver us from the devils attachments to those things. The devil knows exactly where to hit you, to control you, and where to lie to you! Who do you think the generational curses came from? It sure was not God. All lies, manipulation, and things that set you apart from God come from your enemy.

When wounds are discovered and they are submitted to Christ in His light they are exposed and healed. The final step at that point is deliverance from the attachments the devil had on those things by kicking him to the curb in Jesus name. Once he is exposed he is weakened and you have the authority in Christ to knock him out of your life, along with his powers and principalities. He can not get you in places where Jesus’ light now resides!

Once again, deliverance is an ongoing process as regeneration happens in your life, but you have to be willing to do the work with God and to submit yourself and those inner wounds to Jesus for His healing. He WILL heal you. It’s His promise. He has also given you the power to be released from Satan and all of his ploys to control you.

Many of you have made bad choices according to the wounds and soul scars in your life. They have also held you back. Some of you think you have a procrastination problem when in truth the real issue is that the wounds inside you have caused you to feel so rejected and abandoned that you have never truly believed you can succeed at anything. So your attempts are sabotaged by the devil in a very sly sneaky way.

So where do you start?

Submit yourself to Jesus and also your wounds. Ask for revelation regarding the residue left inside of you before salvation. These are the wounds, generational curses, and soul ties. Jesus will show you where they are! He wants you delivered and healed! Once you know, submit those things to Him and allow His Holy Spirit to direct you in deliverance from the devils attachments to those things. Continue to renew your mind by God’s word. Walk in the power and fellowship of the Holy Spirit. Continue to be grateful for all God has given to you, and forgive yourself and others when wrong things have occurred both past and present.

This is the healing and deliverance work I desire to continue to do in my ministry. It is so important. God wants His bride walking free, powerful, and strong. He wants more of His love to become a part of you from the inside out. He wants you to better know Him and to trust Him with the inner workings of your soul. You can do this! We can all do this together! Spiritual gifts are for discerning these things and sometimes it takes more than just yourself to work on them. That is why we have one another!

Ask Jesus to show you the places you need to be healed and then delivered. He will show you! Also, find someone who knows how to walk through this process with you. Deliverance work is very strategic. We are more powerful together. Where two or more are gathered, Jesus’ promise is to be there in our midst!

Know that I am praying for you! Ask for prayer any time. I do provide 30 minute prayer sessions by phone and in my office. Deeper deliverance work is done in person and usually takes at least 2 hours, but it is time well spent!

I pray for God’s Holy Spirit begin to reveal to you all of those hidden places that have not yet been submitted to Him. He really wants to show you and to set you free! Jesus died for this and it’s your inheritance!

In love and freedom,

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching




Freedom from Guilt and Shame

canstockphoto11547372-300x199It’s a miracle that we get through this life as an intact person when we are attacked almost daily with the haunting of the things which have occurred in our lives. It’s not just about the things which have happened TO us, or things we have done to others, but even more about the way we handle the aftermath. Honestly, we often treat ourselves much worse than others have ever treated us. It’s sad when we do this because it is completely unnecessary. We live in a society that fosters more insecurity and self hatred than one person could even consume in a lifetime. Our hope is that we do have relief from the effects of what happens around us in Jesus.

Regardless to how things transpired; whether someone did something to you or you did something to someone else, you don’t have to live with two of the more devastating life draining conditions we humans tend to take upon ourselves. The two that I am speaking about are guilt and shame. First let me clarify what these two things are:


Guilt is where we take upon ourselves condemnation for something we have done or perceived we have done. Guilt attacks our “right standing“, or righteousness.


Shame is when we take upon ourselves condemnation regarding how we see ourselves as a person. Shame attacks our identity. It steals from us the truth about “who we are and whose we are”.

One of the key words here is “condemnation”. When we are in Christ Jesus there is no more condemnation in our lives. He has sacrificed already for our forgiveness.

Romans 8:1, “There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus…”

The Real Accuser:

So who was it that really told you that you are guilty and should suffer shame? Don’t think this dilemma was your original creation. We have an enemy who is the enemy of God. This enemy is Satan. The thing you need to know and remember about this enemy is that he is the liar of all liars and has no power. Jesus is the one with all of the power. Satan just wants you to think he has it. If we look at the situation from the end we can see where Satan really stands. This is Satan’s position. He is conquered and powerless!

Revelation: 12: (9-11) “And the great dragon was hurled down—the ancient serpent called the devil and Satan, the deceiver of the whole world. He was hurled to the earth, and his angels with him. And I heard a loud voice in heaven, saying: “Now have come the salvation and the power and the kingdom of our God, and  of His Christ. For the accuser of our brothers and sisters has been thrown down, he who accuses them day and night before our God. They have conquered him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony…”.

As you can see, Satan is a defeated foe. Jesus tells you that you are saved, free, and forgiven. These are the edifications that come from your Savior. These are the things that come from the Holy Spirit; the spirit of truth. So who are you going to believe? If you want forgiveness and to walk in right standing then ask Jesus for it! If you want to be reminded of whose you are then ask Jesus to reaffirm your position with Him! There is no reason to walk in any guilt or shame in this world. They are lies that come from the evil one and they are NOT your position or identity! Let Jesus wash you with his love and forgiveness. Let Him be your “truth” because He IS the truth.

1 John 1:9 “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness”.

As you can see, all that is asked for is a confession. Jesus is faithful and will forgive us when we are in need of it.

A Prayer for You! 

Dear Jesus, Please reveal to me any wrong doing on my part and forgive me for my actions. I confess those things to You now. Forgive me for not walking in the truth and for being harder on myself than I should. I release to You now, any thoughts of guilt regarding actions I have done or have perceived to have done. I also release to you any beliefs that place shame upon me. This is not my identity! I ask You to remove them completely from me now. Help me to see myself in “right standing” and also to see myself as a recipient of your grace, mercy, and forgiveness. I am Your child; a child of the King. I accept no other description within my conscience. Thank You for loving me and for allowing me to walk in freedom! Amen and amen!


Hebrews 10:22, “Let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled from an evil conscience, and our bodies washed with pure water.”

Walking free with you,

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching