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Every now and then life tends to get us down. We become tense, irritable, and even irrational. Instead of breaking apart, or even if we do, we should take the time to be grateful. Honor is a very special word when it comes to our human life. We are all a treasure. YOU are a treasure! Take the time to honor your body, your life, your breath, and the love your creator gave to you. Do this meditation as often as you need to. Don’t let life whisk you away into anxiety, despair, or depression. Honor and gratitude are important for maintaining balance. Namaste!
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When someone we have loved passes over the first thing we think of is the funeral. That old costly way that family, friends, loved ones, and not-so-loved ones show up to grieve their passing. For those of us who have had very close loved ones unexpectedly pass away it is a terrible last memory to have. I can’t even say how much I wish I did not have to see the lowering of my children’s caskets into the ground. The vision haunts me and the somberness of the moment just about traumatizes me.
The one thing that echos in my mind when I think of my crossed-over loved ones is they are still alive. They are just in another form without this clunky body to carry around with all of its earthly burdens. I’m willing to bet if we could just sit and ask how they are, they would say they are happy. If we were to ask them about the old funeral ritual I’m just about sure they will not be all that impressed by those who thought paying respect to them was meaningful after they left their bodies.
I shake my head when I think of the family arguments, and issues with so-called friends. Then there is the torment that happens after someone passes and people struggle with their funeral attendance. People get hurt because they can’t go, feel guilty when they don’t go, and others get upset when they do go. It’s all so ridiculous when I think about it. More issues are made about funerals than people need to create.
I have a better idea. Why not honor the people we love while they are here? As long as they know, and have known, we have loved them isn’t that what truly matters? Saying goodbye is not easy. I said goodbye to my daughter long before she was lowered into the ground. I did it in my heart. I know she felt it because love NEVER dies. Can we even imagine if I had not gone to my own daughter’s funeral? Of course, I felt I had to go. Society makes me feel that way. In all honesty, I would have been much better off without those last images in my mind. They cause me more grief than her passing. In all honesty, I could have done without the “sermon” given by an unknown pastor who never knew my daughter and could not possibly memorialize her. It was the same with my son. The more important issue is that they knew I loved them. My mother knew I loved her. I still love them! I always will.
Love the people who are here in body NOW. If you can’t see them then TELL them! Life always has a flow of its own and we can’t be all places at all times. Technology gives us the wonderful opportunity to give our loved ones those last “I love yous” we so long to give. Even without them, love already “knows”.
It’s just about insane to get all “butt hurt” because of funeral issues. As long as we know, and our loved ones knew. that love was there it’s all that has ever mattered. They live on. We don’t have to believe that but I do. I’m sure they can do without bickering over property left behind. who attends the funeral and whose presence is wanted or not. So leave the guilt behind. If you know in your heart the feelings that were there, then that is all that is important.
As for me; I think I will skip the funeral arrangements. My parents did the same. They were both cremated with no big funeral issue. Frankly, I adore them for that. I don’t see how gathering with people to cry would have made it all that better. I am skipping that part. I will be smiling in my new form, knowing those who loved me cared enough to respect me while I am HERE and not in a ritual where I am lowered into the ground and everyone has to watch.
Agree with me or not. It’s ok.
Loving you from here,
Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry
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Sometimes we all have to take time alone to see the bigger picture of things around us and within us. Times of healing are very important. It’s not strange and it’s not weird to need alone time to heal. Healing is a brave thing to do. It means we respect ourselves enough to look deep inside in order to fill the cracks that life has left behind within our inner selves. Loving ourselves might mean making everyone else around us upset, but in the long run, taking time to heal will eventually make everyone else around us happier. Trauma takes time to heal. Being alone with it is brave, not weak, but brave.
Loving you from here,
Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry
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For many people in this country, the upcoming Memorial Day is about having a three-day weekend to bar-b-que, have friends over, go on a short vacation or just relax. Retail stores, outlets and places to purchase treasures are all having those notorious Memorial Day Sales events where we can buy things at 20% off or more. In fact, I noticed this year that the Memorial Day sales started earlier than usual. It’s like the department stores want to get a jump on making the almighty dollar earlier and earlier. While I always love a great sale, a fun bar-b-que and all, it is hard to witness many who have completely forgotten why we have this special day, to begin with.
Let me tell you the honest truth. Memorial Day is not a fun day for me. In fact, the whole Memorial weekend stinks. The reason I feel this way is because my firstborn son is not here to celebrate any weekends or special moments where things are on sale and people gather to drink beer or celebrate and relax at the beach. My son served his country and now we live without him here. I’m a proud Mama. I love his courage, his desire to do something for his country that is meaningful, and his tenacity in the face of a system that is partially broken. Yes, I am talking about our US Military. Anyone who has served knows it is not an easy life and the chance of risking one’s life is always there.
Since the inception of our country, men and now women, have fought to keep our country a place of freedom and safety. Men and women are deployed for months and often more at a time to fight battles in places we don’t even live on behalf of peace, fairness, and freedom. Humanity has lost its mind if we think dishonoring our heroes can be captured in moments of shopping sprees and gatherings is a great thing. Real people lose their lives through sacrifice and a sense of duty on behalf of us all.
This should be a moment of pride, honor, and even mourning. For those of us who have lost our loved ones, Memorial Day is both a time of honor and grief. Believe me, it never ends. The month of May has become the worst month for me of the year. Not only is it the anniversary of my son’s birthday but a three-day weekend reminder that he is no longer with us here on earth.
Please keep in mind there are many people like me who would give up their three-day weekend fun in the sun just to hug their loved ones again. Although it hurts a great deal, I am proud to be the mother of someone who honored his country the best way he could. I will always love him. I will always miss him, and I will always feel every moment of the grief others experience alongside me during our Memorial weekend. It was created to honor and remember the fallen. Let’s keep things in perspective. PLEASE!
Loving you from here,
“Military grieving mom and one who keeps things in perspective.”
When you were a child, did you ever hold onto a toy you loved even though it was broken? It’s a sad situation when a broken thing can not be fixed and yet it’s held onto like it will somehow come back to life.
Relationships with people can be the same way. They might be broken, but for some reason, we keep on hanging onto what no longer works, or maybe never worked. All this will cause is suffering. We have to look at that broken thing every single day of our lives and just feel bad.
No matter what we think, believe, or imagine, someone who disrespects you or does not put into a relationship the same as you do is just dead weight. You will carry that broken thing until you are broken as well. Letting it all go might feel like hell for the moment but in the long haul… it’s a blessing.
Some connections are lessons to be learned, but once that lesson has been accomplished there is no reason to allow dead weight from an uncaring person to weigh you down. Rethink your relationships. A broken irreparable toy will never be of use to you again but will continue to make you feel loss over and over. Do you want or deserve that? Your life is more important than having someone come into it and break YOU because of their brokenness. Don’t allow that to happen again. Not ever.
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Loving you from here!
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One piece of wisdom I’ve learned over time is once things are said, they can not be “unsaid.” Hurtful words can be forgiven but there is one thing to remember; once words come out of our mouths we can not unsay them. They spew out like a curse when they are hurtful and the person they curse is yourself. Words that are set out into the airways through your emotions can come back to haunt you if you are not careful. They are like little revelationary targets that will return to you.
In the bible, it says that God’s word will not be returned “void“, which means the words spoken out of that power will always reap a result. The thing about God is, that the power spoken through is pure unconditional love. When you speak words that come from the emotional ego-self they are not coming from the God part of you, nor unconditional love. They reveal things about you that are a whole lot less flattering than I am sure you would like. We all like to be seen in a good light. It is a part of our instilled nature.
When you speak things to someone out of your own hurt you just set up a curse against yourself that will come back right at you until you learn the lesson your words are speaking to you. Anger spewed out at others is not about them, it is about YOU. Your words are revealing to you just how you are feeling within yourself. People often believe, and feel, that what is going on around them is about other people, but in truth, your environment is about you, not them. You make your own choices about who is around you, who you speak to, and how you react to all of it.
If you are less than happy with outcomes in your life, you can thank yourself because you are the one who set up the whole scenario. It’s best not to blame others for the consequences of your own doing and the consequences of your own words. Where is the lesson in that? The lessons you put out there are for your own benefit. They are meant to reveal where your soul is scarred and therefore you can seek healing. If healing is not sought out, then the lesson will repeat itself over and over until you get the picture.
Maybe it is best to stop, breathe, and think before you speak a word curse over yourself, or hurt others in the process. Remember God lives in you and nothing that is said will return void. Your hurtful words will haunt you one day, guaranteed.
Loving you from here,
Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry
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Have you ever encountered a laughing person spewing out their sense of humor with words that actually hurt more than they are funny? If your answer is “no” you are lucky. When someone is humorous but saying hurtful things to us it’s usually called “sarcasm“. Before I go on, let me give you a Wikipedia definition of what sarcasm is.
“Sarcasm is the caustic use of words, often in a humorous way, to mock someone or something. Sarcasm may employ ambivalence, although it is not necessarily ironic.” Wikipedia I highlighted two of the most prominent words in the definition in bold type so you can see the full impact of what sarcasm really is. Usually, someone thinks they are joking but they are actually being mean-spirited and hurtful. Then, when called on it, the next comment is usually “Can’t you take a joke, I was only kidding!” I’m sorry, this one never gets past me. It did not in the past and will not in the present. When someone is not laughing at a humorous comment you just made it means it hurt and was not funny to them.
Quite long ago I dated someone like this. He thought being sarcastic and hurting people was alright as long as the joke was funny to HIM! I’m still grateful for being saved from going further in that connection. As much as people hate to admit it sarcasm is emotional abuse. It reflects upon a person that the sarcastic one sees them as inferior or flawed in some way. Trust me, we who have experienced it from someone are not inferior. We are unfortunate to run across those who do this to others but we are usually the trusting, honest, and compassionate type. Sarcasm does not go over well with sarcastic people. Usually, they can’t take what they dish out.
I have written about this subject before, so what brings it up again today? Welp, I am glad you asked! I experienced sarcasm (sarcastic remarks) from someone in a group I never expected it to come from. (And yes, it hurt). We tend to think or believe spiritual people are safe and for the most part, kind. This is not always true. Not everyone is as mature as we would like them to be. For the record, I know when to accept things as a joke and when something is meant to demean me. I guess it comes with both intuition and experience.
The next question is how to deal with it. In my particular case with the more recent event, I have quietly backed away. Sometimes people need to be left with themselves in order to allow some spiritual and emotional maturity to take place. In my previous situation, it was not as easy. It was some time ago and I was learning how to have some emotional backbone. Eventually, I had to grieve it out, but now in hindsight, I’m grateful.
There is always a reason I tend to write about the things I do. Usually, it’s because I have encountered it, or it’s about others who have. My blog is about life lessons (at least on this Blogspot). Learning how to deal with sarcasm is definitely a life lesson. To those who think sarcasm is funny, I hope you wake up. To those who have been the victim of it, I hope you heal.
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Have you ever had a dream that began with so much spark and enthusiasm, only to have it fizzle in the wake of waves that overpowered them? Yep, me too! Sometimes I look back on the “brilliant” ideas that came to me at one time and think to myself, “Oh yeah, I remember that!” I discover I still love it and wonder why I had not been paying attention to the intuitive nudge that sparked my creativity.
We were born to dream, and dream BIG; even BIGGER! Maybe today is the day you reinvent the brilliant idea that came to you before. Or maybe it’s the day you decide to conquer that awesome job opportunity or business idea? I can never resist a good travel dream or book deal that suddenly I’ve scored because I followed through on my yearning.
Let’s amp up our follow-through and get that dream revved up again! No time like the present to give yourself the gift of a lifetime! If you have needed a nudge, well here it is! NUDGE! Get it done! Write down your dream and make it real to you. Describe every facet of what it looks like, feels like, and enjoy it with all of your senses! What will life be like once you have that dream activated in your life?
Get that dream on your vision board, in your journal, on sticky notes, and meditate it like crazy! Your passion, your creativity, your birthright, and your inheritance are to be able to create in life. Create what sparks your heart and you will never ever fail to surprise yourself!
Make it REAL! Call me and leave it on my voice mail! Yes, you heard me right! I will send you some good vibes, energy, and prayers, and I might even text you some inspiration. Or just give it a voice! If you are willing to do that you know your dream is THAT important to you! So why not? Don’t be shy, it’s only voice mail! LOL. 832-484-8306. Don’t let fear stop you. Don’t let anything stop you! You were made for such a time as this. Hmmm, where have I heard that line before? Oh yes, the book of Ester in the bible! So, go and conquer!