Honoring Others Decisions and Choices

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If you think this post is going to be about acceptance and boundaries, you are right! Both acceptance and boundaries go together with decisions and choices of others. They also apply to ourselves as well. As I write this, I have to say, as a mother it has been a hard lesson. I spent so many years of my life caring for my children it has been hard to get out of that mode. Once children become adults they have their own choices to make, create their own mistakes to learn from, and lead their own lives. Along with this comes boundaries regarding our children’s choices and lives. Advice is good, interfering not good and would have not a good ending.

Children who have grown also have the responsibility of their own autonomy; meaning they take responsibility of their own lives and the pitfalls of the bigger mistakes. It’s part of adulting and part of learning from mistakes. Within their mistakes there is no place for blame of others. Their lives become their own. Honoring their lives is our responsibility, with love, and with compassion even if we don’t understand.

Honoring decisions is a lesson with all people on earth. This includes choices as to whether we are vaccinated or not, as to what we choose to eat, what our vocation choice is and who we voted for. Yes, I just went there! We don’t choose who has a relationship with whom and we should not attempt to choose an individual’s relationship with themselves and the decisions they make. In the Bible the Apostle Paul supported the right to allow others their own journey. He instructed if we are to go to someone’s home for dinner and they choose to eat meat then honor their choice. For spirituality is not about whether we eat meat or not, but what we choose spiritually and how we treat one another. Let ‘s put it in todays terms. If I go on a Keto diet it basically is no one else’s business what I eat or don’t eat. No one can choose my husband and no one can choose who I vote for in any election. If I live a life of solitude for serenity then leave me in peace. If I choose a time to be social then respect my values and beliefs as I would yours.

Let me also put this universally and from God’s perspective. When any one of us refuses to embrace the life choices of another, we refuse also ourselves. We disrespect ourselves when we impose our views on others and we disrespect our oneness. We can advise and teach, not impose our values and ideas on others. We can have a conversation but that conversation should include grace and love, otherwise we should be ready to face reaping what we sow. Yes, I mean Karma in not such a good way. If we lack acceptance and respect or honor, we will receive the same back and many times over. It is our responsibility to agree to disagree with grace, style, and honor.

Even writing this I know some can go, “but what about this, or that?” What about it? Let me ask you this, “Is it your responsibility to rule the world, and if so, who gave you that job?” Part of diversity is accepting our diverse parts in society. Yes, you heard me, accept and also honor. You might not agree and that is alright. That means not pushing your agenda on others because you are so stuck in your “rightness” that you can not see the disrespect you are creating among your fellow humanity.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

Prosperity Lifestyle Magazine

Life Lessons by Jenine Marie

When Life is Hard

When life is hard on the outside, recognize the power you have on the inside. Know who you are. You are true beauty in motion and a life worth expression. You are unique in your passion and unique in how you are made. Your life has a purpose, therefore you are filled with potential. Your inner filling is more powerful than any other disturbance.

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

The Closet Cleanout and the Energy Shift!

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Repeat after me: It’s never a bad time to clean out the closet! Although, I usually like to shift things when the weather shifts. I have been noticing lately that my closet has been in deep need of sorting and clearing. There is a slight amount of dread that goes with this awareness and a bit of excitement as well!

One HUGE reason the closet clean out is so important is it shifts energy. Yes, your closet has energy! Weeding through and making executive decisions as to what to keep and what to donate starts energy in motion. You are setting your intention to draw more desired items into your closet that you will use the coming new season.

You don’t have to wait until a designated sale comes along to do your energy sorting. I’d like to advise you to do it when the spirit moves you. That way you will do it all the way and not leave it in the dust, just collecting dust. Seriously, when room is made in your closet, that room will be filled in no time.

After you are done, complete the energy shift by burning a nice scented candle nearby or adding a lightly scented decorative bowl of potpourri to a shelf. Your closet will thank you and so many others who will receive your donated items!

Maybe I am sensing it is time! My closet is calling me.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry

Prosperity Lifestyle Magazine YouTube Channel

The Pure Magic of Thoughts

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If you have read my blog for any length of time you would have come across my ideas about how thoughts create our reality. These things are in my blog because its very true! Thoughts do create what is inside and outside of us!

The amazing part is we all have control over what thoughts we desire to be prominent in our lives and what we desire on the outside of us. My suggestion before creating thought patterns for your outer life, is to create thought patterns that first help change the inner parts.

I say this because we choose according to what we feel, desire, and believe. If we choose with brokenness inside of us, then our outer lives will reflect choices of an unhealed person.

Try this as an affirmation: “Today, I pursue the best and most complete inner healing my soul can render. My thoughts and desires will reflect healing within so I can create a beautiful life outside of myself as well!”

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

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Signs From Crossed Over Loved Ones

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As a mother who had her son pass over when he was age 20, I’ve been so curious about the life that we call death here on earth. After my Jayson crossed over, I stopped believing in death, although we often call it that. I’m not sure “crossed over” is a good way to describe when someone leaves their body. I have wondered where we cross over to?

As Jesus explained, there is no actual death, just a crossing over to a new phase of life; being born again into a new state of being. Eternity is not for a few, but everyone. We were initially created as eternal beings in spirit. This remains the truth regardless of what our religious boxes want to teach us. I know my son still lives; I have seen the proof of this through signs. No, it is not an illusion, and it is not my wishful thinking or a coincidence.

Not long ago, I felt a distance from my son. I get that way now and then. I like to be reassured he is still with me. I know there will never be a disconnection in my heart because love can never be divided or separated. God made sure of this. Yet, I like to see some evidence. It makes my heart beat a bit faster to know I am supported, loved, and surrounded by my crossed-over loved ones.

So, I set up a sign by speaking out loud about what I would like my son to bring to me. I have always been partial to dragonflies, so that is what I asked him for; dragonflies. I don’t see them very often around where I live, so this would be a unique sign for me.

One day I came out of the bedroom, and my cat was doing crazy out in the living area! Upon the wall, high near the ceiling, was a huge dragonfly! I thought to myself, “Thank you, Jayson, and thank you, God!” It was not the last one for me to see. I had to take a long trip to my doctor’s office, and I had some apprehension about the long drive back and forth. I jumped into the car with my lunch and GPS to find the best route for the day. The moment I got into the car, a big dragonfly came flying up to the driver’s side of the windshield and fluttered there for a few moments. I could not help but smile because I knew it was from my dear son, showing me he was with me!

I know this all might sound nuts to some people but passed over loved ones are always with me in my life. They show me when I ask them to and usually not too often when I don’t ask. Now and then, I get a surprise, and something out of the blue will happen for me, to make me smile! Our love for those who spent lives with us will never die; why should we believe they have left us? Love is love in every sense of the word. After all, God is love, and God will never leave. In my world, so it is with our loved ones. They love connecting with us, and they sure don’t want it to be a spooky experience but a delightful one!

Experiment with your loved ones and ask for a sign from them! You will be surprised at what you might see in the days following!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

Prosperity Life Magazine YouTube Channel

Feelings Can’t Be Neglected

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I’m not sure why emotional expression got such a bad reputation. Maybe it’s because they make so many people uncomfortable when they are expressed. This is not a great condition to be in. Being able to express feelings and emotions openly is the only way to heal a heart that has been broken, to let someone know how we feel about them, and to express love genuinely.

Those who can not express their feelings openly are easy to spot. They are either filled with nervous anxiety because someone is causing them to withhold them or being pressed down by someone who does not personally want to deal with them. It does not mean they are not there. When someone cannot express their own emotions, they seem to become a very angry and negative person. When someone’s feelings are suppressed by another, they tend to become depressed and despondent.

We all need expression. We all have differing opinions. Being able to express our views openly is not only healthy but our right. Freedom of expression is what our country has been built upon. When this is not allowed, then our country becomes sick. Freedom of expression is what our lives are built upon, and when this is not allowed, we personally become sick.

I can’t even state this truth enough. It’s why we need friends, family, counselors, and ministers. It’s because we need to express who we are safely and healthily. Without this luxury, we all become sick.

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

Awakening

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“On a dream we were born,

Upon which we ride.

Guiding stars of the morning,

A light inside.”

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“From the dusk to the dawn,

We embrace each other’s hearts.

When we read between the lines,

We have overcome the dark.”

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“Angels wings uplifting us,

Though seldom seen.

Whisperings are beckoning

Just like a dream.”

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“From the dusk to the dawn,

We embrace each other’s hearts.

When we read between the lines,

We have overcome the dark.”

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“From the dream we awaken

To greet the Light.

Lifting ourselves from slumber,

We come alive.”

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“From the dusk to the dawn,

We embrace each other’s hearts.

When we read between the lines,

We have overcome the dark… “

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

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Do You Know if You Are a Gossip?

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Before I start out, let me give you a little definition of gossip I found in a google search:

“Rumor or talk of a personal, sensational, or intimate nature. 2. A person who habitually spreads intimate or private rumors or facts. 3. Trivial, chatty talk or writing.” (google definition)

“1 : a person who repeats stories about other people. 2 : talk or rumors involving the personal lives of other people. gossip. verb. gossiped; gossiping.”(google definition)

 I always thought of myself as a private person. I like to talk about some of my personal experiences when I teach or get to know someone. This is a part of life. No one gets to know another person without an exchange of personal information.

I always considered gossip as intentionally harmful or that the gossiping person has the intent in their heart to cause damage to another. This certainly is many times the case. Gossip can also be about issues that are none of our business concerning another person. Spreading rumors and information about another person can be damaging just by exchanging information.

To some degree, we all have to talk about certain things that involve another person. This is a part of caring, a part of business, or a part of protection for ourselves or others. We can not simply cut ourselves off from the world and never discuss another human being. After all, we are all interwoven. Some things should be addressed if they will save a person from harm or out of genuine concern.

Investigative discussion regarding another might occur when finding the information is vital to our own health, well-being, or safety. I’ve been known to investigate many things about people just out of mere protection or understanding. Not everyone puts their cards out on the table in the beginning. So, I watch. It’s a way of getting to know someone.

Gossip in the tackiest form is just spreading rumors, whether they are true or not. They can be entirely true, and the formal gossip thinks it is their duty to spread the garbage. Unfortunately, they are sadly mistaken. It is no one’s business or duty to spread junk about another person.

We all know how harmful it can be when we have become the subject of someone’s gossip. It happens sooner or later because the practice is so widespread. Since I truly believe we reap what we sow, usually if there is gossip going around, the subject of the gossip usually had been doing the same thing. In the same respect, the one who is now gossiping about them will suffer the same consequences. So before you point a finger, better seek your own heart first! Don’t open your mouth until you thoroughly search your own heart and determine if the information is just being spread or essential to discuss.

What goes around truly comes around and in the same measure, if not more, later on! So it pays to be careful!

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.

Do You Take on Other’s Dirty Rocks and Garbage?

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So many of us are like sponges. We tend to soak up what others give out, then place blame, guilt, and shame upon ourselves. Our burdens are heavy when we do this. We were never meant to carry other’s burdens. We were meant to care, not internally carry.

Along life’s road of bumps and grinds, we pick up those dirty rocks of blame, guilt, and shame then throw them at ourselves. No one else need throw them at us when we do the job for them. So, along we go, battered on the inside and wiped nice and clean on the outside like we took a shower in servitudes soap.

When we have a healed heart and are filled with grace and mercy, we can stand up to attend to other’s scrapes and bruises. If we can’t, it simply means we have not done our inner work. Not even prayer for another will work out when we carry resentment from taking on more than we need. Our sacks are filled with the wrong things, so we either suffer internal emotional bleeding or blame the one who is hurting.

Trust me, those who are hurting don’t need us to fill them with more than what they have. They need us whole. We need ourselves whole. A whole person will not create segments into dirty rocks that not only sling out at themselves but others. We all need to attend to the mess inside and the mess on the outside. We all need grace, mercy, healing, and hope.

It is possible to replace our dirty rocks for the things that give us strength not to take on other’s junk but to be a buffer in the storm for them. If we try to be that buffer without attending to ourselves first, we make jerks of ourselves and go around hurting people out of our hurt.

First, drop inner guilt, shame, and torture from taking on junk when we were not healed enough to do so. What I am saying is, “Drop the dirty rocks,” and get to cleaning up your inner closet! Your heart was meant for more than just being burdened and shamed.

Get things in proper order, even if this means spending special quality time with yourself. Take the time to heal, seek, and find who you really are without the grime you have added upon yourself.

Go to God within you for healing, empowerment, and hope. Do not leave that closet or sanctuary until you have found complete healing and sanity. THEN extend yourself into what makes you happy. This need not take the form of not being there when someone needs you. You can healthily do this if you do the inner work that stabilizes you. If you don’t, you will dump your mess all over anyone who approaches you and believe that you are justified doing it. This is NOT loving or caring.

In a world where real love is rarely properly defined, let me define it for you in a way it is not. It is NOT sacrifice at the risk of your own heart. Instead, love is giving out of wholeness. Love is also healing out of the same wholeness.

Be careful not to be rude in the process, or you will attract to yourself more reasons to be rude. Be merciful. “Blessed are the merciful for they shall obtain mercy.” (Holy Bible, and the Universal Law of Reciprocity)

Today during my morning meditation, I dropped everyone’s dirty rocks they threw at me over the years, and even some of my own I put on myself. What I heard in spirit was, “It’s time to clean the closet.” So I did. Will you join me?

Affirmation:

“Today, I release all the dirt that I have had thrown at me and kept inside. I release all of the rocks thrown at me that hurt me over the years that came to me from other’s pain. Today, I release all of the garbage I put upon myself unjustly. I release guilt, shame, blame, dishonor, and rudeness. I release harsh words spoken to me that dishonored me as a person.

“Today, I replace all of the holes created by dirt, bringing into my inner soul love, tenderness, joy, happiness, respect, honor, and mercy. I will walk in these things until I draw them back to me many times over. Then, I will be fruitful and multiply the good things in life, always!”

And so it is..

Loving you from here,

Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie Howry, Ph.D.