Childhood Sexual Abuse: A Prayer to Begin Healing

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I know, childhood sexual abuse is not an easy subject to talk about, especially when so many people go to such great lengths to hide it and stuff it away. It’s never hidden as much as anyone thinks it is though. Of course God knows. God knows everything. Children eventually grow up to be adults and they become aware what happened to them was not right. Until then, the issue is usually stuffed somewhere continually adding to soul scarring. Life moves on and people get caught up with whatever it is that is being attended to at the time. There is always something, but deep inside the issue is still brewing.

It’s easy to pass it off because it only happened once, or maybe it will heal with enough love from someone else. Maybe God will heal it? Yet, unless it is discussed and dealt with it never gets healed. This is the truth. God can know but there are others who know. There is the victim and the one who did the person wrong. They know. Usually other family members do as well but don’t want to admit it. It gets shamefully stuffed under some seemingly magic carpet and no one talks about it.

Then as the victim grows up there are signs that come to the surface that everyone wants to point fingers at. Maybe the victim carries too much protective weight, or sometimes their life suddenly seems to be in disarray and no one understands, not even the one abused. Fear keeps it all under a boiling pot and a lid is put on the surface. For the victim it’s always fear of being shamed, people getting angry at them, leaving them, or even worse harming them. For the abuser the fear is always shame as well but with that comes fear of exposure for what they are and the hurt they caused.

I know this sounds hard but the best thing that could ever happen is for the lid to be taken off the boiling pot. Unfortunately it has to be the victim who has to become strong enough to make that move. Yet, it is the best thing that could ever happen. Only the truth sets people free and only the truth can allow things to be healed. Keeping things held tightly will only keep the soul sick for both victim and the abuser. Only soul sickness can cause soul sickness upon someone else.

I want to start the process of healing for you if you are a victim of childhood sexual abuse and offer this prayer. I hope it will give you an opportunity and strength to confront the truth with the one who caused the most damage, the abuser.

Dear Heavenly Father,

Your love and grace endure forever. For all of those reading who have endured sexual abuse as a child, I ask for the courage to be honest with what they have endured. Lead them to still waters with someone who will listen and will have compassion upon them. Father, You have witnessed it all. It will be exposed now or later but it will always be exposed. I also ask for those abused to have courage to safely confront the abuser if this is possible. Victory in all areas of abuse brings the biggest healing that could happen. Forgive the abuser Father. Give that person the ability to face what they have done and to be sorrowful for the harm they have caused. Sexual abuse might happen for a small period of time but the effects can last a lifetime. Father, heal your sons and daughters all the way to the soul level and beyond. Bring peace where there has been no peace. Bring humility where there has been no repentance. Please bring wholeness where healing begins. Surround Your children with love and compassion but I ask that You also bring discipline to the one who has caused more pain then they want to admit to themselves.

We thank you, Father, that you are a caring and miraculous God. Let the healing and the hope begin right now, at this moment. May tears fall and may they water the gardens of those who need Your help and healing touch. We love you, dear God.

Amen and amen

As always, I love you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry, PhD

What is “the Sacred”

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The sacred is what someone might consider to be divine, holy, of religious content, or deserving of veneration. What is sacred is different for everyone. When I personally think of the word I consider what is holy for me. This can be a holy moment of meditative prayer. Or, it can be a meaningful photo of what is connected to the divine that I put up on my wall. Some consider the bible sacred, and for others it might be another book they hold to be holy.

We think of these things as holy and sacred because of the connection or ideas they bring up. Sometimes it’s a feeling or sense of reverence. Our bodies were meant for worship and containment of the divine. We are human and yet considered the temple of God. Sometimes when I close my eyes I think of the Spirit of God reflected from my heart and filled into my body. For me, this is a sacred moment. My heart has a sense of expansion with love and adoration of what is bigger and greater than my human self.

To know we house this greatness is also a sacred knowledge, for no one knows this unless they have been enlightened to that knowledge. Once it is known, one can not go back to unknowing. It becomes a solid and righteous part of our existence. To know what we embody and carry is very empowering. When we truly know, the empowerment is greatly expanded. The greatness remains solid within us as long as we consider it holy and sacred. Once our pride starts to think it comes from our humanness we have stomped on God’s power. It happens this way so we will keep God holy, sacred, and powerful in our lives. To do this is to inhabit the ways and character of God. To forsake it is to weaken ourselves, bowing down to what is human, flesh, and ego. This is pride and pride always comes before a fall.

Whatever is sacred for you, it’s best to remember why it is and to uphold it within that wisdom. Sacred time, for instance, is just that because it brings us presence of divinity we can receive in no similar way. To take a holy breath with God, to fill our hearts with the love of God, to enjoy fellowship within the presence of our Creator, is the greatest holy moment we can practice.

Practice is a key word here. Nothing stays sacred for us without sacred practice. We do this to create a habit. Remember, our lives spring forth from the issues we carry in our hearts. Without sacred and holy practice, we enter into a realm of forgetting who we are and why we are here.

To grab a sense of what is sacred for you, spend some special time practicing that moment and then do it daily. You will find it is habit forming. Within days your perspective will change to one that is a reflection of what is spiritually God. Your heart will be changed by being in the presence of holy love. If you are struggling with issues that drain you, or searching for answers, these moments become even more important.

I’m going to ask that you close your eyes for a few moments and simply ask that which is sacred to help remind you of who and whose you are. Breathe deeply. Take in the elements that nurture your being. They are the same elements of the earth. We have breath/air, water, fire/energy, nutrients similar to those that come from the earth’s soil, and space that we have available to fill our lives with presence.

Consider this today. What is sacred to you and what is sacred practice? Make it a habit in your life. Journal the changes this habit brings or adds to your life. Over time you will see what sacred practice does to enhance every part of your existence.

Loving you from here,

Dr Jenine Marie Howry

 

What if the Whole Body of Christ Lovingly Prayed for One Another?

IMG_20170904_140736_219When I close my eyes and think of the church, not the organization, but the whole Body of Christ, I see a huge family that God had put together. We are meant to be family; a global one. God tells us that we are one faith, one baptism, and one body. Jesus even prayed we would be “as one” just like He is with the Father. The Trinity is an amazing mystery. It is three persons in one, meaning the godhead operates in one accord and in unity with itself. There is nothing that is done that is not in agreement between the three persons of God; God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. God is one in purpose, one in faith, one in truth, and one in love.

This is how Jesus envisioned the church. He sees us as one Body, with one vision, one purpose, one in faith, one in truth, and one in love. Can you imagine if the whole Body of Christ prayed together in one accord, all on the same page with the same purpose? Can you imagine the light of Christ shining through His glorious Bride with no dysfunction and no offenses?

The biggest deterrence to this from happening is PRIDE. If the devil can hold us in a prideful stance then Jesus’ vision and prayer for us to all be as one can not become complete. There will come a day when the devil will get his dysfunctional behind kicked by our great King and Savior, but until that day, wouldn’t it be a great vision to have to come together in unity on behalf of our mutual faith? We might not agree with everything but we do all agree that Jesus is Lord if we are Christian.

Can you imagine the sound of millions of Christians all singing in one accord or praying in one accord? Can you imagine what that might sound like in heaven and in the ears of our heavenly Father? This is my greatest prayer; that all of God’s people within the Body of Christ would join together in one purpose, one prayer, one love, and one light in Christ Jesus. I pray there would be no more pride, or reasons to be suspect of one another. I pray that peace will in fact rule and reign in our hearts. I pray that we would face one another with forgiveness, unconditional love, and non threatening ways.

The easiest way for the devil to break up a family is to divide it against itself. Right now it looks like he is doing a good global job of that because we still don’t seem to get it. We need to love one another as Christ loves us. We need to go and reconcile with one another as Jesus has taught us, and we need to lovingly pray for one another that we all be blessed. I know its just a dream I have but at least I know I am in good company. Jesus dreams it too!

Praying for you from here,

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries 

Why It is Good to Pray FOR Your Enemies

Praying WomanMatthew 5: 43-48

43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor[a] and hate your enemy.’44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. 46 If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? 47 And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? 48 Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.

As we live on this planet it is impossible to not have those who dislike us or even can’t stand us. Having enemies or even those who have hatred for us is a part of living in this world. Where I agree it is hard to have those who are against us, it’s also a challenge to grow in heart, in life, and in spirit.

One of my favorite sayings is “Those who pray for their enemies have no enemies.” Jesus made His statement clear that it is easy to love our friends and those who love us, but where is the reward in that? Our true reward is in becoming more like our Lord and that means praying for, and loving, our enemies. I agree, it’s hard. This does not mean we have to agree with them. It does not mean we have to hang around them, because often their hearts have not changed, nor will they ever. What praying for, and loving our enemies does, is it puts us in a place of love that lays itself down for others. Jesus also taught us that there is no greater love than to lay down ones life. Of course, He put this in the context of being “friends”.

Praying for our enemies helps to change OUR hearts for the better. Loving those who do not love us back is the greatest love we could possibly have and also the greatest way to keep hatred from entering into our hearts. Can you agree that maybe we have enough hatred in this life? Granted our enemies might have too much pride to even draw near us or befriend us, but our goal is not impressing others. Our goal is becoming closer to being like our Lord and Savior. We want to be formed and fashioned into the image of our heavenly Father who sees us all as His creation. We might not all be His chosen, but we are all His creation.

To have hatred is to kill or murder from the heart. Think about that statement for a second. All open actions begin with our thoughts and what is in our hearts. If this is true then we are capable of doing things we might have never done had we not harbored hatred inside of us. Praying for our enemies changes this. Now, hear me in this; this does not mean our prayer is “God do something horrible to that person”. It means, “God please bless this person, keep them safe, help them to love more, come into their lives, be their Savior, reveal Yourself to them, change them from the inside out, and make them more like YOU!”

A dear man I was honored to be connected with, a father in the faith, prayed over peoples photos and had many that he posted in front of him while he prayed. I loved this practice and I came to adopt the very same thing. This helps us to see and visualize the person as a human being and in the presence of the Holy Spirit, we can genuinely come to love them as we pray for them to be blessed. In this way we are more like our heavenly Lord and also we spiritually create ways to build bridges instead of burn them.

Don’t we need more bridge builders in this life? What victory do we have in keeping our enemies wrapped in the heart of hatred? We only have victory when we allow love to win out. The Bible tells us that true love always wins. When we pray for our enemies and love our enemies we always win and so do they. They might not know it, or even recognize it, but they will win. Praying for those who hate us turns hate to love and shows we have grown into a greater maturity. Our prayers might not win humanitarian of the year award in someone else’s eyes, but God sees them as sacred.

If you want to do good in this world, start in your prayer closet and post Scriptures, pictures, prayers, and loving statements. How can you help but shine in the presence of your heavenly Father when you show Him your love and maturity?

Loving you from here,

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries 

When We Love Others It Should Open Their Hearts Not Close Them

IMG_20170904_140736_219Not long ago I had a deep prayerful conversation with someone who has deeply touched my life. I think this person by far has been the strongest and yet most humbled I have known. We talked about who deserves Christ, the love of God, and how the Body of Christ is supposed to be “as one” just as Jesus is one with our Holy Father. There is no doubt we have a dysfunctional family but we are family none the less. Yet Jesus prayed we be one.

The oneness Jesus spoke of is not just one church body within an organization but through the whole Body of Christ. Yes, we fall short of that for sure. If we are ever supposed to achieve what Jesus asked for then we have to let down our guard, open our hearts, and allow bridges to be rebuilt where they have been torn down. We will never do this if we treat one another as an inconvenience.

Bottom line, lack of forgiveness is at the root of our demise. So many are unwilling to forgive or to allow their inner hurts to be revealed. Unfortunately, the only way to be completely be set free from inner hurts is to expose them, let God heal them through Christ, and choose to love even when it is hardest. Healing begins this way, and oneness begins this way as well.

I understand it is hard to look at the truth when we think it might be an imposition upon our lives. Maybe it will expose something we don’t want others to know about. Unfortunately God knows it all anyway and eventually it will all be exposed in the light of Christ. We might as well expose it now and get it over with. Sometimes we think of our own self instead of the other side of someone else’s issues. How many people could we heal if we would just allow them into our hearts enough to converse with them, get to know them, and understand them, like Jesus did?

It grieves my heart that we are so burned in our souls that we burn others when they try to touch us. Sometimes we even burn ourselves. Can we ever reach the point of maturity where we can let down our guard enough to give others the benefit of the doubt that they might be great people? Maybe they made mistakes. Maybe we ourselves made some too. We all have sinned and have fallen short of God’s glory. Are we too self centered that we deny Jesus His one prayer to the Holy Father before His crucifixion? He said, “…that all of them be one, Father, just as You are in Me, and I am in You…” John 17:21.

The Lord instructed us all to pray for our enemies. Although, often who we consider to be our enemies are not enemies at all. Praying for someone is the most loving and excellent thing to do. This does not mean, “Get them Father”, but “bless them Lord”. In all honestly, we break one another’s hearts. That is a given. We do this because of our own wounds. Our wounds push away instead of cover like Christ. This should not be, yet it is a reality within our Christian faith and the Lord’s Body.

Thankfully, the Lord always knows the intention of our hearts and when they are good, he acknowledges the goodness within us. So, keep on praying for those who oppose you, who have hurt you deeply, who have lied to you, and who have cast you off. Your heavenly Father knows your heart, has felt your pain, and will heal you because of your obedience. He loves when we build bridges instead burn them. This does not mean we take disrespect. We can pray at a distance. But it does mean that God can work miracles through our prayers with good intentions. He loves us with an everlasting love. That means all of us! He never treats us as an inconvenience, never lies to us, never blocks us when we reach out, and never stops loving even when we fail Him.

None of us deserves His love and yet He gives it lavishly. We should be grateful for what we have in Him and for what we have in one another. Maybe some day we all will. Until that day, we keep on praying without ceasing, because it still remains the most loving thing any person can do for another.

In love and healing

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries

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Humility Prayer for the USA

IMG_20170904_140736_219.jpgDear God have mercy upon us, Your people. We humbly repent of areas we have failed You. Keep us safe as a nation and let Your Holy Spirit arise from within us again . Hold back the flood waters, we pray, and put out the fires that are burning our country. Set up a standard surrounding us as a nation in that nuclear bombs can not threaten us. Keep our government wise and Your people steadfast . Draw us out of complacency and let church bells ring across this nation. Help us to stand firm to put Your word back into schools and prayer back into open spaces. We are Your Holy Bride . Remind us daily to offer salvation to all we encounter so everyone will know You. We repent as Your church and on behalf of our nation. We have fought as a dysfunctional family while allowing our nation to begin to decay. We deeply grieve that we have grieved Your heart. We have lapped up Your blessing while souls have been dying. We deeply regret this Lord. Help us guide this nations eyes back toward you. Let us once again be a nation of open prayer on the highways and byways. We are down on our knees before You. Spare us in the wake of more destruction. Be gracious to us as we humble ourselves and pray. Hold back the flood waters and put out the flames . You have blessed us with the greatest nation on earth. Let us arise and receive Your Christ light once again that You will shine from sea to shining sea! Thank You Lord, for hearing our prayer and for sparing our people. Thank You for allowing us time to minister the gospel to a dying nation, for standing up on behalf of Your statutes, for fighting on our knees and with our breath on behalf of Your word, and for proclaiming Your goodness to a dry and weary land. Water us with Your Spirit, Lord, and let Your Bride receive her shining hour. In Jesus name and heart. Amen and amen

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

State of Texas Director

United States National Prayer Council

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Power Prayers

11988378_10153670839814255_4027848974804248960_nLooking back I think the most wonderful thing I have ever experienced has had to be powerful prayer with those who share the same faith. Power prayers give a lot of hope, and draw us near to Holy Spirit and Jesus! I always had been in awe of those who could just start praying and Holy Spirit would take over. The prayers became intense, touching, fulfilling, life changing, and often prophesy. Our prayer lives can actually help drive our lives. The right prayers can feed Godly intent and information into our minds, touch our hearts, and set us into the right direction. Power prayers can drive out the enemy and cut us loose from bondage, remove the wrong people from our lives, and set us free in ways nothing else can. Jesus is a powerful prayer partner and His promise is to be in our midst whenever we join together to pray!

I have began a stream of power prayers and one of the first ones is posted onto my website. I hope you will enjoy the prayer and that it will ignite in you the powerful guidance of Holy Spirit!

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Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries

On a Wing and a Prayer

Praying WomanDuring the days of the early church, the Apostle Paul never ceased to emphasize the power of prayer. Often from a dank prison cell he lovingly sent the new Christian church letters asking for prayer as he prayed for them. He made it pretty obvious that he knew the power that was contained within our Godly connection through prayer.

Jesus prayed often to Father God while on earth. In fact, He went off to quiet places and prayed passionately at the spiritual throne. In teaching His disciples, He prayed that the Kingdom of God would come to earth the same as it is in heaven and that we would all be one. Jesus angrily overturned the tables of money changers in the court of the temple and proclaimed His “Father’s house” to be one of prayer.

Now, we are the temple of God through His Holy Spirit. Nothing has changed since Jesus’ proclamation about the temple. We are the place where prayer is to originate and take up residence. Both personally and corporately our prayers press into the power of God and bring Kingdom dynamics from heaven to earth. Our prayer life is our wisdom and our connection to the creative force that brought the world, all that is in it, and surrounding it into being. Our connection with the One who gave us breath is our very life and remains our breath.

Our prayerful moments give us the power to face our giants, to fight spiritual battles, to learn to walk in wisdom and to wait on God’s instruction. In fact, waiting is one of the most powerful blessings we can receive. The Bible instructs us as we wait we can rise up on wings as eagles. There is a strengthening that happens as we pray and wait on God for His response. Waiting perfects our inner diligence and in that developmental moment when our heart is wrapped with God’s we can discover the ability to soar in ways we never thought possible.

Prayer brings us into the presence of the Godhead. Our inner temple connects to God in high heavenly places and in that moment we are completely One as a baby is within its mother’s womb. It is in those moments where we literally place ourselves into the womb of God that we perfect our faith, arise to meet our destiny, connect with the One true love that created all things, and find our identities within His grace and compassion.

There is no greater moment than those precious moments when the human soul connects with the love that eventually will bring us all home. Whether in precious silence, or in passionate petition, our hearts connect with the only thing in life we could not possibly ever live without; the God who knows us better than anyone ever could.

Take this moment as one to spend time with God in prayer and practice moments with Him daily. In practice, we learn to continually connect ourselves spiritually and to pray without ceasing as the Bible instructs us. Our lives depend on it and our destinies are driven by it.

Prayerfully yours,

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries

Is It Time For Refreshing?

bear-canyon-falls-1Life has become routine, disconnected, filled with negativity, and a sense of being somewhat lost. Are you experiencing these things? If you are, then God is calling you to the throne and it is time for some refreshing. Taking time to spend only with your heavenly Father is essential for your spiritual and life health. It is like taking a trip to the doctor only so much better! Yes, we should spend time with God daily, but sometimes we need a concentrated time of refreshing.

This might just be your time when God is calling you to the throne for some evaluation, inspiration, and a dose of His love for you! When was the last time you took at least a week and set time aside to spend just filling yourself with God’s word, prayer, and listening for His wisdom for your life?

If you feel a bit lost, kind of alone, and don’t know why. Maybe you are craving some much needed God time! Put it on the schedule and don’t miss your date with Him! He has been waiting for you!

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries 

Pastor Jenine Ministers on Healing from the Effects of Rape

cropped-14208503182375381246Some things, although hard, must be said. Some things must be revealed completed to be given over to God for healing. Let me start your voice by extending to you mine. God bless you!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry

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Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries